Are some people meant to be alone?
>>17337853
A large majority of people "meant to be alone" are meant to be dead, but society, out of pity and a need for working bodies, keep them alive.
>>17337853
No, they are meant to be... different
>>17337853
May you find your worth in the waking world
>>17337853
define 'meant'. do you mean in some spiritual, religious, or destiny sense? or do you mean some people are better built for it?
the thing about 'meant' is that its root word is 'mean'. as in if something is MEANT to be that way, it is for a specific reason.
if ur just whining on the internet about how you dont have a girlfriend, consider that you're being an edgelord akin to the atheists who say 'I PRAYED TO GOD FOR A GF EVERY DAY AND I DIDNT GET ONE SO HE DOESNT EXIST'.
>>17337853
Yes, it's the sad and unfortunate truth but some people are destined to be alone. Mammals are meant to be in groups, and in those groups most of the males don't ever have sex.
But of course we all inherit the longing for intimacy, as our ancestors had to have had sexual desires to create us in the first place.
That said, "meant" is the wrong word. You can change your path in life at any time. Just because a lot of men go on alone doesn't mean you have to.
>>17337908
Study more biology, bro.
>>17337853
No one is "meant to be" anything. Things just are how they are in the present. You might have traits that make you less likely to obtain and keep a partner or friends, but most likely nothing ever decided "this one will be alone."
>>17337853
>Are some people meant to be alone?
Not in any kind of fatalistic sense.
Although humans are not solitary creatures in the evolutionary sense, inborn social instincts -instincts of almost any kind, really, but especially social ones- have proven elusive to modern science. As far as we can determine, almost all human social interaction is built upon learned skills. You were not born with them, but neither was anybody else. And although you are arriving to class later than many, you can still learn.
What holds you back is fear. This is not, in and of itself, unreasonable. Fear is the anticipation of pain and death, and, well, rejection hurts. You should not attempt to "get over" the fear, nor to get rid of it. That would be naive.
Your mistake is allowing the fear to paralyze you. The anticipation is way, wsy out of proportion. Rejection stings, yes, but you have forgotten one critical fact: prolonged loneliness hurts way worse than rejection does.
What you need, then, is to get THROUGH the fear, not over it. Stop waiting to not be scared: that won't ever happen as long as you wait, because the act of waiting is precisely what keeps it fresh. What you need is to move on this EVEN THOUGH you are scared: in other words, to be brave.
This is not easy. Fighting yourself is always an extremely unpleasant experience. And when what you're fighting is fear, that can get extremely painful, even outright traumatic. I'm sorry to have to tell you to do this. No doubt you've heard this advice many times (if not in so mamy words). I can only hope that I've at least been a little more empathetic and sensitive than most. But you are looking for a way out. This is it.
>>17337853
No. No one is meant to be anything. We just are.
>>17337897
>>17338400
yeah these guys are right. you don't have some kind of destiny of aloneness to fulfill. that being said, some people do end up alone, forever.
>>17337908
>Mammals are meant to be in groups, and in those groups most of the males don't ever have sex.
Fucking redpillers. The number of ways in which this statement is wrong boggles the mind.
Although some species of mammal are indeed eusocial, many are solitary. Lions band together in prides, while tigers go it alone. Humans seem to fall in between: our closest primate cousins run the full gamut of the eusocial/solitary spectrum, and there is no clean evidence of whence we sprang.
The idea that in these groups most males don't ever have sex is similarly laughable. It is true in some eusocial animals, but not in others, and once again, the primates run the full gamut. But THIS question is much easier to answer for humans: very nearly all males who reach biological sexual maturity do, eventually, go on to have sex. Control for violent deaths and diseases taking men young, and the proportion only gets higher. And it's only going up, and the average age of first experience is going down. The take-away from this is clear: sex is easier to get, right here and right now, than it has been in hundreds if not thousands of years.
The last involuntary celibate died fifty years ago. Incels are extinct: if you are a virgin over the age of majority, it is because you have chosen to be, and for no other reason. It is, of course, doubtful that you would have chosen this in a vacuum: there is something you wanted more. Perhaps you were afraid, and sought comfort in not having to face your fear: many people do that. Or maybe an ideology or religion of some kind has kept you celibate. Or you just didn't want to bother with the awkward logistics of human courtship and mating. Or you want something very specific, and have not found it yet.
What you need, OP, is introspection. Look deep inside yourself, and find the thing you want more than sex. And then ask, "is this worth not having sex for?" Either way, you will know what to do next.
>>17337853
>The last involuntary celibate died fifty years ago.
First off, I don't think he's just lamenting a lack of sex.
Second off, there are plenty of people with basic mental and physical deformities which bar them from having sex that isn't rape, such as LEGITIMITELY autistic people.
There's truth that women are a bit looser and the communal stigma surrounding sex for pleasure has weakned, but to say that all people are capable of attracting a mate is ludicrous.
