why do i suck at texting/calling back so much?
i should be happy there are people out there taht care about me enough to try to reach out to me. but i can't seem to bring myself to just suck it up and pick up the phone/text back. i know it doesn't take long and i should just suck it up. i want to know why it takes me so much in the first place. help me not be socially retarded, /adv/
It's bevause you don't really care about the person, either that or you're shy/scared. So just go ahead and text back, you never know what might happen dude.
>>17325683
It's with everyone. Family and friends. Not that i'm shy or scared of them at all. I just feel pressured when i receive a call/text. I know that's idiotic, but that's the truth...
>>17325691
Well, I understand that but do your best to power through it because the other person may tell you something important
>>17325705
>something important
what if they just text me to see how it's going and basically meaningless smalltalk? if someone texts me about something important that needs immediate reaction, ofc i'm texting back.
i try to. main problem atm is my bf. he texts me during the day, just for the sake of texting. he doesn't have anything new or important to tell me or something to schedule. he just wants to TEXT. and i told him i'm bad with that and that i don't like it. but he still does it and then gets upset with me if i take ages to text back...
>>17325711
Well fuck the other people, ignore them. Now for your boyfriend, he's just trying to communicate with you the best he can, so i suggest actually sitting down and talking to him about that
>>17325722
>talking to him about that
i did! it gets better for a few days, but i can tell that he doesn't really accept my explanation and get's low key mad and dissapointed at me. he probably thinks "if she truly loved me, she would text me all the time about the most generic and mundane shit this world has ever laid eyes on".
>>17325733
Well, im not sure what to say. You gotta find a way to make him know you're serious about this
>>17325522
my girl is like you OP
would you say you place more value in actual conversation as opposed to texting?
do you treat texting as benign and meaningless, and would rather just have real talk?
It sucks for the guys until we figure you out. You just have to be up front and say you value real convo over texting.
>>17325961
>would you say you place more value in actual conversation as opposed to texting?
absolutely. i can talk with someone the whole night trough. but dat silly texting. i dread it so much. i hope he'll eventually get it and stop being mad at me for it.
OP sounds like the girl I'm seeing. It drives me insane and fucks with my insecurities, but she is honest to god the worst replier in the world.
I know it's not because she doesn't want to talk to me, because she clearly does, she's just fucking terrible at texting and is basically socially retarded.
But god damn is she worth it.
How do I cope with someone like you OP? How do I tell them in the nicest way possible that it bothers me and I want to have an actual conversation with them? I've brought it up before but only in a joking way, but I kind of want to straight up tell her.
What's the best way to bring this up? I'm thinking of just waiting till it's brought up somehow, but kind of talking about it a bit more seriously and say something like "I just want to talk to you and have a conversation with you, know about your day, find out what you're doing and how you are. Not get a message from you once every few hours and maybe not even then".
I know she's interested in me when I see her, but when I don't it feels like the opposite.
How do I deal, OP? How do I approach this girl?
