>>17320123
Not enough exercise
Too much junk food
normal relationship lull
time to get kinkier
get testosterone levels checked
gay
bi-bordom
emotional issues
passion gone

If you give a fuck about her you should probably do something.

Well - I guess a good starting place to finding out the cause here would be to ask yourself why your sex drive drops the mic and fucks off when you're around her.

Do you experience this with just her, or all females in general? If it's the former, then you can try to zone in on why it's just her. My own shitty opinion on it is that there's something else in the relationship that is causing you to remove yourself from it on a physical level - and if you want to get anywhere here you need to do some reflecting on that.

>>17320134
Well the whole "not wanting sex" thing makes me question how much of a fuck I actually give.

>>17320139
It's just her. I haven't cheated but I still get horny when I'm alone. It could be other stuff, since we've been together for a while and she always tells me gross stuff about her body and she farts, etc. and idk I think I just miss the mystery.

Some people, because of a very "strict" superego, find it very hard to enjoy sex, but it doesn't seem to be the case (If she were your first girlfriend it could be).
Do you maybe think you don't find her attractive anymore because of something she did or said? Tell us more, anon

>>17320151
Do you find yourself actively NOT wanting sex with her, to the extent that you kind of avoid it?

Also - do you still find yourself gaining any emotional benefit from the relationship? I ask because the physical and emotional aspects of a relationship are often very closely related - and a disturbance in one sphere can rock the other.

To be fair, I don't know you or the history you have with this chick - but a lack of sexual attraction towards your partner specifically can safely be considered something you need to concentrate on, and resolve in whatever way - be that spicing shit up with her or finding someone else etc.

>>17320174
>Do you find yourself actively NOT wanting sex with her, to the extent that you kind of avoid it?

Yes. I mean I want to, but I know I won't be able to, so I suggest other things or act tired to avoid it.

Also, emotional benefit like what?

>>17320184
"Yes. I mean I want to, but I know I won't be able to, so I suggest other things or act tired to avoid it."

Mind elaborating on this please? Is there a desire to have sex with her at all - because I'm trying to understand what you mean when you refer to the whole not wanting sex thing.

Also, what I mean by emotional benefit - disregarding the sex issue, does she make you happy? Is the relationship something you consider to be worthwhile, or does the thought of being with someone else occur as more than a daydream. Stuff like that.

If it concerns you firstly talk to your gf to make sure she isn't upset about it.

Then try to make an effort at least once a week. Get enough sleep, poop thoroughly, clean your balls, get out the massage oil, make sure it's warm, and really psyche yourself up for it.

Not having a lot of sex isn't an issue, but if it's just because you're being lazy then you do need to make an effort. 3 weeks can turn into 3 months and then you lose the passion from your relationship and you start just being like close roommates.

>>17320207
>you start just being like close roommates

That's how it is, except it's like long distance roommates.

>>17320207
>Get enough sleep, poop thoroughly, clean your balls, get out the massage oil, make sure it's warm, and really psyche yourself up for it.

This so much.

>>17320123
I haven't had sex with my man in three weeks and don't care either. For me it's him. I went to download something on his computer and saw his torrents and the 800 porns he had downloaded in the last few weeks. Huge turn off. I never realized he was so creepy and desperate. It wasn't normal porn.. still deciding on if I can get over it. And I noticed he barely brushes his teeth or washes his hands and I see him picking his nose and feet so I just don't want to be touched by him. Maybe it's you op.

>>17320329
I doubt it. She keeps telling me how concerning it is that we aren't having sex.

>>17320123
Same problem here op, we just broke up yesterday. The reason of the break up had more to do with me not giving her to much attention, her asking too uch attention.
Nobody knows but yea, sex is getting really boring imo, it's good, but so is fapping. It becomes so plain, the sex drive only comes when we start to have sex. Before I had the feeling like I wanted to rip her clothes off.
Wow writing this actually made me realise this was probably also why we broke up.

Still don't regret it, like when I'm seeing cute girls I just have that feeling of wanting to rip their clothes off when I'm horny. Don't think that feeling is coming back quick with ex.

>>17320445
But how does that happen? She hasn't changed since I got with her.

>>17320174
Not the OP, but I have the same problem. I've found I'm actually avoiding seeing my girlfriend lately because I just don't feel like being with her anymore, and I'm trying to avoid having sex with her. What gives?