I'm 20 and I've never had a relationship in my life and I feel like it's seriously made me emotionally unavailable. Even on a TALKING level, I can't get past the "small talk" stage with a guy because the idea of small talk is so pointless to me, I can't even think of what I'm supposed to say.
At this point I'd consider myself a hookup slut more than anything; I've made out/done touchy stuff with guys and I can flirt no problem but when it comes to actually COMMUNICATING with a guy who's interesting I'm cold and not very chatty. Not because I don't want to be, because I literally have no idea what to say.
For example, right in this moment, a guy who I hooked up with who's apparently really interested in me is trying to talk to me via social media and I have no idea what I should be doing. We're not past the small talk stage and I feel like I'm being an unresponsive cow. How do I fix this?
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Do you have any friends?
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>>17296910
Yeah, I met the guy through friends actually. I mean I'm completely sociable in situations where they don't involve any prospects of.... becoming emotionally vulnerable with somebody else in a more romantic way?
>>17297060
Just treat him like a friend for smalltalk and then the vulnerable shit will happen naturally.
>>17296854
Just open up. Change your views on everything. Go out of your comfort zone, just be blunt, make stupid jokes, send funny pics, just talk about anything. It's not hard, you're making it hard for yourself.
>>17297096
>It's not hard, you're making it hard for yourself.
I kinda realise this, and I don't know why I'm doing it.
I don't really get your proble, so I'm straightforward:
So your problem is you don't smalltalk? Then talk about whatever interests you. If a guy can't talk about a non smalltalk topics, you probably won't work as a couple.
Is your problem you've never had a relationship and need one to get it off your checklist? Be direct about it, some if not most guys will appreciate it.
Is your problem you know exactly what "emotionaly vulnerable" stuff you would talk about, but are not brave enough to? Whats the worst that could happen if you did talk about it?
