I have nobody I can have conversations with. I'm not even asking for a friend. There's just no one I can talk to at night and I'm incredibly lonely and depressed. I need someone to talk to to distract me from my depression but no one cares. I don't know how to deal with this. I never noticed feeling lonely until after I had a best friend I talked to for hours every day. We hate each other now though and they never really cared about me either. I'm not sure why they talked to me. But I miss having someone to talk to like that even though that person fills me with negative feelings now, I keep wanting to replace them but have no one to replace them with. It's the most pathetic feeling. How do I get people to care about me?
We don't care about things because they want to be cared about things. We care about things because they're significant to us. Be significant to somebody.
>>17280698
How?
Thanks for proving my point, people of 4chan.
Have you tried going outside?
99.9% of people don't care about you. I can pretend to care though, is that good enough for you?
>>17280752
Yes. I mostly get lonely at night.
>>17280749
Temporarily, until I realize you're pretending, then I feel crippling sadness again.
>>17280725
How do people become significant to you?
Are they kind?
Do they listen to you?
Do they care about you?
Do they make you laugh?
What do you get from other people that makes you want to be with them?
Take your answers, and be that person to somebody else. In time, you'll find that many people will come to care about you as a result.
>>17280694
>>17280765
I feel like I am that person to people I want to care about me, but still no. Thanks for the advice though. Sounds like it should work, just not for me apparently.
>>17280768
I am actually crying.I can't help being a crybaby.
>>17280694
>I have nobody I can have conversations with.
>There's just no one I can talk to at night
Join the club.
The easiest way to fix this is to keep your eyes open and look for the weirdest, most awkward, and downright disturbed or insane or autistic people around, and make friends with them.
They won't mind talking to you, and they'll be ok with listening to your crazy depressive bullshit as long as you listen to theirs.
This works great unless you go somewhere where everyone's happy and well-adjusted, in which case you are fucked.
>>17280765
Doesn't necessarily work. You need to know how to manipulate people effectively to be able to actually turn this into a strategy for getting people attached to you, and OP absolutely does not have what it takes for that (not necessarily a bad thing).
>>17280781
>Sounds like it should work, just not for me apparently.
or just not yet. social interactions aren't so cut and dried. just because it doesn't appear to be working right now doesn't mean that it will never bear fruit. making friends by being the type of friend that you would like to have is actually pretty effective. but sometimes it's just the wrong kind of people (i.e. not compatible) or just not enough people. and like dating, it is a numbers game.
I can't tell you how long it will take. but I can tell you it works, you just have to meet enough people. if you are introverted like me, that's hard. I ended up making a lot of friends but it has taken me 20, 30 years, 1 or 2 friends at a time.
just whatever you do, don't resign yourself to failure and write yourself off like those faggots who start those "I will never have a gf" threads. that shit is annoying and unproductive.
>>17280794
see, idk if that anon meant it as a manipulative thing. I just took it as a variation of the old "if you want good friends, be a good friend" golden rule type thing.
