>be 17 last year
>enlist into the army reserves
>IT specialist
>using the partial financial aid and training to further my life
>it's been almost 8 months since enlisting
>just graduated
>now 18
>leave for basic training across the country August 1
>have girlfriend
>she has depression and anxiety
>tells me how she wishes I wouldn't go
>says however that she doesn't want to hold me back and wants to let me go
>have considered quitting because of her
>learned that's not the best course of action
I'm going to be gone for a little under 8 months. I don't know what to do about my girl or how to make all of this better, since my time here is dwindling. We're both going to stay together through it, but I don't want her being hurt too much. Any advice? Especially from prior service members with this kind of experience.
>depression
>anxiety
you are going to get cucked son. my advice is to just be prepared for the worse so it won't hurt as much if it happens
>>17271417
Can confirm through experience.
A lot of girls who say they have 'depression' and 'anxiety' try to justify cheating by thinking it's 'their depression/anxiety becoming too unbearable'.
It's quite low that she'll remain faithful, so if you wanna take that risk go for it but at least from my experience anon is right
Honestly I think you'd save yourself a lot of hardship if the two of you just decided that the long distance thing isn't going to work and go your separate ways amicably. That's what I did with my HS girlfriend since we both went to different schools, we hung out a lot over the summer then had a last date and went our own ways the next morning.
We've both changed a lot in the decade since then and moved on to bigger and better things. You're 18, why are you tying yourself down like this?
>>17271426
>>17271451
Been with her almost a year and she is diagnosed with both. I have no doubt she will remain faithful because of the way she is. I know everyone says that, but cheating is not a worry for us.
>>17271426
>>17271451
>>17271468
Additionally, I'm a reservist so after training I come back home instead of being stationed.
>>17271474
God you are such a fucking teenager. I'd really like to think I was smarter than you when I was 18, but I probably wasn't.
How can you possibly say that with certainty? How is she going to feel without having anyone to be intimate with for nearly a year, can you say for certain? What is she going to do if her depression worsens and you're not there to help her through it, hmm? Do you think she'll seek out companionship where she can find it out of need rather than a desire to hurt you?
>>17271479
We're barely intimate as it is. We've had sex but it's not really something either of us actively ask for or need. The depression thing does worry me, but she doesn't have many friends as it is, save for some female friends from tumblr and whatnot. She used to say she was asexual, but once we started dating she found that to be untrue because she was attracted to my body, and she didn't really find other people bodies attractive. I don't know the validity of that statement but she is not one to go looking for sex.
Depression wise she would probably end up not getting a job like she wanted to and not starting community, but that'd be the worst of it.
>>17271417
If you join the army so you can take the Pentagon's money, don't bitch at all about the IED placements, the mortar shells, and all your dead buddies. Those people killing you took the same deal.
Ausfag?
>>17271492
Reservist, and my unit rarely deploys. So not going anywhere unless there's a war or something. Nonetheless I don't mind combat.
>>17271494
USA
>>17271497
Ah, so just a welfare queen then.
I know so many women with husbands/boyfriends in the army who are totally faithful and do quit well for themselves. Some of them in their early 20s enjoy the privacy for awhile and grow themselves a lot. All the 18-19 yos are more wushu washy about it but they're all clingy as fuck and every time a guy would hit on them they would turn into an annoying ass "MY BF IS IN THE ARMY STAHP TALKING TO ME U FUCK BOI HES DYING FOR OUT COUNTRY ASSHOLE"
You red pillers spread as much false information as the pc feminist band wagon.
>>17271631
The phrase "passed around like an army wife" was coined because army wives are fucking whores, anon.
>she has depression and anxiety
No she doesn't
>>17271655
I'm sure plenty are, but I've honestly never met a bad one
