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Why do I immediately lose my erection when I escalate with this girl?
I'm 23 and a virgin so I'm pretty inexperienced, but recently I've started seeing this girl. I've always struggled with ED and have had an on/off relationship with Nofap over the past few years and have been to the doc who found nothing wrong with me. I'm certain my problem is more mental than physical.
But whenever I'm just kissing and cuddling this girl I've been seeing I've been alright. I get hard without any problems. However, as soon as we get to third base I just go limp as anything with no chance of getting it up. I feel as though I just lose all interest even though I'm really into this girl and had been turned on by making out with her. I lost my erection when she reached down into my pants the other day which was awkward but I think I managed to play it off.
Just sitting with her in a public space with no chance of sex happening I was fine but whenever I put my hand down her pants I lose it. This is incredibly frustrating.
Got any kinks you can take advantage of?
>>17270906
That is one hell of a cocktail of symptoms. If I were you I'd keep talking to your doc and try to get Vigara
>>17270913
What do you mean? I've got some Cialis for a rainy day but I think the issue is a psychological one. What's weird is that when I'm taking this girl out, walking with her, cuddling at a bench I'm turned on and really into her. I mean, I left with blue balls the last time I met her. But as soon as we went somewhere quieter and I started fingering her my interest went out the window. I think I was too focused on my erection and started getting nervous.
>>17270909
Well, I am taking this girl to my place in a couple of days when I'll have the house to myself. As I said, I've got no experience so I'm not too sure. I do feel chronic worrying is a contributory factor, but it doesn't answer how I just lost interest like that.
>>17270906
>had an on/off relationship with Nofap over the past few years
>and have been to the doc who found nothing wrong with me.
It's very simple. No fap forever, no porn forever. You're an adult and not some hormone driven teenager in heat anymore. As long as you are sexually active, you need to nofap noporn. Always.
>>17270924
Do you ever find yourself on the Handsome men board or attracted to males?
>>17270933
Nah, I've asked myself this question but I am definitely into girls.
>>17270932
I have been doing nofap for YEARS and I feel like in the long run all I've gotten for my efforts is worse anxiety and lower libido. I remember taking a cialis after 80 days and barely being able to get hard and thinking to myself "What the fuck am I doing? This clearly isn't working." I do agree with noporn but I've been considering weekly masturbation (which apparently coincides with testosterone peaks).
But yeah, I'm really not sure of Nofap anymore. I look back to how I was as a teenager where I was carefree and jerking off to porn once a week rock hard, and now I think of myself now and I definitely don't feel it's done me any good.
Cheeky bump!
>>17270959
Try getting the hormones flowing I guess. Start fapping and such
It's not ED, it's performance anxiety. Indeed, it's a mental thing. If you can't overcome it by yourself (protip: have confidence), talk to her and open up about your v-card and your anxiety. Once she knows (and if she doesn't walk out the door) you will feel a lot more relieved and able to wreck that pussy.
>>17271105
OP here. I'd be very anxious about doing this. I've so far given off the impression that I'm actually quite successful with girls,and to be honest I feel as though telling her I'm a virgin now would be shattering.
That being said it's becoming clear to me I need to be open to her.
>>17271173
There's the root of your problem. You told her that you are McJackhammer Pussywrecker when you know that's not true, and your dick is shutting down because of performance anxiety. You either jump at her with the confidence of an action hero or tell her the truth.
