bump for interest

You'd prolly be better off asking on /d/.

I am not extremely into it, I don't like humiliation and I'm more for a gentle femdom thing.
What I like about it is the idea of being in charge and having everything the way I want it, feeling sexy and desired, being in complete control of his pleasure.
You feel like you're not interchangeable, like you're goddess for him and you can get him off more than anyone and anything else.
I kinda found out about it reading online, but I already did most of the things with my boyfriend, it happened naturally.

can you still have respect for your bf if he's into flr but dominant in everything else?

Are you the anon from /b/? I'm still at work, how long will you be on?

>>17229631
I don't want weird power dynamics outside of the bedroom. I respect my boyfriend, whatever he likes sexually, but in every day life we're perfectly equal. I don't want to date a doormat.

>>17229636
I am, and I'll only be around for another hour or so. In the US so its pretty late.

>>17229640
>>17229615
So do you use watch/read porn involving femdom or is it exclusively a thing you do with your bf? Also do you see it as more of a mental thing that gets you off or a visceral thing when you are having sex?

>>17229646
I watch and read porn involving femdom, but I started long after I had sex with my boyfriend (lost my virginity to him at 16, started watching porn at 21).
I am maybe naturally like this, and the fact that I'm making my man happy makes it even sexier. I love teasing him, seeing him in pleasure, deciding when he comes, being on top and deciding the pace. I love how much he wants me when I act like this. It just makes me feel so good and it sort of "amplifies" the physical sensations.

>>17229640
what do your female friends think of it? like are they into femdom or is every girl against it lie it is in my head

>>17229694
>what do your female friends think of it?
It's not like I talk to my friends about sex with my boyfriend or I ask about what they like to do with their men.
None of them likes doormats and desperate guys in general, that's for sure. As long as you don't feticize it and make it "you have to be my dom, you have to do x and y, in bed I'm your slave" and you just suggest things to do, most girls would be down for it, especially for the "lighter" stuff.

>>17229631
Ofcourse! What happens in the bedroom has no impact on relationship dynamics

>>17229728
But isn't FLR by definition something that happens outside the bedroom, and directly impacts relationship dynamics? That's the whole behind FLR.

>>17229732
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>>17229631
i ment flr in the bedroom. sorry new to the terminology's

>>17229728
>>17229640
cool. I'm into femdom but I'm not submissive in anyothe aspect and would hate to ruin a good relationship because of kinks

>>17229710
Gotta get to bed, thanks for the input. It's pretty much impossible to get honestly about kinks elsewhere

>>17229636
I'll check the thread to see if its alive tomorrow morning, otherwise if you want you can send me a message on snapchat: itsnotpee

Night homies.

>>17229732
Well, femdom is not automatically flr. I want an equal relationship. I'm even someone who values traditional gender roles. It's just a sexual thing and will not have an impact on how the rest of the relationship is.
I just love that his satisfaction is at my mercy and i also like how i can "own my desires" whe i do (rather vanilla) femdom stuff. I would never really hurt my bf! I'm not into ball busting or anything that can lead to permanent damage/drawing blood. I'm not even really interested in caning and flogging. I can only enjoy it if my bf is clearly enjoying himself too.

I'm a switch, and personally I'm only into femdom for the humiliation aspect. I want to make a guy be my footstool as he eats from a dog bowl without his hands.

I also want to try findom, just to see how far I can push a guy. I'd start off small, some lingerie here or a spa service there. Then I'd take more and more, and see if I could get him to beg me to stop.

But that's mostly just fantasy, I haven't had much opportunity to be dominant. I'm submissive to my boyfriend.

>>17229870
Everybodies "motives" are different. For me, it's not the humiliation. I would never make my bf do gross stuff. It's more about taking charge in sexual situations.

I'm a swtich.
I'm not particularly shy and feminine.
I know what I want and I'll take it.
I don't enjoy the humiliation aspect, I like the power exchange and the physical domination (wrestling/light violence like slapping and scratching and such).

>>17229560
I like the aspect of ownership. That this man belongs to me in all ways imaginable.
It's like a totalitarian regime fantasy.

>>17229560
Speaking as a male dom, a large part of my pleasure is almost theatrical - I am the author and director and choreographer of a little play that is going to end up with both of us being sexually satisfied, and shaping and guiding the scene to that end is very satisfying.

I'd suspect that female doms might feel some of that.

my husband is a sub who's into this and is a doormat
it's pretty great
i didn't like the idea at first but forcing him to eat pussy while he's tied up and then ruining his orgasm after is just so funny!
i could do that all day

>>17230186
This too.
I like creating suspense and being creative with what tools I see use and how I use them.

>>17230330
>i didn't like the idea at first but forcing him to eat pussy while he's tied up and then ruining his orgasm after is just so funny!

so if you didn't like it initially, what were the motivating factor(s) to keep trying/exploring it?

>>17230330
I dunno. It sounds like your relationship is a bit unhealthy if you describe him as a doormat outside of the bedroom. To each their own,but that's def not for me. I love and respect my fiance a LOT. I still love to sit on his face or fuck his ass. But he's not a doormat and will never be.

>>17229615
This begs the question: would you feel like you can be changed for the next cute girl that comes along, if it wasn't for the domming?
Is it common for girls to feel like that?