Talk to him about your fantasies and see if he wants to participate in them

>>17221523
he's not up for anything that even resembles gay stuff, so i'm not sure how to tell him "hey, when you go down on me i usually imagine i've got a dick and you're sucking it". It's either tell him about that or the bestiality fantasies, and i'm honestly not sure which would be better to tell him.

>>17221528
Just give it time. Don't open up to him about your weird kinks until he knows you well enough to accept you despite them.

Why do you have to tell him what you're fantasizing about? just do it in your head dude.

maybe you could turn his unwillingness to take part in your fantasies into a fetish

>>17221538
i currently do it in my head, but it messes with my ideas of wanting to be totally connected to him while we fuck, at least some of the time. it makes me sad that as soon as he starts going down on me, i imagine i've got a dick and he's sucking it. or, when we're fucking, as soon as he starts fucking me doggy style, i imagine he's an actual dog fucking me while i play with myself until i cum. otherwise, it would take me at least twice as long to cum, if i even did cum without fantasizing

>>17221540
how so?

>>17221523
He first have to know be freaky in your imagination and the perfect girlfriend outside of it. Next time when he cums, place your hand on his asscrack, then next time after that slowly a finger on his anus, tgen slip it in. Slowly make him get used to gay stuff.

>>17221548
I was mainly joking but I suppose if you were going to do it you could masturbate while imagining that

also, is english your first language? you're a bit difficult to understand desu

>>17221551
i've only put my finger up his ass twice. i specifically remember both times, even though i was fuckin wasted one time. he's not comfortable with gay shit. even if he was, idk how to accomodate my fetish that i visualize him sucking my dick that doesn't exist

>>17221548
I just don't see where his awareness incorporates into this. Do you want him to talk dirty to you about it or something?

>>17221559
my bad dude, i'm more than decently intoxicated right now. could you elaborate on what you're having trouble understanding?

>>17221562
no, i just want to stop fantasizing about this weird shit while he's going down on me or while we're fucking. i can cum really quick if i fantasize about weird shit, but i want to be able to cum just as quickly from just enjoying the sensations and my dude fucking me. idk how to make that happen

>>17221565
you're just repeating certain phrases a lot and it's a bit confusing, which is understandable considering your intoxicated state. why do people post on 4chan drunk tho? i feel like if i did that i'd do something really dumb like post my address or something

>>17221579
na son, i'm just more likely to bring up problems that have been bothering me for a while. when the bf and i do get to hang out, i'm not really picky, because we're LDR. but afterwards, i'm left thinking about how to make it better. and i think fixing this weird ass shit would make it much better. even more than fixing my inability to be a good cowgirl

another bump

>>17221570
OH I see what you're saying now.

Honestly I don't see what's wrong with having weird fantasies, but I would imagine it's like training yourself. Masturbate to more vanilla porn/erotica. But get him involved too. Even if you don't do weird shit, you can always improve, like get him to say nasty stuff to you during sex, do a lot of different positions and so on.. vanilla doesn't have to mean boring

taking 20 minutes to cum doesn't seem too bad to me, my boyfriend and I usually have sex for an hour or so. Is this not normal? 20 min seems short to me.

>>17221632
i wish the bf and i could have sex for an hour. he doesn't last a minute before cumming. the whole 20 minutes thing was him specifically going down on me. i've only ever cum from him fucking me if i play with myself specifically during doggy style while imagining some weird ass scenario.

i'd rather not have any fantasies when he's fucking me or going down on me. it feels like i'm not 100% there, which i would be upset about if he did the same to me. i'm just not sure how to fix it

>>17221643
do you look at a lot of porn

>>17221675
only once every month or so. the problem is that after i see a porn i like, i remember it so that i can fantasize about it while i masturbate in the shower. i haven't watched porn in over a month, but every time i go to masturbate i'm thinking about bestiality or selfsucking fantasies even though i don't have a dick

>>17221643
You want different things. Either tell him about your fantasies and make a compromise of acting them out or try to relax more.

>>17221684
Then watch vanilla porn

>>17221685
how do i relax more? or, on the other hand, how do we make a compromise about me wanting him to suck my nonexistant dick? or wanting to get fucked by a dog while i suck his dick? or god knows all the weird stuff i fantasize about when i'm high while we fuck, that's the most random shit

>>17221684
most girls fantasize about weird shit during sex I think. the female orgasm is very mental rather than physical

>>17221689
what do i do when vanilla porn no longer arouses me whatsoever and i just get annoyed with it? i can't remember the last time i watched a vanilla porn video and didn't have any issue with it so that i could actually get horny from it

>>17221697
but orgasming while fantasizing about something other than my guy feels wrong to me. i'd rather cum just from thinking about how good his dick feels inside me, instead of imagining i'm a dude and we're having homosex and i blow a load right as i'm actually cumming

>>17221706
He probably doesn't care too much desu. He'd probably just be happy that you orgasmed

>>17221570

Why don't you start being more dom in bed? Perhaps it would curb your (nonexistent) phallic fantasies if you start controlling the situation as if you have a dick and being top.

>>17221485
>i've got a fuckin great bf.
>has to fantasise about cash shit to get off with him.

Pick one. He obviously isn't doing it for you.

>>17221706
Anon, I would love to find someone like you. It's a weird kink, but imaginative enough to find endearing. I have always wanted to fuck my lesbian friend too, and she always talks like a guy lol.

>>17221706
nah familia, trust me, many women do this (fantasizing) during sex. maybe even a majority. You are literally being normal.

>>17221718
disregard this guy, guys don't understand

it's hard to get off as a woman

>>17221715
he's happy, but he also doesn't know that half of the time i'm imagining his dick is a dog's. or that i've got a dick and he's fucking me in the ass instead of the pussy. or that he's sucking a dick instead of my clit

>>17221716
i've sat on his face, which definitely makes the fantasies of him sucking my imaginary dick much worse. but i don't have the guts to actually be dominant apart from that.

>>17221718
what steps would you recommend for me?

>>17221722
b-but i'm not lesbian. i like penis, and i know i'm a woman. i just don't know why i keep fantasizing that the bf is sucking my non-existant dick :c

>>17221723
but i don't want to fantasize, at least not all the time like i'm currently doing. literally, while he's fucking me, if i stop imagining that he's a dog, or that i'm a guy and he's fucking me, my orgasm progress bar goes back down to zero.

one last bump for advice

>>17221485
Situation is like the reverse for me, gf is into vanilla stuff while I've got so much bizarre crap in my mind. I've managed to get her into some stuff by gently pushing though so it's not all bad.

This is my fetish too

>>17221762
i'm just not sure how to push the bf into some acceptable form of bestiality or some way of giving me a dick. i don't want to do bestiality IRL, and i don't want to do a sex change, so i'm not sure what i'm even wanting. i think there's just something mentally wrong with me, and i can't even fix it by never watching porn again because i'll just imagine the few videos i've seen that appealed to me

Hey OP, hopefully I get you before you leave:

Why don't you just come clean with your boyfriend? (to a point; I wouldn't necessarily mention the bestiality immediately)

A lot of guys, even vanilla guys, like a girl who is a freak in bed. You, my dear, fit the bill.

If you don't mind my asking, do you know if many other girls are into the things you are? All the girls I've been with have been either completely vanilla or had some fairly tame submission fantasies.

>>17221771
he knows i've had bestiality fetishes in the past. he doesn't really know that they've never gone away. however, i've never told him that when he goes down on me i'm imagining i've got a dick and he's sucking it. his brother's gay, and while he completely accepts his brother he's very certain that he's not gay in any way shape or form, so i highly doubt he'd take my fantasies well. as far as i know, no other chicks have this fetish except for maybe >>17221765 . but i also don't talk to chicks, or anybody, about this

>>17221485
Put a blindfold on him and write dog across his chest before he has sex with you. Afterwards, take the blindfold off and ask him when he wrote it. Then he'll think it's his idea.

The next time you blindfold him, use an animal print blindfold. Write dog on his chest AND put dog ears over his. Afterwards ask him why he did it and tell him how attractive they make him look.

Soon start feeding him an all-beef diet and tell him to shit outside during hand-holding walks.

Within 30 days he will have transformed into a canine sexual beast.

As for growing a penis...

>>17221787
LOL, we've talked about the possibility of me being his puppy, and him being my puppy. he just doesn't know how seriously i take it. literally, the one time i was able to cum without playing with myself, i was on top of him imagining that he was a cute, obedient little puppy that i was riding until i came. i never told him that's what made me cum

>>17221725
>i've sat on his face, which definitely makes the fantasies of him sucking my imaginary dick much worse. but i don't have the guts to actually be dominant apart from that.

Not hard femanon. If you ride him, just bend over a bit, hold his arms down (Like at wrists, and hold hands above his head) and you set the motion, YOU fuck him. You could also mover your hips in doggystyle. Do you hold his head, pull his hair when he heats you? Small things anon.

>>17221814
how do i move my hips in doggystyle? that also seems tough to do if i'm also touching myself while doing it. as far as sitting on his face goes, i already feel self conscious just doing it. i'll have to practice for another year before i get confident enough to show the slightest inkling of moving my hips on their own to help me cum

>>17221485
i fantasize the same thing wtf omg

>>17221819

I ragequit OP

>>17221691
You sound bored as fuck. Start a hobby, seek challanges, or do something meaningful to keep your mind off sex.

>>17221700
Then watch something that doesn't invilve bestiality and extreme smut.

>>17221723
As long as you fantasize about Mr I dobt care. If it's about chad ot some celeb then just kindly remove yourself from my life.

>>17221767
Did you talk about your kinks?

>>17221819
Wtf... I'm pretty shy myself. But when i already sit on my bf's face, i can also grind mt pussy on him cause fuck it, it's too late to be reserved and timid. Same with moving my hips. If he fucks me doggstyle, he already sees my ass, ao why not push it against him and spread it open with my hands? If you do something, do it right or let it be.

sexual satisfaction doesnt have to be primary focus of a relationship.

but it can be, just make sure you arent borrowing your values from the "common norm"

and that sexual satisfaction is as important to you as you belive.

but even if it isnt of not, be open about it.
if he breaks up with you for being open about your sexual needs.

he really wasn't worth keeping anyway.

thats my advice, be open, and maybe if he loves you enough he will help you out.

relationships at is core is satisfying each other and making each other feel better.

>>17221485
I am very vanilla myself, but I wouldn't mind following my wife in her fantasies...
I suggest you tell him about those, I think he'll want to satisfy you the best he can, remember he wants to keep you too, keeping him in the loop about what gets you horny will reinsure him you are not looking somewhere esle for satisfaction.

but of course thats just my opinion, im no relationship scientist.