>I have severe panic attacks
>one night 5 months ago I went through all of my girlfriend's phone during a panic attack
>found a conversation she had with her friend about the new guy her friend was seeing
>my girlfriend said she was horny and wanted to hear about it
>at this period in time I was housing my dad and we couldn't fuck for maybe 2 weeks
>my girlfriend asked how big he was and what she did to him
> I told her I went through her messages, she was okay with that considering our relationship is 100% honest
>current: my girlfriend just left for 3 months
>im not worried about her cheating at all, but that conversation keeps entering my mind how she wanted to know what they did etc because she was horny
>hard to sleep at night
>do I talk to her about it?
I feel like because I invaded her privacy I have no right to bring up a fault in a conversation she had half a year ago. But this is bothering me and we both agreed to talk about everything when something is bothering us. But again I don't want to guilt her over something I shouldn't have done.
What do you think? Get over it myself? Or talk to her about it? She doesn't know I seen that convo, because she probably forgot about it.
Idk friend, i would ask her indirectly through conversation
>>17172202
I feel that it's such a specific thing, I wouldn't know how to go about that.
>>17172191
What do you think girls talk about when they go into bathrooms together? You think they're using the bathroom? Putting on make up? Not most of the time, they talk about things. The only real difference this day and age is that girls text things to each other.
>but that conversation keeps entering my mind
Seeing how your prone to panic attacks it's not surprising things replay in your mind. You should try to retrain your though process.
>>17172191
I don't personally see what's so bad about the conversation she had with her friend. She had no interaction with this guy, she was essentially reading bad erotica written by her friend. And of course the friend is going to make it sound more amazing than what it was.
>>17172210
Well the repeating thoughts is part of why I have my panic attacks, I've just been trained that my old lack of worries has caused problems that could have been solved if I had just worried and put more attention to them sooner.
I know girls talk about shit like that, and I'm overreacting, do I ask her about it? She'll explain everything and I'll probably get over it, but at the cost of her feeling guilty.
It bothers me that my woman wants to know about the dick size of another guy because she's horny. Probably not as sinister as it sounds, but that's the way my mind keeps phrasing it.
>>17172191
Do you show your gf the midget scat furry porn you fap to? If not then stfu and forget about it.
It might not be much of a deal, but its a red flag regardless. Why's she gone for 3 months? Is said friend with her?
>>17172214
I agree, it's just off putting since this is a real guy she will get to know. And dirty erotica is fiction, or people you'll never see. I think she would feel the same way if I wanted to know about my best friend's gf's tits.
>>17172191
>I have severe panic attacks
no you fucking don't. if you are able operate a phone and actually process the information on it you are not having a severe panic attack. You don't know SHIT about panic attacks. I hate this new trend of applying all sorts of mental disorders to ones self, It's disrespectful to people who ACTUALLY have SEVERE panic attacks. fucking sissy attention whore. Oh and your 'problem' is obviously you being terribly insecure and probably underage. Your Gf should strongly consider leaving you for invading her privacy like that. 100% trust (which you obviously not have in her) doesn't constitute total surrender of privacy. My Advise would be to not be such a fucking faggot.
>>17172231
>it's just off putting since this is a real guy she will get to know.
Do you think that people don't fantasize about those in their lives that they will never have? Most people have little fantasies that they'll get hooked on, before moving to something else.
>And dirty erotica is fiction, or people you'll never see.
Some of it, sure.
>I think she would feel the same way if I wanted to know about my best friend's gf's tits.
Not if you kept it to yourself. You can't thought police people.
>>17172225
She is with said friend, she needed to earn money so she's at a job in her hometown.
>>17172222
I don't have any secrets really, and this kind of shit isn't what our relationship is usually about.
>>17172221
>do I ask her about it?
Your choices are to ask her and risk her being offended and viewing you as insecure. Or going with the flow and you having knowledge about something she doesn't know you have.
>my woman wants to know about the dick size of another guy because she's horny
I wouldn't be happy if my gf did that. I'm sure it doesn't feel good to hear that. At least she didn't ACT on it or ask to see penis pictures.
>>17172240
I have severe panic attacks that lead to black outs, I was entering a small panic attack when I reached for her phone. You sound upset, this is an advice board, what ever you are upset about just post it.
>>17172259
i'm upset about people making excuses for their shitty behavior all the time
>>17172249
That's extremely sketchy, OP.
Confront her, the least she could give is her reassurance. She shouldn't be asking how big another guy's dick is if she's happy with her current relationship.
>>17172246
True, I am trying to be the thought police. That's not good. It's just that we are both proponents of true love. I honestly don't look or give a shit about other women. And if she looks at other guys it wouldn't be a problem, but lying (as I understsnd she's said she doesn't) is to me.
>>17172275
That's not my excuse, I feel like a shitty person who made a bad decision that night. That's why I'm hesitant to ask her about it, seeing how what I did was a big fuck up, something bad on her shouldn't come of it.
>>17172283
I'm assuming the reason she asked was just seeing how her friend's sex was. But yeah I just compare it to the whole my friends gf's tits.
