Guys how long does it take to get tinder matches?
>>17172055
Instant if you have good photos.
>>17172076
post your pics, lets see what you are working with. have you been swiping to all the girls you find even reasonably attractive?
>>17172083
I posted pics other day and was bashed. I just didn't know how matches worked like if I get a notification
Why did you choose to be a whore?
>>17172055
Don't be sad OP, with the tools available to this day it's all about the angle and lighting. Whilst Tinder does promote itself as being the app where you get to meet beautiful people, there are also perfectly normal looking people using the application too. Once you start using it it will match your ranking with users of similar rankings eventually, keep your chin up mate.
>>17172090
Thanks anon.
I don't even bother swiping right with 9/10 girls, bimbos are the worst.
>>17172088
Don't post the photos in here OP, your thread will most likely be invaded by trolls in an instant.
I've used the app for about a year until I met my girlfriend, which was actually also through Tinder.
Ask away
>>17172088
post anyways, worse case scenario, you get bashed, but you also get some advice on better photos.
if you are still too afraid just email me
[email protected]
your pics and ill give soem advice.
that beign said tinder is toxic. here why:
>>17172088
>>17172109
>only ever use dating apps as a supplement to your real life dating.
dating apps are toxic. consider the following
>people use dating apps because they arent having much luck in real life
>they go to a dating app where they are introduced to an entire smorgasbord of men who want nothing more than to bang and/or date them
>after just one day they will have seen everyone in their area
>within one week they would have talked to everyone they are interested in
so anyone who has been using the app for more than a few weeks clearly has some sort of issue. likely, they are the female equivelent of what i discussed in my first post.
they want a 'bf' but because they have a very specific idea of what a bf is, they arent finding it anywhere. instead of seeing if they have real chemistry, they are simply walking down the aisle, trying to figure out what is the ONE thing at the groccery store they can buy, based solely on pictures and labels.
if a woman is on tinder for too long, they are losing their ability to feel chemistry.
you as a man can fall into a very similar pattern here, but with the added harshness of constant rejection.
it is an app made for people who want to date, yet no one seems to have success there for very long. that should tell you something.
i use it for about two weeks once every 3 or so months. i met my current gf through tinder.
>>17172109
>Here's why
I know who you are fampai
People already told me what was what but I still wanna try because maybe there's grills that aren't that superficial, right?
>>17172100
how often did you get matches/how many dates did you go on before meeting your gf?
>>17172114
>but anon, how do i use it as a supplement to an existing dating life if i dont have a dating life.
effort. lots and lots of effort. and also, doing what you like. going out is in no way restricted to bars and clubs, though if that is what you enjoy, by all means, go to bars and clubs.
the truest way to find chemistry is to experience your life in the most enjoyable way, and see how you match with the people who come into it. interacting with someone in a casual way shows you how you ACTUALLY get along, not how you hope to get along cuz you really want this to work cuz you need a gf.
so write down a list of all your hobbies, and find a way to externalize them. most people live at least near a city these days.
go to any and all hobby shops and ask about local events. gun shops might have hunting trips. or you can just go to a shooting range. comic book stores have game nights. or live commentary movie nights. if these shops do not host events, offer to host one through them, after all it will only lead to more money through them.
you can even go to a more casual store, lets say, a book store, and stand in your favorite aisle (lets say, horror). talk to everyone who comes by looking for a book. ask what book they are looking for. tell them what book you are looking at. try to spark a conversation abotu your favorite author. maybe take some suggestions. if you really hit it off, try to trade numbers.
its okay if it doesnt pan out. this isnt a scoring system. there is no man in a cloack in space making down on a cosmic chalkboard how many failed conversations you had. 99% of interaction is dumb. you are waiting for the 1% and enjoying talking about your favorite things with strangers until then.
>>17172119
>but anon, going outside somewhere to find out if maybe they have an event doesnt suit my lazy lifestyle!!1!
and for those who simply cannot bring themselves to get up out of the house without a guarantee go to meetup.com and look for something of your interest. no matter what your interest it is on there in a group you can meet with. and if not, you can start your own meet up.
Now, some of you may argue that these sorts of tailored events are attended mostly by men. yes. mostly. but some women too. whats important here is you will be doing something you love, with people who love what you love, and when the right ladies come along you'll know they love it too. you will have that common ground.
>>17172123
>dont just hit on a woman
its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.
give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.
doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.
>>17172099
Dummy. The hot ones are the only ones on tinder worth talking to.
Mediocre girls on tinder are 5x as prudish and annoying as they are in real life.
>>17172114
I agree with you to some extent although I disagree with the statement concerning issues.
I used the app to get sex, as I have a busy life in general I do not have the time to go out dating in the traditional sense.
But yeah, using Tinder does require some stamina OP, it is a harsh environment. One can get a bit cynical. I had a lot of matches whereas I'd prioritize them. One of them contacted me and asked me why I even bothered to swipe right if I had no intention of talking to them, it was spot on.
It is a superficial app and it is quite easy to lose yourself because finding a hook up is only a swipe away.
>>17172127
I'm no Chad famalam, im not in the league of those grills
>>17172129
if ur going for sex it works great, cuz a lot of girls there 'try you out' and then arent that into you (or vice versa).
but for legitimate dating i dont recommend it as a long term option. its not healthy
>but dating apps are TOXIC XDDDDDDDDDDDD
im 5'4", maybe a 4/10 and i still get laid on tinder pretty often, girls are always more attractive than i am at least
i love in NYC though so the pool is rather large. no relationship has came out from tinder doe.
>>17172127
That's subjective, I've met with hotties that were annoying to such an extent, that even their good looks didn't make up for it.
>>17172141
>XDDDDDDD
whats that even mean in relation to my post. like i commented on, its fine for sex though. but you cant be on tinder for a year, claiming you just want a relationship, and somehow not find it unless there is either an issue with you or your mentality.
you go downhill fast especially if you are a girl.
>>17172140
It depends. I've used it for hook ups on weekends and evenings, I've also used it as a dating tool. Not necessarily toxic, I have met a lot of girls that were looking for more than just a hookup, they'd usually be resorting to Tinder because they had limited time to meet people whilst studying and tending their student jobs.
Anyway i can make one without a phone number
>>17172148
yes. but context.
a girl who has been there for a year isn't really looking for a boyfriend. shes lost sight of what she wants and its part of her routine now. it does that to you. no ones good enough.
thats why i recommend it for short periods here and there. you meet the new girls, try it otu, and get out before it has a bad effect.
one size doesn't fit all, but thats the jist of it.
>>17172055
What's the point?
Casual sex becomes disgusting after it loses the novelty, why would you want to sleep with complete strangers?
>>17172172
OP has made a thread about Tinder, your idea of novelty is irrelevant, get out.
>>17172129
That advice doesn't help considering I haven't got a single match
>>17172172
This this this.
It's not what it's hyped up to be.
>be me
>Taking a break with gf
>Decide I should hit up girl on tinder to fuck
>Drive 40 minutes to meet up with her
>chubbier than she looked in her photos, but still cute
>Go to her place
>have sex
>Immediately feel regret and message my gf goodnight
>she says goodnight back
>feel nervous about getting std
>drive home
>message girl asking when last time she got tested or if she knows she's clean
>she says yes
>I feel better
Cool I just spent money on gas to get decent pussy only to feel regretful and nervous.
>>17172215
Okay here's how to get matches.
Use two photos. Both should show your face. no shirtless pics, wear good clothes, be well groomed.
It helps if you're holding a cat in one of the photos.
Your profile should say exactly what you're looking for. My bio said:
>Visiting CT from Colorado
>Massage therapist/musician
>Not looking for anything serious.
>Let's smoke.
I got 120 matches in ten days, but I'm pretty good looking I guess.
>>17172378
Can confirm holding cat works.
>>17172394
I meant something more like this. That's good too though. If that's you, use that photo
>>17172411
that you? come fuck this pussy asap
>>17172394
Yes it does.
>>17172055
i never found any tinder matches that lead to anything. Tindr sucks. Go use grindr at least u get people
Quick if you just swipe right on everyone. This method is only for people who don't give af
>>17172553
Op here
I'm a handholdless kissless virgin, never had a gf.
Looks like with the current luck that's gonna stay the same.
>>17172717
how old are you?
>>17172733
dont worry about it mate, i didnt hold hands/kissed/fucked until I was 23, and i never thought it would actually happen.
>>17172769
But I'm so lonely and the feel of no gf hurts
>>17172777
Tinder is not even close to the most reliable way of getting a girlfriend, it's superficial and without any sense of commitment. There's nothing wrong with that but it's probably not a good approach for somebody like you. Get a hobby or something, meet some people, don't be weird or clingy and maybe you'll meet somebody who likes you.
>>17172802
Yeah
Maybe
