>>17111126
i thought we already had a thread

or is 300 replies the limit in /adv/ ?

>>17111137
310.

Either gender:
Is it OK if one of a person's Tinder pics is their Facebook profile pic?

>>17111289
...Why wouldn't it be? It's pretty much expected.

The guy I am seeing seems really into me, but he always said he has commitment issues.
We are happy and things are going well, but I keep thinking I shouldn't keep seeing him or get attached.

What should I do?

>>17111289
I'd expect that?

>>17111346
You should break it off ASAP to save yourself the heartbreak

I've been taking this girl out to the movies and for ice cream. We're going to a drive through next.

She has a bf


Uhh


We kinda made out and had phone sex.


Waht the shit did I get myself into ?

>>17111385
Drive in movie theatre I mean
Lmao. Not like Jack in the box haha.


I like her. She has big tits and I dig her personality.

>>17111386
What I'm asking, is does this chick dig me.

Why do women do this knowing she has a bf.

>>17111385
>Waht the shit did I get myself into ?
You're going to end up fucked up. If the boyfriend finds out, he could beat the shit out of you. If he doesn't, then she's probably going to pull the same shit on you with another guy. Either way, you don't win.

>>17111394
Not afraid of her bf . That's not an issue.

So I should just have fun while I can, right ?

>>17111392
>Why do women do this knowing she has a bf.
You're chasing a cheater, a woman with no backbone. It's not like you're much better if you're chasing her knowing that.

>>17111417
She has a pretty nice backbone.

If you catch my drift...
Should I post pics ?

Do girls like receiving dick pics ?

>>17111439
From my boyfriend, maybe, sometimes.
From a random dude, nope, absolutely nope.

Do girls like fuzzy butt pics ?

>>17111484
Is the butt fuzzy, or the picture?

>>17111513
The butt.

Does it matter

>>17111439
I have an entire collection of my SO's dick pics and videos. I love them.

>>17111439
Not at all. I couldn't say if it'd be different from a boyfriend but I never quite saw the appeal (not to mention the unsolicited ones) and dicks really don't look all that appealing to me.
And how proud some guys are is just ridiculous ("ohh bby u like my big dick ")

Girl hasn't been responding as much
>break it off

Girl made fun of me for a quirk I have
>break it off

Girl stuttered in my direction
>break it off

Is my body part big/small enough?
>break it off

We should put this in the OP. The amount of times we get this answer is ridiculous and not even appropriate most of the time.

The introvert girl I'd gone on a vacation with has started walling herself off since we got back, since halfway through the vacation even. She shot down an invite of mine to go do something together later, and I have no idea what to talk about with her like this. She has these moments every now and then, but it's been going on for a lot longer than usual now and the first time she actually walls me off with them.

What am I supposed to do here? How do I get back in that bubble, or should I just wait it out for her to initiate?
I've tried hitting her up a few times already, and that gave either few-word or no responses.

>>17111638
Depends how introverted she is. I'm rather similar honestly and sometimes I just don't want other people around, for weeks at a time, and I just react barely to phonecalls and such.
Doesn't mean she doesn't like people/you specifically, but maybe she needs time to herself.

I'm curious, now I know it's basically a cliche that girls have problems orgasming, but how common is that a problem among guys? Do any of you ever not get there, no matter how hard you try?

A girl I liked approached me to tell me she liked me back. She didn't feel comfortable talking to me though and wanted to only text. When I was around her in person it was like she was physically running away from me all the time - like she couldn't face me. When we were in public, she would act like nothing was going on, but then she'd text me with really deep stuff.

She basically said we were "going out" or in some kind of relationship in one of those texts. Unfortunately, we had to leave our college and go home for the weekend, then her texts got sparse, and when I saw her again on Monday she was fine around me but still refusing to actually spend time with me one on one or avoiding it. I asked her best friend if I was doing anything wrong, she said she was having regrets about having told me, that she wasn't sure if she liked me after all. That didn't quite ring true though because she was indicating that I wasn't taking things far enough and she clearly wanted to be more intimate, even though I was trying to take things one step at a time so she didn't get overwhelmed.

I just wanted 5 minutes to talk to her, but I asked her on a date, she said she was busy. I told her I could take things as fast or as slow as she wanted but she told me then we should just stay friends and refused to see me, shutting herself in her room and not talking to me, even though I just wanted 5 minutes for the sake of closure.

I wrote her a letter telling her I understood what this thing "was/could have been" is dead, and although we would have practical problems the real issue was probably that I didn't have it in me to be the kind of guy she wanted and she probably didn't like me as much as I liked her.

She looked terrible when I saw her around the dorm and I didn't speak to her. I texted her friend on the train home to ask how she was, but I get a text back from the girl -

>TBC-

>>17111669
>Cont

Telling me:

"Look I'm sorry it all happened this way but nothing ever actually happened it was better to get out before anything did, nothing lost"

When I asked if by "nothing lost" she meant she was worried if we had something and it didn't work out after college ends she said:

"No it means nothing happened so there's nothing to get over"

So I told her when she told me she liked me I gave it a day before she would realise I'm an idiot. She replied;

"It wasn't that. I don't think I can do a distance relationship"

So I told her I had thought it through and I was going to have one anyway, and I offered to explain but that she knew what she could/couldn't do. She says:

"It really doesn't matter, I've tried it before and I don't want to sorry"

So I told her the one thing I wanted was to go on adventures with her, gave a few examples, and asked if we could still do stuff like that even if we couldn't have a relationship.

I get a text from her friend replying "She is absolutely fine but wishes you stop bothering her"

I take the hint, but get a text from the girl an hour later saying

"I don't know we'll see how things go"

Right now I am giving her the space she clearly needs/wants at the moment and I'm gathering my thoughts.

>>17111682
People are going to tell me to move on, that's exactly what I'm doing, but this girl... I fully expect her to get back to me at some point. Even that last text. She did this before - I asked her out in February, she took a day to think about it and told me she wanted to stay friends but then said "you never know where the future will take you anyway."

I think she does want this, deep down, but someone has hurt her and she's afraid of intimacy and letting her guard down. I don't think she's not attracted to me anymore, she's just scared of us actually moving into reality and doing bf/gf type things. I think she has attachment problems of some kind, ambivalent attachment or whatever they call it, she probably got hurt young - she told me about her "scars" once.

She does this push/pull thing with things she really wants but doesn't feel confident with. She drops out of things a lot and I think she has low self esteem.

I'm going to play this like the horse whisperer in that movie, where a horse that got traumatised in an accident has to get broken in but it keeps bolting from the stable out of fear of the saddle because of memories. The main character just waits with the harness for the horse to come to him.

If she's scared of this, I can't reach out to her because I'll overcrowd her, I'm just going to be her friend no matter what and end things on a good note. In my letter I told her it meant a lot that she still wanted to be my friend after what happened before. I am also prepared for her approaching me again like she did before. If she doesn't, I guess I won't have to worry anymore.

Am I on the right track here?

So my gf and I were having cybersex, and watching porn together. However, she went away for a second and she got mad as hell at me for not being "able to control myself". Because she thinks I didn't want her. I told her a very private thing that I wanted to stay hard because I feel very nervous being naked on a webcam and wanted to watch porn. Then she cried angrily away and closed the call. Saying how I am not attracted to her anymore. She turned my insecurity into something of herself. What the fuck am I supposed to do and is she overreacting or what.

>>17111727
Wait, you were masturbating together and she left for a second, and you started watching porn instead? I can see how that might make her tense or make her feel unsexy. Like, she leaves and you immediately jump to the next best thing, some fake whore on the Internet. Might've been an incredibly intimate moment for her and for you it was just jacking off.
Guys and girls are fundamentally different about arousal.

>>17111669
>>17111682
>>17111717
No way that anyone's going to read that much in a simple "ask opposite gender" thread. Go put it in a thread of its own with a tl;dr.

>>17111864
We were actually watching porn together. We sent each other material from /gif/ and she was masturbating to it before I undressed myself. She masturbated to the webms we sent each other. The fact that she got mad for looking at one to stay hard for her (because webcam sex makes me nervous and lose my boner quickly) seems really unfair.

Help me understand something adv. I'm an average looking person, I've gotten called pretty even, I'm not unintelligent and I'm not an awful person. I love life and I'm pretty happy with myself.

The one thing I don't understand is how people at similar stages in their lives are able to be in fulfilling relationships and I don't even get noticed by the opposite sex.

Am I being intimidating? I'm never approached and it always feels like I'm constantly having feelings for people who don't see me as anything more than a friend. It's this endless, horrible cycle where I fall for people who just don't feel that way. And I swear I feel it about to happen again with a colleague I get along well with.

Help, anybody?

>>17111968
Help yourself. As in, take initiative and ask people out. Don't wait for them to ask you, because they most likely won't.

>>17111972
I have asked people out that's the thing. And I've gotten shut down more times than I can count. Part of me wonders if I'm attaching feelings to people just because they're a little nice to me, and I honestly don't know how to differentiate that from actual emotions anymore

>>17111946
That seems weird then. I thought you were cybering or something.
Talk to her?

>>17111975
That's probably true. But whatever, it happens. Dating is a numbers game, for men and women. Not everyone will like you that way. You just have to keep trying and asking people out until it works. You're under a false assumption that everyone else has it easy. A few people do, because they're either highly attractive or highly sociable/desirable in their own groups. But the majority of people have to stick their necks out and take a few heaps of shit until they get what they want.

If you're too attached to people, it's because you waited too long to pursue them. See someone you like? Go after them.

>>17111976
We were both. We first watched some porn and then proceeded to have cybersex. When I explained her that she watched it too she said "that was long ago", while it was literally a few minutes before that. She is just incredibly insecure and wont even fucking listen to me. Doesnt help that she lives far away from me either. She thinks that I dont please her but thats not true and she outright ignores me. Yes she is a teenager.

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>>17111980
Thanks anon. I guess it's just one of those nights haha. But yknow thanks, you made it look a lot simpler than my head made it out to be and I feel a whole lot better. Here, have a shibe for your trouble. And thanks again

>>17111986
She believes that she doesnt please me*

>>17111986
Well you're in a relationship with an insecure, fickle, a bit unhinged bundle of teen hormones. What exactly did you expect?

Girls, how does a lonely girl make the loneliness go away? When I'm not immersing myself in some form of entertainment like anime/manga/videogames I feel like crying all the time at the realization I'm never going to be happy with anyone.

>>17112012
I assume you don't mean something like "going out and meeting friends" and more along the lines of "eating Häagen-Dazs and masturbating"?
Because why wouldn't anime/manga/videogames work for girls as well?
I'm honestly not lonely often because I enjoy solitude when I have the time for any, but I'm rather sure the 'cures' for loneliness are the same for guys and gals mostly.

>>17112006
Shes turning 20 and I love her more than anything but its just tiring as hell.

>>17112018
>Because why wouldn't anime/manga/videogames work for girls as well?
They work while I'm immersed in them, when I stop and do other things the loneliness comes back. I can't be consuming media 24/7 especially the few stuff I like, I can't consume those 24/7 over and over and over. I'd go crazy.

>I'm honestly not lonely often because I enjoy solitude
I guess you aren't in for a lifetime of solitude.

>>17112021
With 20 she should start being sensible. I can see it being tiring but if she refuses to even engage the topic or discuss the problem with you, she's an immature cunt.

>>17112029
Have you tried work? That's apparently fulfilling to some people.

>I guess you aren't in for a lifetime of solitude
No, probably not.

>>17112018
>>17112029
Also I don't really have friends. Nobody I know likes the stuff I like and I don't have other hobbies. When I need advice or I need to confide in someone I turn to my parents or 4chan.

>>17112032
I do work, I don't particularly love it or hate it but I need money to live. It doesn't make a difference anyway.

>>17112036
Well, what do you need advice on? You asked what girls do when they're lonely, and I just told you what I do and what I assume other girls do.

>>17112042
>It doesn't make a difference anyway
Yeah, but in the end, what does?

>>17112043
No I asked how to make the loneliness go away. I'm a lonely girl and I don't want to feel so lonely.

>>17112048
Ohh. I'm sorry, I thought you were a guy curious about how lonely girls usually deal with loneliness.
So, I don't know. I'd say the best way to fight loneliness is not to find a distraction but to find someone who stops you feeling lonely, but of course that's easier said than done.

>>17112059
>find someone who stops you feeling lonely
Doesn't exist. I'm only attracted to 2D guys.

>>17112072
Then anime/manga is your best bet anyway I guess. Or lewd fanfiction and whatnot.

>>17112075
I can't be on those 24/7 though. I'm quite picky and just re-watching re-reading re-replaying my favorites over and over and over would make me hate them in the long run. New stuff I don't like.

>>17112072
>I'm only attracted to 2D guys
LOL

>>17112082
Literature, then? Surely there's an infinite supply of good literature to keep you occupied until your cats eat your corpse.

When you get a girls phone number how long should I wait before texting, I got it yesterday?

Also, femanons is ice skating a good romantic first date, I can skate pretty good for an amateur

>>17112084
Most literature isn't actually good or appealing to me for various reasons. As I've said, I'm quite picky, that goes for all media. The only tv show I've been watching in a long time is Game of Thrones, already read the books for that.
I wish I could get a bf. Too bad he doesn't exist.

>>17111618
This! This!

>>17111661
Only if I'm really stressed or anxious, but then I can't even get it up.

>>17112089
I'd say if you got it last night it's okay to text her the next day á la "Hey its Anon, we met last night at XY, wanna have a drink sometime?"

I don't know about ice skating, I think it's fun (not necessarily romantic since you can't really talk properly imo) but if she can't really skate it might not be a good idea.
Personally I'm happy if the first date goes well, a normal coffee or drinks thing is fun, no need to make it fancy.

>>17112094
If you enjoy ASOIAF you can't be THAT picky about literature. And even if you are into animu stuff excessively surely there's tons of LNs and fanfiction and porn to read.

>>17112095
Alright but guys don't get really horny and then can't cum? As in, physically aroused but not able to orgasm, for whatever reason?

>>17112012
>I'm never going to be happy with anyone
Not a grill but gonna reply anyways. Why are you so sure about it? Find friends who are also in that kind of entertainment, having them will make you feel less lonely. As someone who's into watching and drawing animu, I found a friend from the same city as me on >tumblr, and thanks to her I also met a few more people who are into that.

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What would you rate his attractiveness from 1-10?

>>17112128
Hate his sunken cheeks. His facial hair is gross. His eyes are too far apart. He actually looks like a predator. Not a real life predator, but one of the predators you'd see on Criminal Minds.

Anyway, 2/10. Only because he has healthy looking hair. That's one point. The other comes from me being generous enough to recognize that there are weird women and gays out there who would think this is attractive.

Just me, I guess, but I don't find white guys attractive until they're a lot older. Like 40+.

>>17112103
I've read stories of guys having that problem, but it hasn't never happened to me.

>>17112136
>"2/10 wouldn't bang"
>legbear with standards

>>17112139
Attractive white female who likes men who look like men, actually!

>tfw you get to sleep with a Jason Momoa knockoff.

>>17112128
He looks like the heroine addicted son of Steve Buscemi. 4/10

>>17111422
>Should I post pics ?
Yes, please

>>17112099
Already read all decent stuff from my fandoms, I just can't get into stuff I don't know anything about and most series don't sound very interesting to me.

>>17112106
People who are into that kind of entertainment tend to be considerably younger than me, it makes me feel creepy the idea to hang out with them. People my age already have families and friends and aren't looking for lonely rejects like me.

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>>17112175
>mfw I'm 22 and the friend I found is 26
>mfw I also have friends who are into mango or vidya and over 30
How old are you?

>>17111661
I didn't cum the first 5-10 times I had sex, but it's no problem now. Sometimes I'll have trouble if it's round 2, but if I focus on myself and really pound the shit out of girl I can usually get it done.

>>17112189
Didn't you cum because you were too nervous, or was there any other reason?

>>17112181
Older than your friends.

>>17112012
>>17112036
I don't share hobbies with my friends, but we appreciate each other's hobbies.

I watch a lot of anime.
I have a friend who listens to a lot of music.

I don't listen to much music.
My friend doesn't watch anime.

But we hang out and listen to music and watch anime together.

We talk about things going on around town, we talk about college, we talk about what we're up to, we talk about philosophy, we talk about our futures.

You don't really need to have much in common. Just a willingness to hear from the other.


I have another friend who loves to cook. I don't cook. But I love to eat. So she cooks me things and we eat it together.

It's mutually beneficial. She loves having someone to cook for.

I have another friend who lets me sit in her apartment working on homework while she reads a book. She'll sometimes tell me something funny that happens in the book, I might tell her something funny about my homework. But it's mostly in silence. We just like each other's presence. Or we'll play with her cats.


I think you're expecting too much from a friend. It doesn't need to be that complicated.

>>17111968
>Am I being intimidating? I'm never approached
Do you have a case of Resting Bitch Face? That can make people not want to approach you if you don't work on it

My ex avoids giving me back the stuff I lent her when we were together, even if I asked her multiple times to make a bag and leave it in front of my house. Can this be a sign she's not ready to say goodbye?

Girls, how much of a red flag is it for a 23-year old to have never had a girlfriend? Also, how much of a red flag is it to have had a relatively long period of not having sex (3 years)?

My explanation (which I'd be happy to share with a potential partner): when I was 18-20 I had low confidence, so I'd just go out and get drunk and occasionally have one-night stands. Then I got into a semi-relationship with a girl who turned out to be using me a little bit, it ended badly, and after that I made a promise to myself that I'd only date a girl if I genuinely liked her. I haven't met that person yet, and I don't want to lead someone on just because I feel like I should be more sexually active.

>>17112256
Why'd you stop having one night stands from 20 onwards though?

>>17112265
For one thing, I never actually enjoyed any of them, I only did them to stop friends commenting about the fact that I'd never had a girlfriend. I mean occasionally there's a little rush of electricity or lust or whatever, but mostly it's just drunk and disappointing and I hated waking up next to a stranger in the morning and trying to get them to leave ASAP, and not contact me again. That leads to the second thing, which is that I don't want anyone to get feelings for me that I wasn't going to return, because I knew how shitty that felt from the other side. I'm not saying it did happen with anyone I had a one-night stand with, but there's always the potential for it unless you just act really cold and cut them off as soon as they're out the door, which is a pretty shitty way to treat someone too.

>>17112255

Anyone?

>>17112279
I understand, and I think if you explain it like that to any girl, most would understand that too. Kinda sweet really.

>>17112256
I see nothing wrong with this. I'd prefer a guy who doesn't think with his dick. And hooking up is usually a soulless activity anyways.

>>17112103
I used to when I was more inexperienced and nervous, and especially from blowjobs because I was really nervous about girls freaking out from me coming in their mouth, even though I thought it was really hot.

how much of a red flag is a not so fat guy with really big stretchmark all over body?

>>17112255
Its a sign she has no respect for personal property.

>>17112194
Just because I was too nervous. It happened with girls I found very attractive, and some I didn't, so that didn't have anything to do with it. Just try to make your guy comfortable and relaxed enough with you if he's having that problem.

>>17112328
Okay thanks.
No, I don't have any guy or something, it's just that I frequently have problems reaching orgasm so I was wondering if guys sometimes have to deal with that too.

>>17112302
Thats not really a red flag.

Red flags would be more like anger issues, dishonesty, manipulative etc.

>>17111661
>>17112342
>No, I don't have any guy or something, it's just that I frequently have problems reaching orgasm so I was wondering if guys sometimes have to deal with that too.

I'm in my late 20's, I've usually only ever been able to climax after at least an hour of sex.

Usually the way it works out is we have sex for like 40 minutes and we take a break after she climaxes (the length of the break depends on how hard her climax was) then we go again 'til she climaxes again/I climax, but sometimes I just don't.

No other girl has ever been able to keep up and get me to climax (they're usually done after like 20)

I think it's mostly a mental thing because I prioritize their pleasure over mine, never bugged/frustrated, just always was what it was.

Is it common thing for guys? Probably not, but it happens.

Guy is ghosting me. Should I ignore him too or try to get an explanation?

>>17112419
Shouldn't YOU decide this yourself? What are your intentions?

>>17112419
And would it be too clingy to ask like are we gonna see each other anymore or what is going on?

>>17112424
I really like him and my friend says that I should ignore him too. He might then get interested but... Shouldn't he be interested now anyway without stupid games

>>17112419
Is he ghosting you for sure?

>>17112430
Yeah he ignored my last text two days ago and we were supposed to see tonight but didn't hear from him. I really want to say something but don't know what..

>>17112416
That's not normal for guys though, is it? I'm in no way an expert but my hetero friends complain all the time about guys orgasming too quickly, not too slowly (hence my question in the first place).
I'm in my early twenties though so maybe it's just inexperience.
I agree that orgasming is mostly mental though.

>>17112438
So you guys were supposed to hang out tonight. Has that not happened yet, or did it already happen? If it hasn't happened yet, you can say something like "Hey, is such and such time still good?" If he stood you up, you can say something like "Hey, where were you? Did something come up?"

>>17112443
No, it's not at all the norm. But it's not like it's never happened.

>>17112446
Welp I sent him: "So are we gonna see each other again or are you ignoring me?". God I can't do anything than wait for an answer, if he is gonna even answer..

>>17112510
Well that wasn't what I said to do. That text shows you're assuming the worst in him

>>17112521
Yeah, well I know where he is and I am kind of pissed and don't want him just walking all over me. Long story really but I think the message I sent was good.

Girls, why do you LOVE to make us cum, but don't like to swallow it?

>>17112552
>So are we gonna see each other again or are you ignoring me?
I'd just keep ignoring you at this point

>>17112558
Idk what kind of girls you're messin with but that statement absolutely does not apply to all chicks.

I'm going back to my college in a few days, and I'm staying there for the whole 3 months of summer. The thing is though I don't have any of my friends staying there this summer.

What's an easy way to meet people (girls especially) when I don't really have anyone to hang out with

>>17112570
Why is that? I am really not the type of girl who enjoys these dating games.

>>17112558
What makes you say that? I love swallowing my lover's cum, I thought most chicks dig the intimacy of the act?

>>17112582
Not sure what's intimate about the act, it's just practical. No pregnancy risk, no having to wipe cum off

>>17112580
Because you're being more trouble than you're worth at this point if I'm not already super interested in you. Did he already miss you're meeting tonight, or have you just not heard from him yet? How many times have you seen him?

>>17112599
Yeah he missed it and didn't say anything. We have been dating for two months. I think he is the one being more trouble than worth at this point. He just replied to my message with a pic of a TV "gaming with friends in other town". Nothing else. That wasn't the fucking question. Fuck I'd appreciate if he just apologized.

>>17112606
>We have been dating for two months.
How many times have you seen him? Have you had sex with him?

He seems flaky and immature, you seem overly emotional and annoying. It could work between you two :)

>>17112622
Guys who are immature and girls who are emotional? Oh get out, you!

>>17112588
Are you this dead inside?

>told a girl to wait up after class
>she turned around, smiled and asked how I was
>told me she had to study for a test on Africa so she was looking at her phone throughout the conversation
>said something like "Well while you study Africa, can I get your phone number?"
>got it
>had her laughing throughout the conversation (can't figure out if I have pretty good jokes about African geography, if she was being polite, or if she's interested)
>our shoulders touched/bumped a few times but she didn't linger or anything

What do you guys think?

Girls , is it true that pheromone parfumes are like a secret weapon for dating ?

>>17112830
Yeah, according to leading scientific research over at Deus Ex.

>>17112830
lol
you either look good or you dont, no fake scent is going to change that. you never hear someone saying "oh he/she was kinda meh in the looks department but i just HAD to hit that because he/she smelled so good"

>>17112830
It's not going to make up for you being a shit date otherwise, if that's what you're asking

>>17112588
Same. I made a point of getting my bf to cum in my mouth whenever I could.

>>17112816
Sounds like you should ask her out on a date and see what happens.

How do you deal with being friends with the person you love?

How do you deal with it when that same person does not date people, and seems to have plans to be alone (but be friends) despite wanting love?

>>17112588
The girl is literally swallowing your DNA. IMO it's very intimate and very, I don't know, accepting? I guess it's a nice gesture. Kissing someone is usually reserved for people you care about or are interested in caring about. Swallowing is like 5 steps above that.

>>17113036
>How do you deal with it when that same person does not date people, and seems to have plans to be alone (but be friends) despite wanting love?
Are you saying they're not making an effort to pursue love, but wants to find love someday, but won't love you?

Ok guys can you decode why you do stuff like this? I've been friends with this dude for a long time. We've shared secrets/deep things with each other, we have many common interests etc. basically we're best friends. Recently we became FWB. One of the rules he set down was no falling in love. I was hurt when he laid that down because for about a month before this happened I thought we were going to go in a romantic direction. He said he doesn't want us to fall in love because he doesn't want to ruin our friendship and lose me. And yet I see him on social media and in real life flirting with other girls as if he's looking for an actual girlfriend.

I just don't understand. We're close friends, we talk about everything together, he obviously likes me physically enough to have sex with me, why doesn't he want a romantic relationship with me?

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>>17113252
Not a guy, but I don't know what you're complaining about. He told you right from the start that he doesn't want a relationship with you. Why he doesn't want a relationship with you is irrelevant - he just doesn't. He's told you his side of the bargain, now it's up to you whether or not you want to accept it. If it hurts you to see him flirting with other girls, YOU need to manage that, not him.

Guys, my love life is becoming more difficult. My partner is about average (5.5inx4in), but his size isn't the issue. See, I'm nervous about insulting him for just being average down there, so I regularly pretend like he's "too much" for me. However, this has been giving him such an ego boost that he finishes well before I do, but I have to pretend like I finished because of his size so as to not accidentally offend him.

Is penis size really that important to you guys? Can I just have a sit-down with him and tell him he's plumb average so I can finally get off?

>>17113275
I'm not a guy but why did you think for a second that was a good idea?

>>17113275

Straight up... I think he'll be more hurt about the fact that he hasn't been able to get you off lately, then about his size.

Guys like bein' able to please their women and shit.

Tell him the truth. If he cares more about dick size than a good fuck, he's probably more interested in other guys dicks than you.

>>17113284
Well he's got a cute face, but other than that he's not the most physically appealing, and rather than accidentally say something bad about one of his features I see on a regular basis like his arms or whatever (we encourage each other to go to the gym) I figured I could lie and compliment something I never see so I can't say anything bad about. Guys need compliments too I think.

>>17113252
Using my own experiences, I have a friend who's extremely cute and we get along very well. I tend to have bad experiences with women, and it's nice not having to put up a shield.

However, I would never date her. She has a host of issues regarding her father and intimacy, still struggles with basic communication in a relationship, and does hard drugs. The point is even if you guys get along great and there's sexual attraction, there may be some deal breakers about you that he considers off limits. I don't know you or him, but good sex and being comfortable with each other isn't always sufficient.

This is open to either gender, but specifically towards women.

What percentage of men, between 18-30, do you think have visible abs? I'm curious how skewed perception is from reality.

>>17113288
No, of course guys need compliments, but if you compliment anyone about something not really worth complimenting, you'll instill in them a false sense of worth/accomplishment which leads to them feeling great about something thats not really great, which leads to the whole problem you're having.
Soo I'd say just sit him down and be honest. Tell him you enjoy the sex and its nothing to do with his size and all that.

>>17113299
Maybe 10%

>>17113299
doughyboy pls go

>>17113275
>my boyfriend has a tiny dick and does not care about me
quit fucking that dude.

>>17113299

I'm quite a fatty but I still have some (barely) visible abs.

If you're asking about six-packs, then it's a much smaller number.

But, so long as a guy has good some good core strength, he should have at least some noticeable abs.

Builtfat guy here. Used to work out but then gave up because life is meaningless and depressing. Still got abs.

>>17113275
You were retarded from the getgo. However even if he had a gonzo dick that doesn't give him a pass to be a selfish lover. Just tell him what he's doing wrong in bed.

>>17113288
Don't give fake compliments. Either you're setting them up for failure, or they know you're lying and feel hurt.

You can say it feels great which isn't lying, but you're fibbing about his attributes.

>>17113299
10-15%. 20% tops

>>17113319
Yeah, I'm talking about 6-8 pack non flexing.

>>17113275
Instead of saying
"You're doing it wrong"

Say "Let's try things differently!"

"I'd like it if you fingered me"

"I'd like it if we exchanged oral"

If he says, "What, is sex not enough?"

Say, "no that's not it. It's that variety is the spice of life, right?"

>>17113358

Then not many.

Mainly gym rats.

To be honest, I used to be quite ripped.
As a fatty with some still (barely) visible abs (not flexing) I actually get more attention from the opposite sex than I used to.

Different strokes for different folks and all that shit.

Don't get so caught up in appearances so much... I mean, you could get absolutely ripped and fall for a girl only to find out she's a chubby chaser.

All that effort for nothing?

If you do work out, do it for yourself rather than for what the opposite sex thinks, and don't take on more than you can handle. Otherwise, just find a lifestyle that suits you.

>>17113373
>As a fatty with some still (barely) visible abs (not flexing) I actually get more attention from the opposite sex than I used to.
I too get mired more when bulking than cutting, and I'm a ~20% fatass. I think I just have a better attitude and look happier when I'm not dieting.

what do you think about girls that has a "best friend" of opposite gender?
Why Is it so hard to divert her attention from him? And why the heck does girls like those stupid clownass guys

>>17113373
>As a fatty with some still (barely) visible abs (not flexing) I actually get more attention from the opposite sex than I used to.
Why do you think that is? More self confident? You appear less intimidating?

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I'm fucking horny all the fucking time, so much that I can't concentrate. I masturbate over 7 times a day what do? 26 years old.

My ex emotionally neglected me so we broke up 3 months ago.

He's been trying to get me back ever since but I don't feel ready. Today he asked if we should stop talking if he doesn't have a chance and I told him the chance isn't very high, but not zero.

Am I leading him on?

He promises me he's changed for the better. I'm really scared of being hurt again if he's lying.

I'm 22, he's 24.

>>17113606
take antipsychotics. they sure helped kill my libido. i havent masturbated in a month

>>17113617
Yeah or antidepressants, since I've started taking a small dose against my migraines my libido is basically, I dunno, a fourth of what it used to be.

Simple question.

If she keeps replying, she's interested, right?

>>17113663
Usually but not always

>>17113663
Depends. Is she replying with one word answers and not moving the conversation forward?

>>17113540
I have a male best friend.
I'm engaged, he's married, we've been friends since elementary school.
He is the funniest guy I've ever met. Absolutely amazing person.

Are you jealous or something?

>>17113675
One word answers no. Short answers yes but I feel like the conversation keeps moving. She'll sometimes give more fleshed out answers.

She was the one who asked me to add her on FB. After talking for a few days she was fine giving me her number.

>>17113590

I'm generally happier with my lifestyle now.
Could be that.

Could also be because your body is a reflection of your lifestyle. An amazing body is alot of work, it takes time, patience and dedication... there isn't alot of room for fun there.

I've had a few girls tell me they prefer guys with a bit of a gut because they are more fun, so... it could have something to do with that.

>>17113609
Respond if you can, I'm kind of panicking

>>17113609
You'll get hurt again, obviously. Cut contact.

>>17113540
i can confidently tell you ive never been just friends with a woman. a woman can be my boss, a friend of my gf, a daughter, a coworker but never just a friend

>>17113719
It's not obvious. It's been a while and he's shown he's made progress on it

>>17113609
You know what's way cooler and more fun than used goods who has already fucked you over once?

A brand new guy who may or may not fuck you over, but at least he's new and exciting and that's the best phase of a relationship.

Move on, get a new dick.

>>17113767
>I want to make the same mistake twice!
Go ahead, then.

what do black girls want?

>>17113768
When do you think she will be back with him, under or over a week from now, bro?

>>17113841
Fried chicken?

I'm 23 and I don't have alot of friends, how do I make friends, male female I just don't want to be alone anymore.

>>17113676
Well, yes.
it really annoys me each day whenever I see them together laughing.

>>17113911
That sounds like a you problem and not a her problem.

>>17113911
dont listen to femanon, anon. you have reason to be jealous. men are rarely just friends with a female

>>17113951
This. Had a bf who liked to talk to his high school teacher in a relationship. Ended up getting shitfaced at a college football game and kissed her

>>17113762
>i can confidently tell you ive never been just friends with a woman. a woman can be my boss, a friend of my gf, a daughter, a coworker but never just a friend

I can confidently tell you I've been just friends with a woman. In fact a woman is my best friend. My girlfriend has become friends with her too.

>>17113904
But you DO have some? Why do you want more?

>>17114048
I can confidently tell you you're deceiving yourself

>>17113476
I think it's because you fill out your clothing better, which is how most people see you. I have a few friends who look below average in street clothes, but have solid bodies.

>>17114051

In what way?
>I can objectively say she's attractive, but I'd never be in a romantic relationship with her (I know her well enough to say that I'd want to strangle her within a week probably xD)
>She has her own SO
>My girlfriend and her have hung out together outside of me.

>>17114069
you still find her attractive. im not saying you would date her but you would kiss her or something else if you thought your gf wouldnt find out

>>17114074

Nope. Apparently I've got more self-control and am less self-repressed than you.

Exactly because doing things like kissing (and to a lesser degree, sex) are no big deal to me when i'm single, it's also not a big deal to abstain from it with other people when i'm in a relationship.

>>17114100
you say that but evidenced by your last post you have already wondered about being in a relationship with your "friend". you're not a reliable source

>>17114105
...

How does that have ANYTHING to do with anything either you or I said in ANY of our posts?

Now you're just jumping to random non-sequiturs...

How do i accurately determine my ring size without actually buying a ring?

>>17114123
im not though. i just restated what you said

>>17114125

https://www.zales.com/home/ringsizechart.jsp

I've been chatting with this girl for several weeks on the internet, almost every day, and we click a lot. How should I appropriately ask her out or ask to meet her?

>>17114138
I'll try that, thanks!

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>>17112142
>racemixing
>not being attracted to guys of your own race

How do I avoid being creepy if I want to ask a cashier out? I think she's really cute, and whenever she cashes me out, she's always a little bit nervous and genuinely smiles with prolonged eye contact.

>>17114178
What you wanna do is have a magnum condom peeking outta your wallet when you pay for whatever.

>>17114189
If a guy ever has a magnum, I assume he's small.

>>17114191
jokes on you, magnum doesn't fit me! I am in fact that small

I've only been in one relationship before my current one, and it was in highschool. Because of my lack of experience, I always assumed a relationship follows some kind of formula:

>no sex until 1mo in
>don't say I love you until 3mo in
>don't meet parents until 4mo in

But my current relationship is all out of whack:

>sex on 2nd date and every date since
>met her parents on the 3rd date
>one month in we've both said "I love you"

I know relationships are supposed to be organic: what happens happens, there's no structure to it, if it feels right then it's right, but this is all new to me. I haven't been in a relationship in eight years prior to this one.

>>17114191

Regular condoms choke my penis. I'm average in every sense of the word, maybe a little thicker than average. I use Magnums because it's a pain in the dick (literally) to put on a regular condom.

>>17114204
I'm not completely doubting the possibility that a guy is truly large enough to need the size magnum *claims* to advertise for (similar to how astronaut crotch sizes range from large to gargantuan or some shit). I've just had too many experiences of a guy saying he's got magnums like that'll convince me to let him benis my bagina

>>17114204
>lying on an anonymous imageboard
why?

>>17114189

This way, people you you're both insecure AND an idiot for keeping condoms in your wallet.

Do not keep condoms in your wallet. It weakens their integrity and greatly increases the chance of a tear while having sex, or even scarier, the potential exists for it to cause micro-tears--which are tiny tears that are invisible to the naked eye, but large enough to sperm and STDs to passthrough.

Also check the expiration date of your condom (yes they expire, and one of the leading causes of condom microtears is that expiration date)

>>17114178
Just slip her your number and ask her if she'd like to grab a coffee some time.

>>17114219

Why would someone lie on the internet? In retrospect, I'm probably smaller than average. 5-5.5in depending on arousal. I don't use condoms often but when I do it needs to be Magnums because they're wider and easier to put on. I have tight foreskin. I only use Magnums because otherwise I can't get them on easily.

>>17114139
>"Hey, do you want to meet me for coffee on Sunday?"
Simple as that, but really you should have asked her weeks ago

>>17114276
Now that I think of it she did hint a couple times. Do you think it's too late now?

>>17114474
If she's still talking to you the same as before you're probably alright

Tomorrow, the bf and i are dating since half a year. Does one celebrate that?

>>17114606
Do you celebrate the 6 month anniversary of anything else?

Guys:
The guy i have been seeing for around 2 months is already talking about marriage, living together, etc.
I would like that but i am not in the same stage yet, i don´t know what to do.
I truly appreciate that he is doing all of this because he has issues with commitment yet he wants to go in the full ride with me.
I do like some of those plans but we are both too young i guess, every possible fail in the plan i point out he counteracts and well i got no idea what to do or say

Girls, who is the most gorgeous man you've ever seen?

So I have a crush on a guy.
We know each other from playing D&D together.
We seem to have some sort of connection, he'll laugh even at my terrible jokes, and we generally get along well.
Anyway, he agreed to cook with me next week before the next D&D session (we usually all eat together).
I have no idea whether he considers it a romantic thing or not, I know for a fact he has several close female friends, so he might not automatically think that just because we'll be alone together.
IDK, what can I do to make it more date-like?

>>17114660
Cillian Murphy looks like he was genetically engineered to suit my tastes perfectly.

>>17114606
Some people do. I generally think celebrating is just a fun thing to do, so why miss a chance? Just make it more low-key, do a dinner date or something, don't expect expensive gifts.

>>17114644
Don't let yourself get coerced into a major commitment like that. It sounds like the initial glow of your relationship hasn't faded for him and he's taking his ideals too far. Not sure how to make reality set in for him faster.

>>17114688
Wot, him? The fucking scarecrow

>>17114684
"I'm really looking forward to our DATE!"

Girls,

Why are you so shit at rejecting? I understand that some guys don't take it well and spaz out but a lot of you reject in such a dumb way it's borderline infuriating. e.g.

>I'm just not ready for a relationship right now
>2 weeks later you're in a relationship
Just say "I don't feel anything between us". The language you use makes it seem like there is a chance for a relationship, just not right now so the dude you wanna get rid off will do the opposite and just gonna wait and hang around.
>Random Ghosting
This is so fucking childish. You're an adult, end relationships like one
>You're a great guy but, I mean you really are nice, you're just a super duper person .... <an hour later> but I didn't feel a connection
You don't need to sugarcoat that much. Saying a nice thing about someone before rejecting them is a good thing to do but don't go into hour long monologues about how great the guy is. He'll think "If I'm so great why don't you wanna date me".

>>17114713
Because we've been taught that hurting someone's feelings makes us less of a woman.

>>17114715
But is it an excuse anymore? I hear all the time
>We've been taught ...
>Society tells us ...
I understand excuses like these in the 1800s before the entire feminist movement but it's 2016, you all can realize it's bullshit, right? You do know you don't have to follow dumb rules like that?

>>17114713
Getting rejected sucks no matter how you put it. Rejecting someone is equally upsetting.

>>17114713
Who cares? You understand what it means, just move onto the next one.

>>17114721
I am not like that anymore, I had to learn my lesson when I was a teenager.

Some people haven't broken the mold.

>>17114722
>>17114723

So just rip the band-aid off. Just do it. Seriously, it's such a waste of time. I had a girl reject me for a week once. Not saying "no" for 7 days. She started rejecting me by "putting the thought in my head that I should stop pursuing her by acting like a really unattractive person" (her words) on day 1 to her saying "No" on day 7.

I don't have the time to wait because someone can't be an adult about how they express their feelings.

>>17114738
Have you tried being attractive?

Girls, how would you feel about a guy whose fetish is having both a mental and physical sexual confrontation with a woman to the point where it becomes a battle of wills between two individuals that devolves into who can cause the most damage raping the other? I've only had one woman that I've been able to hate-fuck, having her claw me as I plow her while arguing about whether or not Leibniz was important (she was a mathematics professor), and I long for that feeling again.

>>17114759
>arguing about whether or not Leibniz was important
What was the final verdict?

>>17114755
Nicely memed friendorino but I have good looking friends going through similar stuff, not as extreme as me but similar. Girls saying "yes" to dates than either not showing up at all and ghosting or flaking out last minute and ghosting.

>>17114759
I don't judge it or anything, just not my thing.
I'm not into the angry sex thing.

>>17114704
That's the one. Not everybody has the same tastes, I just have a massive ladyboner for him.

>>17114764
Unfortunately, despite my love for Newton and loathing of Descartes and Spinoza, I was unable to sway her from believing Leibniz's notation was necessary for teaching calculus to students in a way that can properly engage them while at the same time having her say, "This is the best universe God could have made because that was the best sex I've ever had." It was a crushing compliment I never want to hear again in that context.

>>17114765
>>17114785

You're a fucking omega level nerd. Get some therapy weirdo.

>>17114791
Reported for encouraging suicide on /adv/, enjoy your ban.

Isn't it kinda fucked up that women in consensual heterosexual sex are the gatekeepers? They decide who gets to have sex and who doesn't. Guys are always DTF and if you say "no" to sex you're called a faggot but girls get to be picky.

>>17114798
Since when have women dictated whether or not you could have sex with them? If my girlfriend says no I just wait until she's asleep and fuck her thighs so that way there's no penetrating damage.

>>17114805
That's why I said consensual you cheeky cunt.

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>>17114660
that'll be jake gyllenhaal

kit harington, jensen ackles, liam hemsworth, heath ledger and adrian brody are high up there too.

>>17114871
>shit taste in men confirmed

>>17114877
kek. give me better ones. i'm curious about YOUR taste now.

>>17114886
Maybe except Adrien Brody you posted some classic "pretty boy" guys. You must be basic af.

I'll raise you Sean Bean, Daniel Craig, Paul Giamatti and Ron Perlman.

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>>17114889
holy crap.
how bad are your daddy complexes?
those are all old men. only one we could agree on is sean bean. but he's giving me strong "dad-vibes", so i'm not entirely convinced

>>17114896
I'm 34 year old. Do you expect me to get my knickers down for some teenage boys?

Also it's "daddy issues" not "daddy complexes". I don't have them, I just enjoy well-rounded, emotionally mature men.

>>17114889
Steve Buscemi, beat that

Boys and girls alike:

I met this girl. We fell in love. We're perfect for each other. Thing is, we're both in relationships. Her boyfriend is a piece of shit. My girlfriend is an insensitive brat. Yet she says she wants to give him a chance (the 5th time since we've started talking; they broke up a hundred times before that), because she doesn't wanna have doubts before she makes the decision to break up. I've been helping her out to fix her relationship, which has been slowly killing me since I am madly in love with her, and I cannot deal with it anymore. I don't want to cut her off my life, and there is some kind of hope that one day we'd end up being together. Enduring this, however, has been one of the hardest things I've done in my life, and I am questioning everything. What should I do? General thoughts?

>>17114759
No thanks.

>>17114713
Telling the truth doesn't change anything.

>>17114660
The drummer of the Protomen.

>>17114606
No. Anniversaries are generally considered the only milestone worth celebrating, and that literally means number of YEARS.

>>17114178
If she likes you, it's not creepy. If she's not into you, the worst fucking thing you can do is ask her out on the job. Most women flirt a little when they're working since it makes their job easier/more tips if applicable.

>>17114139
Depends on if she lives close. But this >>17114276

>>17114939
If you're both in other relationships, you're not in love. Break up with your girlfriend, cut off the other girl, and grow the fuck up.

>>17114945
That's an incredibly generic response. Care to elaborate?

>>17114939
I think if she wanted to be with you, she would. I also think that if you wanted to be in a relationship with you, you'd have broke up with your girlfriend.

>>17114946
She's not serious about you, and never will be. Don't waste your time. And it's not fair to the person you're dating to be "madly in love" with someone else.

>>17114952
How do you figure she's not? I am not challenging your opinion. I am just curious about it. Some details perhaps? My girlfriend is a bitch in every single sense of the word. Example: I was very ill, and one day I was so bad that I felt like I was dying; I could walk, talk, or move my body. She came in, gave me a pat on the back and walked off as I was squirming in pain. The only reason we're together as of now, honestly, is because she swore she loved me and that I was the best thing that ever happened to her. But, fuck me, how has she ever shown it? She didn't even bother to check in with me (or her) when I told her my mom had cancer.

>>17114960
>"could" should be "couldn't"

>>17114960
Sounds to me like you're looking for people to validate you, not give you real advice. If your girlfriend is a bitch, break up. Being in a relationship for the sake of the other person isn't kind, it's cruel. And the other girl knows that she can get your attention without having to leave her boyfriend, so she can have her cake and eat it too.

>>17114960
Not that anon, but I don't know what advice you're looking for. I am just not understanding why you're still with your girlfriend if she's such an awful person. The other girl's boyfriend can't be that bad either, otherwise she wouldn't be with him anymore. I think you're delusional, for lack of a better word, about how much you and her like each other, because you two sure don't sound like you want to be together from what you've said.

>>17112128
8/10

although he looks a little bit like my bf so I might be biased

>>17114962
I guess that makes sense. I am simply in a very bad spot at the moment, Anon. I am confused, sad, irritated, and absolutely clueless as to how I am supposed to deal with this.

Do you think there's something I could do that doesn't involve cutting off this person out of my life?

>>17114965
I am not sure either, Anon. That's just how I feel.

>>17112558
I swallow but desu I don't really like the taste... precum is fa more tasty than the actual cum

>>17114970
We can't help you if you don't know what help you need.

>>17114970
Best thing you can do is try to make her want you. Become single, reduce communication with her, and better yourself. Work out, go out and do fun and exciting things. Make her chase you. But you're better off just cutting her off.

>>17114975
I understand that. I just want to make all of this hurt less, you know? Somehow. I can't force anyone to be with me, but I realize that I cannot keep doing this to myself either. I really, really, really don't know. I am incredibly confused right now.

>>17114981
Thanks, Anon. I appreciate your help.

>>17114660
Arjun Rampal, Paul Newman, Michael Fassbender

& I wouldn't say he's "gorgeous" but I think David Tennant is really attractive

>>17112558
Because making someone orgasm is pretty awesome. Semen tastes very ugly 2bh. I still swallow it, but it's not my favorite taste...

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Should i just wear long pants and sleeves in summer if i got ugly skin or say fuck it and rape everyones eyes with the sight?

>>17115027
Define ugly skin.

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Get a lot of shit for my hair, from pubes to jewish afro, to a bunch of other shit, it it really that bad

Guys,

what would be a reason to dislike doggy style? I've been having sex with a guy for a while, I would like to do it in this position since I always liked it but he never initiates it and I'm not sure how to initiate it myself. Just make out and then get on all fours?

I'm asking if there's something he might find uncomfortable about it, because I'm afraid of hurting him by trying to "communicate"

>>17115093
you have a nice face (alhough very young looking). If you dislike the hair, just cut it very short? Personally I think it's fine

so long story short, girl I've been seeing/texting became distant, I panicked and I sent her a " When are ya free to meet up again? i dont want to lose you" text
she replied with
"you'll always have me, you mean a lot to me and your friendship is important to me"
i dont have chance in hell of this turning into a relationship do i?