Why do women have such an easier time getting relationships than men?
I'm not kidding. Pretty much every girl I know is in a LTR and has a huge social circle. This is such a common thing that millions of guys believe this. What I'm saying is, it seems to happen often enough that guys irl and the Internet think single women don't exist.
What is with the massive disparity? Why do girls have it so much easier? And don't even start with the "only neckbeards are lonely" line, any honest person will admit they know average guys who are lonely.
The truth is that I don't think I've even known any single women for years. Haven't met a single one, except maybe the girl who was so ugly that she could pass as a tranny (assuming she was even a woman).
-high-quality men are in relationships with multiple women
-women with visibility are approached by men very regularly, whether they are in a relationship or not
The "girls you know" simply are in demand because they are visible. There's a ton of single women out there, especially the ones stuck in jobs that hire mostly women/is female oriented.
All the girls at work I know are in relationships, but considering 80% of the place is male im not exactly surprised.
If you become a hairdresser im sure you'll meet plenty of single women
>>17080092
Because all a woman has to do is not act slutty (they can be a slut but just not act like one) and not be fat (even then) and some guy will date her
Women also aren't the instigators of relationships so even if they're socially inept wierdos they can get dates
>>17080123
A lot of single girls get setup by their friends too, which is something guys don't do
>>17080092
>Why do women have such an easier time getting relationships than men?
They don't. They just have a different set of problems. It takes a surprising amount to filter out people like you, boner-boy.
>>17080295
>they just have a different set of problems
Yeah, as if rejecting legions of men and choosing between the 5 studs asking you out is hard.
>>17080305
>Yeah, as if rejecting legions of men and choosing between the 5 studs asking you out is hard.
And here I was wondering if maybe I hadn't caught boner-boy again after all. Maybe I should trust my instincts more. Just like all those women who catch the hint of psycho on your breath and get the hell out of Dodge.
I don't have guys asking me out. No Chads and even stereotypical neckbeards don't approach me. Never been in a relationship. I don't go out very much but I have a job. I'm not hideous, and I'm not fat. I don't have any friends either, save work acquaintances, but I'm not really putting any effort into making any.
People you see in your area, yes, not even all of them, are not an accurate sampling of literally billions of people.
>>17080614
t. weeb 4channer
>>17080506
*nods respectfully towards you* stand your ground against the boner-boys. Women will ultimately respect you more for it.
>>17080695
>stand your ground against the boner-boys
What is this plural you're talking about? There is only one boner-boy. He's been posting this same goddamn question, sometimes with slight variations on the theme but always substantially identical, almost every day for months. Usually with the same pics too.
I'm not crusading against a whole movement or anything. I'm just really fucking sick of one guy.
>>17080092
If every girl you know is in a long term relationship doesn't that mean you know of a roughly equal amount of men in long term relationships?
>>17080305
There are plenty of single women. Not all women have huge social circles. Generalizing to the max.
And your pic can be applied to forever alone guys too. Men like that don't want to be with fat or nerdy or shy or (insert other thing here) girls. When a girl like that approaches them they either ignore/laugh them off or lead them on in the hopes of getting a quick fuck.
The problem is that most 'lonely' guys want a woman who is slim but curvy, opinionated but not too opinionated and agrees with them, has had the 'correct' number of sexual partners, a college degree in something they don't deem useless, dresses 'correctly', has lots of friends that are other women only, are outgoing, etc etc etc. Basically - an impossible person.
I am willing to bet an arm and a leg that the women you know who are in LTRs don't fit all of this criteria - because the men who are with them are willing to accept a real person.
>>17080724
It sounds like you're projecting a little bit.
Are you a lonely girl?
If so, do you want to talk?
Honestly, saying that lonely guys have high standards doesn't seem correct to me. It's the horny guys that have high standards.
Lonely guys are the kind of guys that rarely talk to women and will latch on to any women that shows them even the slightest attention.
On that note, the offer to talk still stands.
>>17080295
This is right.
Its easy for a girl to get a date. There was this one chick i had a huge crush on back in graduate school. But she was pretty and a lot of better looking dudes wanted her.
So yeah she got a lot of dates and got laid all the time.
However none of the guys stuck around for long. I was sad she wouldn't sleep with me, she was sad she couldn't keep a guy to sleep with her,
>>17080721
Not of the men are in multiple long term relationships...
>>17080829
Not that person but I'll talk to anyone. I'm pretty boring and autistic though.
It has a lot to do with gendered socialization and how each sex communicates. Read up on it if you're truly curious.
>>17080855
Oh god, to be honest I didn't think that anyone would reply to my post.
I guess if you have a steam add me. I'm going to bed now but if you add me I guess I'll talk tomorrow.
http://steamcommunity.com/id/ApplePickingBeam
>>17080724
>And your pic can be applied to forever alone guys too. Men like that don't want to be with fat or nerdy or shy or (insert other thing here) girls
No, I wouldn't mind any of those things necessarily. I don't like them too fat but chubbiness is fine. Nerdiness is a core quality of my dream girl, and I couldn't give a shit less about her being super social. If I could be with somebody who's introversion is on a similar level to my own, so that we could retreat from people together, and be alone together, I'd love that.
Being attractive to the women I fancy is a whole different monster, though.
Girls are naturally more social then men. Thats all there is to it. If you're more social, youre going to be more outgoing and have more opportunities to meet people. You're also going to be more concerned about appearances, etc. - basically all the things that contribute towards finding a good partner. Even if yiu are personally not that social, you will have girl pals that ARE social and will drag you outside.
Actually talking to different people and interacting with them makes you better at connecting with others - who woulda thunk it, huh?
>>17080843
How many men do you really think actually maintain serious multi-year relationships with multiple women simultaneously?
>>17080840
>lmao can you believe that loser asked me out xD
>omg I blew Chad in the club bathroom but he never called me...girls can be lonely too! :((
>>17080092
>Why do women have such an easier time getting relationships than men?
perhaps each sex has an advantage.
Like, supposedly men have a harder time finding a relationship, but the journey transforms them into a better person in many aspects, which is a reward in itself. However there is also a pitfall that destroys them shortly afterwards: they pick the wrong girl.
>>17082024
Finding a relationship as a guy/girl is the difference between starting at max level in a game vs grinding for 6 months.
>>17080123
>high-quality men are in relationships with multiple women
As yourself pointed out, there are far more single men than single women for the simple reason that a lot of women are in a relationship with the same man (often without being aware about it).
The gender imbalance is just too huge. Even if all polygamous men were ousted, a lot of women would still choose to share a handsome man than date an ugly man. That is their nature.
>>17080092
because men have bigger sex drives, are easy, have low standards and have to approach women. we care too much about sex, to the extent that we will talk to women that are fucking idiots just so we can seduce and fuck her. women are often looking for the "one", while we are happy having flings to get our cock wet. And the fact we have to approach women, means women can just sit there and wait for us to go to them.
>>17082091
cont. just wanted to add something. women typically want intimacy rather than just casual sex, however, most men want casual sex, so its hard for women to actually find what they want. both men and women are looking for something different. we want a women that will suck our cock while cooking dinner, women want the classic romeo and Juliet romance shit.
>>17080829
>Lonely guys are the kind of guys that rarely talk to women and will latch on to any women that shows them even the slightest attention
this is correct,coming from a lonely guy
>>17082077
>As yourself pointed out, there are far more single men than single women for the simple reason that a lot of women are in a relationship with the same man (often without being aware about it).
There isn't a single shred of evidence for this
>Pretty much every girl I know is in a LTR and has a huge social circle.
you just answered ur iwn question. it's math, stupid. women (in western societies) are conditioned from an early age to be diplomatic and empathetic; this means they're better at peopling and will easily have a larger sample size of people to choose from to find compatibility.
the reason we see more women doing this than men even though the pop is roughly 50/50 gendered, is because when women are bad are people then they just stay at home and do catlady spinster shit alone. so they're hardly ever part of the public friendsgroup.
when men are bad at people they are conditioned from an early age to get out there and try anyway and never give up because loneliness is somehow considered pathetic or weakness. and honestly, if you can't people well then go ahead and give it up and find a hobby or career you can be passionate about instead; chances are you'll be way more likely to find your LTR when you can find someobe who has the same life direction or w/e as you.
i mean men become WAY more embittered when they are alone than women do. like chill, get a cat and watch porn like the rest of the lonely people (where dooooo they all come from; where dooooo they all belong)
>>17082102
Maybe there is maybe there isn't I haven't looked it up, and it would be hard to find the real statistics anyway. But intuitively it feels correct as there are a lot more playboys than playgirls, or at least so it seems.
And as an extra bit of anecdotal evidence, when I was in high school almost all 15 girls in my class (as well as some girls from other classes) had the same crush on one boy. But the same did not apply for boys, their crushes were a lot more diverse.
doesnt matter why, you cant change it
t. lonely guy
Single women are much less common because they tend to go from one relationship to another without being single.
If they are on a sinking ship they are going to jump into a lifeboat, not into the ocean.
>>17080092
This is the way our biology works.
Women are the selectors in sexual interactions.
This makes sense, as guys don't have to have high standards.
You impregnate a girl, it costs you nothing.
A girl gets impregnated by you, it costs her nine months of reduced physical ability and suffering.
From an evolutionary standpoint, it makes sense for girls to choose their mates very carefully.
>>17082011
>justgirlythings.targa
>>17082011
>This is how virgins think girls act
>>17080092
I've read somewhare that through the ages only 20% of men reproduced and 80% of females did (yea this means that 1/5 of guys impregnated 4/5 of women)
They just have it easier if it comes to relationships, its how the world works. You be angry about this but it wont change a thing.
Nobody promised that you will be happy, you probobly will never know love. Accept your fate OP.
>>17082288
>citation needed
>>17082294
It's a pretty sound theory mostly supported by genetic evidence and studies on other animals. You can probably find bunch of articles with a quick google search.
This
>>17082231
Most women are never truly looking for relationship. They either are in one or "aren't looking for one" which means they are content on waiting for their dream chad. Combine that with use of back ups and "single" (as in actively looking for relationship) women are much rarer than they should be on paper. Of course they do exists, just in quantities less than similar males.
>>17082288
Throughout history a lower percentage of men successfully mated but tended to mate with more women, but in modern developed nations it is much closer to 50/50 than the historical figure.
>>17082282
this IS how girls act though
>>17082077
How many men do you really think actually maintain serious multi-year relationships with multiple women simultaneously?
because you're competing with all men
there are also women with no interest of dating anyone when they can get sex so easily
>>17082315
>serious
That's where you have it wrong. These guys don't hang out with their gf every day playing video games or watching TV, they see the woman like once a week or less where they fuck a little talk a little and then the next day they are with someone else, but they are good at making excuses, or evoking sympathy, or they are just so handsome that the woman doesn't give a shit because she knows she won't land a higher quality man. My estimation is the 1/10 men is seeing more than one woman.
tl;dr even if they are not really dating, SHE thinks they are dating
>>17082342
saved.
Also contributing
>>17082360
Admittedly what I'm about to say is anecdotal and I'm guessing what you said is as well, but in my experience if it isn't serious the girl will consider other prospects as well. I know girls in relationships like you're describing that will see other guys, they will bring up their non-serious boyfriend if they're not interested but are technically in the dating pool. I also read a book on sexuality from a neuroscience perspective that established that girls are more likely to consider other prospects, particularly ones dissimilar from the man they are seeing, when they are ovulating.
>>17082391
Girls will ALWAYS cheat if a better prospect comes along their way. I know about the ovulation thing. A couple of days ago I was watching an interview with a male stripper (link below if you are interested) that worked a lot into bachelorette parties etc. Most of the women there were in relationships (including the bride ofc) but that didn't stop them from being all over him. My point is that no woman is ever "taken". Like you said, if she has a fuckbuddy she will say she's seeing someone to an ugly guy; however if a more handsome, stable, man comes along, she will leave her fuckbuddy and go with the other guy. You can extrapolate from that. Doesn't matter if it's "serious" or not, the only thing that changes is that it will be less likely to find someone as good. But most women tend to congregate to the top ~5%, meaning that most of those "non-serious" relationships or cheating or one night stands or crushes or "transitional phases", whatever you wanna call it, happen with those few genetically gifted. The rest pick up the scraps if not nothing at all, especially the bottom 60%.
>>17082391
>>17082527
here's the interview
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UY5lYjfFHYg&feature=youtu.be&t=2280
>>17082385
In other words, less than 1%: a statistically insignificant amount.
>>17082157
>Maybe there is maybe there isn't I haven't looked it up, and it would be hard to find the real statistics anyway. But intuitively it feels correct as there are a lot more playboys than playgirls, or at least so it seems.
So in other words, you pulled it out of your ass based solely on your emotional state.
Well, you get points for honesty, I guess.
