>>17016332

Ladies, is getting fucked in the butt really as offensive a suggestion as some people make it out to be?

ladies,
How can i convince you that i'm not just interested in sex?

>>17016365
Don't get impatient about sex.
Pay attention to the girl outside of sex.
Show her that you actually care about what she has to say and what's going on in her life.
Don't just call her late at night when you want sex.
Don't just hang out with her when it's convenient for you.
Don't be talking to a bunch of other girls at the same time.

Just obvious stuff

M25
Dating first gf ever for 3 weeks now
When and how is the best time to tell her I'm a virgin or should I not

>>17016358
No. I want to try anal myself, kinda squicky about him getting shitdick though

>>17016332
How Do I get to have sex with girls?

>>17016372
That was actually a stupid question for me to ask :/. I do all those things but because of people in the past, she's sort of convinced.

>>17016389
Well then it's not on you, it's on her. You're going to have to decide if she's worth this effort if she's going to be this paranoid and can't put her past demons behind her

Yesterday I was at the Hookah lounge with one of my friends. Across from us probably like 6-8 feet away from us was a group of people. Two guys and three girls. One of the girls was staring at me the whole time. I got this vibe from her that she was the fifth wheel and the other four were couples. My friend mentioned to me that she was staring at me. This girl was freaking gorgeous I mean 10/10 body and really pretty face. They ended up leaving and I didnt make a move. Would it have been rude for me to just walk up to her and ask her out? My friend was on my ass about not doing anything but I didnt want to risk one of the guys being her bf or just barging into a group of people and looking stupid. Did I make the right decision or did I pussy out?

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>>17016465
>Hookah Lounge

>>17016550
I dont go there often. Its not like Im one of those guys who goes there every weekend. Maybe like 3 or 4 times a year.

When is it appropriate to touch a girl you are not dating?

>>17016600
Who is she?

>>17016618
A friend of mine who I like. I hate seeing her sad, and want to be able to comfort her.

Girls. When you ask a guy why he chose to hit on you specifically, what kind of answer are you expecting?

Just genuinely curious.

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What's a good date idea with a girl who's sickly, socially anxious and not getting out much? It rules out most of the OP list, which is why I'm asking.
We're close, but not close enough to visit her place. I have nothing to offer at mine either, hardly even a place to sit comfortably.

Took her to the movies once and she liked it, but the distance is hell and most movies out right now are crap

>>17016373

I've heard you probably shouldn't until afterwards. Probably more true if you are 25

>>17016640
Why would you want to date someone like that? How does the idea of sitting at home every time you hang out, and never going out, appeal to you?

>>17016639
Idk, maybe something like "You stood out", "You were way too beautiful for me not to approach you". Things like that.

>>17016639
"I liked your shoes." Point out something unique about her. Or just tell the truth. Unless the truth is her boobs.

>>17016648
I like her as a person. She's cute, we think alike and we share the same interests. Problem is that those interests aren't really things you go out to do together. You don't go out on a date to read books, watch movies (every single time at least), or look at shit on the internet

I want to get to know her better in person, but I really don't know what to do to connect with her. I tried coffee, standard date crap. She hated the idea, but insisted that wasn't a rejection.

>>17016675
And to add to this, the majority of our connecting right now is digitally. Her initiative. Not a good thing. I just want a reason to see her again in person, because this feels like an LDR even though we only live an hour-ish apart.

>>17016673
>>17016652
Okay. Well i told her the truth. She looked fabulous in her dress, and I didn't think much of it until i heard her burp (stupid shit like that was unexpected and made me laugh, she's very goofy and I like that). And she gives off a vibe that made me want to know her.

>>17016675
I think you need to stop trying to make it the standard "hollywood movie" type of dates, and actually do something at home. Even if it's just hanging around and just talking, looking at stuff on your computer.
I could spend entire week ends inside with my last gf, and every date I have now, I secretly wish it could be at home watching something or just hanging and talking. Because the house is a much more private and comfortable place to be in; No one around to watch. You can be natural.

Just ask if she likes the idea, tell her you're trying to find things to do because you want to see her, and she could give you ideas too.

>>17016691
>private
That's why I'm uncomfortable with hanging out at home at the moment. My place isn't ready for visitors at all. I have a tiny tv, a bookshelf with some books, a desk with a pc and one desk chair, a single-bed right behind it and 1 square metre of open space. Even the wallpapers are still from my childhood. Outside of that little area it's relatives all over the place and no room for a little quiet.

Her place may be different, but I don't think we're close enough yet for me to just invite myself over. I'd honestly rather just go out to do anything.

Guys, how do you usually deal with rejections? How do you deal with coming out of a failed short-term relationship? I'm a kinda generally sad person, I started dating to get better but right now I'm feeling sad again if not worse.

>>17016724
>how do you usually deal with rejections?
"OK." On the surface, it's just an invitation. It's her loss if she doesn't want to take the offer. Under deeper consideration it's also a good thing that I'm not going to be spending time with someone who doesn't even enjoy my company. That would just ruin whatever we're doing.

>How do you deal with coming out of a failed short-term relationship?
Get back to the stuff I enjoy doing. That's really what I'm all about. Dates/relationships are just seeing if anyone wants to tag along.

Is it normal for a girl to ask for a guy's number?

>>17016747
Sure

>>17016750
Is normal for them to ask but never contact you afterwards?

What's a good way to ask a girl out? As in time place etc.

>>17016789
Talk about fun stuff you plan on doing soon. If she reacts positively, invite her to join you. Don't make shit up or anything. Just share the things you enjoy.

>>17016798
Holy shit how did i not think of that! Thank you.

>>17016798
From a girl's perspective, that's a terrible idea.

>>17016798
>>17016810
Another girl perspective: can work. Jst makes sure she knows it's a date.

Girls, if sex is painful for her, should I ask her to look into kegel excersizes?

>>17016810
>>17016814
Well that went out the window quickly....
What would you suggest then? The most difficult component is that most of the time she is hanging out with her (usually mutual) friends and asking her in private would be a much better option, no? And because of the fact that you can't be 10 minutes without running into a friend here it would be really difficult. Sorry if this is poorly worded or imporper english, tired as fuck atm.

>>17016380
Use a condom. I'll never put my dick in an ass without one.

>>17016631
Go ahead.

>>17016640
Any place with few people should be fine.

>>17016648
That would be perfect for me.

>>17016852
>Go ahead.
But like how? How do I comfort someone of the opposite sex in a completely platonic fashion? Are hugs too much? Arm on shoulder sude squeeze? Back pats? Head rubs?

>>17016852
Don't you have a boyfriend though?

>>17016847
"hey, can I buy you lunch/dinner/coffee/a drink sometime?". Even better if you have a time or place to take her out in mind alread

>>17016673
>Or just tell the truth. Unless the truth is her boobs.
Why is this somehow the exception? Genuinely curious, my gf seems to hate the fact that her amazing tits is why I first hit on her, as though it would somehow be better if I'd wanted to fuck her because my psychic powers revealed to me that she's good at chess.

guys:
1. how to i avoid beta orbiters or whatever they are called?
2. what is the best way to leave clear that you don´t have any interest in any contact besides removing them from facebook?
i seem to be a magnet for the orbiters and they just don´t fucking understand that i don´t answer to them because they annoy me.

girls: are any guys apart from the unreasonably hench ones actually attractive? or are you just like, he's charming and doesn't look offensively bad.

i look pretty normal but i can't imagine anyone finding me attractive

How do I stop being needy?

I'm in kind of an LDR situation (1.5 hours travel, she studies, I work full time) with my gf.

I feel like every day my emotions are defined by how well the conversation went her or whether she responded to me. It's even worse now because I know she's really busy and yet I still feel awful when she can't talk. I do find it genuinely amazing the amount of effort she's putting into her studying and yet I selfishly feel left out.

Every time I'm doing something I enjoy I picture her there with me and what we'd be talking about, and then it dawns on me how pathetic that is and I feel awful. So basically I think I love her. But it's painful.

I know it'll get better once we have more free time but I'm very aware that my attitude is not a healthy one to have.

>>17016884
>Arm on shoulder sude squeeze? Back pats? Head rubs?
Yes, these are OK.

>>17016885
Wat?

>>17016904
Tell them they annoy you.

>>17016916
You'll probably only learn it the hard way.

>>17016904
>1. how to i avoid beta orbiters or whatever they are called?
>2. what is the best way to leave clear that you don´t have any interest in any contact besides removing them from facebook?
Tell them straight out you don't want to talk to them or hang out with them and they annoy you. "Men don't understand why women don't just speak frankly" is some kinda classic trope or cliche and it applies here.

>>17016932
Pretty sure you were late 20s and had a bf

Could be mistaken but I always see you here

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Hey I got a question, this is a unique circumstance for me.
I won't give the back story but essentially, this cute girl that I met last week at this place I worked had someone give me her number today so that we can talk.

I don't even know what to say, because usually when I get a girl's number its from her in person, and not through someone else.


What do? Is this a trap?

>>17016941
Pretty sure I'm not the opposite sex to you but I would not bother with this. Not because I think it's some kinda childish highschool-ass trap but because a woman who can't even give me her own fucking number or god forbid just ask me out, isn't worth my time.

Ladies, I'm 24 y/o and never been in a relationship. Haven't bothered me much, but lately I'm just feeling more and more lonely. I just wonder about a few things that makes me really insecure about even bothering trying to get in a relationship. I've been told I'm snoring loud, and my penis is 4.5. Would you see any of this as a dealbreaker?

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>According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the average age Americans lose their virginities (defined here as vaginal sexual intercourse) is 17.1 for both men and women.
>Mfw

Chads- Can sex as an adult compare?
Stacies- Why the fuck would you give it up in high school

>>17016939
/face palm
I am a straight guy.

Do girls notice muscle gains?

I've been in the gym for the last 4 months.
In 2 more months, I'm going to meet her again.

I've gained so far like 10 lbs of muscle. When I meet her, I expect 15-20.

Will that be noticeable?
I'm gonna be in a suit.
I hope to make it smaller than it should so that my gains are recognizable.

I was super skinny before but now I have so much more weight in muscle.
Do women pay attention to that?
My shoulders are twice as big as they were before. Does that show through white shirts?

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>>17016966
You copied the style of resident girl poster

Sumimasen...

My friend and her boyfriend just broke up. He put up a Facebook status that makes her sound like she cheated (she didn't) and ended it with "I don't want to talk about it". One of his friends commented "fuck Anonette" even though he obviously doesn't know the whole story. Is defending her worth the drama it's going to cause?

>>17016332

Women - how do you feel about asking a guy out?

What are some casual things guys do that are minor or major turnoffs?

Do you appreciate it if guys are forceful and a bit rude, or relaxed and a bit nice?

>>17017002
>Is defending her worth the drama it's going to cause?
No.


Longer answer: Obviously not. Why would it *ever* make sense to barge in on the "other side" of the breakup to claim that the people showing him sympathy for obvious reasons and in basically ancient ways are wrong and should learn the whole story? What the hell are you thinking?

Guys, how big of an ego boost would it be if your gf sexually never wanted anyone as much as she did you?

>>17017040
I know it's a bad idea, I just wanted someone to reaffirm it. As to why I would want to: it's simple. Someone's enticed someone else into talking shit about my friend and I don't like that. I don't see how it's not obvious that it would be the natural reaction of a person to want to defend their friend.

>>17017048
I'd think she was lying to me to make me feel good.

>>17017048
That's...nice? I'm really not interested in comparing myself to other guys or, by extension, indulging in her comparisons. I'm glad she's reached new heights of satisfaction. It's enough for me that I can offer what she's looking for.

>>17017002
Aw hell no.

>>17017056
What if she never did anything sexual with other guys?

>>17016810
From a guy's perspective: kiss my ass. How ungrateful do you have to be to take issue with someone inviting you to do something fun? Heaven forbid you admire a guy's lifestyle amirite

>>17016814
God bless, someone who understands flirtation and romantic interest without having to be smacked in the face with cliche.

>>17017069

Not that guy but that would be great. I don't care if the Internet gives guys shit for preferring virgin girls, they are awesome. I'm not going to change my preference for anybody.

>>17017034
A bit nervous I guess? I'm shy.
Major tunoffs: cigarette smoking, arrogance, making their friends look bad, rape jokes, no depth of thought into at least the most obvious concepts and ethical dilemmas, uninterested in learning new things and skills, not looking for a serious relationship
Minor tunoffs: way taller, doesn't like the outdoors, doesn't like animals, scared to try new things
Relaxed and nice.

>>17016640
Some place to make a walk/pic nic/with a cool sight that is not very frequented

>>17017129
Because that doesn't sound rapey at all

>>17017139
i said not very frequented not isolated

Ladies, what do you think of guys pursing a Nursing career?

Is it good to keep chasing after a girl who is pretty but has nothing in common with me?

>>17017231
Pay the fucking bills and no one cares.
Hit the gym for bonus points

>>17017234
No.

>>17017237
>Hit the gym or you're going to throw out your back every week rolling hambeasts
FTFY with that inside tip

>>17017237
Good and straight to the point answer, thanks.

>>17017249
Fuggin truth.

If you're American, nursing career means looking after fucking sick fucking whales.
You like washing folds of fungus filled fat ripples?
Live with it. That's your life now.

Nursing=Looking after fat people.

Seriously, you will have to lift gunts to insert catheters into fat pussies big enough to admit your wrist.

Girls what advice can you give to a guy who's dating a girl who is insecure about her looks?
I'm no male model or anything, very average. She's overweight and just not pretty. And I don't even care, I'd rather have someone I love who looks meh then a porn star who is hard to deal with.

Her friend told me a week ago that she "thought I was making fun of her" when I asked her out initially.
I see things like this >>>/soc/23618290 or a story about a girl who was dating an ugly dude who was so insecure at overhearing people tell her she could do better than him (yeah the genders are reversed but it's the same concept) and it worries me. I love her but I fear that her feeling not good enough will eventually end things.

I was training this girl that I used to go to school with today at work and she was acting quite a bit different. She was talking about what she was doing tomorrow and asked about my plans, playing with her clothes, biting her lip/finger (only when trying out something new, we work with computers) and when I'd talk to her she would arch her back a bit.

I know a lot of how she was behaving seems to indicate interest but its also very likely just nerves. Any thoughts females? Do you act this way when you're nervous?

>>17016970
No

>>17017002
Fuck no
Guys are obligated to support their guy friends in these situations regardless of the story

A coworker of mine stared into my eyes for a good 30 secs to a minute+, and kept deliberately standing very close to me and what sounded like nervous laughing after everything she said. We've been working together for a couple months and I'll be training her on some stuff next week. She said she'd bring in some popcorn and netflix because it's a night shift without a whole lot to do.

I don't want to look too much into it, but it felt very different. That's the vibe I got. I don't want to shit where I eat and I don't think we're very compatible either, to be honest. I'm a couple years ago. Both in our 20s.

>second date was 6 days after first date

When should the third date be?

>>17016358
Not offensive at all, no. Pretty scary and intimidating though. I've never done it, only had him put one finger in my butt once so far, but I really want to try it someday. I hope I don't mess up.

>>17017564
a good time

>>17016959
Mind you that an average might not be the best representative for that. Extremes at either end skew it.

friendzoned?
>Met girl online
>met up once smoked hung out it was nice, we surprisingly related really well and got along well
>informs me through text she just wants to be friends not looking to get close
>hung out last night, it's like we were best friends, got along perfectly, read each others minds
>we flirt and clearly must have interest in eachother to some degree, she buys me food and does nice things for me, we open up about our past, have even had semi romantic kind of situations and we look into each others eyes a lot
>feel like I'm falling for her a bit
She ditched on our plans to go to a show today, and ignored me when I asked if she wanted to smoke, then I realized I was coming off desperate and she seemed like she was being distant, flipped the script and I am ignoring her and getting her attention more

Do I go for the kiss next time I see her or should I wait till she shows some sort of sign that she wants something? I don't want to make things weird between us because she's a good friend to have, but I feel like I want to just take the chance and find out for sure, but I would think she would show me she wants me if she did

>fwb with girl
>she's obviously in love with me
>told her that i'm not interested in dating
>fast forward 2 months
>we're still fucking
>i've met a different girl that i want to actually date

how do i do this. i want to remain friends with the first girl but if i say that i'm interested in another girl it seems like the first girl would interpret it pretty badly..

>>17017644
She's under no obligation to stay friends with you if she doesn't want to be

>>17017648
well i meant i didn't want her to feel terrible since i said i wasn't interested in dating but what i meant was i wasn't interested in dating HER specifically

i don't want her to feel bad

>>17017655
She's going to feel bad anyway.

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On a scale from 1 to 10, 1 being "sex in the missionary position for the sole purpose of recreation" vanilla and 10 being "owns a sex dungeon", how would you rate this?

I'm being serious. I'd probably put it at a 3 or a 4, is that fair?

>>17017705

>"oh im really pervy, im into kissing, panties, nudity, arent I a kinky guy?"

Fuck off dude.

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>>17017705

>facesitting

why

>>17017705
first category: 1-2. basically not even fetishes, just average things.

second category: 4-7, depending on the extent of their interest in those things. bondage is a pretty broad field nowadays. (lactation is on the high end)

so overall i'd say 2-6 for them ,probably closer to 4. it really depends on the extent of their interest with things like bondage, degradation, etc. some people are just like "tee-hee, fucking while wearing handcuffs, bondage is awesome!" and other people are like "oh you're gonna tie me to a pole and let 20 guys run a train on my asshole and then leave me out to dry, awesome!" most people are closer to the former than the latter but theres really no way to know.

>>17017722
>not wanting a qt pie to sit on your face and fart
Pleb.

>>17017733

whats the difference between facefucking, faceriding, and facesitting?

facefucking seems like something a man does whereas faceriding is rubbing a pussy over your face. i can dig that. facesitting just seems stupid, inhaling ass fumes gross

>>17016904
>1. how to i avoid beta orbiters or whatever they are called?
Make clear boundaries. I've always interpreted orbiters as men who hang around women hoping they'll change their mind anyways.

>2. what is the best way to leave clear that you don´t have any interest in any contact
Explicitly tell them you don't want them to contact you. It can't get any more direct than that.

Women, when will you stop betraying your race by feminizing our men (in our attempt to get the only thing that's of value to us, your vagina) and fucking subhumans like niggers and spics?

>>17017784
To be honest, white guys are the worst.

>>17017795
for what reason.

>>17017809
How are they not?

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Femanons, why does it feel like so many women are obsessed with whether or not their male friends are in relationships, when they themselves are?

>Group of ~20 friends from school have regular meet ups in the holiday breaks when everyone'e back from college
>Since school I've turned my life around mostly. Better grades, got the internship of a lifetime that I find really interesting. Still no gf but honestly not too fussed about it right now
>Engage in small talk with any of the girls in the group
>"Hey Anon, what's new?"
>"Well work is going really well, I'm enjoying it a lot and have just finished a great proje-"
>"Cool. How's the love life going?"
>"Same old same old I guess."
>"OH DON'T WORRY ANON THERE'S SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR EVERYONE, JUST LOOK AT ME AND MY BOYFRIEND! I'M SURE YOU'RE TIME WILL COME."
>She walks away

Mfw. How can I avoid falling into this trap or communicating that I think it's bullshit? I've got a lot of good shit going on right now that I'm happy talking about and am fine with them talking about their relationship shit, but it feels like in their view not having this one thing registers as failure.

>>17017105
But you have to be a virgin yourself to ask that. Otherwise you're a hypocrite.

>>17017848

I'm the guy she replied to. What do you mean?

>>17017538
anyone?

Girls: Do you like the smell of balls?

>>17017833
I only ask about someone's love life if it's something I know they're okay talking about. If you haven't brought up your relationship status, I'm not going to mention it. I don't know why women do this. Maybe it's because they think that success is tied to whether you're in a relationship or not?

>>17017538
>Please tell me what this one specific girl is thinking
Sorry, can't do that.

>>17017282
Going out of your way to cater to her is not going to build a healthy relationship. If she can't accept that you're serious about what you say, it's not your fault, and there's nothing you should be doing other than telling the truth, always.

>>17017231
Potentially not compatible because of the hours that you might have to work, but otherwise it's just another job.

How often should I tell my girl I love her?

>>17017944
>telling girls you love them
anon pls

>>17017944
Depends on the status of your relationship, if you're serious every day, if you're just starting out and she doesn't say it much or you just don't feel it much, don't say it as much.

Is this a normal reaction to a breakup, or should I be afraid? I went on a few dates with a guy and ended it as gently as possible, because I felt he might have anger issues. I didn't say that though, but he did get irate during the breakup, cursing at me and ordering me out of the house, sit down, stand up, get in the car, get out. Saying he was pissed and hated me. I just apologized. Then he sent a picture flipping me off today, a week later. I'm very shy and never made an enemy before. How should I respond- don't reply? Is it irrational to feel scared?

>>17018028
It's not, the guy sounds like a psycho. He probably browses r9k or he's one of those MGTOW/redpill posters who hate women and think women owe them sex and relationships. Block him everywhere, cut all contacts, stay away from him and don't be afraid to ask for help. He does have anger issues and that makes him a danger to you.

I'm really self conscious about the fact that it's conventional that our male coaches and support staff for our [female] sports team is just chilling in the locker room with us before games when we're getting dressed. Why do I feel bad about this if I'm not fat/ugly and the guys are married,etc?

>>17018035
Thanks for answering. I haven't been able to eat or sleep from feeling anxious about it. The only man in my life is my dad, but he's practically elderly and wouldn't be able to help me. I appreciate knowing that I'm not paranoid though.

>>17018048
What does not being fat/ugly have to do with that? He has no boundaries and is a fucking creep. And abviously you are enjoying the attention. Dangerous territory right there

Why is it that all of my friends become retarded when they get GF's? They were once so cultured and intelligent, but now they're mindless apes who talk about vagina all the time. It makes me hate women, as a gay male.

I think my girlfriend is gay, but she says she isn't... but it just doesn't make sense.

In high school she was kicked out by her super-religious sister for telling her she might be gay. She went to go live with other family for a while and came back to the sister and I guess they made up, but she's not gay anymore apparently at this point.

She's told me if she wasn't with me, she'd be with a girl. I'm the "exception".

We don't have sex anymore.

I've asked her straight up if she was still a lesbian and whether or not she wanted to truly be with a woman, and told her I support her and love her either way, but she got a little angry and said she's not a lesbian anymore.

I don't know... I just dont buy it.
Today she told me she masturbated to lesbian porn last night, and we started getting in the conversation of her lesbianism again... but I just beat around the bushes this time... It really seems like she's a lesbian and I don't know what's going on. I'm confused. I feel like I could be loving her more or feeling more about her... but I just can't.

She's about to see a psychologist for the first time next week, so maybe something will happen... but I feel like I might be taken for a ride, a 3 year ride.

>>17018052
I don't find him creepy at all. He's married with kids and the physiotherapist guy has a gf. The other girls don't seem to be self conscious but I am. I usually just change into my clothes in the toilets within the locker room. How can I get over myself?

>>17017833
She read into your answer of "same old same old I guess." It doesn't sound very enthusiastic or like you're happy, she thought about how happy she was in her relationship and wanted to pass that hope on to you. Next time say what you said here.

>Better grades, got the internship of a lifetime that I find really interesting. Still no gf but honestly not too fussed about it right now
Sounds a lot more like "S'all good" than "Well it's okay... I guess."

>>17017705
Why would you even put
>kissing
>morning sex
>nudity
>panties
>spontaneous sex
>teasing
on a fetish list?

>>17018048
Get used to it, in Europe people don't have these hangups. Dude studying abroad here, the weather just got warm enough for outdoor soccer so i changed out in the open (full view of the street) for the first time.

>>17018028
Just don't reply, ignore him as much as you can and if he persists, report him to the cops. It's normal to be scared, some guys with anger issues go on to do seriously stupid shit. If you have any mutual friends, tell them he needs to get some anger management help.

In the future, try to be sure of these things before ever going on a date with the guy, it's usually pretty obvious even from a distance.

>>17018084
How do I tell if someone has anger issues from a distance? He acted nicely the first couple meetings, including being nice to other people. I did a background check and he had no history. I really want to learn how to be a better judge of character, because this is the second time this has happened. The first time I moved cities, but I can't move this time. Won't he be even more angry if I report him? He could lose his job then really be out to get me.

>>17017923
Ye

>>17018028
It's an extreme reaction, but I think people are exaggerating with this MRA boogeyman tripe. Just don't reply and block his number, it's if he tries to contact you again that I think you should think of taking more extreme measures. In which case contacting the police is reasonable.

>>17017833
The fact she cut you off to talk about relationships and pitied you for not dating someone indicates that's what she considers successful. I wouldnt stress it too much, she probably doesnt have a lot going on herself.

When do you know when it's time to give up and break up with your partner?

Going on a vacation with a girl I've known for a few months (her idea), some friends and some relatives. Of that group she's the only one I know, and I like her. I want to make a move and date her, but I don't want to ruin the vacation by making it awkward if she turns me down.

Should I hold off on the romance until we get back or just go for it anyway? We seem flirty+interested together and I don't want to let that fade away, but again it could be a waste of a fun vacation.

>>17018136
By the way, I've known her for a few months. The vacation's only a few days. Bad phrasing.

>>17018135
When there are problems that are making one or both of you unhappy, and you've done everything you can to try and fix them, but they can't be resolved.

>>17018094
>How do I tell if someone has anger issues from a distance?
Generally, the thing about guys with anger issues is that they can't hold it in forever: you're bound to see an outburst if you just watch them long enough. Games in particular are a great way to tell how he reacts to losing (try watching him play both a physical game with others and a 2player game/multiplayer video game: some people can restrain their anger around others but burst out when alone, and vice versa).

>I really want to learn how to be a better judge of character, because this is the second time this has happened.
Consider dating guys after getting to know them better: if you're in college, you'll usually know quite a bit (and be able to ask around) about guys in your classes/dept/major program. Network as much as you can to hear about new guys and find people who know/have dated potential matches.

And if you're having this problem often, you might want to see if your taste in guys is an issue (your friends can help with this). Generally, we talk about judging character on a small scale, as in comparing 2 guys, risk of cheating, likelihood of being a good long-term partner, etc: whether he's a gigantic flaming prick who can't control himself for shit should be somewhat clear from the get-go. Ask friends what signs they look out for in potential dates.
Also, these sorts of problems are rarer with better-educated/more successful guys: they tend to have a better understanding of acceptable behavior, more self-control, and far more to lose by chimping out, so they tend to be safer.

>Won't he be even more angry if I report him? He could lose his job then really be out to get me.
Yeah, this is a risk. Problem is that if nobody reports him, he's free to keep chimping out and terrorizing people at will. At some point, it has to stop. If he does something criminal (eg threatening, stalking) then i'd say go to the cops. At least after that, he'll no longer have a clean background check.

>>17018064
Completely diffuse any sexual tension. This can be done by either banging him or being really gross around him.

>>17018116

I agree that she should take measures to protect herself and that the guy is a lunatic, but 4chan (and the rest of the Internet) tends to exaggerate the living shit out of the MRA/MGTOW/r9k/red pill memes.The reason for this seems to be because they're scared to make negative memes about women or criticize women, so they go balls to the wall against guys instead.

What is everyone's opinion on vaping?

>>17018227
Gross

>>17018239
How so? And I'm talking about people vaping in designated smoking areas and not around other people.

>>17018221
>tends to exaggerate the living shit out of the MRA/MGTOW/r9k/red pill memes.
I always found it weird how the people who try to argue about "not all feminists" are some of the same ones who will call MRA toxic because of some extremes.

You'd figure the two could commiserate in their victimhood.

>>17018183
Thank you for taking the time to write all that out. It really helps. I did choose well-educated guys with a career going, but they weren't friends of friends. I'll change that from now on. The competitive games idea is smart. I don't want this to happen to someone else, so I feel less reluctant to report it if it gets worse.

>>17018250
That's great if you're reasonable about it and don't blow smoke around people. But it's at best a neutered cigarette, with an obnoxious smell and less significant health risks.

Then there's also the simple fact that vape users are rarely as polite as your example.

Girls would you be suspicious of a guy liking you if they text you out of nowhere even though you don't text often and you only hang out on the occasion?

>>17018266
Yes. A guy has to show sexual/romantic interest during the first few times he meet her or otherwise she sees you as a non sexual friend. It's too late to make a move now if she already sees you as just a friend that she texts for entertainment.

>>17018250
I find any kind of smoking gross. It probably comes from my dad needing to smoke. He vapes now. I don't like being around it.

>>17018277
Not that anon, but what about all of those couples who start as good friends?

>>17018277
oh we don't really text for entertainment the few times we texted were to just either to make plans or talk about life stuff. However I did not know about that first few times contact thing.

>>17018290
I can see where that guy is coming from. I mean of course friendships sometimes develop into something more, but the vast majority of the time the interest is one sided and I think most people would agree with that.

There's nothing wrong if you start liking a friend in a more romantic sense, but it's generally going to be a failed venture.

>>17018260
I only vape where there are designated smoking areas or just my house/ car because I don't want my lingering cloud bothering people. And I guess the worst stigma of vaping come from the inconsiderate assholes that just blow smoke everywhere and make a big scene about it in public.

>>17018293
The having to show interest early thing shows that you have enough balls to be open to getting rejected in a sexual sense. A lot of girls don't like it when their guy friends start to like them sexually because it makes the friendship sound like a bait and switch. It goes both ways though. If she rejects you and wants too keep you around as an orbiter, remember she's not entitled to friendship/attention from you if you're not getting anything out of it. I see too many guys make this mistake and it builds resentment for everyone involved.

Guys - are there times when you don't want to see your girlfriends, but would rather be alone? For example, if you're unwell or feeling a bit anti-social?

I love being with my boyfriend but there are times we don't see each other because he doesn't feel like up to it. I'm not clingy, but I do want to spend time with him if we're both free because I work a lot and it isn't always possible.

I feel like I'm being selfish but I'd probably see him even if I wasn't feeling 100%, just so I could be with him. Is this purely a clingy female way of thinking? I can't help but think maybe he's just avoiding seeing me.

>nerdy girl with tumblr dyed hair
>nerdy bf
>just hang at home and vidya
>decide to change
>got a tan
>went to gym
>dyed hair brown
>got designer handbag
>lots of heels
>learned to walk with this fuckers
>then there was this guy
>perfect body
>fun to hang out with
>had sex
>sex
>and more sex
>he's in a relationship
>both broke up with gf/bf
>we still have sex
>got feelings for him

Sooo... I know im a shitty person. But what should i do know? Should i tell him that i want more than sex? He calls me everyday and wants to see me. Sometimes we dont even have sex and just watch a movie and cuddle. But that isnt a good start for a solid relationship,is it?

>>17018362
>are there times when you don't want to see your girlfriends, but would rather be alone? For example, if you're unwell or feeling a bit anti-social?
Yup. Sometimes I like to spend time alone, especially after major social events like spending a week with family. I wouldnt even necessarily call it a male thing, a lady friend of mine is the same way with wanting space.

>>17018372
>But what should i do know?
Suicide is a decent start

>>17018327
I believe you completely but I still want to try despite it being a vain effort. I guess it's because it wouldn't be a huge loss on my end if(when) things go awry

What's a subtle but not a really gay place for a guy to get a tattoo? Also any particular designs girls dig, or is a tattoo a bad idea?

>>17018362
Introverts need time alone, especially if you're not marriage-tier close yet.
Ideally it's good to try to find as good of a match as possible in extro/intro-version, but that's not really feasible due to the distribution of both among males and females (guys are slightly more introverted on average, and moderately/strongly introverted guys outnumber girls 5 to 1 or more). Just make sure the difference isn't too drastic between you, or you won't have a lot of fun in the long term.

>>17018372
>>nerdy girl
>>nerdy bf
>>then there was this guy
>>perfect body
>>fun to hang out with
>>had sex
>>he's in a relationship
I hope this is bait.

>>17018453
Shoulder? Calf? Thigh? It depends on what you're getting, to be honest. And don't get a tattoo to impress girls, that's the stupidest fucking thing I ever heard

>>17018266
Probably

>>17018227
Fedoracore

>>17018136
Wait it out

>>17018062
Maybe she's bisexual? I don't know why you think nagging her about it going to help her open up to you

>>17017923
Depends on the guy's hygiene

>>17018465
Protip: if you think a post is bait or is deliberately leading, ignore it

What do you mean by "communication in bed"
I mean do you literally just say "I want to do this and that" in the middle of sex

>>17018480
Yeah? What else would it mean?

>>17018052
>He has no boundaries and is a fucking creep.
Can you please elaborate on this? Would most guys do the same if they were in the same situation?

>>17018488
I think that anon may have replied to the wrong post or not understood the situation.
Most guys just do what they're expected to in such situations (ie whatever the others are doing). Since it's conventional, they follow the convention.

>>17018480

Obviously. It shouldn't be a big deal once you're comfortable enough to sleep with someone.

>>17018491
Ok so if you were a guy coaching a female sports team would you hang out in the locker room outside of when you're giving a talk about the game plan for the day? Is it pervy to hang there for most of the time pre match or is there nowhere else for coaches to hang?

For women: how candid should I be about fetishes?

More importantly, is there a point in disclosing fetishes that I don't have an interest in bringing into the bedroom? Or just keep it to myself?

A friend who is a girl has recently told me she has liked me for a long time amd i told her due to family issues that im not looking to date anytime soon, she has still been flirty over text constantly messaging me ive flirted back but told her im not interested in a relationship and now she keeps asling to hang out or come to her place etc.. honestly id fuck her but im not interested in getting onto a relationship with her. How do i habg out or do anything without giving her the impression i want a relationship?

>>17016898
Bump for this, I also want to know what the deal is with this.

>>17017034
I asked a guy out recently. I did it mostly because I knew he was interested in me before but didn't do anything, since he thought I'm "out of his league" (what does it even mean) and didn't pick up on clues that I like him, so I decided it's best to see where we stand. He agreed (I did some "research" among his friends earlier to minimise the chances of rejection), but I have to say the whole process was very stressful. I understand how difficult it is for guys bc they feel a societal pressure to be the one asking out, but I would also appreciate if people did something to reduce the social stigma on girls asking guys out, I would like it to be more acceptable but I've heard stories about guys losing interest when a girl explicitly asks them out

OT but does anyone else have a problem with layout (?) on /adv/? I don't have it on any other board. But here I can't really see who is replying to whom, which makes browsing threads difficult. Any idea how to fix it? I'm using Firefox on Ubuntu with AdBlock

>>17018551
(same anon) also I can't automatically refresh the page and need to use the field on the top of the page to reply)

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Both guys and girls, I'm under the impression this is a fairly casual look but I fear I might just be deluded (thanks /cgl/) and will, in reality, stick out like a sore thumb dressing like this.

What do you think when you see someone wearing something like this out? Is it somewhat strange yet acceptable, or too crazy as a daily look?

>>17018559

It would stand out and wouldn't look casual, but without having any other examples besides that, I think it's a good, unique look. I wouldn't judge you harshly for it, just turn my head and be like "huh cool look." Unless you're a large woman, in which case you could be drawing unwanted looks... Sorry if that's mean.

Anyways, I knew a girl back in the day that wore the most esoteric outfits, but she owned them so well that every person she met thought she had the best style they'd ever seen.

>>17017644
It's a super difficult situation. You will probably hurt your friend's feelings a lot, but there are ways to minimise it. First, just tell her you don't want to have sex with a friend anymore bc you want to look for a more serious relationship (don't mention you already met someone you're interested in). If she reacts calmly, just stop seeing her in private for a while so you don't have sex, but keep doing friends things with her, idk, study, go do sports together, whatever you like to do with your friends. After some time has passed and you have a feeling she moved on, make a move on the girl you were interested in. Maybe try to find a new crush for your former fwb?

If your fwb reacts badly to you no longer wanting to have sex with her, try to have an extremely honest talk with her. Tell her she's a great person but she's simply not someone you would see yourself in a relationship with, even though you value her as a friend. Say it's due to your personal preferences and it's not her fault, and that she should look for a relationship with someone that can fully appreciate her and love her, rather than just be a fwb like you. Tell her you would like to go back to being friends; maybe decide together on a date when you stop sleeping with each other so she has more time to adjust. Emphasise on how you value her as a friend. Still, don't mention you're interested in another girl under any circumstances. Then proceed as I described above

Source: I was in a similar situation myself, it went well

How do I get over the my past significant other? She did one of the dumbest things that a person can ever do by coming into my place of employment draped around another guy. This hurt to an extent where it completely derailed my job performance to where I was trying to keep myself together instead of focusing on my work.

>>17018553
>>17018551
Okay fixed this by turning off AdBlock. Nevermind

>>17017312
No, you fool - shes attracted to you

>>17017644
Shouldnt kept fucking her you dolt

>>17017282
well she has to have some nice things about her, like pretty eyes, clear skin etc. Compliment what you know is good looking about her

Also in general, for both genders I wish people stopped comparing couples in terms of looks. I'm considered to be an attractive girl and many times in the past it actually stopped me from hitting on guys I found attractive but I knew many people would find them average, or flawed in some way. Like I was afraid of others judging me ("she could do way better, wtf is she doing"). Maybe you will get similar comments. But we just need to learn to be less judgemental about others as a society and don't give a fuck about what small-minded people say

As long as you find her attractive, that's all that matters, and if she mentions the topic to you just say you're not comparing her to anyone else bc you're in love with _her_

Being overweight is a health issue though, maybe gently encourage her to do sports together with you, cook healthy stuff together or something, it could improve her health and boost her confidence

>>17017655
Whats wrong with her?

>>17017833
Because thats what girls talk about with other girls.

>>17016332

Could use some advice to >>17018591

>>17017833
that's what many people like to talk about regardless of gender, because unlike your career or internship (which may be in the field they know nothing about) they can mostly relate to and comment on someone's love life

I find it pretty annoying myself, whenever I meet old friends I would like to talk about how are they doing with work/studies or their interests, but it always seems like relationship gossip is what interests them the most. I actually wanted to open up to some people about my relationship situation recently so it wasn't that bad, but very often it would be a grup of old frends literally forcing me to say if I'm single, or if I'm dating someone, or if yes, then whom. Really annoying

Both genders, I'd like some tips on self-improvement. I'm about a 4 or 5/10 girl and I obviously want to change that. I'm saving up for cosmetic surgery (nothing major) but in the meantime I want to do what I can. Things I've already been doing:
>develop a nice tan
>get clearer skin
>start working out
>get subtle looking acrylics
>learn to style my hair better
>wear colours i know fit my complexion
>broaden my knowledge on makeup (so far, learned to properly do my eyebrows and to apply blusher)

Any other ideas?

>>17018053
well try to change the topic when you talk to them?

as a straight girl I observed a similar effect when my female friends got boyfriends and would only talk about stuff like "so X was at my place yesterday and he ate 2 pizzas so funny haha". The best advice I have is just meet together with some other friends who are single or try to change the topic to those that interest you

>>17018645
well you'd have to say what you don't like about your appearance

What worked for me personally (so much that friends who didn't see me for a few years would say "you became very pretty since we last saw each other" lol):
> as you mentioned, eyebrows: if they are too bushy, do something about them (not too much, thick eyberows can look very good but take care of unibrow etc.), if they're invisible, look into make up that makes them more visible (can't help you with this)
> remove any other facial hair if you have any (but don't get too paranoid about it, people don't notice a few light-sih hair)
> makeup yes, but also learn how to feel confident without it and/or with minimal makeup - but you can do that later, first learn how to do makeup that flatters you. Blusher? I would say start with a concealer or a light BB cream foundation if your complexion isn't spotless (and it probably isn't); just be careful to get a product that doesn't clog your pores, making your skin worse. After concealer/foundation, powder if your skin is oily. Then, a good eyeshadow base (Urban Decay has an amazing one) and simple eyeshadows (one or 2) complimenting your eye colour and making your eyes look bigger. An eye pencil along your lash line, especially if you don't have thick lashes. A good mascara that doesn't dry, leaving black stuff under your eyes (I recommend Estee Lauder Double Wear, but you might need something with a stronger effect if your lashes aren't too thick). For lips, any colour that suits you, but nothing to dark if you have thin lips. Then you can use some blush, but not too much
> switch from glasses to contact lenses if you need them. There are people who look good with glasses but all of them would look even better without them
> clothes. You didn't mention them. Try to develop your own style that compliments your figure. Again I can't say more without knowing how you look like, but almost everyone looks terrible in uggs, shapeless old hoodies etc

>>17018671
btw, if you use a foundation /BB cream and still have "imperfections" showing through it, like dark circles under eyes or pimples, use concealer on them. I wrote concealer/founation bc concealer only might be sufficient, but very often I wear both. All of this stuff needs to be good quality (doesn't necessarily mean expensive) and chosen for your skintone; once you find a good makeup product, stick with it

>>17018496
>is there a point in disclosing fetishes that I don't have an interest in bringing into the bedroom? Or just keep it to myself?
Just keep it to yourself if you don't want to bring it to the bedroom.
I honestly don't really care about what my boyfriend masturbates to, especially at the beginning.

>>17018671
Maybe I wasn't clear about it but I already wear makeup besides blusher (concealer, foundation, powder, mascara, eyebrow shit). A small question about the eye makeup though: I have extremely hooded eyes (that's what I'll be getting surgery for), should I just wait with the eyeliner and eyeshadow until after the surgery or is there anything that looks good with my eye shape?

As for the clothes, as I said I've been trying to wear colours that fits my complexion. I'm fairly confident about my style as I've been into fashion for years.

>>17018724
post pic

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Girls.Souther european guys or nordic guys? pic related

>>17018724
Ha I suspected the minor surgery would be about something like this (and that's why I didn't write anything about it, I'm not a fan of major surgeries). Few of my friends have this problem but I personally don't, so unfortunately I don't have much good advice. I think there are still ways to apply eye makeup that will make your eyes look better, but I would search on the internet for it, or find a celebrity with eyes similar to yours and look at her makeup. Just by googling "makeup hooded eyes" I see some good tips

Alright I need advice

I've been in a lecture 4 times a week for the past 5 weeks with a QT.

Now, the first time we talked she was loud. Second third time she started getting abit quiet, she's complimented me a few times.


This far in is it going nowhere? What should I do?

>>17018550
>>17016898
Saying you chose her for her boobs is impersonal. It's not something she put effort into, the way she might have put effort into her clothing choices or hairstyle. You could say the same about nice eyes or a nice smile, but boobs are more sexual. You imply she's good enough for a one night stand, which isn't that big of a compliment. She might think anyone with that size of boobs would appeal to you and it has nothing to do with her specifically. She could take it as predatory or viewing her as meat, even if that wasn't your intention. She has also probably heard that she has great boobs a hundred times already and would like to be noticed for something else. Not speaking for every girl, just my guesses.

>>17018755
A mix would be ideal - Dark hair, beard, pale skin, light eyes.
Sexy as fuck.
In general, northern europeans as long as they're not THAT blonde.

>>17018771
>Dark hair, beard, pale skin, light eyes.
Genetics don't work like that.That's like 1 in a million

A directed at guys, but for girls also if they feel like contributing.

I'm going for a first date with a guy tomorrow. I definitely like him, but we're both kind of awkward (I also have social anxiety, mild enough that I'm able to meet him in a bar, but bad enough that I'm freaking out about it). I can already think of a few possible conversation topics, but I'm not sure how the conversation and my general behaviour should look like. Should I try to flirt with him? How? Or try to be funny? Should I try to kiss him afterwards, and if not, what should I do for goodbye, and how to arrange the next date

Any suggestions welcome (we already know each other relatively well so it's not about making a good first impression, but rather making him sure he wants to date me)

>>17018762
ask her out, she probably fancies you

>>17018775
Not really, where I live it's fairly common. I think between my fb friends at least 2/10 have dark hair and light eyes/complexion.
But, anyway, in general I do prefer lighter skin and eyes, even if I'm not a huge fan of light hair.

What's a good cologne to wear?

I used to have Armarni sport code, my old gf loved it but it was so fucking expensive.

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>shoot girl friend a text asking her how she's doing (she was sick before)
>intend to ask her out to do something on my only free day soon if she got better
>logs in, reads the message, logs out, logs in a few more times in the next couple hours
>no response
She's probably just busy or not feeling well enough, but for some reason it still hurts. How do I make it hurt less?

I've seen the same girl twice in the same place, and I fancy her style. I've noticed she also likes a particular Anime series, as she has a backpack with its logo.

She's always with a small group of friends (all girls). Is there a way for me to approach her without resulting creepy?

I'm having trouble getting my gf off because she gets sore from sex fairly quickly. She says she feels like she gets close then loses it. This usually happens a few times and then she gets sore and we have to wrap things up. She was a virgin before she met me and never masturbated or anything like that, so she doesn't really know what works for her and the idea of oral sex is weird to her (I'm warming her up to the idea though, I feel like I'd be able to give her an orgasm that way since I can't imagine that would make her sore).

With my previous gf I would just use my hands to get her excited then fuck her hard til she came, which was pretty simple so I didn't exactly become an expert on getting girls off with her. Sometimes she'd get off just on my hands, so maybe she was just more sensitive

>>17018763
>It's not something she put effort into, the way she might have put effort into her clothing choices or hairstyle.
But... what's *effort* got to do with physical attractiveness?

>>17018859
this is always a very hard thing to give advice on sinceevery girl is so different.
but i'm a bit similar. i'm very sensitive and direct stimulation (and yes, oral is too much tooo sometimes) might feel good at the beginning, but when i get aroused and my sensitivity hightens, it's overkill. it almost feels like my clit goes numb and there's no way i'm getting an orgasm like that.
what works BEST for me is when i'm making out with my bf and am already horny. then he starts to play with my boobs (my nipps are very sensitive too. comparable to my clit actually) and rubbing me trough my pants. this is usually very good since the fabric acts as a puffer-zone and over time we figured out how to give me fairly quick and predictable orgasms that way.
good luck anon

>>17018792
i adore terre d'hermes. but it's also pretty expensive. on the other hand, i strongly recommend to get a good cologne. the cheap ones usually smell like shit. if it's too expensive, you could wish for a bottle on your bday or christmas or something...

Guys
Every other day my boyfriend says that I don't love or care about him because I don't text him often. He says that his ex girlfriend would text him all the time, tell him they loved him very often...
I have never been extremely affectionate though texts, I have more interesting things to talk about and anyways I don't feel like texting and chatting all the time, I have a life.

Is there a way to make him feel better about this?

>>17018859

Sorry of have the same problem with my wife. She is squeamish about oral and hands do nothing for her. Also I am on the large side so if I pound then she gets sore and wants me to just get off and climb the fuck off of her.

What works for her is foreplay, start out slow. Use a little lube and just do some outercourse to start with. When she feels hot and ready she will tell you. Ease in slowly and only part way and move very slowly at first. As she gets more and more sexually excited, keep going slowly but keep going just a little bit deeper.

I eventually am close to bottoming out and then I slowly grind myself on her clothes and pubic bone... slowly, and this gives her a mind blowing orgasm everytime.

Sex takes practice to get good at it. I have mastered control of myself to where I can come 9 times out of 10 right when she comes. Nothing is better than climaxing at the same time, raw.

Every woman is different.

>>17018912
>Is there a way to make him feel better about this?
you don't have to do stuff the same way as his ex did. google the languages of love. he seems to rely on words big times. you can try to give him a bit more of that, but if it's not your style and he NEEDS it then you might not be very compatible

>>17018943
He says he feels very loved when we're together, that I take good care of him, that I'm an amazing girlfriend but if we're apart for, like, two days the "you don't care about me" cancer starts.
It is just so annoying, I feel like dating a teenager sometimes.

>>17018362
I've only ever met two people that I could just spend time around indefinitely without needing some time to just be by myself.
Some people are just like that, but it might be a concern if it remains this way well into the relationship. Kind of hard for a married couple to get away from each other, but that's a concern for much later.

>>17018950
i have kind of a similar bf and i, too, tend to take a while to write back/hate texting. what i do is that i just shoot him a funny pic sometimes. that way he knows i'm thinking about him and it's a "life sign" of me. but i make sure to not wait too long to text back. sometimes i have to remind myself to pick that phone back up, open whatsapp and just reply right NOW, goddamnit. he's my bf. i love him very much. and if this is what he needs to feel loved, so be it. i can put in THAT little effort. it's more than worth it.

To make it brief, I am pretty much the equivalent of a shutin loser weeaboo, but I'm not a guy. I like figures, I save 1080p chinese cartoons on hard drives, I draw anime styled characters, I am all around weeaboo.

Ironically, guys who are like me or even similar to me in many ways often clash with me. I can't stand their personalities and their interest in the things I love turns me off the things I like and also incites some kind of weird agitation in me. I am fine with other women who are hopeless weebs and tend to be interested in making acquaintances with reclusive guys who prefer other things and don't have "internet" hobbies.

I don't understand this double standard, granted my experiences with men sharing my interests have been nothing short of awful. I try to go into things giving the benefit of the doubt and always leave disappointed and aggravated. I have my life pretty well together beyond my enjoyment of these things, but I have no need to share it. In a potential relationship, in fact, I would rather have fewer things in common.

tl;dr I don't like guys who share my interests, will this mean I am doomed to be alone if I maintain those interests?

>>17018775
>Genetics don't work like that.That's like 1 in a million
Ever been to a major city in the US?

Guys, your girl is asking you what you think of her. Your response?

>>17018998
I tell her what I think of her

>>17018977
I think you should find a different hobby that is not anime related to find someone to date.

I like anime too. I wouldn't say on a weeaboo level, but even I am annoyed with most men who like anime. And I get what you mean, I clash hard with male anime fans too.

But, my boyfriend has never watched anime. However, we have similarities outside of that. Generally with music, life views, our senses of humor match, food, etc.

You don't need to have the same hobbies. You do need to have chemistry. At the same time, your hobbies cannot rule over your relationship either tho.

>>17018998
what you think of her. nicely presented

Is it possible that my body is actively trying to betray me?

it has happened not once, not twice, but TRICE! that i got pregnant unintentionally. the first time i got pregnant depsite the correct use of a condom. i could understant that. there's the chance of getting semen somewhere else, or there might have been a tiny hole, whatever. after that i got the pill. and i got pregnant again... i was very serious about taking them correctly, after i had to get an abortion the first time this happened. after that i said fuck it and got an iud to eliminate the possibility of human error. and guess what? i still got pregnant. the ultrasound revealed that it has vanished somehow. and now:
>got hormonal iud to be EXTRA safe.
>have gotten frequent ultrasounds to make sure everything is in the right place and such
>everything goes smooth for a year
>now i'm overdue for 4 days. i have very regular periods... if i'm late it usually means one thing.

GOD DAMNIT /adv/. what did i do to deserve this shit? i swear, i feel like i did everything i could to prevent this. do i just have to get my tubes ties? with my luck i will pop out twins after a year...

>>17019027
use condoms while taking the pill? I'm super paranoid and except for the last few days before my period I do that

the chance of getting pregnat with condom + pill is like less than 0.5%, if it happened you would be a medical anomaly

>>17019051
that's why i got a hormonal iud. the pearl index is 0.16. the index for female sterilisation is at 0.3. i actually do feel like a medical anomaly. i have used double birthcontrole, but after a while i start to think i'm wayyy too paranoid and that it CAN't possibly be that i will still get pregnant - again. and then it still happens. a fuck this.

>>17018998
Some kind of sarcastic bullshit like "Good woman, strong on plow" and squeezing her bicep.

I don't do insecurity.

>>17018912
Absolutely.

He feel much better if he went back to his ex. What a little bitch.

>>17018796
Come on, /adv/. I'm already being ignored by one person.

What's the oldest you can be never having a relationship before it's weird?

>>17018792
Mont Blanc Legend is good. Very mature scent, not like something you expect a 19 year old douchebag to be wearing at the club. It's understated but I actually prefer that since you aren't stinking up every room you walk into all day. Think of it more like coming home from work, taking a shower, putting on some fresh clothes and smelling good for a night out.

>>17019088
Age doesn't make it weird as much as the "why." You can be 18 and a total weirdo, which would also explain quite clearly why you've been single. You could be 30 and never have had a relationship because your life has been tough.

When it comes to age the problem isn't weirdness, it's whether other people you age simply have the patience for you to learn the ropes. The sooner you overcome the causes of your singleness and get some practice, the easier it'll be to find people who can offer you that opportunity. Wait too long and frankly no one will willing to teach. That's not because you're a weird person. Even if you're a wonderful person they're just beyond the point of wanting to bother anymore.

so yesterday i had a heart to heart with a girl i've been seeing for several months, and told her how some of the things she's been doing made me feel. i tried to be as uncritical or accusatory as possible, but she texted me a couple hours afterwards to say that she felt very insulted by the entire convo, and that i made her feel very aware of her flaws. i told her that wasn't my intent, but i was sorry if i had hurt her. haven't heard back from her since.

how should i proceed? i don't want to be begging for forgiveness for being open about what i was feeling, but i also don't want to her to remain hurt.

>>17019123

Some examples of what she was doing that made you feel like crap? She sounds immature and selfish if she can't handle feeling guilty about herself. You don't need that shit in your life. She should care more that she is making you feel bad and sheven should feel grateful to have a guy that wants to openly communicate with her about his feelings.

Literally shit tier woman who complains about there being no good guys but doesn't realize she isn't good enough for a good guy.

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>>17018724
>>surgery for hooded eyes
>huh, what the hell is that
>google it
>pic related
>so... like jennifer lawrence?
i dont think most guys even understand half this shit, unless you're a lesbian it's probably fine

>>17019139
we've been seeing each other for about 3 months. i'm always the one contacting her (i once didn't text first, just to see what would happen, and went 48 hours without even "hey what's up"), and making plans for dates, etc. it's weird, because i'd normally just end things, but when we're together things are awesome, and we have interesting conversations (and the physical side of things is great). i'm pretty confident that she really likes/is attracted to me, but she doesn't know at all what she wants from a relationship.

another thing that happened was a week or so ago i got introduced to her friend group, and she complained afterwards that i wasn't affectionate in public. i apologized, but told her i was really confused about what level of physical stuff was appropriate in front of her friends when we weren't even bf/gf. since then, things have felt especially distant, which prompted our conversation yesterday.

Is it normal for a dude to be more into giving than recieving sexually?

I'm 22 and I've had 2 sexual experiences ever, with 2 different guys. Neither involved penetration. The first guy tried to get me off but I wasn't really enjoying it so I focused on him, which worked pretty well. The second guy seemed barely interested in me touching him, and when I did it didn't seem to do all that much, but he was really enthusiastic about touching me and giving me oral, which I thought was weird and feel kind of offended by since I wanted to return the favour or whatever.

I'm very inexperienced for someone my age so I get it if I'm just not good at it or whatever but the first guy came 3 times so it can't be that bad. I don't understand why the second guy wouldn't want me to do anything for him?

>>17019176

Yup... she is really immature and she probably is bored of you. She wants a reason to break up with you so that she doesn't feel guilty about ending it. Hence, the fake offense over something that was perfectly legit.

Don't give her the satisfaction. Make sure to break up with her first and just say that you don't think it will work out. If she asks just say that you don't think she is that into you anymore and that you deserve somebody that you can talk openly with.

This will make her feel like shit. People grow up when they feel like shit about themselves.

>>17018779
>I'm not sure how the conversation and my general behaviour should look like
Don't worry about it, if he's awkward too then neither does he.
>Should I try to flirt with him? How?
However you want, whatever comes to mind. Smile, laugh at his jokes.
I'd suggest not googling "how to flirt" and doing those things: unless you're not as awkward as you say, it could look strange and forced.
>Or try to be funny?
Rarely hurts, unless it's spectacularly and personally offensive.
Even if it's bad it tends to lighten the mood. Again make sure to laugh, it's contagious.
>Should I try to kiss him afterwards
If you hit it off well and you're very confident in your seductive skills, go for it.
>what should I do for goodbye
However you normally say goodbye. If it went well and you enjoyed it, tell him so.
>how to arrange the next date
Usually that's done after the date, to give both people a chance to rest and think.
>we already know each other relatively well
>making him sure he wants to date me
If you know him, you should know how to do that a lot better than us.
Every guy has different tastes, different turn-ons, different "types", etc, pretty much have to tailor the plan to your target.

>>17018912
>Every other day my boyfriend says that I don't love or care about him because I don't text him often. He says that his ex girlfriend would text him all the time, tell him they loved him very often...
This makes me wonder about all the times people give advice on here saying "no, don't text him too often, let him text you first, etc, or you'll come off as clingy/needy/desperate/whatever"

>>17018094
Wasn't he suspiciously way too nice? Either way, you could make some small provocations before meeting the guy in person. I'm a penis, but I like to provoke people naturally. I make ambiguous questions (questions that can be interpreted offensively) and gauge the reaction.

>>17019027
>>17019065
There are some pretty funny anomalies/mutations that can screw you over (eg bicornate uterus), but it doesn't sound like you have any of em. Just unlucky.

If you get pregnant on a hormonal IUD while the guy was wearing a condom then you might just be cursed by an ancient artifact or something. Only thing left to try is copper IUD + pill + condom.

I feel like every little "mistake" I make with my GF is permanent and can't be erased. I have difficulties getting over our "fights" (they're more like discussion than fights) and I feel guilty even if I did nothing wrong. It's probably because I care about her a lot, I'm afraid of losing her and I'm also a little insecure about some stuff.

How do I stop this train of thoughts and learn to stay calm and not screw my relationship up? She says she's happy with me, but I'm afraid she might dump me if I don't get a hold of myself.

>>17019253
>cursed by an ancient artifact
kek
that might be it. maybe somebody did a fertility-spell over me or something.

i mean, there are so many girls out there who desperately try to get a baby; and here i am, getting pregnant left and right, despite being so carefull. it just boggles my mind.

i also don't react well to hormonal birth controle. that's why i went with a copper iud it first. and that's also why i am not fond of taking the pill again or getting an implant. and god, condoms just suck ass. they are a real hassle. but if i am actually pregnant AGAIN i will definitely start using more than one method at a time.

>>17019071
And if its not insecurity, but geniuie confusion because all you do is being a sarcastic twat?

>>17019253
oh and besides, i think those anomalies would have been discovered as o f now. i feel like i got my fair share of gynecological examinations already...

Ladies, what's 2+2?

>>17019284
7. why?

>>17019284
not a lady but the answer is fish

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>>17019290
Many thanks, now to ask out this chick

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>>17019298
Oh fuck really? Man I was way off....I figured green.

>>17019299
simple. you ask her how much fish divided by 2 is. if she answers 2 she's a keeper and wil give you strong sons.

>>17018779
Firstly just remember that he is probably thinking the same things. Chill.

>>17019202
It's normal. Some people are strong "givers" or "receivers".
It's less popularized than the dominant/submissive dimension, but it can be just as important.

Look at BDSM for clear differences: receiver doms like to do things like holding the collar, sitting back, and getting oral sex from sex slaves. The focus is on them, they're king and they get whatever they want, their subs exist to serve and pleasure them.
Giver doms, on the other hand, like to have the focus on the subs: they're into things like giving forced orgasms in particular. Their own pleasure isn't the main event, the sub's is. They're playing with them, controlling them, teaching/indoctrinating them.
This naturally means that an ideal match (and smoothest, most natural encounter) is between giver doms and receiver subs, or receiver doms and giver subs.

Obviously things are less extreme in normal sex, but it still applies if you're looking for advanced levels of sexual compatibility, like you've just found out. Note that what you described (2 givers) is less ideal, but still pretty dang good (only tough one is 2 receivers) if you know what you're doing, since it's easy for both of you to focus on each other's pleasure: this is why things like 69s were invented after all.

@girls

where did you find/how did you get your boyfriends past and present?

>>17019354
past:
>school
>internet

present:
>mutual friends

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>>17019304
Got it, thanks

>>17019354
political activism
debating tournaments

not even joking, there are plenty of guys doing this stuff and at least you know their political views

> go on a date
> 3 hours of free talking, really easy and so on
> touching
> hug at the end, 'we should definitely do this again!'
> after she even texts 'i had a really good time :)'
> text her a couple of days later to set up the next thing
> 'sorry im busy'
> next week
> 'sorry im busy'
> next week
> 'sorry im busy'

why the fuck do you niggers do this? if im not good enough for you cant you just tell me up front?

>>17019378
be aware that, if she answers with 2.7 she WILL only be able to have girls. just so you know and won't be dissapointed later on

>>17018497
You don't.

>>17018551
A girl that uses Linux? Is such a thing even possible?
>not browsing 4chan from your phone

>>17018591
What's draped around?

>>17019242
I'm trying to think back on it, but he wasn't suspiciously nice. He seemed normal and friendly. I wish it didn't come down to "testing" guys, since it's considered playing games with them. I wish I could treat people like human beings and get the same in return, but I guess I'm too naive.

>>17019383
what side of the political spectrum though?

>>17019392
>implying it's difficult to use Ubuntu
??

>>17019400
the left side

if you're right wing idk about guys from such environments but then idk about your life choices in general

>>17019388
A lot of people are great “on paper” daters. What I mean by that is that they go on dates regularly. They’re attractive, attentive, have good jobs, interesting skills and hobbies. They do the dinner conversations, they laugh in the right places, they talk about their lives, their families, their careers, their aspirations, their dog’s strange bathroom habits. They nail everything and yet…

…nobody sticks around.

Eventually, the phone stops ringing, the lame excuses pop up, or the ubiquitous, “We should just be friends” comes out.

Ultimately dating and finding a partner is an emotional process. People like this get the surface-level behaviors right, but they never engage the depth of their emotions and connect where the real life is. It’s like the difference between composing a concerto on piano and simply performing somebody else’s concerto.

Generating intimacy in a relationship requires emotional investment. That means you to open up about yourself in ways that may not be completely comfortable. It means exposing yourself. It requires you to share opinions and values that may polarize people and generate rejections. It requires you to be bold and take risks in going after what you want.

Tell them exactly what you want.

>>17019403
yes unfortunately 'politically active' girls naturally swing to the emotional side of things, desu im more surprised you can find similar men attractive

>>17019414
i did tell them, im not the one who fucking lied about anything. im not saying im a perfect catch or anything but i want to know why girls insist on fucking pretending that they like me rather than just telling me to go away, theyre the ones who didnt tell what they did(nt) want