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Sonja Kerr
how to avoid conversations on sex/sexuality?
2016-04-02 02:01:04 Post No. 16986237
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how to avoid conversations on sex/sexuality?
Sonja Kerr
2016-04-02 02:01:04
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I'm a man in his mid twenties, as I a child and early teen I was chronically raped and abused. I'm okay with the fact, although unfortunate. Despite this I still have an extremely difficult time discussing things related it to it. I don't care what somebody does or doesn't do with their body unless they're violating or hurting someone. Often times I am not given the same courtesy, and it affects my ability to make friends. The topic comes up now and again, of course. I'm not a very good liar, so when I tell them the truth they often start treating me strangely or jumping the shark with who I am as a person. I don't feel comfortable enough to label my sexuality and when I try to describe my history and preferences in any minutia they seem to get aggressive or upset, either because I can't describe it in one sentence, or feel the need to council or dictate how I need to handle my own body, even though I myself am comfortable. I've been told to just decline, or just push the conversation along to another subject but often I just get odd looks, or people just get more curious and pry further. I also don't want to seem standoffish either. Even my best friend from childhood friend will rag on me about it, although mostly in social settings. It can get extremely frustrating and often puts a barrier in my friendships.