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Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><Random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something we cannot explain to you. In video game terms, you are lvl 1 social skills and the "Interpret signs" ability requires level 10 to unlock. Get more experience.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
Linking post in old thread:
>>16970731
Female virgins:
Do your friends know?
>>16970748
think of women as little girls
it'll solve a lot of your problems.
Ladies
I'm cordial with my ex and was chatting with a mutual female friend. We've always been close emotionally, have for about four years or so, but it was over a long distance and I've always viewed us more as friends than anything. I asked her to hang out at my place and she agreed to it. A short time later she flipped out over facebook and said that she couldn't sleep with me because she "didn't want to do that to her friend" (my ex). I found that to be way out of left field, so I went back to the beginning and explained that we would be hanging out as friends and that I didn't want more than that from her (she's fine as fuck but also emotionally unstable, but I like her as a person). She says okay. So she comes over and we hang out for a while just talking in my bedroom. She seems to be waiting for something. Eventually she leaves looking kind of disappointed.
I'm assuming that she still assumed that we were going to fuck and was shocked when I meant what I said. I have no idea how to read this person, but she calls and texts me all the time, particularly when she's stressed. Can't wrap my head around it, help plz.
>>16970775
You said it yourself--emotionally unstable.
Question to white girls, i know white girls usually dont race mix but if you HAD to choose to between dating / marrying a black man, mexican / latino man or an arabic / muslim which would you prefer?
>>16970775
She's a nutjob
to girls, would you date a guy shorter then you? if yes is there a limit?
>>16970798
Dying single and alone?
>>16970817
2mean4me
>>16970807
I'd marry a guy shorter than me!
Wait. I did.
Who gives a fuck? He's awesome.
>>16970807
Confident monogamous women will. I have before.
Insecure sluts won't.
"He needs to at least be taller than me" is a sign of being spoiled / daddy didn't love her
To everyone I guess. Don't really even know if this belongs in this thread, but I don't want to make one for this
I have pretty low self esteem and I'm aware of this, so don't point out the obvious like I don't know
Anyways I'm really uncomfortable with my ex and now my CURRENT bf's porn habits. I broke up with my ex for other reasons, but discovering he pretty much exclusively jacked off to asian girls just killed me to see. I'm not asian and I just felt like he was using me as a hole to stick it in until he got a waifu or whatever. I know it's a stereotype that white guys have a huge boner for Asian women and I would rather not have a repeat of that issue. Anyways fast forward a bit and I'm dating a really nice half black guy (looks maybe 1/4). Everything is going well and now I found its the same fucking thing! He has a reddit account and I found him talking about how he's always liked asian girls It's so fucking infuriating. What is the appeal? I wouldn't care if my bf was jerking it to girls who at least looked something like me or something I could shoot for, but no. They are all sexually attracted to something I'm just not and can never hope to be.
In details how does vaginal sex feel like for a guy? Also since guys probably want to know also how does sex feel like for women?
Will some femanons help me here?>>16968656
>>16970843
I hear you. But isn't porn all about imaginary land? I like all sorts of things in porn that I'm never going to do in real life. Clearly, neither guy chose an IRL Asian...
Guys, let's say there's a girl you like who's already in a relationship. You really dig this chick, so do you:
A) Make your move, relationship be damned
B) Keep it to yourself and suffer in silence
C) Say something even though you know there's no hope of getting together.
Thanks.
>>16970807
No, I'm 5'1. I probably wouldn't date anyone shorter than ~5'7, and they would have to be buff. Scrawny feminine guys are my biggest turn off.
>>16970843
Do you watch porn? Are you attracted to movie stars (of course you are). Do they all look like your BF?
>>16970807
Sorry but no. Im 5´5 i just coudnt date a guy shorter then me. Maybe if hes the same height.
>>16970798
Mexican but im half white half mexican so...
>>16970862
I do nothing, not even try to be friends.
What boards do you women browse im curious. Also what do you think of /pol/
>>16970877
soc adv an
I think pol is angry and underage. Like 14-16.
>>16970877
/adv/, /pol/ and /a/ when I was more into anime. /pol/ is fascinating.
>>16970877
I used to visit /ck/, /vp/ and /cgl/. I'm almost exclusively on /adv/ now though. I think /pol/ is a containment board more than anything
>>16970807
I'm 5'0", so a guy would have to be a literal midget to be shorter than I am. No I would not date a midget. The shortest I'd date is maybe 5'3' or 5'4"
>>16970865
I actually don't watch porn and I think it's gross, but I've pretty much accepted all guys watch it. And yeah, most movie stars in attracted to at least look in some way similar to my bf.
>>16970857
Yeah and I feel everyday they just either wish I was a kawaii asian girl or pretend I am one. It sucks
Off topic question, where can I find someone to talk to? I don't want e-pussy or anything, just a website to talk to someone
>>16970901
have you told him it bothers you?
I get it. I wouldn't like it if my gf was watching those crazy "big monster cock" videos. Communicate.
>>16970901
I seriously doubt they are pretending you are Asian. It's too damn easy to just go be with an Asian. Some kinks are tough to satisfy, but not that one.
Sounds like your self-esteem is in the shitter.
>>16970877
/adv/, /ck/, /y/, and /wsg/
/pol/ is just underaged. Don't really care
>>16970908
No, because I know deep down it's dumb
>>16970910
It's also awful because we're both at college and needless to say there are tons of girls who look like the ones he jacks off to. Makes me paranoid knowing he's eyeing and fantasizing about a lot of them
>>16970922
>No, because I know deep down it's dumb
Well, what do you want us to say? If you know it doesn't matter but it still bothers you then the only thing that has to change is inside.
You want to feel more sexy? What makes you feel sexy? Do it. Ask him what you can do for him that's more sexy.
when a girl gives you kino, are you obliged to reciprocate with your pino?
>>16970922
No, I don't think you're being dumb for having this bother you.
My ex pretty much exclusively watched bbc videos and lots of interracial gangbangs and that just fucked me up seeing that she wanted that and not me. Never recovered after seeing her history and we broke up a few weeks later
>>16970877
/adv/ is my main board. I like /ck/, /x/, occasionally /b/. I went on /soc/ a couple of times to lurk, but my god, that place is annoying. I've never seen such attention-whoring, insecurity, and just no shame anywhere on the internet.
I went on /pol/ a few times but it seemed really idiotic and I never went back.
qoq
how do I go from talking to a girl in class to getting her number? how do I make the conversation into the appropriate context to ask for her number?
>>16970937
I don't know I just have had no one to talk to about it. Obviously not going to talk to my friends about this whole thing
That's part of the issue though is that no matter how sexy or cute I can ever be, I'll never be the doey eyed and cute asian girl all the guys want. I just feel like a placeholder until that opportunity shows itself
>>16970939
Sorry to hear, but at least you know where I'm coming from
So like... When you're having sex with a girl, and you come early, and she says 'its ok, it can be great sex even if i don't cum xoxo' ... thats like... a lie, right?
>>16970877
what do you think about /b/?
(man and woman)
>>16970954
I'd rather he cum in 5 min than those Olympic - tier pornos where it goes on for 30+ min desu
>>16970963
Literal garbage. Not even in an edgy sort of way, it's just dogshit and everyone is like 12
>>16970877
/ck/ > /b/ > /soc/ > /int/ > /pol/
50% of pol is dumb memes from racist virgins but the other 50% is the scares me for the fact that if you ask a question about the many dumb political memes or sayings someone will sit you down and "redpill" you with logic you dont want to believe but cannot deny. For example i tried aruging that all races are equal and i got 100 info graphs and thought out replies on how evolution proves otherwise and that life isnt suppose to be fair and just because the thought was uncomfortable doesn't make it untrue which is exaxtly what i was doing. Im hispanic and pol turned me into a little nazi wishing Hitler would raise and save europe and got me feeling bad whites are going to be a minority. The redpill is intimidating. Ironically most people on /pol/ arent actually racist despite their reputation. I force myself to browse pol everyone so often to keep up with events.
>>16970953
I think your girl friends would probably be able to relate.
Anyway, personally, I doubt he EXCLUSIVELY gets off to japanese girls. Otherwise he'd be with one. Tell him how it makes you feel and see what he says.
>>16970971
faggot
>>16970843
>half black guy
You fucked up.
>>16970845
Words will never explain it good enough. Pay a hooker, it is worth it.
>>16970862
Would you want a guy hitting on your gf? I know I wouldn't.
>>16970904
4chan. Ever heard of it?
>>16970954
Not always. As a penis, I can SOMETIMES be satisfied without coming.
>>16970971
5 minutes? Where's the fun in that? I want 45.
>>16970890
A girl who likes /pol/? Is such a thing even possible?
>>16970974
>you dont want to believe but cannot deny
All of their info is misrepresented and most of the studies they cite are 50 years old and have been disproven.
Stop hating yourself.
>>16970978
I'd put around 90% based on history desu
You think I should bring it up to him though? I'm so iffy on that
>>16970983
How did I fuck up?
to anyone:
how do you date again after being cheated on?
A really nice girl just asked me out but I really have a fear of feeling that pain again.
>>16970987
>You think I should bring it up to him though? I'm so iffy on that
If it bothered you enough to end one relationship it will keep eating at you until you break up with this guy too. He'll probably say "no that's just a fantasy and I'm very attracted to you otherwise why would i be with you" - but you're not going to believe me, you need to hear it from him.
And like I said, mix it up so you feel sexy. What do you want to do to him, what do you want him to do to you?
>>16970983
I'm not guy asking about his girl. I AM the girl. I'm trying to figure something out.
How do I woo a girl? I had a lot of fun with a girl at a party, but I'm not getting any vibes of interest from her at all. So I'm guessing it's me.
>>16970983
As I said, /pol/ is a charming place and i'd like to have some /pol/-like friends in real life.
>>16971000
Kind of? Keep in mind that if you do try again and you still get the cold shoulder, it means you have to move on.
Good luck.
>>16970995
Kinda a topic for a whole different thread, but with my ex we were in High school and didn't really have much sex until towards the end. Nothing except missionary. I don't watch porn either (I've tried it, but it just felt gross and it was gross). Don't really know what I'm into aside from cuddling and regular sex desu which is pretty much all we've done, so far. No idea what else to try. Outfits? I like dressing up and it could be fun I guess
Also thanks, I feel a bit better about this than before
Are the acne guys still here? Do you suffer with anxiety and stress?
My skin got 90% better with anxiety treatment (therapy + sertraline) and following this guide:
https://www.reddit.com/r/SkincareAddiction/wiki/sca_routine
Any diet change didn't really work and I've never tried accutane.
>>16970985
>All of their info is misrepresented and most of the studies they cite are 50 years old and have been disproven.
Not really. Not the r but iv almost never see anything that predates even 5 years unless the subject is of historic importance. If data is faulty someone would point it out. Not to say /pol/ has misconceptions like on the holocaust and lame conspiracies but when /pol/ says the jews run the media its actually true, jews are embedded in the media and there's a shitload of proof, same for racial statistics.
I think the poster stated it perfectly in the sense that a lot of the information is uncomfortable and most people's initial reaction is to dismiss it which doesn't necessary mean the information isn't true.
>>16970681
That was my thing in the other thread. Anyway, I have some questions now. Is she playing some game with me or is this just a normal thing girls do?
>>16971000
Sorry, I missed your question and didn't combine it with my other post asking a different question. Would have saved a lot of time!
Did you get her number? Just ask her out! If she's shifty or doesn't give you anything definite, move on. But hey bud, I'm glad you talked to a girl at a party!
>>16971009
A dermatologist gf would be nice desu
I suspect my girlfriend's best friend has ill intentions. She's one of those "sit back and watch the world burn" people.
She brings out the drama, attempts to break me and my girlfriend up, gets my gf to argue with her mother. Overall she just brings out the worst in my girlfriend, especially when they're alone.
My gf has told me previously that she thinks the girl and her will seperate once they finish up school in a few months and go their separate ways in life. She's also said that the girl obviously is very jealous of our relationship.
How do I convince my girlfriend that her friend is cancer to her?
>>16970987
Do you see yourself living in the ghetto with him?
>>16970997
Are you the one asking how sex feels? Basically, feels like your penis is entering a nice, warm and humid hole. This sensation alone isn't all that interesting for me. The body contact, my body impacting against her, caressing her, etc. These things are what make it all special.
>>16971002
Same. You're probably from US, right? I'm too far away.
>>16971035
Uh we're at uni and both from middle class families, so no
>>16970987
>how did i fuck up
Half black guy. Unless you think he's the one i wouldn't mention his race. Most guys wont admit it but it does leave a "lesser quality" label.
I personally dont feel this way but iv heard sayings from other guys in person.
>>16971005
Outfits are good. Spank him, have him spank you. Roleplay, different positions, different places (shower, dinner table, whatever)
>>16971035
I'm living in Scandinavia, /pol/ feels refreshing when compared to local discussion.
>>16971015
>If data is faulty someone would point it out.
People do all the time. And then they scream about liberal narratives etc.
Ever seen how they try to guess people's ethnicity and are so completely wrong? They have no fucking idea what they're talking about.
>>16971042
Why would anyone care?
How do I ask a girl out over text when I know literally nothing about her other than the fact that she's super cute?
>>16971002
This.
Also people will doubt it but /pol/ actually tends to have a few good looking ethic guys from the meet ups and faces of pol threads.
>tfw no blue-eyed european nazi bf to make me an honorary aryan
>>16971078
You are aware that ethnic typically refers to non-whites right?
Left for the army and my ex is dating my best bud back home. Makes me feel like a piece of shit and I don't know why. Wtf females/males, why would she/he do this
Fuck at least in 10 weeks I'll be working in Alaska, hunting moose or whatever on the weekends
I'm just so lonely, but can't seem to build meaningful relationships any more
>>16971053
I am in a South American shithole, unfortunately.
I feel the same about our local discussion. Haha
What's your opinion about SJWs?
>>16971078
What's your race?
>>16970862
that girl would be so off my radar the soviets would want to kidnap her for R&D on stealth bombers
>>16970993
you'll never experience that "pure love" if you don't put yourself out there
>>16971067
>Hey I want to get to know you better, let's grab a coffee?
>>16971067
How do you know her? Mutual friends?
>>16971083
I do now. I think it still applies since 1 out 5 US posters are self hating hispanic or asian lol
>>16971093
mestizo mexican
Ladies.
I've been talking to this girl for about a week and a half, everyday, and have met up about twice. On both outings, we were both affrctionate with one another. Yesterday was the first day we didn't talk much, but it was easter, and she was with family. Now today, we haven't talked at all aside from some convo I started in the morning.
Should I ask and see if something is wrong? If so, when?
>>16971032
"I'm worried about how your friend treats you"
Go from that angle. But she'll be gone in a couple months anyway, so that's good.
>>16970954
I love the sensation, the arousal, the feeling of skin on skin, it's all great.
I mean, sometimes when I'm even just masturbating I'll edge it out because it just feels so good, I don't want it to end. I'll even stop before getting myself off occasionally.
>>16970951
First ask her to meet. "I'd love to get coffee sometime" if she says yes then ask for her number
>>16970904
Omegle. You'll have to skip a lot. I'd suggest the discuss a question section.
>>16970877
/cgl/, /adv/, used to be on /ck/, /co/, /fit/, /fa/, /tg/, and /vg/ in /acnl/
I also browse /soc/ for locals because I'm fuckin lonely.
I'd avoid anyone who browses /pol/, even ironically.
>>16971124
Wow no
Just start a new convo, Christ. What's wrong with you?
>>16970877
/adv/ and /an/, sometimes /x/ and /soc/
racist 15 year olds and extremely skewed "data" supporting irrefutable "logic"
Guys and Girls
Give me an honest scenario that would cause you to cheat on your partner of lets say a couple years? Just be honest nobody knows you and it could help a relationship.
For me
If my partner has purposely withheld sex for over 6 months.
Second if my girl let herself go and has turned into an unattractive landwhale that has made no efforts to fix herself and it has been going on for years. I see what some wives turn into and i cannot bare to fuck those things.
>>16971142
Ok, now if the convo is kept short as it was today (literally, everyday since then we would talk just about anything), should I just stop pursuing and move on?
>>16971155
here's why I cheated
child abuse in my younger years coupled with an immature and annoying fucking significant other, coupled with antisocial tendencies and human biology
bingo
>>16970817
hope for the world +10 for real
>>16971155
I wouldn't
Do you make fun of people who are waiting until marriage?
>>16971155
Guy here. There is no scenario in where I would cheat.
I've lost sexual attraction to my partner? i'd try to spice it up.
I've fallen out of love? I'd be honest and we'd break up.
I really want to bang someone else and don't feel anything for the other person? I'd break up.
Cheating is a shitty thing to do.
>>16971002
WOOP cant believe it fem polack for real you are giving me hope
>>16971058
..........WAAAH THEY SENSE LIBERAL NARRATIVE IN THE MEDIA WAAAAh
the media is obv massively influenced by liberal open border policy in my country der lügel (spiegel) is promoting refuggees as a "chance" for our economy ....yeah illiterate muslim war refugees are the best of ppl for our economy
>>16971158
No! You've been enjoying each other for two weeks. How about you let her have a day off? I'd say give up if she completely blows you off for 5-7 days.
But maybe you should bother her so that she knows how impatient and needy you are.
>>16971155
I wouldn't cheat. If I became unhappy with my partner I'd just break it off with them like anyone who is not a lying asshole would.
Anyone really
How do you go about asking out someone you see around a lot but don't know at all, like even their name? To me it comes off as creepy if you cut straight to the chase, but then it also seems weird just to randomly introduce yourself. Any help please
>>16971182
Yes.
>>16971059
Oops almost missed it. I dont know for sure but i THINK its the reputation blacks have imprinted on themselves. If you say "i dated a black guy" i think people tend to think of automatically thikn of those ugly, dumb jean saggy blacks who cant speak proper english and they get disgusted and from what im getting for a few moments think "how could you date that?" It could be an inferiority complex because "muh big black dick" but i think its more disgust.
Also dont let this be some sort of thing where someone criticizes you and it only reinforces your belief to prove them wrong. I dont think that relationship you describe is going to pan out, it seems if 1 asian girl gives him the time of day he may chase his fetish if he can get away with it. I"d leave if i was you but idk.
Also the Asian fetish isn't that common i just think you got some bad luck. White girls tend to be the rave and most guys will give any girl the chance if he likes her
>>16971078
wwaaaah fuck need to get aryanfu so bad but in my country litterally all women are completely
>le ebil nazis
>>16971155
>For me
>If my partner has purposely withheld sex for over 6 months
Why wouldn't you just break up with them in this scenario?
>>16971204
Not needy, new to this to an extent. I'm the type of person who's usually haloing to multiple people at one time (if not in relationship). For me to drop all of that for one person says a lot, so want to make sure I did not mess up anything. Guess I'll wait or strike up a new convo if the moment calls for it. Thanks.
>>16971209
What context is seeing them around? Crossing paths on commute?
I'd suggest smiling at her when you pass and make eye contact. Nod at her or maybe wave. Watch to see if she smiles back. Do this a couple times and you'll enter her consciousness. And then approach her.
Say something along the lines of, "We pass by all the time and you've become a character in my commute. I'm really curious on who you are. Would you like to get some coffee?"
To white women, be honest with me, does being half Mexican half white hurt my chances with you?
>>16971244
prolly not but iam a german guy ......so it doesnt help you much
>>16971058
But there are a lot of liberal narratives. Shit iv never met a racist white person in my entire life yet racism is constantly an issue as if there's an army of klansmen that wants to lynch my family.
>>16971244
It'd increase your chances with me.
>tfw dated mexican guy and cultural differences so severe it strained our relationship
>>16971258
kek
>>16971244
Definitely not
>>16971018
pls advise
>>16971238
It's from college so I see them sporadically. Occasionally I'll catch her looking at me, or the other way around. I'll try and take what you said in mind.
>>16971261
>increase changes
>strained our relationship
ehh?
How do I convince my girlfriend to dress up in S-Rank ZR while wearing a skirt that only barely covers her ass complete with a blouse and tie for my birthday without her thinking I'm a pedophile?
>>16971323
School girl fetish isn't exactly out there. I'd suggest just buying her the skirt and socks to start.
Girls
At what age do you stop going for guys on the left, and instead go for guys on the right?
>>16971337
Around the same time her ovaries start making a ticking sound.
>>16971337
I've always preferred guys go the right because I have a Dom and age gap fetish.
I'd say that within the girlsphere, you'd get sideeyed for dating guys from the left if you're in your late twenties and up.
Women
I know this sounds weird, but...
How do try making a subtle move on this chick I used to date years ago? She just broke up with her bf of 5 years 3 weeks ago.
We don't really talk much. She re added me on facebook 2 years ago after cutting me out for no reason. Ever since she added me, she tends to be somewhat flirty when I am around her (plays with my hair, scratches my back, tells me I look nice, etc).
Thing is, how do I get around at trying to get her on regular speaking terms without looking desperate?
>>16971276
>couldnt communicate with his family
>gave him shit for dating outside his race
>he always put me down for being "a white girl"
I guess he did that jokingly, but it was annoying that he'd constantly tease me for being white, then if I'd get tired of it, he'd say it's because I'm white. Basically any fault or difference I had with him was because I was white.
both guys and girls,
is it normal/acceptable/non douchey to feel turned off by how young someone is? I don't really care about age, but I met some girls lately younger than me (I'm 23, not that old) that really do show how young they are. I don't mean silliness, but lack of matureness. I don't know how to explain it, its just that sometimes you hear someone talk and listen to what they talk, and you feel they really have never went through anything bad on their lives. They have not much experience on how things work...
I sort of feel douchy talking like this, as if I discriminated people for that or felt better than the rest because I feel maturer. But i still have this sort of feeling when people show their lack of experience
>>16971337
I've never found the left side attractive. Also I highly doubt that you're anything like right so I don't know why you care.
Dominant girls, do you only like submissive guys that fit the stereotypical submissive guy look?
>>16971370
No it is not acceptable, you MUST spend your time with upper middle class spoiled children!
What the hell do you expect us to say man.
This is totally normal. With so many people not growing up anymore and staying at home until they're 30 it's very common for people who had to actually be adults to feel disconnected from their own generation. I know those feels very well. I find lower class people tend to have more common sense, fucking rich 19 year olds might be hot as fuck but they are so fucking stupid and likely to get into a car wreck because they were hashtaggin.
girls, what would you do if you found out your guy had a cuckold fetish? Like a computer full of /pol/-tier interracial cuckoldry. Also, he keeps it to himself and doesn't try to bring it into the relationship.
>>16971385
You just got me: Most of the people I talk about (I said girls, but I also met some younger dudes) are moderately rich and living very comfortable lives
I don't discriminate people with money, but it's just what you said: i feel out of place when they talk about the shit they talk
I guess it's a normal thing then
Both genders
I popped a pimple by mistake and have a huge hyperpigmented? area around it now. Please respond, Using Soframycin currently.
girls, full honesty - how much do you care if a guy has no experience whatsoever? like none. zip. nada. never dated. never fucked. kissed. nothing.
i've sort of given up on dating since I think it's just too late to start. never got the chance to get any experience or anything in highschool like most people, so at this point i'm just a clueless buffoon. especially compared to people that know what they're doing.
i mean well there was this short thing i had with someone, but you can't really consider it an actual relationship/experience since nothing ever happened or went anywhere. whenever we were supposed to go do something she had to cancel at the last minute. it also upset her that i never tried to move things forward/make any moves on her, it being my first time hooking up with someone i had no clue what i was doing so i decided to just give up and i broke it off. i guess that whole ordeal sort of plays into my thought process
anyways, i've had friends tell me it doesn't matter; that nobody cares. yet funny enough they don't have the same issue. hell, i've had one buddy tell me he lies and tells girls shit like he's never been with anyone, or they're his first and they like it/don't care - but of course they don't, he's well above-average.
and then i've had other friends tell me they do care and don't like guys that have never been with anyone. whether it's just a relationship or just sex. that they don't want to be some kind of practice run relationship, or that the guy will undoubtingly get clingy, or just be bad at a relationship or sex
>>16971360
lol what a fag... you know what i just realized i might be on the same boat kinda. I have a white girlfriend and im mexican but like i think its the opposite situation i think. I loved her whiteness, like id make her wear european dresses and i love staring at her blue eyes when we're talking or when she's watching TV and she loves and hates it. Like, fuck when we sleep together i like to say racial shit like how i love her white body and shes an aryan goddess. My family also holds her at a higher regard then then my previous latina girlfriends. She's into me and im into her bu now im not entirely sure how she feels when i compliment her on her whiteness. I kinda feel lame reading my post.
>>16971463
They do care. But they can't really tell, they'll just think you're not very good. Communicate! Ask her what she wants you to do. Attack her pussy with your tongue and fingers.
Be honest about your emotions.
Do not expect anything. Couples argue. You aren't going to marry your first gf, just enjoy yourself.
Don't tell her, but don't worry either.
>>16971463
More so if shes a good girl she wont care.
im not a girl or virgin but i know enough to say that women notice if you haven't kissed anyone before. If a girl finds out your a virgin she wont care per-say but she'll think its weird that you haven't had sex before even tho id love a girl who hasn't ever had sex before.
That said maybe you should get an escort and just practice on her. Again if you're cool enough bitches can look past it but if not its a little beta telling a girl shes your first as an adult, you might wanna practice on an escort
>>16971463
If a guy reaches adulthood without being in a proper relationship that's a huge red flag that something about him is irredeemably broken.
>>16971476
just seems like i'm setting myself up for failure
>>16971501
yeah, probably going to nevada this summer with some friends, probably going to stop at a brothel while we're there.
yeah that solves the whole "never had sex" thing, but even then i've still never been in a relationship. you're goddamn right it comes off as weird. it's easy to assume that there's probably something wrong, or some negative reason that someone hasn't been in a relationship or anything and out of highschool
>>16971508
Not true. I know plenty of people who are great people and were just too shy in high school to make anything of it.
I didn't have my first gf until 18. Dated 2 girls for combined 5 years in the 5.5 years since. Some people take a while to get the confidence. They can still be great people.
>>16971519
18 is salvagable, being a 25 year old khv isn't.
>>16971508
>NO SECOND CHANCES
This is why there's so much misogyny on 4chan
>>16971463
I only care if he's selfish and unwilling to learn
>>16971393
Nothing. Just because he has a fetish doesn't mean we have to act on it
>>16971370
Not at all. I'm the same age and I don't like the idea of dating someone younger than me for the same reason. I often feel like that with lots of guys my age too, to be honest
>>16971527
You need to realize that anyone who ends up here is in someway fucked. Women included, but they like to believe "There's no way I'm fucked up! Stay lonely here you permavirgins lol!".
Jokes on them, they're here too and they never fucking leave.
>>16971475
The frustrating part was he had this idea of white girl painted in his head. Basically a gold-digging, manager calling, republican, christian spreading, unconsciously racist, spoiled, and etc. person in mind.
Like he criticized me for using dryer sheets once because it was "white."
The most frustrating part was I'm first generation American. My family is from Indonesia. We're half-Indonesian. Even though we're white-skinned with euro features, we're not some psycho bible belt white hicks that my ex thought all white people were.
I'm not really attracted to my girlfriend. I like talking to her and I can truly be myself around her but there's little excitement or feelings of affection. I don't know why. She asked me out and I gave her a chance but I think my loneliness got the better of me and we started dating. When I look in her eyes, it's like looking at a wall, almost a completely neutral feeling. Plus, she absolutely adores me. Should I cut it off?
>>16971569
>Should I cut it off?
Yes
>>16971433
plz respomd
>>16971244
No. You're practically white with a tan you autist
>>16971155
if i was unhappy/dissatisfied enough to cheat on a gf, i'd break it off before i went looking for another girl. cheating would be entirely out of revenge, and it'd take a lot to do that
>>16971182
yes
>>16971519
18 is not old. She's talking about guys who are in their mid 20s and have no experience (see: me)
>>16971623
Then try something. Online dating, anything. Get some experience with a few girls and it won't seem that weird when you really start looking. If you date a few girls for not too long, then ex's shouldn't come up anyway.
dear ladies,
Is playing video games as a hobby a turnoff? if so why?
Dear guys,
Tonight my bf called me "thick". In general, how much weight does that mean I need to lose?
>>16971637
I'd say no, unless it is excessive or your only hobby.
>>16971640
It means you've got some fat on you like a woman should. Not bbw or anything. Nobody like anorexic chicks.
>>16971640
>thick/thicc = good shit
>fat/big/obese = gym time
>>16971640
Unless you have gained 20+ pounds, a guy shouldn't say anything...and he shouldn't use a word like thick. If anything, he should be like hey: let's be a little healthier.
My ex once gained a bit of weight and I just encouraged her to work out with me and chose healthier eating options for us. She slimmed down a bit after.
>>16971640
Thick ≠ fat.
Thick can be extremely attractive, especially around the thighs, and usually the boobs. Once you move beyond thick you're in chubby chaser territory. Thick is fine, you probably don't need to lose anything.
>>16970877
adv, v, fa, ck
>>16971522
>tfw 28
I actually perfectly normal but it just never happened
I guess I didnt ever really try
>>16971659
Nah, thick is just slang for having nice thighs and hips. Supple but not fat, he was probably just complimenting her.
If it was a problem he would've encouraged her to workout.
>>16971640
I'm chubbing just thinking about your thickness
>>16971644
What if my other hobbies are things like comic books, tabletop games, and card games?
>>16971682
Then you'll attract geeky girls. Which I don't think is a bad thing.
>>16971682
depends on the girl and how you act with it
if you have a job and do this in your spare time it shouldnt be a problem
if you spend all your autism bux on this shit and talk about it at every opportunity then it's a problem
What's less attractive, females:
A. 25 year old virgin
B. 25 year old guy who pays for sex
>>16971433
smash up aspirin, make a paste with water, and smear it on with a q-tip. let it dry
>>16971627
I've tried online dating and even e-"relationships"
I had a thing going with a girl from Mumbai I met on interpals. We had phone calls every night, but my profile didn't have my face. So she started teasing me asking for it, I sent, and then I'm blocked. I've also has tinder for a month with zero matches that weren't bots lol
>>16971023
Thanks dad
>>16971722
I don't think either is unattractive to be honest. I personally can't imagine ever paying for sex because the knowledge that the other person wants to have sex with me and isn't just pretending because they got paid is very important but I don't wanna shame anyone who expresses their sexuality that way. Unless he's paying for hookers who are slaves of the brothels than he's taking part in human trafficking.
>>16971766
Yeah, that can be a painful experience, getting rejected just because of your looks, especially when it up to that point everything was going fine.
I have a similar story, I met a girl on omegle, we talked for like two hours and deiced to exchange kiks. We talked on kik more, she showed me her pics (was gorgeous, tattooed chick) and asked for mine. I took a selfie and sent it to her. She replied with a "lol, hobbit" and said she's getting tired and wants to go to sleep. Something inside of my head told me to reverse image search her pics and yep, turned out to be some Instagram model/tattoo artist/wife with kids.
Not only did I get catfished for a few hours, the person doing the cat fishing thought I wasn't "all that".
>>16971851
Yeah it sucks. We talked for about 2 weeks every night and I mentioned I was self concious and she said it didn't matter to her and eventually got through to me to bost pic
I'm not even remotely fat or anything either, just uggo. Not much I can do, at all. Feels pretty bad
Hope you make it senpai
>>16971722
B, but only by a small margin. Being a virgin at 25 is a huge red flag cause it usually means the guy is a basket case of mental problems. I wanna be someone's girlfriend, not their mother/therapist.
Of course I don't have to explain why paying for sex is pathetic. How can you get off to a person pretending they like you?
>>16971857
Uh, well pretending someone likes you and having physical intimacy is far better than dying without ever being intimate with someone in your life. Pretty simple
Guys.
Is it harder/less pleasurable for a girl to jerk you off if she has small hands?
>>16971855
>>16971855
Bro that is just a really shitty pic you sent. It's not because you're ugly which you aren't, It's a picture of you in a fucking graveyard (Why?), your hair is messy and whatever are you wearing? She wants to see you at your best/good not you in some weird ass pose not even smiling
>>16971855
Yeah, not much can be done if the face is just ugly, which sucks. If you're fat, you can exercise, bad teeth, go to a dentist, acne, go to a dermatologist etc. but just a weird, ugly, asymmetrical face can only be fixed with plastic surgery and from what I've seen, most people who end up doing that to fix their face, afterwards look even worse. It's either looking like an ugly human or looking like a 20 year old lizard.
>Hope you make it senpai
Me too, I gave up on omegle and all that shit because I would use it when I would be super lonely or depressed or just horny and end up falling for all the traps. (I doubt that was the only time I was catfished).
I just hope one day someone looks at me the way I look at someone who I have a crush on.
>>16971862
To me, paying for sex is creepy and rape-ish. Not rape of course but kinda working on that level. The only reason she is sleeping with you is probably because she needs the money, otherwise her pimp is going to beat her up. There aren't many hookers who do it for the love of sex, most of them do it because there is no other option.
And yes, paying for sex is a red flag because a lot of ugly guys end up getting laid one way or another so it's more than just your looks.
>>16971864
Lol that's not me
I just felt like attaching a meme pic
>>16971867
>I just hope one day someone looks at me the way I look at somehow who I have a crush on
Exactly this. Hope it goes well for you
>>16971876
I don't mean to sound /r9k/ here, but I don't think you can really understand where guys who turn to prostitutes to lost their virginity are coming from as a woman desu
>>16971881
>Exactly this. Hope it goes well for you
We will all make it one day brother, stay strong. I believe in you.
>>16971819
I just realized how dad-like my post was. Whoops.
>>16971876
>can't get a girl
>omg don't pay for one you weirdo, just remain a virgin forever
Fuck you.
>>16971876
>so it's more than just your looks
Well, yeah confidence is vital and many people here are lacking it. I know a few people who lost it to a prostitute and then did well after that. They stopped seeing it as something impossible or just plain being spooked by women
>>16971722
Paying for sex is fine. I think it's very weird to do it just to lose your virginity.
I think subconsciously, it screws with you and gives you bad expectations of women. I mean, you literally paid a women to have sex with you the first time. You definitely won't think that when you have sex with a girl that likes you, but you will probably subconsciously feel entitled to sex because you have bought her things or done things for her. This is not good. Just be very wary of this.
>>16971881
>I don't mean to sound /r9k/ here, but I don't think you can really understand where guys who turn to prostitutes to lost their virginity are coming from as a woman desu
I just think it's a problem if you can't form a meaningful enough relationship with a woman/girl which allows you to be intimate with her. Especially in your formative years when you're surrounded by your peers for half of the day. It either means that you have critically low self-esteem, some anxiety issues etc. and in that case you need to work on that by yourself or with a therapist, or it's a sign of some really fucked up views on women, being an asshole that nobody likes etc.
>>16971886
>can't get a girl
That's a huge red flag. Ugly guys get laid so it's something more than your looks that's stopping you. You gotta ask yourself if you're looking for a girlfriend or a therapist when entering a relationship.
>>16971887
And that's the problem here. If you were so scared of girls that you need to pay one to have sex with you to get over with, that's a sign of some underlying mental issues that are going to come up in a relationship and most likely make it end. I'm not a teen anymore so I'm past my "fixing broken guys" phase.
>>16971895
No shit it's a problem. Not him but I'm exactly what you describe. However I've seen therapists and tried to fix things and become more well-adjusted. I've failed and keep failing and may never be able to have a normal relationship but apparently you don't think I should even have physical intimacy.
I'll just pop in to say that I met my current bf and he had never so much as held hands with a girl and he was 23 at the time. I thought it was cute and I thoroughly enjoyed being his first and we're still very much together. He's a great guy, but just really shy and awkward which I personally really love, but explains him not getting laid before then
>>16971935
Live your life how the fuck you wanna live it, it's yours not mine. I just wouldn't wanna be with a guy like you because I wouldn't wanna be in a relationship with a ticking bomb.
>>16971939
how did you meet?
>>16971939
See? There are girls that are okay with that, there are girls that aren't. You virgins should just realize that fact and get over yourself. Even a 10/10 guy has a few women that wouldn't fuck him.
Girls, why do you consider prostitutes your enemies? They should be your allies.
>>16971863
No, it doesn't matter.
>>16971964
because they give sexually frustrated men relief, and woman want sexually frustrated men to suffer for eternity
>>16971978
case in point
>>16971876
A question to the lesbians and bi women: Would you ever date a guy who identifies as a black lesbian?
Yes people like this exist these days and not because its a meme or some shit.
>>16971964
I'm not upset with prostitutes, I'm upset with the sex trade. I wish that it was better regulated and prostitutes were better protected. I wouldn't feel comfortable giving money to support an industry like that.
Girls;
If i catch her looking then she suddenly looks away does this mean she's into me? Also she accidentally brushed my dick and said 'oops' does this mean anything
>>16971987
Does this guy present as a woman? What about hormones?
You'd find better reception amongst bigirls than lesbians.
I'm a bi girl with a preference for women, and I've been chatting up a very cute t girl. I wouldn't have guessed until she told me.
>>16971987
>a guy who identifies as a black lesbian
Maybe Tumblr is the website for you.
>>16971996
>Maybe Tumblr is the website for you.
I'm Heterosexual so no.
>>16971983
women detected>>16971984
>>16971945
Class. He seemed awkward and cute which I've always liked, and no I'm not talking about the Chad with glasses. I've always had a thing for innocence and him not being able to make eye contact with anyone and just being awkward as hell was appealing to me. Ended up sitting next to him and pretty much trying to bring him out of his shell. Went from there and bam
>>16971337
Anon, your ponytail and neckbeard really aren't what girls are looking for.
Why am I not afraid of anything else except talking to super pretty and extremely super cute girls sitting next to me?
Invading the world with blood and tears falling to the ground? Easy as shit.
Talking to some super cute and pretty girl sitting next to me? Dante MUST Die: The Difficulty Setting IRL
No, seriously, this is pissing me off.
Any tips from you girls?
>>16971475
ur weird as hell man
>>16972020
Dude, your fedora is showing super hard, maybe that's the problem
>>16972008
I hope one day I meet someone like you.
Girls;
Is posting my face on the internet to a bunch of anonymous posters the only way i'll ever get an honest rate?
>>16972105
Yes
Guys, do you fantasize about having kids, getting married, and that whole shabang too? I mean, girls do that all the time. We do weird shit like trying out how our name would fit his last name and such...
>>16972133
As a friendless sexually frustrated 18 year old KV, yes i want a girlfriend. No female will ever be able to conceive of my suffering
>>16972144
Why is it that there seems to be a social legend that guys don't actually want these things? It doesn't make any sense. And i'm not talking about the "constitution marriage", just he concept of growing old with somebody you love
>>16972152
Because it involves emotions and real men don't show emotions, or even talk about them
>>16972152
I'm not sure if there is a social legend, guys are just generally more work driven
>>16972159
This is upseting. Why? What's wrong with them?
>>16972152
because of a hyper-masculine socialization of culture where things that are marketed toward males are to encourage etc etc
>>16972160
Are they? Why not have both?
>>16972281
I think you just gotta own up to how you feel about him and tell him. I might be interpreting what you said the wrong way, but you wanna swing by his place and spend time with but not tell him you're in love with him.
If he says no just remember that love is an illusion and it's nothing more that a chemical reaction in your brain developed during the process of evolution to give you more motivation to produce offspring.
>>16972281
Tell him how you feel.
>>16972298
So don't say that you love him. Just say that you really like him and wanna spend more time with and turn this thing more serious.
>>16972298
He only wants you for the sex. Nothing you do is "endearing" to him. You only have two emotions you can trigger in him: arrousal or disgust
>>16972305
Either
>>>/tumblr/
or
>>>/r9k/
Pick one and get the fuck out.
>>16972311
Seems like he's still thinking about her. At least in those moments.
>>16972305
I'd be disappointed if this was the case but the sex is actually quite good, so I wouldn't be heartbroken if this was the case.
>>16972303
What a great suggestion - thanks anon!
>>16972310
Thanks :)
Can anybody think of a nice way I can ask him?
>>16972311
They've been a sexual staple in their life a lot longer than you have. Just be glad they're saying anything during sex at this point.
>>16972320
I thought this could have been a possibility. I really don't want to make it an issue and he has always been really apologetic when it has happened. I'm just not sure at which point I should accept it's a genuine problem.
If it's just muscle memory or habit (they were together a while) then I can accept it and will just see what happens. If it's because she's on his mind during sex (which I admit, would be weird given how much he hates her) then that's probably something a lot more serious.
>>16972321
>Can I come over tonight? I wanna talk about some stuff.
>>16972325
It could be something, it could be nothing. Maybe go to a sexologist or a sex therapist.
Girls,
I met a girl through my friends and the second time we were out with the entire group, she asked for my facebook. Any possibility she's into me?
>>16970798
asian
>>16972364
Any possibility? Sure. Does the fact that she asked you for your facebook mean she is? Nope.
>>16972384
That's what I thought. Guess been single for too long and it's fucking with my perception of reality.
Well /r9k/ is inexperienced and almost certainly 95% male.
So I'm thinking asking here would make more sense. I have a few replies in the thread worth reading. Just don't want to repost it all here.
>>>/r9k/27474277
Summary of replies.
>it's now two weeks later
>she rated it 7 but thats her average score
>I'm not really after a relationship right now. She's single.
>I'd like a fwb if it's stable. Perhaps i'l fall for her, that'd be a problem I guess.
>does this really mean all that much? Maybe she just likes the excitement of discussing hentai. It's where our perceptions differ the most and I'd like to talk to her about it too.
What is the #1 turnoff and red flag a man/woman could ever have?
>>16972567
a bitter and mean heart
>>16972567
Might sound a bit silly, but when he/she can't behave properly in public.
I'm not talking about being shy or having something along the lines of social anxiety, but full blown social retardation and being completely cringe worthy without acknowledging it.
>>16972567
Going on 4chan in your free time. If this site is your idea of fun, there's something seriously wrong with you and you need immediate help.
is dating really the only way to get into a relationship?
Shits more expensive than buying nukes.
>>16972580
MODS
This is an issue that i had for long time but i'm only now starting to see patterns.
FEMALES:
>Girl seems into me, starts being overly nice to me
> I kinda ignore her / act oblivious to her advances / don't notice it right away
> This all stops, no contact for like 3 months
> Text her something like "hey what's up"
> she ignores me / hates me
why the hell does that happen all the time. why do girls do this? how can they be interested at one point and completely hate me 3 month thereafter with nothing happening in between?
>>16972593
Start going on cheaper dates mate. Not every date has to be an expensive restaurant/movies combo. Go on a picnic or to a nice, classic dinner in the city. Maybe go to a bar and get some drinks.
>>16972597
>nothing happening in between
it's the equivalent of guys getting butthurt over being "friendzoned". you basically told her that you have no interest in her, which translates to "i'm better than you".
>>16972593
netflix and chill
>>16972604
>netflix and chill
That never works.
I DO have Netflix but I don't have a TV.
And I don't have Stereo either, only a headset, and the mic doesn't work.
I'm also NOT a vegetarian, if you wanted to know.
I like vaginas.
>>16972612
How big is your monitor?
>>16970727
hey girls,
how well do you really like passionate guys in terms of extensive hobbies like for example making/collecting music, playing/collecting games?
Basically someone who doesn´t have mainstream hobbies but a very deep involvement in a few topics.
thanks in advance!
>>16972624
Red flag af. Borderline obsessive behavior is something you should avoid in your SO because they might choose their hobby over you.
>>16972612
i just lost to your post anon.
i don't have a tv either, and watching netflix on my monitor is a pain in the ass. how about inviting her over to cook together? my bf and i rarely do things that cost a lot. we go for walks or picnics and so on. maily, we cuddle in bed, have sex and talk till we fall asleep.
>>16972616
22"
>>16972624
well, if he isn't butthurt that i'm not as knowledgeable as he is and is making fun of my "normie2 taste, i'd be ok with it and might take an interest too if he can poke my enhusiasm
>>16972612
I wonder, if I use that text as a bio in my Tinder profile, will I get results?
>>16972634
So just watch Netflix with her on that monitor, what's the big deal?
How do I get to a girl that is very insecure and thinks that there is no way that I am i love with her because I didn't have my shit together and treated her like an acquaintance?
>>16972641
Small space.
>>16972646
Then just invite her over for some home made food and maybe a board game or st. I'm sure you can figure something out with your monitor, like moving the PC to the living room or st. Be creative.
>>16970877
adv, ck, k, u mostly
>>16970877
ic, wg, wsg, adv, int
How do I make a good girl bad?
No, not really. I've been chatting a woman up and she is crazy about me, I am about her. She is pretty kinky, we talked about getting a room together and I mentioned how she's been a good girl for me (sending pictures, doing what I say.. etc) and I told her I will make her a bad girl when we get a room. I know she already is a bad girl.She is submissive as fuck and not afraid to get wet (literally wouldn't mind getting pissed on, but that's not what I'm into).
So yeah, I told her I would make her a bad girl, and she asked me "how..." and, while I do have a lot of ideas I would appreciate some input from some of my more experienced peers, since I've always been quite vanilla.
And I would love to hear from girls, as to how they are turned into bad girls.
guys:
i had some "not so perfect" childhood experiences. it has affected me a lot for years, but i went to therapy and resolved a big chunk of it. i'm a bit torn betwen telling my bf about it and letting the past be. it's mainly about my dad and i don't want my bf to get such a negative picture of him. i would like him to be able to get to know him on neutral grounds. what do i do? it might still take a while till he get to know him. you need to get to know my dad in small doses or you WILL be overwhelmed. what should i do?
>>16972663
You don't have to actually do anything all that filthy like pissing on her or anything, just use a lot of verbal confirmation to tell her she's bad.
So apparently a girl just told me she wasn't ready to love again. Is that a legit reason or is she rejecting me?
>>16971987
Bwahaha.
No.
>>16972630
i didn´t mean extreme collector (messie) - just someone who is more introverted and spends time with such kind of activities
>>16972636
yeah, not someone who thinks everything other than his taste in stuff is wrong - just someone who values it a tad more than your usual folks
>>16972671
It's both.
>>16972669
you already asked.
however, don't overthink. just ask them if they want to come over in the evening. tell them you got xyz movie and also popcorn. or whatever.
>>16972644
Halp
>>16972669
Weren't you supposed to tell him you're really serious about him?
>>16972644
you basically fucked this up. you pushed her away. making her open up to you would take a lot of trust. y'know, fool me once and stuff
>>16972673
>just someone who values it a tad more than your usual folks
>who is more introverted and spends time with such kind of activities
i would think it's pretty neat. i like people to show me what they are passionated about
>>16972667
ahha, yeah of course. I was planning on tying her up and spanking her.
I mentioned before that if she was a bad girl I'd tie her up, put her soaked panties in her mouth and put a plug in her ass and then lock her in the closet for a few hours... But then she said she'd love it. Ugh, she is already bad, I can't make her badder!
But today she said she was a sweet innocent girl, and I told her I'd make her bad. I guess I know what to do now though. A good idea just popped up in my head.
Females:
Why do you like profile pictures of guys you've never talked to before? Does it mean something?
Guys,
How much porn do you really watch? As in, compared to how often you masturbate? Also do you ever watch porn without masturbating? Are you generally not as much into fantasizing or just more visual? I'm guessing I don't really "get" porn because it's mostly almost ridiculously bad and I have peculiar tastes.
>>16972693
basically, make her feel used. use her like a cock sleave. she just exists to bring joy to your penis. order her around, degrade her some, tell her that she's a good slut, make her expose herself in humiliating ways, maybe bring some pain into this. be aware that you can't expect this to turn into a picture perfect session. it takes practice to do so, and it would also work way better if you know her already. but just take it one step at a time and don't forget to have fun!
>>16972696
yeah, that i probably think they are cute
>>16972705
What sort of peculiar tastes?
>>16972705
>ridiculously bad and I have peculiar tastes
not a guy, but sometimes the whole point is for it to be "ridiculously bad". and eveybody has a very specific taste in porn.
my bf has a folder on his phone with pics of female friends of his. they are all just random selfies or group photos. but also beach pics and ones with rather revealing outfits. does he use them to fap, or why does he have a whole folder of them saved?
kek
>>16972717
Not always.
The best porn I ever saw (I deleted it after and regretted it ever since, I've never been able to find it again) was a home made tape of a man and a woman who were palpably in love. They weren't even in great shape; he was a bit skinny and underdeveloped, she was pale and soft looking with a few moles but you could see the chemistry in their faces before they even touched. It was wonderful.
>>16972684
I did. I made my bed and now I'm gonna lie in it.
Thank you, you made me realize that there's no easy way out.
Time to man up.
>>16972666
Trial by fire. Leave them alone together for a couple minutes while you go to the bathroom or something.
Help me keep this conversation going. I'm really bad at this stuff.
>>16972719
Probably, yeah.
I wouldn't see that as something negative as long as you are confident enough to handle it and he doesn't go and turns his fantasy into real life.
>>16972727
They repeatedly misuse "your", I'd block them and move on desu.
>>16972727
Kek. You just pulled off a joke about IT with a woman.
You're fine.
However, I would try to get into a "We should meet up!" or you'll learn that conversations ALWAYS tend to move in circles if going on for too long which doesn't benefit anyone.
>>16972714
I'm a lesbian and into submission/bondage.
Maybe I'm too picky or retarded but I have a really hard time finding any good stuff.
>>16972717
How do you mean, the point is for it to be bad? I mean I understand that if you watch porn to laugh about it but I'm pretty sure most guys (or people generally) watch porn to get off to it.
>>16972727
"I'm an engineer"
>Misuses your multiple times
>>16972688
thanks anon!
>girl who I had a crush on almost 10 years ago reconnected with me
>much less proud
>I still have a complex about her and I can't help but be attracted to her again
>both single
>went out twice already, ok-ish dates
>not sure if she is attracted to me or just ronery
I don't know how to handel this. God, why? No I'm here debating whether to text her again like a little kid. I thought I left her behind, but it seems like the hardwired puppy love memories are still there.
>>16972727
you're doing well
ask her what engineers like to do when theyre off work
>>16972728
fuck, that's hillarious.
nah, i'm fine with that. besides, he's not very secretive about that folder so i don't see why it should bother me.
>>16972735
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o3jR_9oW3Lk
Girls, how do you like being approached by guys? (pls no cinderella bullshit)
>>16972723
link pls. i once had a phase where i was searching for porn like that. but mostly it's staged af. my newest discovery is a guy yerking it. but the whole vid is so unbelievably perfect, i could cum just thinking about it. maybe mainly because he has almost the same body as my bf. had to do a double take at first.
>>16972730
>>16972734
>>16972736
I'm the woman.
Like I didn't already notice the your' thing I'm trying to let it slide.
>>16972724
the questino is, how much do you want her? ther's always a way. but it might take a lot. are you willing to invest that?
>girl is 5'3 ft. tall
>"I only like tall guys"
Bitch, a 10th grader is taller than you.
Girls,
Why are some of you so obsessed with height?
>>16972740
I could ask him that. Seems a bit cheesy though....doesn't it?
>>16972735
>the point is for it to be bad?
i like those amateur homemade stuff. it feels more "real". and i'm also much more into stuff with average looking people. dunno why, this whole perfection is so clinical and unapealing
>>16972745
>link pls
>(I deleted it after and regretted it ever since, I've never been able to find it again)
Sorry. I know how that feels, I found some videos where the dude looks like me and another one where the girl looks like my ex, makes diamonds. Maybe make your own? I have a video of my ex going down on me in a really loving and affectionate way, it's a gem.
>>16972751
Us guys generally like cheesy. Subtle hints won't work anyway.
>>16972666
So basically your father was abusive and you don't want your BF to (justifiably) think he's a scumbag? Honestly, I'm not sure that'll work in the long term. It does sound like you're pretty well reconciled with him, though, which is great (it's pretty rare).
>i would like him to be able to get to know him on neutral grounds.
Shouldn't be too hard, just do normal "get to know each others' families" stuff, avoiding any situations you know your father struggles with.
The hard part is eventually telling your BF about the abuse and convincing him that your dad isn't a piece of shit. That could take a lot of convincing (and a lot of understanding on his part), so good luck with it.
>>16972663
Go check out /d/, they have tons of experience. Look through the fetish generals. You sound like you have decent judgement so you'll know which of their suggestions are awful.
Easy things to start out with: light spanking, toys, handcuffs (the SOFT ones you get at sex shops)
>>16972746
what are your intentions? is he bf material or just random hook up?
>>16972752
I definitely agree, yeah. I just thought most guys would be more into professional stuff, at least that's what I got from a few I've talked to.
>>16972753
hmm... maybe some day. but for the moment i don't think i'd be comfortable with having vids of me having sex. seems risky. but it's a good idea. i never was that way, but since i'm with my bf, i need to find atleast something that reminds me of him to get off with porn. sentimentaly much
>>16972755
I'll ask then. It better be something good.
>>16972757
I don't do random hookups but I'm not sure he's boyfriend material. I really don't know what they are.
>>16972725
uuuh.. better not. my bf is shy and awkward. my dad is a real nut-job. he's in to conspiracy theories and likes to hate on the catholic church. also, he has bad agression problems. i wouldn't risk that. my bf might get a trauma
>>16972759
Shoot it POV style and you never have to see your own face. Or get him to make you videos of himself jacking it or whatever appeals to you. It's not so complex.
How about exchanging written fantasies of what you'd like to do with each other? That's a good middle-ground.
>>16972756
>your father was abusive and you don't want your BF to (justifiably) think he's a scumbag?
yes. mainly because i don't want them to have an even more tense relationship than my dad's character is going to provoke anyways. my bf is very protective. if he knew everything, he would probably secretly plan to kill my dad. (i'm not being entirely serious right now).
that's the plan. problem is that there are no situations my dad doesn't struggle with. he should probably be in a mental ward, but as long as he doesn't do any really bad crap nobody can lock him up against his will.
it's just that we talked about childhood yesterday and i could feel myself holding back A LOt because of this. and i could also tell that he noticed. i don't want to lock him out or make him feel like i'm not willing to let him in. dang, i'm making this way more complicated than it needs to be.
and yes, i'm on fairly good terms with my dad today. it took me a long while, but i actively worked on it cause i didn't want it to ruin my life. and his.
I didn't know what else to say so I decided to ruin it.
THANKS GUYS
>>16972766
uuugh, a vid of him jerking off would be freakingly hot. but i don't think he would be comfortable with that. but no hurry. we have all the time in the world and i still got my imagination
>>16972772
Wow, you fucking suck. I mean, I guess you want to die alone.
>>16972772
lmao
>>16972772
ooooh... no girl. wtf. why?
you need to save this asap. follow it up with something like, but luckily, your humor makes up for that sufficiently
>>16972772
You might have fucked it up with him but I think that's hot of you.
>>16972779
Ew, I'm not saying that.
He's not even that funny, he just has a cute arse.
>>16972748
Absolutely.
She's worth it to me.
>>16972786
kek
then why did'n you say that earlier
>I don't do random hookups but I'm not sure he's boyfriend material.
so, can you tell me NOW what your intentions are? so far you have pushed him away p badly. do you want to go on a date with him? invite him over for netflix and chill? what girl?
>>16972792
Just talk to her more famalam, get a bit to closer to her.
Make it subtle, but enough for her to notice.
>>16972792
then pls elaborate on the story so i can help you. how do you know she was interested at some point? what did you do to push her away? is there evidence that she is still interested? why didn't you make a move when she was waiting for it?
>>16972786
So you're a fucking cunt who leads on men until she gets bored of them? Wow, good luck with dying alone and being abused.
>>16972795
Because I was going to let it slide. But then I left it too long to reply and didn't know what else to say so I insulted him instead.
I had none, I already said. I was just chatting. He lives 3 hours away.
>>16972806
I'm sorry you got hurt. But try and be more interesting and a little less angry and they might not get bored of you so easily.
>>16972812
You're kind of rude to be honest. Imagine yourself in his position. You basically are toying with him. Just drop him if you're not that into him.
>>16972815
>hey, I'm gonna flirt with you despite not really being interested in you
>one day I'm just gonna randomly drop you out of the blue
You're a shitty human being and no amount of sarcastic posts on 4chan will change that.
>>16972705
>How much porn do you really watch? As in, compared to how often you masturbate? Also do you ever watch porn without masturbating?
Never purposefully watched porn without masturbating (sometimes have to stop because of remembering some work, visitors, phone call, etc). Most guys will probably say the same.
>Are you generally not as much into fantasizing or just more visual?
We're into both. Guys are stereotypically less interested in fantasy, but that's similar to the common saying that guys are less into creative pursuits, art, etc: largely culture-based.
>I'm guessing I don't really "get" porn because it's mostly almost ridiculously bad
If you're talking about common american porn (shit like pay-per-view "movies" with titles like "Teen Ass Queens 4"), then no surprise there. It's god-awful. There's a reason the Japanese have taken over the global porn industry.
>and I have peculiar tastes.
Been to /d/? Something for all of us weirdos there.
>>16972822
I only did a sad face! I didn't even drop him.
>>16972831
Yeah, but you're not interested in him. You said you don't find him funny and you just think his ass is cute. That's all. You don't even think he's bf material and you don't do hook ups so why the fuck are you flirting with him?
You're just toying with him.
>>16972825
Japan has taken over the porn industry? I thought all they do is tentacles and vaguely pedophilic stuff.
>>16972818
How am I toying and dropping?
I did a sad face and said he had a nice arse. And I asked for help with what to say.
>>16972843
What are your plans for him? Do you wanna hook up with him? Do you want a relationship with him?
If you answered "no" to both then you're toying with him. You know it's not going anywhere but you continue to lead him on and give him false hope.
>>16972845
I don't have plans for him. I try not to make plans in my head for everyone I have a conversation with because I'm not completely mental.
>>16972859
So why are you flirting with him? You do understand you're showing him signs that you're interested? Seriously, are you that fucking dumb? You ask us to help you with the guy. Why? Did you need our help with a normal conversation with a guy?
Seriously. Are you into the guy or not? If you're not, stop behaving like you are.
>>16970862
D) Arrest my feelings long before it gets to that point.
>>16971182
No. Well, I make fun of everyone but not particularly you.
>>16971640
~10kg
>>16972133
Nah. Not often and not elaborate ones anyway, more like "hey that'd be neat" if I hear about my friends getting married.
>>16972567
Immaturity. Especially in the form of tantrums/deflection. I'm not getting together with someone I fucking have to raise.
>>16972666
Keep shut about it until he's gotten to know him then.
>>16972705
To be honest most of it is such shit I stick to pics I can flip through.
>Are you generally not as much into fantasizing or just more visual?
It's possible to get off without visuals but doesn't feel as good and takes longer.
>>16972863
Maybe I am completely retarded. Can you show me where I flirted in the screenshots I posted? Because I don't see it.
>>16972839
They've filled most niches that doesn't have a strong local competitor, for example they've largely monopolized the 2D market, most western companies are dead or dying (eg playboy).
Live-action video porn is still a western stronghold, not sure why the japanese haven't managed to gain much market share. Probably have a hard time finding good actresses with good enough english to make it plausible, plus I hear the censorship laws are harsh.
>>16972649
>Be creative.
Ve vill buy another monitor.
>>16972874
I think you are completely retarded. I assumed you were flirting with the guy cause you asked for our help. If you need our help with just a normal conversation, then you need to eliminate yourself from the gene pool you daft cunt.
>>16972881
So reading between the lines here, are you saying you couldn't find where I flirted?
>>16972892
No I didn't. Why in the fuck did you need our help then?
>>16972133
lolno
>>16972152
>growing old with somebody you love
DO WANT!
No kids, though.
>>16972901
Because I just wanted to prove to myself again what a useless bunch of spackers you lot are.
It killed 20 minutes though, so it's all good.
>>16972439
Bump.
Is it because it's hard to know what to do or because you don't want to help?
>>16972705
Well porn and male sexually in general is a very base thing. We see something attractive and can masturbate to it because it makes your dick hard.
I don't watch it without masturbating. It's hard to find good porn though. Most of it is fantasizing though. It's either self inserting or its just an ignition thing. I've recently found that if there's an actress with fairly short hair I can squint and convince my brain I'm looking at an old crush. It's pretty nice. It's not that I couldn't fantasize about her it's that it takes a lot more time to convince myself that way and it's generally more difficult to do.
It does feel a lot better than masturbating to actors.
Swanky af
>>16972912
Lol gtfo you indecisive cunt. You don't know what you want with this guy so why would we?
>>16972943
>I'm not flirting with him at all
Gtfo you mental bitch
>>16972915
Because you posted /r9k/ as where the post originated from. Just stop going on that cancerous board and you'll be a lot better.
And as far as your issue is concerned, a friend of mine was in the same situation as you. He just tried it, and he's been with her for the past 2 years.
>>16972950
>>16972953
So easy.
>>16972953
If you wanted my kik all you needed to do was ask.
>>16972133
Yeah I think about that all the time. But never the shallow how things fit together. It's more every day life and how she'd react in situations far down the line. It's obviously just speculation, but it tends to be fairly realistic.
I wouldn't tell anyone about it though because it's far too intimate to share. I want to grow old with someone though.
>>16972152
>guys don't actually want these things
That has changed because marriage as an institution isn't romanticized as much as it was before. Also most people have parents that aren't perfect. Doesn't help that the risks are huge for a guy, attempting to defend yourself (prenup) is frowned upon. Also note a prenup can have pretty much any terms in it. It can even be favorable to the wife. It's altering the consequences of divorce simply.
There's just so much negativity surrounding it. I'l happily marry someone I love still, it's just that I feel it requires a lot of time before I can. For bad reasons.
I think that's why.
>>16972960
/r9k/ is just passive entertainment. Not sure it'd say much about me that I go there considering my use of the board.
>just do it
Do you know how he did it? I wouldn't have a problem calling her up if I just had her number. It's the path to get the number that worries me.
>>16972943
So wait, do you like the guy or not? I'm confused
>>16972797
I will do my best, but first of all I will make myself aware of how I need to act. I'm trapped in the mindset of a single man.
>>16972800
Both 22 now.
We didn't have contact since high school graduation and that was about 2 1/2 years ago.
I was immediately blown away. She came up to me and we talked for hours and kept talking when we left the reunion and went to a club. We just enjoyed our company.
When she came up to me, her first words were a compliment about my hair and the question "What about your love life?" which kind of scared the hell out of me as I had nothing to show - I ended my last relationship after it turned out that we weren't working right when High School ended and hadn't had anything after that. At that point I didn't realize that she didn't mean to mock me. It was my standard reaction though. I'm somewhat afraid of relationships.
We continued to write via text every day and met several times afterwards with some old school friends (that circle of friends seemingly reconnected instantly).
Whenever we met, we had a great time and were focused on each other.
Well, yeah. I didn't get the hints she threw out and was stuck with thinking that she'd never have any interest in me. I just treated her as a friend and I made that clear to her, because I was so sure that my feelings would just ruin the newfound friendship.
That was until one week ago when she seemed distant and somewhat disappointed.
I later asked a mutual friend what was up and she just said "Well, she thought that there might be more between you two, but it doesn't look that way, huh?".
I fear that I may have fucked it up, because I was so sure that I had no chance
She hadn't had a relationship since High school as well and I fear that she may not open up again. She has been hurt badly last time and I'm not the best with emotions and showing people what I feel.
Opening up to someone was very unusual for her ... for me as well, I guess.
We'll see each other again next weekend.
>>16972992
Was quite a while, but i mostly recall it.
He invited her one evening to walk around and talk for a bit, made her laugh and overall it was a pleasant experience for her. He subtly gave her a couple of hints and it worked out just fine.
Pretty sure she realized he was into her at that point and from that point i only remember smooth sailing. (Alcohol isn't a fun thing in the long run)
>>16973015
Good famalamas, now that you see the problem and are willing to do your best then it's all well.
Now you gotta figure out a way to approach this, if you're going to meet somewhere next week just strike a conversation with her and try to make it a good experience for her and then a day later try to continue via text.
>>16973032
Yeah ok. Forgot to include that we don't live close to each other anymore. It's among the replies.
>>16973032
Well, I hope that I don't flake out.
Right now she doesn't even write back regularly.
New thread needed!
>>16972133
Or course
>>16972739
pls respond
Man, I hate that I'm so irrational over this at the moment.
>>16973305
Talk to her, ask her out. What's the worst that can happen?
Girls,
Is it normal for a girl to actually not be sure about what she feels? Last summer she showed interest and we spoke for an hour or so but I ended the chat and that (I found this out a few months ago, we've been talking since december now) apparently annoyed her. That was when she admitted she showed interest in me. How I found it out was just a "I like you" "well i really like you too" type of shit - sounds cringy but we've sort of just met.
Anyhow, fast forward to now and after I said that I feel more than simple liking she said it got weird later on because she's /not sure/ if she feels the same and that's making it unpleasant for her - the fact that I said my feelings openly and she didn't.
She had issues with other people(guys) so what I understand she doesn't WANT to feel anything because she's afraid that might happen again. She also noted that she likes being alone, simply not caring about anyone else but yourself.
Any tips or should I just leave it at 'just good friends' type of thing? I can easily get over that thing (and pretty much have), just that she's a fucking awesome person, is beautiful, has a great personality and is great to talk to, so I wouldn't want to end a friendship like that.
guys and girls, why would you call a girl cute all the time?
I literally cannot go a day without someone calling me cute, and it pisses me off.
If I do or try anything, period, if I get drunk, I get called cute. Are they just trying to make me feel better?
Sorry if this is a stupid question, it's just fucking with me since I don't get taken seriously when I'm trying to flirt.
>>16973674
Sounds like you're just cute.
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