There's this guy I've been dating for a couple weeks, he's pretty virginy, he's pretty skinny and his friends are beta as fuck but I think he's quite masculine without being a dick. Recently I replied to him with 'yes sir', I don't know why, I'm just awkward. He said that he liked it and I'm worried that he is into some weird BDSM stuff mostly because he doesn't speak to his father and his older sister is really into that kind of stuff. Basically I can't figure out if he's just a horny virgin or if he really wants to be like a dominant 'daddy' figure. Pls help.
If it's that important to know, just ask the guy.
>>16952739
Hahaha I second this. Don't be afraid, it's only your physical safety at stake
You should get out of the beta VS alpha train of thought, that is a really shitty way to view guys and is extremely unfair for the long term. Instead of freaking out about what he might like why don't you just take it as flirting until you are comfortable to talk and learn more. All he said was that he liked it, he didn't push or get rapey, so I don't get what your deal is? I don't know why this question is even here or why you know what his older sister is into.
The whole dominant/submissive thing is extremely common, but doesn't equal "daddy" stuff. Just thought I'd clear that up. I actually think some elements of it (like spanking) are done by the majority right now.
>>16952754
I second this. It's really bullshit. I meant is true here are some guys that are wimps and doormats but it's very rarely black and white and that's a really bad way to look at guys in general. But just ask the guy I guess. And if he is a virgin just fuck him all guys are virgins at some point.
>dating for a few weeks
>no sex
You are both 16 right?
Ok, maybe I jumped to conclusions but I didn't call him beta and I didn't say being a virgin was a bad thing. I think he's really cute but I don't want to say that to him because I don't want him to feel emasculated. I just want to know how he wants to play this, as in, does he want to be dominant or does he want to play the horny virgin. I am fine with either because I really like him. I'm just worried that he would prefer to take on an unemotional, authoritative, father-like figure, that's all.
>>16952850
Just let whatever happens happen. :) Fuck it. But a good kind of fuck it.
The yes sir thing is hot as shit, don't worry about it.
>>16953052
I would hate being addressed that way by my girlfriend.
>>16952850
>does he want to be dominant or does he want to play the horny virgin.
simply ask him! asure him that either answer is ok and maybe word the horny virgin thing a bit more friendly. also what if he wants to play one thing at one moment and the other the next? my gf and i switch roles all the time!
