Virginity
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hey /adv/
I'm an eighteen year old virgin, but I don't want to be. I don't even really crave sex, I just don't want to be the only virgin in my class anymore.
Is it worth waiting for a boyfriend or should I just hook up with someone from Tinder? I don't really know whether or not I should do either. What are your thoughts?
>losing your virginity with a hooker instead of with someone you love
>>16930637
I'm not one of those "it will be SPECIAL!!" girls who wait until she meets the "man of her dreams". I just don't wanna be a virgin anymore, but I don't know what to do about it.
>>16930636
There's no rational reason to go get boned by a stranger. Your eventual boyfriend may well appreciate you not hooking up with a random loser.
>>16930642
>I just don't wanna be a virgin anymore
lmao nice sheep mentality
im calling op master b8
>>16930636
>I'm an eighteen year old virgin, but I don't want to be.
huh why's that? you want sex?
>I don't even really crave sex,
then you don't want to have sex, you're confused
>I just don't want to be the only virgin in my class anymore.
Bingo. You're about to do something you otherwise wouldn't want to do because you are feeling social pressure. Don't be a dumb little cunt. If everyone else in your class was a lardass, they'd make fun of you for being a skinny bitch. If you feel social pressure to get laid even if you don't desire sex, it's because lots of other people have already made that mistake and are trying to rationalize their decision by pushing you to follow them down the same road.
why don't you want to be a virgin anymore?
OP is a lame normie
>>16930636
Without being overly romantic or soppy, it really would be best if your memories of your first time were of something pleasant, not just getting-it-out-of-the-way.
>>16930653
I hate being a virgin. It's so lame. I want to get laid before I finish school.
>>16930649
It's hard to not feel left out when everyone you know has been laid at least twice. Literally everyone in my class, but me.
>>16930644
I guess.
>>16930636
>I just don't want to be the only virgin in my class anymore
You probably aren't. For all the stereotyping, 18-year-old virgins are still pretty common, for a wide variety of reasons.
>>16930660
your friends are insecure bitches who will someday brag about getting drunk on Aristocrat. You might decide to try that too, and it'll suck ass just as much.
>>16930636
You're gonna have your first time only once. Make it count. Do fall for peer pressure, it's no ones business to know if you're a virgin or not.
As you said, you don't want to have sex so just wait.
>>16930671
I don't not want sex, I just don't actively crave it.
>>16930636
I fucked two virgins before I settled down and got married to my wife, also a virgin.
It's kind of satisfying knowing I got to enjoy their bodies first. And their boyfriends can't do shit about it.
Just being real with you cupcake.
>>16930683
huh?
>>16930691
huh?
>>16930692
huh?
>>16930700
huh?
>>16930636
wait for a boyfriend, dont ruin your first time just for peer pressure
he doesnt have to be perfect but dont just do a random hookup and start off with a messed up sex life right from the beginning
>>16930636
Don't be trashy and don't fuck trash
>>16930636
Ask your dad if he'll do you a favor and diddle you. He doesn't count.
Definently wait for a boyfriend.
t. Chad
>>16930636
>If girls wait - its sexy and pure
>If guys wait - fucking beta pleb virgin
>Double standards
>>16930636
Just wait. If you're attractive as a whole person, you'll meet someone eventually. Are you still in high school? If you go to college, things will be different. If not, you will probably meet someone in the real world eventually. And I can almost guarantee it'll be better than any high school relationship you could've had...as will the sex.
>>16930881
If girls have sex they are whores
If guys have sex they are praised
>double standards
>>16930636
Don't just throw it away. It might not seem like a big deal now, but trust me it doesn't feel good having sex with someone you don't care about and aren't really attracted to. Just wait.
>>16930636
>the only virgin in my class
Unless you actually know the sexual status of every single person in your class, I very highly doubt this is the case. Maybe in ten years, but fucking 18? That's still young, the majority may no longer be virgins but I can almost guarantee you aren't the only one.
Also, if the thought of being virgin troubles you so much purely based on the social stigma (which isn't even negative for females) even though you're not even interested in sex, you have bigger problems. Stop caring so much about what people think about you, faggot. Or you can just go fuck a stranger, good luck with the disgust you'll feel later.
>>16930636
I SEE A NIPPLE.
GET THIS GAY SHIT OFF MY BABY BLUE BOARD
>>16930889
nope. its the amount in the case of women (not the fact that they have sex). Virgin is a status (no grey area).
>If girls have sex instead of working, studying, etc. Only party, only sex with strangers all the time, take on no responsibility. Potential whore.
>If guys are virgins. They are considered weak, beta and undesirable. Sex is considered essential to be considered an adult. Ergo guys who want to wait = beta kids
>>16930951
Guys who could get laid but choose not to aren't chastised where I'm from. But if you really want to get laid but just can't, then yea, you're gonna catch some flak. Stop being so bitter bro, this is literally the one aspect of life where guys still have the long end of the stick.
>>16930951
>>16930975
Adam corolla pointed out this cuts the opposite way with gay experimentation.
>chick kisses another chick at a party: she's just messing around and is super cool and sexy. Says nothing about her sexuality other than that she's adventurous.
>dude kisses another dude at a party: confirmed faggot.
>>16930636
It's your life.
You choose who you are.
Not your friends, parents or society.
If your not into sex, then just wait until you are. You will be. You will be.
I promise if you let some rando on tinder pop your cherry you will regret it forever, it will be an awful experience.
At some point someone will come in to your life and you will want more than what you've had in relationships thus far. It will happen, so just let it be.
>>16930975
Hardly ever meet girls I am emotionally interested in. Not meeting anything 'special'
Choose to stay virgin (ie not hook up with random chick).
> Get flak.
>>16930996
also dis.
>no homo.
Losing it hurts, wait for somebody you can trust to at least help you out
>>16931049
If it means anything I think its admirable that you don't want to just go fuck a hooker or something because of peer pressure
>>16930636
Wait a bit longer and keep looking for someone you like.
If nothing happens when you're 21 think about a tinder-guy again.
Alternative for tinder: You could ask for money. One problem solved and you earned a bit too.
>>16930660
>I hate being a virgin. It's so lame. I want to get laid before I finish school.
What's so important about getting laid? I mean, it's fine to have sex but why don't you want to have sex with a male you really like. Sex will become even better with him, because you both would know each other and it's more fun because, again, you know each other.
>>16930636
YOU ARE FUCKING 18!
It's not like you're 30 or something
>>16931100
Listen faggot I'm sick of people like you asking why virgins want sex so bad. Because it's hot and wet and tight and soft and everyone who has it brags about it endlessly, so what kind of fucking nerve do you have to tell us to stop obsessing over it when bastards like you happily do it all the time and then brag about it? And yeah I know your responding to the girl virgin, I'm the 19 year old virgin guy. "Oh how do you know what it feels like Mr. Virgin?" Because you people keep fucking bragging about it. rrrrrrrrrRRRRRRRRRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
>>16930636
>20y.o
>Virgin
>not giving a fuck
The longer it goes, the easier it is
>>16930636
>Female
>Is worried about being a virgin
You can get laid whenever you fucking feel like it. So, don't worry about it too much.
>>16931145
Tonight I will go home. My girlfriend has a big round cushy ass, but she will have pants on. I will remove those pants and slide my cock into her nice, tight slippery pussy while she bends over the side of the couch and moans and I manhandle the fuck out of her buttcheeks. After I pump her for a while I'll dump my load into her, then we'll cool off and kiss. She'll giggle and ask me for something to tuck between her legs so it doesn't make a mess in her panties.
u mad?
>>16930660
Girl here, i didnt have sex till i was 18 with my first bf. He was a virgin too though.
How could you possibly know that everyone in your class has had sex. I know for a fact that some of my classmates said that they had sex but really didnt. You cant possibly know everything about everyone. Its just stupid to lose your virginity cause other ppl are doing it. This is exactly why we got babies having babies. Smh
>>16931252
My urge to rape is definitely going up.
>>16930636
What's the point? are you retarded or a troll? You are saying "I want to fuck a stranger on internet so I can say I'm not a virgin anymore"
Is like you deserve to find a serial killer. At this point you should simply lie and say to the gurls of the grup that you are no virgin anymore, you can use amateur porn video to have experience and tell them how sex it is.
>>16930701
Huh?
>>16930636
If you have sex now you'll just be another bimbo slut. Nothing special. Cunts like her are a dime a dozen. You'll destroy any chance you have for future love and happiness, because you'll just be a used up cunt no good man will want. Note that I said "good man;" you'll obviously be able to fuck thousands of random idiots, and you undoubtedly will. The act will change you, and it will change you for the worse. Your ability to pair-bond will lost forever, and statistically you will be highly likely to get divorced, that is if you ever find a man stupid enough to marry you.
Anyway, though, have fun tonight. Be sure to ask your Tinder date to blow a wad of jazz in your face. It's a beautiful experience you'll cherish forever.
>>16931860
Fuck off of more girls were sexually open and fucked with literally anyone then guys like me wouldn't have to be a virgin. And what you think a cream pie is some beutifal act compared to a facial?
>>16930636
OP, I was in your shoes too. Especially going to an all girls school and you know everyone but you is fucking their boyfriend, it sucks. But trust me it's worth the wait.
>>16930636
>What are your thoughts?
You're giving in to peer pressure. Learn to stop caring about other people's thoughts. They do not control you and never will.
>>16930881
Yep, that's how the world works.
>>16931139
Not OP
>30-something
>Virgin
Why do I have to be so afraid of getting someone pregnant or an STI? (That is, if I could even find a girl I find attractive on all levels and vice versa and we'd want to fuck like the species depends on it.)
There is literally nothing wrong with being a virgin. If you're the type of person that lets peer pressure influence you then you're not mature enough to handle a sexual relationship and shouldn't bother until you're older.
Watch Little Darlings, it's funny and deals with the same issue you have.
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>>16930636
>Single girls looking for a boyfriend boast their virginity as a good thing
>Meanwhile I can't say shit about being a virgin
>>16930636
Don't do it. Wait for what feels right. I imagine being a virgin is better than regretting your first time.
I'm what some refer to as a ' born again virgin.' Sex without trust and love sucks. A real relationship is worth the wait.
>>16930636
This really made me sad to read. I really hope you don't just fuck some guy you don't even love for this ridiculously stupid reason.
>>16931145
I dunno m8 I'm 23 and a virgin but I don't have this obsession you seem to have. It's just warm meat until you get an emotional connection anyway. Stop trippin.
>>16932231
Why would anyone want an emotional connection? Fuck the meatholes.
OP, I was in your position when I was 16. I didn't want to be a virgin anymore- it felt limiting. I thought about forming a meaningful relationship with someone first, but decided that at my age, ultimately it was more likely to end the same year than result in marriage or anything like that.
So I went to a party and fucked a random hottie. I've never regretted it. I'm glad I lost my virginity that way. It was really fun and felt great. There was also no heartbreak of being dumped by/breaking up with my "first". Having sexual experience also made subsequent relationships easier.
>>16932209
oh boo hoo
sex is fun, dont be such a fucking drag. life doesnt have to be like the Notebook
>>16932617
That's exactly what I wanna do. Thanks for actually getting my point, unlike everyone else on this board
>>16930636
Well virginity doesn't really exist nor does that actually change who you are so it really doesn't matter. It's not real so just live your life and if you want to have sex because sex is pleasurable then do it but the idea of losing your virginity is silly because it doesn't exist
>>16932884
>virginity
>not real
but there is a period of you life in which you haven't had sex and a period past the point where you had
>inb4 "sex isn't real"
/pol/ gtfo
>>16930889
If a lock opens with any key, its a shitty lock.
If a key opens any locks, it's an amazing key.
>double standards
>>16930668
This, to guys, virgins are valuable as fuck, it's a good thing, I'd rather be w a tight virgin who I know is not a disgusting slur any day! Your bitch friends might just be teasing and making fun of you or making you feel bad just because they're sluts and couldn't contain themselves and you look better than them
Don't do it if you don't really feel the need to. I mean yeah sex is pretty awesome, but don't have it with some one night stand chad just because you feel like you need to, if you find a guy you want to be in a relationship w, he will find you a million times more valuable, and it will be much better when you lose it.
>>16930683
this adheres to the teaching of Confucius.
>>16934640
My friends don't tease or pressure me about it at all, though. Literally they just mention it once or twice and I feel worthless for not even having sex at all yet. I mean if they can find ways to be laid, and I can't, what sense does this make to your argument that guys love virgins?
>>16935527
It's sad that you've reached legal adulthood and this is still such a pressing concern to you. I get it though, it could provide some true relief to a person like you. Just like getting a pair of Ugg boots or whatever only because all your friends have them. If you don't see value in preserving your virginity for someone who doesn't see you as a hole to stick their junk in, I suggest you lose it. I'm sure if you told your friends (and they truly were your friends) they wouldn't laugh and abandon you but be something like "oh my god are you serious? Oh my god there's this party at Chad's place on the weekend we're so going there and hooking you up with a juicy big dick don't worry baby gurl we got this. I can't believe you never told us before!" instead.
I'm one of the guys who would be absolutely delighted to find out a girl I like a virgin, but that's mostly because I'm a virgin as well. Especially if it's a shy, socially awkward girl who can't hold a conversation and whines about social anxiety and shit - and the way they lost their virginity was by going to a bar/party with friends, getting drunk and waiting for a guy to approach them. That's literally human trash. But it's not like you're on my fuck queue, so I genuinely suggest you take your chances and fire up Tinder or whatever.
>>16935666
No-one on this board gets it: its not being laughed at/cut out of my group that concerns me! It's literally just that I am the only virgin amongst the people I know and that personally makes me feel left out. How many times do I have to explain this? :/
A friend of mine is actually trying to set me up with someone, though, although I haven't heard any news on that area recently.
Everyone on this thread keeps saying guys like virgins; if that was the case I doubt I'd even be one anymore.
>bullshit detected
>>16935677
Yes, you feel left out just like you would if all your friends had Ugg boots and you didn't, even though they'd probably barely notice it. Ok, so you're openly a virgin? You carry around a sign that says "I'm a virgin"? If not, guys have no way of knowing you're one.
>troll thread detected
>>16935719
>they'd probably barely notice it
>they'd
Again, it's not about impressing/fitting in with a certain bunch of people. I don't care what they think about what I'm doing. I literally find it frustrating that I'm a virgin and they're all not. It's irritating, because I feel like a degenerate for being the ONLY PERSON IN THE GROUP WHO IS A VIRGIN.
>openly
Of course not.
...I guess that makes sense, then.
>troll thread
Please. I have so many better things to do than waste time trolling on 4chan. I came here for advice.
>>16935761
>I literally find it frustrating that I'm a virgin and they're all not.
That's literally what wanting to fit in means. I was just underlining the fact that your friends don't care. It's an immature reason to pursue anything. If you let your frontal lobes develop for a few more years, you'd understand :)
Sorry if I come off too harsh by the way, I'm a nice person outside of 4chan. I just do what everyone else is doing here because I'm WEAK. Just like you are for wanting sex because your friends do it. Is that what you want? To be like me? To be WEAK?
Tinder. Right there, at your fingertips. Do it.
(I doubt you have better things to do, by the way, if this is your main concern in life.)
>>16935527
Believe me, you *can* find a way to get laid, with fucking ease, you're a woman, don't think for a second you have it as hard as men in this department. Assuming you're not butt fucking ugly or obese you can probably ask just about any guy anywhere to fuck and he'll be down
U don't need to do shit guys will try to get you.
U just want to fuck somebody stop whining that u are not like other girls.
You are a closet slut
>>16935931
Clearly you're not going to listen tho OP, have fun being like every other worthless skank who loses their virginity in a one night stand "just because". Dont ask questions you don't want the answer to. You just want to lose your virginity purely due to curiosity or some strange feeling of inadequacy, once you have your one night stand and start having sex you'll see you really could have gotten it very easily all along, he'll even obese and ugly women have an easier time getting laid than most men
>>16930636
Depends.
Why does it bother you in the first place? Will having sex make you happier? Why?
If you can't answer these questions, then you probably shouldn't go cruising for random sex.
>tfw 28
>never had sex
>dont care and dont see why anyone would
If it's because other people are annoying about it, there's a super easy solution for that.
It's called lying.
>>16936160
Alright fine, I'll admit it, I just really want to have sex. Happy, /adv/?! Fucking hell.
Lying is such a dry way out though. And I'm such a rubbish liar, it'd probably never work.
>>16936202
lol
>>16935677
For reference 24 year old Male here.
I attempted to have sex with my first girlfriend at 16, she was a virgin too, and it was horrible. We both sucked, had no clue what we were doing, and for some reason it just didn't work.
A year later i had sex with a random girl at festival for first time, and it was amazing. She knew what she was doing and kinda 'taught' me.
By far, the second experience was 1000x better than the first.
Also, to all the guys saying; guys like virgins. LOL who cares, probably weird neets anyway. Just go do it if you feel like it. Its your choice really, and your future husband won't hold it against you if you wanted to experiment and express your sexuality at 18 lol.
Really, the choice is yours, and if you want to go explore, go for it. Just do it because YOU want to, not because of whatever and whoever thinks.
And to all the guys saying you are a closet slut, get real dudes, as long as she aint hopping every dick she sees every weekend she is a healthy girl jesus, stop watching to much disney.
Choice is yours, OP and go for whatever your heart tells you!
Go for it OP, find some guy on Tinder to do it gently. All the virgin promotion here is just rationalization from losers eho are forced into virginity.
>>16937428
Yeah I'm flicking through Tinder cards right now. Being a virgin is incredibly dull, I'm so sick of it.
>>16937420
Thanks for the advice! Your anecdote was great too, gives me something to think about unlike the "stay a virgin!!!!1!1!1" dweebs in this thread.
>>16937452
I didn't see anyone urging you to stay a virgin for the sake of it, just calling you out on the vapid reasons you had for losing it. If you've already made up your mind and only listen to responses that encourage you to lose it to a random stranger why even make a thread? It could be a positive experience, even moreso if your agenda is merely to "get it over with" and not feel pleasure for instance. Sex can be pretty unpleasant if done with the wrong person at the wrong time for the wrong reasons.
>>16932861
wow this thread is still up?
you're welcome I guess. just sharing my experience. if you've had a different experience (which clearly everyone in this thread has) then i can see why you'd feel that having meaningless sex could somehow cheapen your life experience or something. i just dont think my sex life has to be like the Notebook, charming a movie though it is. losing my virginity in a less emotional way was nice for me. it made it clean and simple and gave me some experience to draw from when i wanted to have sex with someone i did like.
>>16932884
this is somewhat pedantic but i see your point, and it makes sense.
i think what anon means to say is that virginity is just a concept, it has no bearing on the wordless, speechless, silent reality. so all the meaning we attach to virginity is artificial in a way, or at least it doesnt represent objective truth. its more a relic, left over from Victorian-era values that have been passed down generationally and don't necessarily have to have significance. it's okay to reject the idea of 'virginity' and all it's implied meaning.
>>16935677
guys dont ACTUALLY like virgins, though some like the idea or fetishize them
being with a virgin is like.... its like breaking in a pair of leather shoes. very uncomfortable the first 10 times you wear them. virgins are (usually) terrible at sex.
im a female who slept around a lot in highschool. it was great fun. im an adult now and looking for something more stable, quiet. i have a cat and an apartment, a career. ive had sex with over 100 men, and the couple guys ive dated in the past few years were respectful, kind, loving. they were totally okay with my sexual history; relieved in fact that they didnt have to lie to me and tone the number down. most people do because its seen as a bad thing. my ex had sex with 17 people, my more recent ex had sex with 36 people. they liked that i had a history as well.
>>16937487
>slept around a lot in highschool
How'd you do it? I wanna be just like that.
lol this thred
>>16937798
>a male posts a thread saying he's tired of being a virgin and asks if it's worth it to wait for someone special
>with good luck, he gets one reply calling him an autist for even thinking that his virginity holds any value
>a female does the same
>100 replies in a day, most of them praising her precious virginity and urging her to save it for a relationship
Well, nothing new under the sun.
>>16937820
I reiterate
lol this thred
