Also, if it makes any difference. I never send this girl any pictures of me. She just sent pictures of her.

>>16927781
Opportunistic cheat. Delete her and everything she ever sent you, cut all ties and focus on your relationship. You've a chance to pretend you haven't been a scumbag so take it before you're found out.

But maybe ask yourself why you wanted sexual fulfillment from someone who isn't your partner.

>>16927781
She'll be pissed and might break up you or she might not we can't guess. Stop talking to the girl and stop being a shithead.

I don't think it's really that bad, you didn't have any intention of leaving your gf or actually doing anything physical with her......... But there's absolutely no way your gf will see it that way, so like the other guy said, delete all evidence and stop (unless you like playing with fire)

>>16927802
>>16927808
>>16927818

The girl lives across the country, there is no possibility of ever seeing her in IRL. I'll delete the stuff and quit talking to her.

The reason I did it was because its just a habit of mine, and my GF hasn't really been in the mood.

So I should not tell her about it? I still don't see how its different than porn though.

The thing is, cheating isn't a yes/no question, it's a scale.

Someone can think sexting is cheating
Someone can think flirting is cheating
Someone can think any contact with the other sex is cheating
and you can go the other direction where you're in an open relationship and even fucking other people ISNT cheating.

The key takeaway here is that each relationship is defined by the boundaries of the people within it, and while there are broad social norms, it's not 100% clear all of the time as to what the norms are or should be. You're in a bit of a sticky situation here because your gf told you that she stopped sexting, implying heavily that this was a boundary of the relationship. You didn't pick up on this until now because you're stupid. Now that you've realized it, you obviously need to do one of the following:

1. stop sexting and come clean to gf
2. stop sexting and hide it and hope it never comes out
3. ask your gf about it, and agree to stop if she says no
4. ask your gf about it, and negotiate acceptance if she says no

The one thing you can't do is continue the sexting without talking about it, because that's rude af

>>16927835
When she said she did, I told her I didn't mind if she kept doing it. She said the guy blew her off after that. And she knew this guy in real life instead of being a random girl on the internet.

So I am not 100% sure she is not doing it. I just don't know how to bring up the conversation.

>>16927833
>So I should not tell her about it? I still don't see how its different than porn though.

From a typical male perspective it's not. But your gf doesn't have that perspective. I don't really see how you have anything to gain by telling her.

>>16927802
>>16927802
This; if you're truly happy with your girlfriend you wouldn't seek pleasure in someone else. Make up your mind and stop half assing your relationship, go for what makes you the happier.

>>16927847
I'd say the implication was still there - you tried to negotiate that it was okay, and she may have dropped him as a pretext to force the relationship boundaries to go that way.

Bring up the conversation with a reference to THAT conversation: "you know how we both were sexting people before...?"

That picture ahahahaha omg

>>16927859
>>16927802
>if you're truly happy with your girlfriend you wouldn't seek pleasure in someone else.

this is the sort of abusive attitude that forces social isolation on your "loved" one. If you're truly happy with your girlfriend, you wouldn't want to spend time with your friends. If you're truly happy with your girlfriend you wouldn't want to spend time with your family. If you're truly happy with your girlfriend you wouldn't talk to the cashier at the store. If you're truly happy with your girlfriend you wouldn't go outside without her, etc etc.

that love ain't real love, friends.

>>16927781
what is so hard to understand?

>so did i cheat?
why would you care really? if she doesn't find out, no, you haven't

>and do i tell her about this?
no, not at all; make sure you leave no traces of said sexting if you wanna quit it, if not just don't tell her

easy shit

>>16927865
Okay sounds good.

So would you consider what I did cheating? If I thought it was cheating I would have never done it.

This is my first normal relationship (my last one was emotionally abusive and short) and I wouldn't mind it if she did it, so I thought it was okay to do.

Whether it counts as cheating depends on who you're with. Personally, I'd count it as a minor form of cheating if he didn't ask first. Not a huge deal, but I'd want permission first, and would be annoyed and a little hurt if I found out he was going behind my back.

Sexting isn't the same as porn for some people because it's interactive. Even if you don't really know the girl well, you're talking to her and potentially getting off mutually, which is a level of intimacy that porn doesn't have. I hope that makes sense. That's what makes it cheating for some.

If you choose to tell her, make sure you make it very clear that you didn't even consider that it might be against the rules until she brought up her dream. It's an easy mistake to make. But I think that if you stop, it's a minor enough offense that you don't need to beg for forgiveness.

I kind of agree with >>16927802
It's not full on cheating but I'd see it falling in the betrayal category. You don't see anything wrong with it but you now know that it's possible that your girlfriend would be bothered with it. Best thing to do would be to stop texting her. If she persists for some reason, tell her the situation is different now. Also what >>16927865 said, kind of casually bring it up. Watch her reaction.