I'm a masochist and I enjoy getting beaten by my boyfriend, like really really hard. Unfortunately it leads to me getting bruised and cut up everywhere. He gave me a bad black eye recently and my friends and family are jumping to conclusions and think my boyfriend is abusing me.
It's simply not true though, this is my fetish. My boyfriend does it completely because I want him to, he's not an abuser or anything. I always tell them it's fine, it's nothing but they think I'm in denial. I don't really want to tell them I get off on being hurt and abused but if this escalates too far the police could be called. It won't go anywhere obviously because I'm not going to press charges but it's nobody likes cops showing up at your house.
How the heck am I supposed to get out of this? I wish everyone would just mind their own business.
>>16906524
Seek help, that amount of masochism is clearly beyond healthy.
>>16906524
Certain sexual fetishes are better expressed in ways that are not violent. You can't just say "it's my fetish so it's ok"- pedophiles are attracted to little kids but they aren't allowed to embrace their fetish because it's a destructive Union.
If your fetish is interfering in your real life relationships, then you need to dial it back a notch because it is getting out of hand.
I suggest you go to some therapy and maybe find ways to experience pain with your BF that don't leave visible or permanent marks on your body
>>16906524
Sign an agreement to it
Like those bdsm contracts and whatnot
Google it
Put the rules and safe words and all of it on the contract too
Jist in case you can show to the police that its your thing and not abuse
>>16906529
This.
If it's starting to seep into your social life in a negative way, then you're taking it too far. If this is someone you plan on staying with for a long time, and you want to keep your family around, you need to stop putting him in this position.
Maybe make a sex tape and share it/show it? I don't see why they're so intolerant. I assume it's not just beatings alone but kissing and stuff. If they see that maybe it might help. Maybe rationalize it in ways they could understand. Most women have sub tendencies so just explaining that you're more extreme than that might help. You've probably tried that though.
It's tough. But I think the gesture of filming a tape where you're explicitly grants permission and you have a safe word and stuff might work. Obviously incredibly awkward. But that's what they get for butting into your bedroom when you're having sex.
I don't think therapy is the right choice for you if you don't have any thoughts that it's wrong or anything. It's superficial damage I'm assuming. Sure it hurts your health a little to be bruised and have to have your body repair that but how does it compare to the stimulation you get?
>>16906529
>Certain sexual fetishes are better expressed in ways that are not violent
Masochism is not one of those fetishes.
>>16906540
>Maybe make a sex tape and share it/show it?
That's probably the last thing she should do, because kissing isn't going to take away the other things that he's doing to her. All family will see is that he's hurting her, and they'll have proof. That's bad for the boyfriend.
>>16906549
Well I don't know what her family is like. I can't imagine them being that dumb to not see that she's into it if they make it that explicit. Currently described situation is that they think he's abusing her. Showing that he's abusing her doesn't change anything right? It might provoke action but as she said she won't press charges. So it's perhaps not the easiest solution, but it's an attempt. Almost risk free, you burn some bridges. But your imagination can often be worse than the real thing.
>>16906562
>Currently described situation is that they think he's abusing her.
He's physically harming her. They're not going to care if he has her consent or not, because that's still their family member and they want it to stop. She'll end up losing the boyfriend or the family.
>Showing that he's abusing her doesn't change anything right?
It's undeniable proof that he is, and so they'll feel justified in whatever actions they decide to take. They can't do anything legally but that won't keep them from ruining his life.
>>16906568
It seems you're assuming they're complete bigots who don't respect anon here at all. Which may be entirely true, important point. But from my POV I don't see my family or my friends acting that way concerning my sister (assuming she had my friends). But I can relate to what has already happened. I just don't see the people I'm close to as being so incredibly unreasonable about this. Projecting is all I can do. None of us has any good insight into their relationships aside from anon.
>>16906577
p.s.
>undeniable proof that he is
Are those bruises not undeniable proof? She doesn't trip regularly. It's the only reasonable assumption to make.
>>16906577
>It seems you're assuming they're complete bigots who don't respect anon here at all.
It's completely irrational, but emotions rarely are. Instead of taking my family into account, who happen to not care about the weird shit I do in the privacy of my own home, I'm thinking about different people I generally know in real life. Friends, co-workers, acquaintances, etc. Your average "normal" person is going to assume the worst, grow to resent the person causing their loved ones harm, and then act out in a number of ways. It would also explain why she's resisting when it comes telling them the truth about her sex life--it's not something they'll understand.
>>16906580
>Are those bruises not undeniable proof? She doesn't trip regularly. It's the only reasonable assumption to make.
Right, but she could be getting them from someone else. I'm saying it would be undeniable proof that HE is the cause.
>>16906540
I'm really sorry man but that is not a helpful suggestion for anybody.
Would you be comfortable filming yourself jacking off and distributing that to your family? Do you think showing them that footage would alleviate their concerns at all?
>concerned that my daughter is being beaten by her boyfriend
>get an e-mail
>video attachment
>me and bf.mp4
>open
>30 seconds of ensuring consent followed by 90 minutes of my daughter getting physically beaten and fucked violently
>phew, nothing to worry about
>>16906616
When you say it like that it's not particularly helpful no. Email sounds like the worst idea ever, I was thinking about a more personal disclosure. And not to everyone at once. Just convert some and let the rest be convinced by them.
Should have made that clear. Thought it was common sense you don't invite everyone, set up a projector and make them watch what you do in the bedroom. Which would probably still be better than email honestly.
It's tough.
>>16906587
>someone else
She wouldn't blame that person then to alleviate her bf?
>>16906524
Just to confirm you are female right? Never know with all the gays running around here.
god no dont fucking video it
There isn't much way for you to "get help" as some people are suggesting. There sure as fuck isn't any way for pedophiles to "get help".
Being constantly horny all the time with no sexual outlet will make you go nuts.
Tell everyone that its related to your romantic life and its private. Get your BF to stop hitting you in the face.
Why would you get him to hit you there, where it is most obvious. Honestly..
I'm so jealous OP, I'm a masochist too and I haven't been able to find a bf that wants to hit me let alone go all out. You're so lucky! He's a keeper.
>>16907077
Try dating a black guy
>>16906732
I'm not really sure whether you're trolling or having a severe autism. Like real one.
Tell your bf to beat you in places you can cover with clothes.
Punching you in the face, even if you consent it, will get him in troubles.
>>16906524
lol females
try to find alternative methods to get him to put you in pain other than him physically beating you
like how about you have him tie you down and feed you until you're so full you can't even move because of the pain
I know a girl who just flat out said getting spanked/being rough in the sack turned her on and that stopped the questions pretty quick.
Not sure if that would work when someone has already formed an opinion you're getting abused.
>>16907060
>visible marks on the face you can't hide
>implying that's not part of it
It's also a very intimate part to hit. Probably the most intimate. Most do ok with just slaps but op seems like a pretty far gone masochist.
>>16906562
He's physically harming a "mentally ill" person.
That's the way the reasoning goes.
>>16907060
>Being constantly horny all the time with no sexual outlet will make you go nuts.
Just masturbate and it goes away.
It might not be the most enjoyable experience if you're not a porn consumer, but even so it gets the job done.
Im a pedophile when i feel like it and lolicon is fine for me.
I imagine masocists could burn them selves with stearine or something to get all the stimulation they need.
>>16906524
>this is my fetish.
Because you've conditioned yourself to like it. No matter how you skew it, nobody likes being hurt. It's because you associate it with sexual pleasure with your boyfriend that it's desirable. If someone straight up gave you a broken nose in the street, you wouldn't like it.
Do vanilla stuff more often, and wean yourself off it, seriously.
>>16907346
>but the same can be said of other fetishes
But most don't result in bruises.
The point is, if you brush your teeth while having sex every night, you'll get a boner every time you pick up a tube of Colgate. Trust me, it's not healthy to mix things up.
>>16907346
>masochism isn't a thing
Nice meme. Sadism isn't a nothing either? Bondage and such things aren't a thing either?
>those are different they don't hurt as much
Doesn't matter at all.
>>16907346
>If someone straight up gave you a broken nose in the street, you wouldn't like it.
But if a stranger groped you in the same way your lover does, you wouldn't like it either. It would be molestation. Actions, painful or not, aren't inherently bad just because we're put off by people on the street doing them to us.
>>16907353
>Trust me
Trust me, "trust me" is not a meaningful way of presenting your point.
>>16907346
>Because you've conditioned yourself to like it
Yeah she just decided one day that pain = orgasm.
That's not something she chose to do.
>>16907380
>she just decided
No we don't know that at all. We know that somewhere a long the road she and bf knew she liked it or pretends to like it. We can't make assumptions that op lies to us. That's just not productive. We have no way if knowing without inconsistency in story. I don't see it.
>>16907419
Yeah okay, Dr. Phil.
>>16906529
Pedophiles are wrong because kids are not able to give consent, in a sense they are not in full ownership of their bodies. If I as an adult want to do something with my body that you don't agree with I can do so because I own my body. Otherwise you get into a nasty situation where you can't do shit. Why should you get to have a tattoo when there are people who see that as defilement and disagree? Why should you get to have piercings if someone else disagrees? Why should you get to eat pork when someone sees that as wrong? Why should you be able to drink alcohol when it's unhealthy?
>>16906524
Date Josuke
:( no qt that likes to be beaten. Ugh, what do I have to do to find someone like op?
