How do I regain attraction toward my boyfriend?
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He's very loving but also unambitious and doesn't take care of himself physically.
He appreciates that I am not intrusive toward his vidya game lifestyle, but what he doesn't realize is that I'm getting bored.
Should I just flat out tell him what's up? I think this ought to be brought up but I want to do it with civility and not just blame him (for being a slave to his just get-by habits).
We've been together for two and a half years, yet just seems like there's nothing to get excited about anymore. We never really dated either, just have always hung out.
Yep. "Listen man, how you do you isn't my business, but I'm looking for a few things from our relationship which aren't there right now: X, Y, Z. Can we work something out to make those happen?" Assuming he's open to the changes (and your input on how to make them), you then give him a little time to put it into action. 1-2 weeks will probably do. That's when you step back and reassess.
>>16852171
Sure. If he doesn't respond, just leave the relationship if you feel he's not a positive presence.
>>16852171
Tell him. Say you're sick of no progress and you think you should leave him.
He'll either wake up and sort himself out or he'll demonstrate how little he cares.
If you really want to make it work, you can try and initiate lifestyle changes. Sitting around all day doing nothing is deceptively harmful for your mental and physical strength.
Don't expect success if you try.