Long story short, I'm 35 (a reporter/writer), shes 34 (a
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Long story short, I'm 35 (a reporter/writer), shes 34 (a nurse), and we started dating about six months ago. She's very nice, caring, gentle and a completelly non-annoying vegan. Also has fucked up past. Pretty soon as we had sex, she mentioned she likes spanking and I did it a couple of times.
About a week ago, we had sort of an intimate discussion about our pasts (my childhood was very violent, but I had a ton of all sorts of therapy and am living my life okay-ish) and she told me of her elementary school fetishes - she desiered for a man to keep her in a box and as she said "do things to her".
Hey I'm a kinky guy, but this sort of a got to me. I'm not scared or anything it's just I wonder ... how do I treat such a woman? Surely lovingly and gently, but since we had spanking fun a few times I now wonder ... I am reading on psychology behind BDSM and things alike, but I said what the heck I'll also ask here. How should i handle this? I was definitelly thinking of talking to my therapist about her.
If anyone cares I frequently browse /tg/. Thatshow I'm on this board.
you need to have a heart to heart with her about your fetishes and hers does she know how uncomfertable it makes you? does she know you have to see a therapist about your past?
yes by all means tell your therapist and how you feel about it, thats why they are paid to listen.
where does it lead? whips, chains and dungeons (oh, my) and safe words etc she may like 50 shades of grey but its not for everyone
>>16851674
OP here.
I don't mind the fetishes themselves. I wonder what drove her to like, to need this.
>>16851688
everybody likes something different, not everybody likes just sticking their penis into vagina. some like sticking it into anus some like blowjobs and some like both. its her "thing" maybe somebody else tried it with her and she got to like it? thats usually how most fetishes start
>>16851688
fetishes can't be explained, they just are
there are just as many people who say "I like being spanked because I was spanked as a kid" as there are who say "I like being spanked because I was never spanked as a kid"