So to get to the point, saw a few links to Lesbian porn on my girlfriend's phone (Looking over her shoulder while hugging from behind.) So now I am wondering what is going on. A bit of backstroy
>Girlfriend of 2 1/2 years
>Not very sexual (She is a virgin, 31 yers old, saving sex for marriage, that's ok.)
>I work as a security guard and don't see her that much.
>When We started she stated: "I don't see the point in watching porn, why look at something I can't touch?" I go with that.
>Guessing opinions can change over time.
I have not said anything yet, I know things can change over time but I would think she would mention something, It feels weird knowing how she reacts to sexy time things. I want to wait to bring this up with her, but I am starting to wonder if I should prepare for the worse. I also wonder if anyone else has had a problem like this. Thanks for any and all advice.
she´s 31 and a virgin?? AND you´ve been dating for 2 and half years??
>>16820467
There's nothing significant to it. If she wanted to be with a woman, she'd left you. She probably loves you as much as she always has, but may have felt uncomfortable with letting you know of her sexual fetishes/interests, or that she masturbates to pornography.
Any advice on methods to deal with procrastination? I have to work on a CV and cover letters and I physically and mentally can´t get myself to get it done!
>>16820483
Yeeeah..She is a waiting for marriage type Christian girl... Not gonna be easy at all.
>>16820493
CV? Try setting a goal for yourself. Tell yourself you can do it.
cv= curriculum vitae (in the US resume)
I guess it´s nice that you´re respecting your gf´s decision although girls are horny man! I am one, I know. Have you tried out foreplay and stuff? Maybe she´s just trying to get the bugs out but can´t really get turned on with male porn bcs she doesn´t know what being with a man is like..?
>>16820506
That's fair. It just seems sometimes she would rather do other things than have sex ( As you can see from 2 1/2 no sex) Foreplay has happened but even thing it does not feel like she is up to it. Seems like she is giving a C Performance. Part of me feels like she could at least tell me about this type of thing, I feel I should not have to find out about this, this way.
>>16820506
Since she's the christian type, it can also be that she feel looking and being aroused by other men makes her uncomfortable.
I think if you´ve been together for over two years you should be honest with her and ask her outright. Maybe it´s a link a friend gave her for fun, maybe she´s actually is into women but bcs of her religious tendencies she´s afraid of saying something, maybe she likes you as a person but isn´t attracted to you.... so many options. Better ask her outright in a non-confrontational way and get it off your chest.
>>16820513
>she is giving a C Performance
To her own pleasure? As in she's hiding the pleasure, or it isn't that good for her?
>>16820537
To mine. In short, what she does to/ for me does not equal up to what I do to/for her.
>>16820522
That is true, there is so much to this. I feel I should look into it more, see what is going on. It was multiple links and I have reason to believe she deletes them from her history so signs point to her hiding it. I might just end up giving this time. Jumping to conclusions won't solve anything. I feel asking her now would just make her hide it more.
..it´s me again >>16820522 , but step back and think about what you´re doing. It´s already gotten to that weird level where you´re getting a bit paranoid and spying on her. No matter what, you´re reaching the "black zone" and you don´t want to get caught so deep that eventually you´ll ruin everything you´ve been trying so hard to preserve. Imagine how betrayed you´d feel if your gf were spying on you and checking your mobile phone behind your back. This isn´t a healthy way to transition to a long-term relationship.
>>16820573
I would be more surprised than anything if she started looking through my stuff and spying on me. I do understand what you are saying however. I have thought about that, but knowing her she would most likely shrug it off and never talk about it again, then things go back to standard. I have been trying to think of a way to talk to her about this but right now I got nothing. I am wondering where this will go if anywhere, it could be a phase, could be more. I do at least want to talk to her about this and see what is up.
As a female, I just wanna say it's actually amazing. Lesbian porn is so much better than the straight stuff. I think your girlfriend might want physical attention and is using that to a seeming as if its wrong. I mean she trying to say that she's not looking at another man in a way that would make u uncomfortable. She just doesn't quite have the guts to go down just quite yet with u. This is how it was for me except I do like masculine features except for dicks so I mean that could be the other reason for her.
>>16820617
Why is it better?
>>16820625
Girls tend to actually different towards each other and they tend to show more enjoyment and they're aren't as stuck up
Girls don't really have orientations like guys do. It's more like a preference to them.
>>16820682
You mean guys in porn are stuck up or the girls fucking guys?
>>16820699
Guys just want to hurry up and at their dicks in, girls occasionally stop and giggle and are more gentle. That depends on a who all ur watching but girls just like the feeling of someone being there.
>>16820515
Yeah, my first 3D porn was straight up Sinn Sage shit. It was more comfortable for me to see other women in action before the dicks come out
>all of this
Yeah, yeah. Listen, let's just say that she wants something that you can't give her. Unless you have a threesome, I guess, but that's supposedly a whole new problem if it's own. I wouldn't know, personally
My GF watches lesbian porn, or at least that's what she tells me. She's never been with a woman and when I ask she says she really doesn't want to. She has might make out with one when she's drunk but that's about it. The only reason I can think of her getting off to lesbian porn is because of how vanilla it is compared to watching a guy ram a girl from behind.
