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>>16788703
Should I lose my virginity to a virgin girl or is it weird to lose it to a girl who isn't?
>>16788703
How do I talk to girls without feeling the need to suffocate myself in their tits?
>>16788728
unless you are a purefag, who gives a shit
AWOO
I'm possibly in love with my friend (hes a guy I'm a girl)
we had an argument and dont talk. I dont really know what to do
>>16788769
talk to him irl, make amends.
saying "i'm sorry for being a dick" isn't hard.
>>16788769
Get with me instead
>>16788781
cant talk irl right now though. do i do it via messenger??
>>16788782
i don't know you and i'm not into pegging
So my family dynamic is a bit stitched together. I've removed my mothers half siblings from my life because they're all mentally ill, and things are frosty with my brother at best among other things. Are these things you'd ever bring up to your partner or only go into detail if they started asking about it?
>>16788799
>not into pegging
Useless
>>16788741
I just don't know if that's the norm if the guy is less experienced or is it more fun and special to lose it with another Virgin.
Girls, is being nice / polite truly considered a type of insult in the female world?
>>16788820
the perks of losing with another virgin is that since both parties don't know what's going on, you won't get mocked if you fuck up.
that's about it.
>>16788828
stop hanging with sluts/degererate woman anon
not worth it.
>>16788769
make up like an adult or maintain the status quo
>>16788804
yes
I'm a straight guy; how should I go about getting laid? I should mention I live with my parents and hate clubs.
>>16788828
hmmm maybe not, but being OVERLY polite can be interpreted as condescending / ironic / belittling
>>16788844
hire a hooker
>>16788833
That's probably a good idea, next question should I lose my virginity to a girl older or younger. I'm 21 turning 22 in July.
>>16788854
what do you like more brotherman?
i prefer older, far less problems
>>16788858
I dunno I guess since I've been young for a while older woman I tend to crush on but at the same time I have had crushes on girls younger. I'm the guy who crushes too easily. I just want to do the normal thing I guess.
>>16788799
yeah that's fine. just apologize and be sincere.
guys
told a guy i just wanted to be friends. he seemed fine with it at first, continued to flirt. saw each other at a party, he came over and said hi then i went and talked to someone else. he seemed pretty angry when he left. saw him today, and he didn't even say hi to me. just went up and talked to his friend. feel like he's mad at me... should i reach out and say anything to him, or should i leave him alone?
>>16788828
There are Nice Guys and guys who are nice. The latter is a compliment.
>>16788887
I'd probably prefer to be left alone in his situation.
>>16788894
well i messaged him after the party and he didn't seem mad. just he didn't even acknowledge me today. didn't smile at me or anything. it was a complete change from his demeanor before.
>>16788850
I live in the U.S., so it's very illegal and very dangerous to hire a hooker especially in my area. Looking for alternatives.
>>16788918
kek
then get a tinder
>>16788887
don't poke the bear
>>16788910
Because you shut him down. If I get rejected, I'm not going to invest any energy into that person until I've moved on.
Hanging out with a woman that turned me down just seems like a painful experience I'd rather skip.
>>16788850
Also, I really like kissing and making out, even if it's only a hook up. I would never want to kiss a hooker for obvious reasons.
>>16788948
I don't care, you sound like a loser. Find yourself a tinder slut or a single mom on fetlife or eharmony
>>16788930
I was under the impression that tinder isn't worth shit unless you look like a male model. I know a few guys who used it irl and they never got anywhere with it. They weren't ugly either.
>>16788940
he said he's fine hanging out with me though... im kind of dating his friend, so if i hang with his friend, i am gonna see him. there's no way around that.
i just don't want him to be mad at me because i really thought he was a sweet guy
Do any guys here just last a long time no matter what kind of sexual thing they're doing?
>Masturbating gently with hand
>Takes forever to come
>Having oral sex
>Can't come
>Having vaginal sex
>Can't come
I feel like I'm ready to burst but I just can't for some reason. It's driving me crazy.
This is barely even a question but...help? Anyone have experience with this?
>>16788957
>shoots him down
>dates his friend
ladess you are in for a bad time
>>16788953
Sorry for seeking advice in a fucking advice thread. In the future I'll try not to make faggots like you butthurt.
>>16788957
Have you considered the possibility he didn't see you? Yes he's probably mad but his life also doesn't revolve around you.
>>16788964
why? i really, really like his friend. but i really like the guy in question. it's why i don't want him to be mad at me.
>>16788969
he saw me. he looked me in the eyes but didn't acknowledge me then talked to his friend about the weekend.
>>16788958
yes
>>16788983
How did you deal with it? After hearing about deathgrip and stuff I've been as gentle as possible, but how long does it take to fix this?
>>16788980
this is a classic love triangule lass, you gonna have to either:
Compromise the friendship and focus on the relationship with his friend
Or try to keep the status quo and HOPE for time to heal his wounds.
either way dear, like i said,you are in for a bad time
One of my best friends keeps confessing his love to me and I have tried every way possible to turn him down without hurting his feelings. Our friendship hasn't suffered, we still hang out regularly, but it is getting harder each time he expects the answer to be different. Any help as to what I can say to help him see it isn't going to happen and to move on?
>>16788957
>im kind of dating his friend
Keep posting, you're making it really clear why he's a bit upset about the whole situation. It's not like he's blowing up on you, so leave him alone and let him get over it.
If he wants to hang out later, he'll contact you when he's damn well ready.
>>16788998
Gotta be blunt, nigga can't take the hint?
smack him
>>16788703
Tonight a girl I work with said I was "so cute" and that she had hoped I was working the other night.
She has a longterm bf (5 years) Am I reading too much into her actions?
>>16788989
why can't I just be friends with both?
>>16788999
so when my boyfriend invites me to hangout with him and his friend, should i say no or should i go? it's just gonna be awkward if he doesn't talk or acknowledge me the entire time...
>>16789032
you can't have both, jesus lass i'm not one for judging age but c'mon now.
this is life we are talking about, shitty as may be, you gonna have to hurt him.
and don't take me for a slut either, i've been on the short end of the stick for a long while now.
>>16789040
so then what do i do when my boyfriend asks me to hangout with him and his friend?? do i tell him his friend asked me out? do i wait to see if his friend says something to him? do i just keep on making excuses?
Ladies:
How would you prefer to be asked out (by an acquaintance)? More casual, or more serious?
>>16789086
don't say nothing, just wing it and hope for the best
Ladies and gentleman;
How do I perform oral sex on a female? I've tried doing it to this one girl, and I retracted after one touch down of the tongue.
I thought I inserted my tongue into her anus. She let out the biggest moan I've heard with her - almost an accumulation of minutes worth of effort in 3 seconds . . .
Problem was I "literally" had to play it off like I wasn't trying to throw up and gag from the taste.
It could of been a matter of hygiene, actually putting my tongue two inches into her colon, her diet, me being a newbie, etc. . .
A married friend of mine told me to slip a jolly rancher into my mouth before doing the deed.
I don't know so much though . . .
tl;dr
>go down on girl
>tastes disgusting (like a dirty butt-hole) <never eaten ass either; just guessin>
>stop 5 seconds in
>try not to let her notice me gagging and wanting to vomit
Maybe I'm a coward, or her vagina was rank that day. I never brought it up to her. Probably going to try seeing her again for Valentines day possibly getting a hotel room so we can bang away and play in the shower without the other 6 people in her 2 floor household noticing.
Do I slip her some vitamins? Take her out to eat anything but greasy foods and fish?
Thank you anons and femanons.
>>16789013
someone answer my fucking question
>>16789012
lol that might have to be the next step...
A girl who rejected me a while ago and currently has a boyfriend tries to get me to show her I still care all the time whenever we do see eachother. Occasionally she'll drop bombs on me like her first boyfriend abused her, someone she knew killed themselves a while ago and it's close to the anniversary, etc.
We used to be friends, and I know for a fact she was never the sharing type. Now we're just coworkers, but after so much bullshit between us I kind of made it clear I didn't want to play the game anymore between us.
Now I feel like she shares this shit to get a reaction out of me. We just worked together for the first time in a while, and she brought up the last time we hung out fondly saying she was going to text me and remind me of it. Then she told me she has been having terrible migraines and is getting an MRI either next Monday or Wednesday.
My question is, what the fuck? Does she want me to break the silence and text her that I hope all goes well and it isn't a tumor or something? Apparently she didn't tell anybody else and she would have because she speaks to everyone else at our job way more.
idk what to think. I'm probably just going to stay silent.
>>16789099
For real though, you have to hurt him. It's the best medicine.
I was stuck on a girl for way too long because her rejection was so subtle. And I get why she did it, we're still good friends and I got over it. But it could have saved me a lot of time to take the hit, and I think in hindsight I would have appreciated it.
Tell him you care about him (assuming you do) but you have no interest romantically.
I'm 5'4" and the girl i like is 5'7".
Do i even have a chance?
She has said a few times she finds me very beautiful.
>>16789086
aaah, dont listen to this post IMHO senpai
>>16789091
You must be the friend
>>16789086
Was it before, or during your relationship? If so so did he know you were in a relationship with his friend or anyone at all? Are you worried he'll grow on you? MMF threesome?
Anyways, really if I were you wouldn't do this >>16789091
. . . be honest with your man
>>16789013
Had an ex tell me my haircut made me look so "cute and adorable" 10 times in 2 minutes at work. Few weeks pass and I tell her I still have feelings for her - she awkwardly turns me down thinking I was joking at first (working at job for 3 months now, hadn't seen each other for 5 years)
Bahh, I've had married women say that to me anon. It depends on the person telling you that really. Gather your skills and courage: Ask the lady yourself man. Be wary though, even if she wants to bone she may turn you down. Choose your words wisely.
HECK YO, she turns you down have her refer you to one of her friends. They probably have similar tastes as her.
>>16788998
Aaaaaaahhh . . . I'm sure your friendship with him hasn't suffered. But I'm sure his relationship with you weighs more on the side of negativity. Try . . . not hanging out with him.
>>16788844
Internet, friends through friends, even going outside as blunt as that is. I've made short conversations with strangers while going out hiking alone, etc.
>>16788998
He's in love with you. He doesn't want a friendship. That's the reality. You being friends with him is going to keep hurting him until eventually you guys get incredibly strained.
He'll say that you knew his feelings, how he was unable to stay away from the woman he loved, and yet you still kept him around, making him miserable around you.
You'll say he could make his own choices and decided to stay, so it's his fault that he was miserable and that it in turn made you miserable.
In other words, the best course of action for you and him would be to separate entirely. Which neither of you will do for your own selfish reasons, probably balancing it out but making you both feel like shit.
How to initiate contact with a girl you don't know?
The only chance I get to see her is walking by her in the dorm and we both keep odd hours (I'm up late and she's not). I've only seen her a couple of times this semester and am wondering if it's even worth pursuing.
>>16788985
lay off on jerking it for a month or two
How to last longer in bed
>>16789128
yeah hmmmm I dunno, you're right about choosing words wisely.
>>16788998
>"I have no romantic feelings for you and I never will. If you keep propositioning me, I will end our friendship"
you have to mean every word of it
>>16789092
>"Hey, I want to eat your ass, would you mind showering?"
>>16789162
think about dead puppies
Girls, do you find most men to be airheads (or meatheads, whatever the male term is)?
It is based on location and everything, but as a male, most of the women I've come across have been morons and I'm wondering if that general impression goes on in the opposite sex too. Probably does
I'm trying to not contact this girl I like overly much. My friends keep telling me I gotta hang back.
But what if she just doesn't contact me? If she's willing to hang out when I ask, but not interested enough to start a conversation, what does that mean?
>>16789248
>playing games
>>16789256
Well, that's exactly what I'm asking, yes. I don't want to. My friends who have more experience than me claim I'll come off as needy if I'm always the one initiating contact, and therefore blow it.
We aren't teenagers, I'm fucking 30. I'm just new at this. At that age do people really play such games?
>>16789265
>30 on 4chan
kek
what a loser
>>16789265
Don't fucking play games. If you want to talk to her, talk to her. If you want to ask her out, ask her out. Don't think "Oh, it's only been X number of days since I talked to her, she's going to think I'm clingy!" or "I have to wait X amount of time before I reply otherwise she's going to think I'm a lose with no life". Say what you want to say when you want to say it.
I asked out a classmate that I became close friends about two months ago, they ask for time to think about it. We didn't talk for a week when it happened since we were on break from classes, but now they seem to be seeking me out more than before I asked them out, but they just haven't brought it back up.
Are they just being passive to not hurt my feelings and keep the friendship mutual or is it possible they might be thinking about it.
I'm kind of accepting that they probably don't want to date, but I just wish they'd talk to me about this instead of leaving me hanging.
>>16789199
Errrr . . . nice dubs but the only way I'll eat her butt if it ends with me putting a tail plug in it.
i'm talkin bout da PUSS SEE!!
>>16789304
So ask again. Explain that it's ok if they reject you, but hearing their answer is important.
Because it is, and it's pretty lame to just leave it unsaid.
How do I not overthink somebody not replying right away? Like we were having a conversation then they just don't reply for like 20 minutes, then they come back and all is good. But in those 20 minutes it's like I run through all the possibilities in my head as to why they disappeared.
>"did I say something?"
>"why don't they wanna talk to me?"
How do I prevent myself from overthinking?
if a girl tells me she masturbates everyday is it safe to say she doesnt get any d and wants mine?
>>16789331
Learn to be ok with the possibility that they don't like you and it'll stop driving you crazy.
And then ask them out, because that's what you want to do in reality.
>>16789361
No, but she either trusts you deeply as a friend or wants the D. Go find out which.
>>16789361
Depends on the girl, honestly. I think its pretty common for girls to masturbate once a day even if they are getting the D, especially if she has a high sex drive.
But if you're talking openly about masturbation, there is a possibility. I personally don't talk openly about masturbation to anyone I don't want to sleep with, but hey, that's me.
>>16789361
If a guy tells me he masturbates everyday is it safe to say he doesn't get any p and wants mine?
>>16789375
Yes give him the P
>>16789372
so i cant use it as an indicator that she doesn't sleep with guys regularily? im very insecure about this stuff and would feel stupid asking her
>>16789398
Then yes, it 100% means she wants your cock.
Now go jam it in.
I'm pretty shy with women and I had a bunch of friends over today, this girl I liked kept doing sort of flirty things like put her arm around me when we sat down and asked if I was uncomfortable, rest her head on my shoulder, kept brushing up against me when walking by, stuff like that. Thing is I'm pretty convinced she might have been messing with me, she's pretty out of my league. Idk girls would you do that kind of stuff to a guy you weren't attracted too?
>>16789414
Was it the first time you hung out with her in a group? If not, did you witness her hanging on another guy like that? Was she drunk?
Ask her to do something with you alone and see how she acts, imo. I usually wouldn't do that with someone I wasn't interested in unless I was kinda drunk or it was a really close friend that I jokingly flirt with.
>>16789414
Guy here. I had a chick do that to me in middle school and I frimly rejected her, but that's because I knew better. I wasn't going to get involved to get hurt because someone put her up to it. But that girl was a total slut anyways and I knew to avoid those.
But if this is an adult woman, you need to consider some things. What kind of woman is she? Is she still one of those immature acting bright blobby girls? Really social airhead? You should really consider how much you know about her and you can get your answer pretty easily. Because there are women that find it fun to fuck with guys' emotions. It seems fishy to me some woman would be doing that out of seemingly nowhere
>>16789433
Nah we were all sober, not the first time but we don't all hang often.
>>16789438
She's, well, sort of crazy. In a really attractive way to me though, I'm not exactly the most sane person either.
>Conversation dwindles down to short, terse single sentences.
That's usually a tell-tale sign that she's not interested right?
>>16789519
Either that or she's busy with work/school.
>>16789519
Yep.
There are two possible situations.
One: She is shy and wants you still.
Two: She is done with you and wants out.
If 1, she will message you once you stop.
If 2, she will not.
Either way is to forget her and move on. You will know how it ends one way or another.
Trust me, bro. I've been where you are. I've rationalized week long gaps in her responses.
And you know what I found?
If waits more than a day to respond, she's not fucking into you.
Let it go now. Don't fucking hold on to hope.
Let it go now. And if she responds, the it's a bonus.
But be the person who is in the powerful position.
The person who cares less is in charge.
That's how relationships work
>>16789532
>the person who cares less is in charge
>that's how relationships work
I understand your meaning but that's fucking bleak man.
For girls:
I'm interested in the RA on my floor, who recently broke up with her boyfriend (it was a bad breakup) and lost a friend. Last night, I convinced her to come party/drink with us, and we had a great time, but I left to do homework after arranging to drink with her later in the week. I heard the night ended with a friend of mine with her in her room after everyone else left, but whether or not they did anything isn't clear.
Where do I go from here?
>>16789524
>>16789532
Context, girl on okc. We were talking for a couple of hours, then she started kinda trailing off. I stopped talking because I didn't think she was interested, even though she sent the last message. She visited my profile again about ten minutes after I stopped talking.
Should I bother starting a fresh conversation?
>>16789546
Get a drink with her and have a good time, or pump your friend for info.
>>16789553
>bother
It sounds like you don't want to. If you do, go for it. You have nothing to lose.
>>16789563
I mean I do. I don't talk to a lot of people, but I'm used to rejection and don't really want to waste my time if this girl isn't up front about things.
>>16789542
Welcome to life.
Never marry a woman who loves you less than you love her.
She should always be grateful for your love.
Otherwise, she leaves you.
Women are especially conditional when it comes to love.
>>16789575
Then ask her out. I mean, right? If you are up front, she either responds yes or no OR she ignores it. If she ignores it, that's a no.
>>16789576
Truth
Girls respond please
Why am I such a fucking loser when it comes to females? I can't be lame if I have solid friends and an interesting career path and things I enjoy to do for fun. It sounds pretty normal..... But I'm hitting mid twenties and never had a kiss.. And I swear to god on tinder, which I've used daily for a long time, shows me nothing other than that I only match the absolute worst looking and most often fat too.... And I live in a busy area with a lot of people and I find many girls up to my standards which I thought were realistic.
I'm so lonely. I'm tired of being alone and the fear of it never changing
I'm 23 already
JUST
>>16789576
But shouldn't you both be greatful? Isn't that the point. Love is mutual.
Girlfriend is a complete nympho and I can't keep up with her all the time. She gets upset at me if I turn her down, usually starts a fight/argument. What do?
>inb4 don't stick your dick in crazy, too late
>>16789563
He was definitely trying to fuck her, that much is clear. I haven't seen him since last night and I'm thinking asking him would just be weird.
>>16789593
How do nympho girls always find guys that cant keep up?
Sleeping with someone who's drunk is wrong, but what if both people are drunk? What if I don't drink and the other person is drunk?
Not really a Ask the Opposite question, but didn't wanna make a thread.
>>16789580
What's the general etiquette for people out online? Should I have made my intentions clear from the start and asked her out within the first hour? Because I'm generally more of a get to know you for several days or weeks first kind of guy.
>>16789585
Who the fuck took the Brandon question out of the OP
>>16789605
I did. I moved it here because I had accidentally created a thread instead.
>>16789602
If both people are drunk it's a mutual mistake. Hopefully you either both love it or both regret it, it's better than only one regretting it.
If you aren't drunk and they are, and you aren't in a relationship where you've established boundaries about this, sleeping with them is wrong.
Ditto if you are drunk and they aren't. You shouldn't make decisions like that when fucked up, and they should know that.
Any pussy eating advice?
From the way people talk, it seems line giving man head is like playing whack a mole vs doing a Rubix cube with one hand and Tetris with the other.
Vaginas all look more different to da other than dicks do, and dicks are simple things. I sucked dick when I was 5-6 and the guy came, shows how easy it is
The girl knows I have no experience with girls or whatnot.
I've lived my life trying to be professional, aloof, and do everything I can to avoid judgement from others. I broke my rule in trying for somebody for a change and now I feel like I'm going to pay the piper. Even if she's accepting it'll still feel awful, it never makes it any better
>>16789604
I don't know, but what did you mean by her wanting to be "up front" if you don't know if you'd go out with her yet?
>>16789598
Doesn't matter who you think you are, having sex for hours every day gets tiring, and sometimes you just want to watch TV or play video games or something. Once sex starts consuming literally all of your free time then you'll know
For women:
I'm 21 in university and want to take things slowly with the girls I like, but in since this year began I feel like I'm taking things TOO slowly. Three girls I dated in the last few months had sex with someone else after two or three of our dates. Either I'm completely uninteresting, or otherwise not giving them what they want. I want to say it's the latter, because most of the people I meet think I'm hilarious.
Am I delusional or just looking for the wrong things in the wrong place, relationship wise?
I have known this girl for about 8 months. I have been trying to date her for the last 6. First time I asked she said that she wasn't ready for a relationship and she needed some time. I told her that I would never be just a friend and that until she told me I had 0 chance I would ask her out every once in a while. She has pretty much been my girlfriend for the whole time but I haven't been her boyfriend if that makes sense. Anyways last Monday I asked her out again and she said yes this time. We kissed for the first time and went our separate ways. Nothing has changed from then, and shes still just as distant as before but she has some pretty good excuses and none of that stuff really worries me.
With Valentines day coming up I'm kind of at a loss for what to do. I have the date/dinner thing under control. But is a necklace too much, roses to cheesy, is valentines day enough of an excuse for me to force myself more into her life for one day? Whats the right thing to do to get close to a girl that wants her space?
>>16789585
Can I please just have one response from a girl?
>>16789621
It's really difficult and annoying to try and keep a conversation going with a person when they don't want to. I'd rather be told point blank that she's not interested than have her humor me with these disinterested non sentences that put all of the social work on me.
>>16789585
You're unpleasant to look at and your photo is poorly taken. You look like an unhappy, weak, sensitive child. Women don't want that. If you were a woman, would you want someone like that? Lose the beard or grow it out, don't wear it short, looks terrible. Also get a haircut, it's too long in this photo. Smile. Smile, you fool!
>>16789633
See this shit right here?
This is why.
Also your standards are too high, you reject women for being unattractive and then complain you are lonely. Apparently you aren't lonely enough, huh?
>>16789628
Overall, it doesn't sound like a great relationship. She's distant and flakey and has strung you on for months and now you're in, which is great, but she's basically still stringing you along? Sorry if I misinterpreted, but damn, even if she has excuses, it doesn't sound like she is putting any effort into it at all. Again, apologize if I misunderstood.
That said: necklace is too much for ~2 weeks of dating. Get flowers. Maybe chocolates. Take her to dinner, dazzle her, have a good time.
It's not bad to need closeness in a relationship. If she's not able to give you what you need, then it just might not be the right person or time for it to happen. :/
>>16789619
http://www.bluelight.org/vb/threads/233767-the-lesbian-guide-to-eating-pussy-%28every-man-must-read%29
>>16789586
Love is NOT mutual.
Women see love as a conditional thing.
They always qualify a relationship.
If you don't reach that level, they leave you.
Men see women as a lower part of themselves.
They don't have qualifies.
Women are under the umbrella of their protection.
But women seek the better umbrella. If you're not the best, you're last. Welcome to being a man
>>16789673
Oh, well now I don't see where you are coming from at all. You sound like a crazy person.
I'm a guy asking girls specifically, but advice from men is welcome too:
How do you factor severe depression into relationships? I've been in treatment for a while but still have a long way to go. I'm socially functional, actually have quite a few friends and am pretty funny, but I'm fairly closed off on an emotional level because of how much I have to deal with internally. Am I a walking red flag until I figure myself out, or can I still make connections?
>>16789659
Why do attractive women reject me? That's literally what I would like to know please
How low must my standards be? I'm not into far girls.....
>>16789673
Stop getting your information on love from the MRA and PUA forums you lurk on and leave your bedroom sometime. You sound jaded and bitter.
>>16789695
hello tumblr
>>16789656
So then is it just my neutral expression or facial features? I don't smile because I'm depressed that people think I look creepy. I want to know if potential is even there..
My girlfriend is flat chested and I want to break up with her
Actually I'm just generally bored with her appearance now
She's not ugly at all, but, it gets fucking boring staying with the same person for years
Dunno how you fucks do it
>>16789659
>>16789656
>replying to Brandon posters
>>16789688
Did it ever occur to you that women are actual people you're capable of having a friendship and a bond with?
You're so entirely focused on looks, and disregarding so many people that you dont seem to realise that a big part of love and attraction is personality and being understood by someone. If you stopped being shallow and gave people a chance you might surprise yourself.
>>16789695
>If I close my eyes to the truth it doesn't have to be real!
It's okay though, time will prove me right.
>>16789687
I think it's for you to decide. If you're stable enough to have a connection to someone, you're in a good place to date.
Like, my brother is bipolar. He was untreated for a long time, and was dating a girl (who is now his wife) who was thrown for a loop when he would have a manic episode. She stood by him and now he's got it completely under control and they are happy.
My boyfriend has severe issues with social anxiety. He hates ordering food at restaurants, etc. It annoys me because I'm the opposite, and I love going out. We compromise and thus don't go out often, because I know it's hard for him and it's something that he doesn't do deliberately - and he knows that I love it, so he'll deal with it to make me happy once in a while. Not all girls will do that for you, you just have to find the one that understands.
tldr: If you can find someone who will accept that you're a "work in progress", go ahead.
>>16789680
>>16789695
I'm not getting experience from MRA.
I'm getting it from life experience.
Women do have qualifiers to their love.
You can't escape it.
A man must always be more than he seems in order to earn love.
It's sad but true.
Modern feminism tries to rectify it, but when it comes to male happiness, they fall off.
As a man you either not marry and be happy, or marry a woman and suffer for it
>>16789708
How come all my friends get girls THEY and I find cute but the only ones that will give me a chance me and a lot of people just aren't into? Looks aren't everything no shit but why are mine so bad that I've no options?
>>16789717
You forgot to mention those qualifiers can change at any second
>>16789713
I think I can make it work, but I'm not certain how. Like I'll talk to someone I like who seems like she's enjoying my company, but then I can't see myself opening up to her knowing that, if she cares about me, it'll make her life harder, and if she doesn't, I'll feel hurt. It's a lose/lose, so I opt out, and then being lonely worsens the depression.
Just barrel through with trial and error?
>>16789730
Yep.
A man marries a woman and in 5 years find pain.
Women are absolutely conditional.
At any point, they may drop their support and want a divorce.
Welcome to mandhood
>>16789741
Its ridiculous
When I ask other men to name one benefit of marriage for the man they cant
>>16789719
You should ask your friends, they're obviously having more success than you at this.
What do you think girls would find appealing in you? Be specific. Preferably mention something they can't get easily somewhere else, like love and affection.
>>16789751
Never marry.
It's a trap.
Women are inherently conditional.
They only thing they love unconditional are their children.
Grant them that and they'll always be looking to exploit you for cash
>>16789717
>A man must always be more than he seems in order to earn love.
If thats been your experience, then nobody has ever loved you for who you are, and I feel bad for you
>>16789751
That's because there is none.
>>16789703
You're thin and hipstery on a good day, emaciated and creepy on a bad day. If that's the photo you're using on dating sites/social media, change it to something more positive immediately.
>>16789760
No woman has ever loved a man for who he is, they love for what the man can provide. Don't feel sorry for him, feel sorry for all of us.
>>16789736
Hmm, I think you should let her decide that for herself. If she likes you that much she'll be willing to let you make her life a bit more stressful. Not to go all fairy tale on you, but that's what being in a relationship is all about: supporting each other even in the darkest of times. My ideal relationship would be one where we go out every weekend and spend time on the town, however, since my boyfriend has issues with that, I deal, because I love him.
Like I said, not all girls will deal with someone like that. She'll be the one to leave if you're too much for her, but you'll have to be okay with that if it happens.
Also, it's good that you're in treatment. That's usually the hardest step. Maybe mention that you want to start dating at your next appointment? They may give you tips on how to broach the subject.
>>16789759
You sound extremely jaded. It doesn't end like this for everyone and doesn't have to end like that for yourself
>>16789784
Tell that to all the husbands who pay alimony
Why is every guy so misogynistic in here? Virgin trolls?
>>16789782
It doesn't sit well with me to burden someone else with my problems, especially if it's someone I want to be happy, but I suppose that means I haven't accepted my flaws, if that makes sense.
Thanks for the advice; I was getting worried I was undateable. I'll ask my therapist, hadn't thought of that.
>>16789806
The Brandon poster is a troll and Pegasus is a widely known troll.
>>16789770
Emancipated? No I have some muscle
Thin and hipstery doesn't sound too hot...
>>16789665
She never strung me along, she made it clear what it was and I made it clear what I wanted. She hasn't been in a relationship with a guy before, and shes dealing with some other stuff at the moment. No need to apologize its a hard situation to explain, and it's had its ups and downs but Im happy with it.
We have been on dates without calling them that. We were somewhere more than friends but less than dating. Close but not often intimate. Not sure how to put it really.
>>16789806
No misoginy here. I don't hate women at all. Simply stating the facts. You don't hear me calling names, you don't hear me saying that they are evil, just saying that the vast majority will drop you as a better option comes along.
Instead you came in here and tried to use virgin as an insult, further proving the value sex has in your life. But hypergamy is a myth, huh?
Girls, opinion on facial hair? I've been considering going clean shaved again, though it would be the first time in years. I look ten years younger without any facial hair and I'm just not sure if it's a good thing or not. But how do girls feel about it, either apperance wise or sensationwise when getting more intimate?
So I think this girl I work with might be into me but, as always, I'm afraid I'm reading friendliness as interest in more.
the evidence
-always strikes up conversations, trying to weedle out details about me
-always saddles up next to me when possible
-follows me into back office constantly, for no apparent reason
-after she saw me viewing a few snaps she made a loud fuss about how she was going to snapchat something, I think she wanted me to add her.
a bunch of other small shit too, she's a beautiful girl but I am literally the only guy that works there and don't want shit to get awkward by me reading too much into this.
>>16789705
I was in a similar circumstance, just end it. You feel like a jerk for a bit but you're just using her and keeping her from finding someone who isn't bored of her.
and then you get to fuck whomever you want after!
I've never really had a close female friend before. Recently though, a friend and I have gotten a lot closer...but just as friends. I'd like to keep it that way. How do I stay a good friend while avoiding putting off any unintentionally suggestive signals about wanting more? Like, it wasn't a big deal at first because being casual friends with someone is easy...when conversations start getting deeper and you find yourself sitting up with them all night talking about personal stuff, the whole relationship dynamic just changes...now I feel like I'm constantly walking on glass to show that I'm a good friend without coming across like I want to start dating.
And don't tell me just to treat her like I would a guy friend because it's just not that simple.
>>16789806
Don't conflate misogyny with dissenting opinions. People just tend to be more honest when anonymous because there's no real chance of them getting laid by that woman, or dealing with social repercussions.
When to wear cologne, and when to not wear cologne?
>>16789820
>you smug fuckin troll
>>16789851
Simple.
Never push for a romantic relationship. Don't ask her out on dates, don't flirt sexually, and if she makes a move on you just turn her down politely.
Will I be destroyed if I don't conform to society?
>>16789900
That's just it, I feel like I have to be careful just asking her to hangout. Like if I wanted to go to see a movie or hang out at an arcade or whatever with a guy friend I'd just say 'Hey wanna go catch this movie or hang out or some shit?' but I feel like if I say the same thing to her it's like asking her out on a date just because of the whole opposite gender thing. Am I just overthinking it?
As for the flirting thing, it's a little easier to avoid but she's just a naturally flirty person with everyone so it's easy to get swept up in that sometimes...again, wasn't a problem when we were more casually friends but after getting a lot closer it's something I think about now.
>>16789913
you are overthinking it, just treat her as a normal friend, though there is a 100% chance you will try fucking her at some point.
Just accept that as the outcome, hopefully it doesn't ruin the friendship.
>>16789923
She's a lesbian, I'd really rather not even more so than if she were a straight friend. I don't know, maybe that's part of the problem. I feel even more worried about putting off the wrong signal to her as a lesbian than I would if she were straight because it seems like it would be disrespectful. More so.
I guess.
I don't know.
I just don't want her, or anyone else for that matter, thinking that I'm only hanging out with her in hopes of getting in bed.
Ladies, what should I do if my girlfriend is becoming mean towards me but she is going through a lot of stress right now? It's tough because
>I want to be there for her, support her, and help take her mind off of these things
but
>It's hard because she's being mean to me and somewhat cruel, and she doesn't even see it when I bring specific things that bothered me to the point of tears up. I don't even want to bring it up because I don't want to add on more stress to her when she's already going through some pretty tough stuff
Another thing is I can see how this would play out of I brought this whole topic up as a whole
>I tell her
>Oh, how am I being mean/harsh to you lately?
>If I bring up certain points she'll say 'I don't see how I was being mean there" and other points are more smaller points added up, like acting annoyed at me in general almost all the time the past few days
>>16789602
>both drunk
typically mutual mistake
>they're drunk
you're at fault
there is also the phenomenon that if you are male, the court system will usually presume your guilt in these matters, regardless of sobriety
Fellow guys
How is it, that girls can make us feel so happy? Like I really don't understand. I've been a closed off person all my life. I never talked to girls during my years in school. And just in general have been a quiet guy. I ended up befriending a girl and developed feelings for her. these feelings are so strange. I will feel warm through my entire body, I get erections just at the thought of her smiling face, I have this desire just to hold her in my arms. I used to think this was all gay bullshit for a long time. But now that it's real, it's so strange. Is this actually ok?
>>16789941
The entirety of human evolution has programmed you to feel that way so you will seek out this friend of yours, rut her and then protect her as she raises your offspring so they can repeat the process.
If that sounds like a cynical way of looking at things, don't sweat it. Just enjoy the fruit of millions of years of genetic labor.
This is to other girls: how many bras do you own? A friend revealed she only owns one bra and me and my other friend were surprised. Is this common? I thought jokes about it were just that: jokes.
>>16789941
On an evolutionary level people want positive attention from the opposite sex. Or at least the one they're attracted to anyways.
The fact this is your first experience with the opposite sex outside of family from what I can tell certainly isn't helping.
>>16789687
figure yourself out first
>>16789806
lot of jaded, young boys on 4chan. also trolls
>>16789941
it's normal. biology wanted us to spread our seed, and keeping a/many happy, healthy spouse(s) is the easiest way to do it
>>16789935
So if you can't drink due to health problems then you are sexually disadvantaged in comparison to everyone else. That's nice to know.
>>16789958
2 lingerie ones, and then 6-7 basic ones.
Owning just one is gross.
>>16789932
Who are you quoting?
>>16789839
That's true, but I'm wondering if I'll always be this way? At some point I do want to settle down, is there going to be a woman that I just can't get bored of or is this feeling exclusive to the entire female gender?
>>16789958
as a guy, 1 bra is disgusting. It a piece of underwear pressed into some of the sweatiest areas.
Unless she is A cup and goes w/o most days that is absolutely disgusting. Every woman I ever dated had more bras than I owned pairs of underwear(10).
>>16789981
Well, I'm not sure if it because I'm growing more disenfranchised or just a shrinking libido(late 20's) but now even with a rather hot girl I can't be bothered to fuck her once a week
My girlfriend is a real fucking bitch and I'm a sensitive artist guy, but I love her. I'm intuitive enough to know that the only way I can be with her is if I harden my heart and sacrifice my identity as a sensitive guy to become a man that can keep up with her emotionally. Would I just be being disingenuous in trying to change myself for her, or is this natural growth as a person and in our relationship?
Girls:
I have a skin condition that means I have two really light spots on my penis, and a red, dry rim. Most of the skin is really dry, too. Doesn't matter at all with a condom on, but bare it obviously does. I'm insecure about this and haven't pursued a sexual relationship since this developed. Seen a dermatologist and it will heal really, really slowly. How do I prepare someone interested in sex about the appearance/texture of my penis without putting her off, if I can?
Am I more or less likely to hook up with woman if I like my bulge show. Like my flaccid penis is huge (6") and it takes a lot of effort to hide. Would wearing jogging pants increase my chances of getting an easy lay
>>16790002
It's not off putting.
Just say "It's a skin condition, not an STD, I'm getting it treated".
>>16790007
Let the tip of your dick stick out of the top of your pants at all times
>>16790007
doesn't matter how big your dick is if your a disgusting, weirdo, fatass.
Ifyou're semi normal looking sweat pants would be over doing it, just get pants with a smaller seat to them
How to re-initiate conversation after getting a "yeah" reply
>>16789989
I'd say the libido thing is a given, even if I'm finally married I don't expect to have the urge to fuck constantly. I'm entering my mid 20s and I'd like a partner now so I can be with them and grow together since I plan to have children, but I get the feeling I'm being way to picky for someone that's lucky to even have a girl as loyal to me as my current is. Not sure what I'll do, might just decide to stay single until I'm in my late 20s and focus on myself until then. I'll almost certainly get no pussy during this time because I'm terrible with getting someone to fuck casually
Fuck this is so complicated
>>16790028
Ask a question
>>16788887
Leave him alone. He wanted more and you said no. Let him (and you) move on.
>>16788998
You've tried to let him down easy. It hasn't worked. Time to be brutally honest. If he still doesn't get the message, if I were you I would cease contact. It'll suck at the time but he'll thank you later (even if you never hear it from him).
>>16789013
Yes. She is lacking in attention. Nothing will come of it.
>>16789113
> stay silent
Yes.
>>16789122
Unlikely, anon. I've had girls taller than me but it was a weird situation. Women are **in generally** biologically wired to want men who they feel can protect them. Normally this means they'll want a taller guy. Not every time, but the odds are not in your favour.
>>16789160
Probably not.
>>16789248
It means "move on." The path of least resistance. Follow it.
>>16789269
I turned 33 last week. You're never too old to shoot shit with total strangers.
>>16789687
This is my life.
The only way I have learned to deal with it is to compartmentalise my depression. My depression is for me and me alone. Other people around me don't need to deal with it. It gets very tiring sometimes but I've managed to maintain a relationship for five years and I'm reasonably highly functioning.
>>16789705
>it gets fucking boring staying with the same person for years
Truth. Break up with her now. The time will come when you have too much to lose to move on. Don't get stuck.
>>16789862
Always wear cologne. It's never bad to smell good. (WTF?)
>>16789904
No, but society will do amazing things to try to destroy you. Good luck.
>>16789941
Enjoy it while it lasts. It will pass.
For all;
Age and amount of years you've been in your relationship?
Bonus: do you plan to spend the rest of your life with said s/o?
This info would help me a lot, somehow
>>16789967
i think the key point to understand here is that you shouldn't use alcohol as a method of sexual advancement
>>16790046
23. Been together 2 and a half years. Yes.
>>16790046
>Age and amount of years you've been in your relationship?
22, 7 years.
>Do you plan to spend the rest of your life with said s/o?
We'd love to, but it's unlikely because we want different things over the next 5-6 years. We're going to try our best, tho.
>>16788957
Fucking broad.
>>16789113
>dont communicate with me unless you wanna fuck, cause youve been annoying me
>>16789160
Next time you see her give her your #, and say you've seen her a few times passing by and that she seems like an interesting person that you'd like to get to know her. It might seem stalkery though, but thats why you gave her the option to pursue. Met a weeb working at the campus library. Noticed Salad Fingers was drawn on whiteboard, asked who drew it, turns out its her, 10 minute convo with her wide eyed laughing loudly and the 40 other people in there easedroppin. I eventually took my book and said I had to study. On my way out I dont think I said more than bye. She was talking to a fem coworker and i nerved out. Went back in 15 min later to try one last tactic. Didnt try givin/gettin the # and regret it. Now though, Im a little more aware when to pull the trigger. Saw her today for the 1st time since finals in December. I feel too weird myself to try acting on it now. Its up 2 u doe
>>16790046
22
single
>average relationship lasts around 1-2 months
>longest relationship was 13 months
>>16790038
>Always
[citation extremely needed]
>>16790035
yeah I sound creepy tho if i do that now, She hasn't asked me anything whole convo tho
Girls
does it bother you if a guys asks if you like him, even if it's obvious you do and you've said that before?
I'm texting with a girl right now who we both like each other, a lot. I know she likes me, I have no doubts. But it just makes me feel happy to hear it. I want to ask her "do you really like me?". I don't know, maybe that is dumb and annoying. But I just like to hear it. What do you think?
Guys, do you like to hear "I love you" from your girlfriend randomly every now and then? We say it every night before we go to bed, but I do like to throw it into conversation every now and then
>>16790123
No, only tell someone you love them when you actually are feeling the bond of love with them in the moment you're saying it. It loses meaning if you say it without it actually being significant
>>16790114
It's dumb and annoying.
>>16788703
start new job, cute girl starts eyeing me up. happens over and over and over, start to think she's really into me
...she has a boyfriend of 3 years. and he works with us. ladies why do you do this?
>>16790114
It's a sure way to make sure she second guesses if she actually does like you or not
Cis white male here,
Why does my penis get sore after fapping 3 or more (@ most 5-7) times an evening? Ive only had sex once and I wasnt sore after 2 - 4 hours of str8 intercourse.
Am I squeezing my penis too hard or something?
>>16790135
Because she's just sizing up the new guy. Doesn't mean she's interested
>>16790143
i started to ignore her once I found out and she glared at me like I wasn't giving her enough attention anymore
i'm not new to a girl "giving you the eyes" trust me this was not just sizing up the new guy
>>16790114
it is lame and annoying. She doesn't know you just like to hear it, it sounds super needy.
If you aren't dating, ask her on a date instead. If you are dating p in v, brah.
>>16790038
>Always wear cologne.
Literally bad advice.
Anyone comfortable answering:
>How long do you normally fuck for?
>How strenuous is it?
>If you/your partner is out of shape, do you go for positions that make it easier?
>>16790157
except that if you do it right cologne works. I agree not all the time but there's something about a girl that smells nice that makes her immediately more attractive. same works for dudes
>>16789825
i like beards a lot, but honestly it really depends on the person. some people look better with beards and some don't. some girls like beards and some don't. i can't really tell you what to do unless you post a pic and even then you might meet a girl that has the opposite opinion of mine.
>>16790133
>>16790138
Thanks
Is being a quiet weeaboo really that creepy?
Girls, just how powerful is the impulse to avoid hurting peoples feelings? Tell me a crazy story about it.
Two coworkers, girl and a guy. Girl offers him a ride home even though she lives in the other direction. On the way there she spots a diner and suggests to stop and get a drink. When they arrive at his place he gets out, thanks for the ride and leaves.
I'm that guy. I took the offer because I didn't know where she lived yet. I didn't let her stop because traffic at that place turns to hell at certain times and it was almost that time, and my place is an unorganized mess in the middle of renovation.
Did I act rude here? Should I have told her any of that? I didn't really think of telling her any of this, though I'm not overly interested in her beyond friendship either.
>>16790183
yes
>>16790183
No. The sad truth is that being quiet means you're overlooked. Unnoticed. People probably wouldn't even pay enough attention to you to realize you're a weeaboo unless you're wearing anime shirts or carrying a daki around.
>>16790193
Don't overanalyze it so much, what's done is done. If you think it was rude not to invite her in or something, just do something nice like invite her out for drinks/lunch/dinner to repay the favor.
>>16790096
I can offer you nothing more than my own personal experience.
Never once have I thought to myself "man I wish I didn't smell amazing right now."
>>16790157
Under what circumstances is it a bad idea? If you're on fire?
And I'm not talking about drenching yourself in cheap "cologne" you buy from WalMart (or any cologne for that matter). But a couple of sprays of the good stuff has never been a bad idea, in my experience.
I suck at tinder I've used it for a week and gotten 3 matches, 2 of which were bots and I panicked and didn't say anything to the other one.
I'm a guy. Don't really have a question just wanted to say something
Girls, imagine you're in a happy, semi-long relationship with a guy. Now imagine all your best girl friends live in different countries than you and him. Then imagine that the guy buys them all plane tickets so that can be with you on your birthday.
Now, is there a particular reason why you'd complain, cry and scream at him because of it? I mean, is it THAT terrible of a gift? So bad that you'd ruin your birthday and his year due to it?
>>16790270
>>16790281
>>16790281
.. No?
I mean, it's more a gift for them. I'd like to have a gift for myself too, even a small thing (a book, or whatever), but the thought is wonderful and I'd love it.
>>16790281
So uh are they actually her friends?
>>16790292
Good point.
>>16790299
Yeah. They talk all the time, laugh all the time, talk about "private" shit together... They do as much as they can together, considering the circumstances. Are you suggesting she secretly hates their guts and I was supposed to somehow know that?
>>16790281
It sounds super fucking expensive, is what it sounds. Why would you make such a huge financial decision alone, for a fleeting experience?
>>16790333
It was supposed to be a surprise. Obviously, I can't discuss a surprise for her birthday with her. Plus, I've got money. Do you think this might be it?
>>16790346
I think it's a possibility, but I don't know how you and her handle finances / save for the future.
Have you talked about it with her yet, or only fought about it?
>In city where I barely ever am
>girl contacts me at party
>talk for some time
>Start liking her really, she felt comfortable
>part for a small time
>end of party
>she walks up on me
>I ask: "will we ever see oneanother again?"
>"Just add me on fb"
>lets me type in my name in her account
>Actually likes a photo in which I was tagged a year ago
>After two lines back and forth (weren't that short), she doesn't respond.
>She may have forgotten. Just askherout.jpg
>Again no response
>?
Wat happened? Chances are small I will ever see here accidentally, but I liked her and would genuinely like to. Wat do? I don't want to be a fb stalker and I don't have her number.
>>16789602
Not just wrong, illegal. You need to tread lightly here not for the sake of your moral compass but for the sake of your life. There are a lot of things in life that don't seem outwardly wrong but can still get you in serious hot water legally.
Women who get drunk have to have an awareness in the back of their minds that their safety may be put at risk.
Likewise, men who get drunk have to have an awareness in the back of their mind that if they fuck someone, it might be called rape in the morning.
Just be cautious about fucking drunk people, whether you're drunk or not. Even if you're drunk too, you could very easily be underestimating how drunk they are or overestimating how into it they are, or blind to the potential that they're a crazy person who will fuck your life up.
Casual sex died once AIDS started killing people, and rape being taken more seriously is only killing it harder. If you want a drunk fuck, get a trustworthy, clean girlfriend who's into it.
Also, don't spy a hot drunk girl, then pound 5 shots of tequila to catch up so you can fuck her without guilt, that's cheating.
>>16790353
What's the time frame here? I asked a girl out, I KNOW she saw the message that night, and she said yes after letting me stew about it for 2 days.
Girl I'm interested in likes pictures on Facebook of your typical attractive muscled guys with short cut hair, stubble, etc. I'm fit but lanky, long hair, bigger beard, etc.
Obviously I won't get anywhere without just straight up asking her out but there HAS to be some kind of correlation, right?
Also, does it matter to ask them out in person or over a messenger/text? I've got far too much anxiety. I can man up but if I can do something not face-to-face, that would be ideal.
>>16790350
We haven't yet. I decided to give her some time before discussing it. I sincerely don't want to resort to V-day make up with her, but I am positively clueless as of now, and I feel like talking about it will only worsen the situation.
>>16790365
Party at day 1, last contact at day 3, asked her out at day 5. It's day 8 now.
Your message gives me some hope though, let's hope it's based.
>>16789851
>And don't tell me just to treat her like I would a guy friend because it's just not that simple.
It's as simple as telling her that, though.
Tell a girl that you think of her as one of the guys, it's the exact same shit as when girls tell friendzoned guys that they're "like a brother." She'll know exactly what's up.
>>16789931
Haha dude you're overthinking it so hard. If she's not even straight, you won't even be on her radar that way, she'll never interpret an innocent "wanna hang out?" invitation as a date. Straight/closeted girls need to be on the lookout for those kind of sneaky 'totally-not-a-date' dates, but I doubt it'll even be on her mind if she knows you know.
Like, this is worrying you because in your mind, two people of the opposite gender being close = romantic/sexual by default. But in her world, it's two girls being close that = romantic/sexual. She's not getting any of those wires crossed with a guy unless he deliberately tries to cross them.
Just relax, you're fine.
Source: lesbian.
>>16789958
2 basic bras, 2 pushups, plus all the daggy pullovers my grandparents have ever sent me for christmas because I'm delicious flat chest and that's all I need if I'm just wearing a t-shirt.
>>16790111
>She hasn't asked me anything whole convo tho
Then she's probably not interested.
Why are most women ugly without makeup? Including my girlfriend
>>16790123
Spontaneous i love yous are the shit. But that's only if you only do it when you mean it. If you drop them after every conversation it kinda loses some value.
>>16790420
Because you're not used to it. During frat hazing I saw girls without make-up for 14 days straight. Average age was about 19. They looked more childish every day. It's the default situation though. People didn't complain that girls were ugly af in the middle ages (perhaps some make-up back then, but obv. way less).
But indeed, by today's standards they're not really attractive without make-up, but what I said is the reason.
I've been sleeping with a girl who's a pretty good fuck for about 3 months now, but recently she's been getting rather adventurous and I'm not comfortable with some of the stuff she wants to do. Stuff like light BDSM with me being the bottom and she's suggesting a threesome with another guy which I don't like the idea of at all.
How do I go back to regular sex or should I just break it off?
>>16790420
Because constantly seeing girls with makeup has shifted your view of what an average girl looks like. It's like in certain TV-shows where they only cast 9/10 people and one 7/10 actor comes in and you think they look ugly as fuck. But they're not really, your standards have just shifted.
Schools for dating when?
Clearly this should be taught to make fuck ups less and less common.
To girls
Would stretchmarks about as bad as this be a problem? Say you got a guy in bed, he takes his shirt off, and something like this is on his body, how would you respond. I know this is one of those stupid questions that are annoyingly insecure but I can't help asking. I have a hard time feeling motivated to keep losing weight sometimes because I know these things won't go away even if I slim up
>>16790629
The stretch marks might not go away but what will go away is the fat. Do you really think it's gonna matter at all if there are a few stretch marks on your rock solid abs?
Girls that are in a relationship with someone with social anxiety, how did you start said relationship? What did you see in your partner?
I have that issue. I usually like to be alone. Im pretty shy, not ugly and very tall (slighty chubby) and I usually dont talk much, but once I open up most people really like my company. The issue here is that it takes months for me to open up.
Guys with social anxiety in a relationship, got some starter tips? Im 24 and I havent been in a relationship since I was 15.
>>16790629
Nah, I have stretch marks on my hips and ass and I don't care. I mean it's not the most attractive thing in the world but it's not a big deal at all
why does this cougar like me so much? She's a 37 year old medical technician, I'm a 24 year old college student wiith a part time job.
why does she sleep with me? i am confused
>>16790755
She's afraid of becoming older, and your penis is her opiate
Enjoy it while it lasts
>>16790755
You're young and (maybe) attractive. Having sex with you makes her feel young and attractive.
>>16790755
i was sleeping with a 40 year old women when i was 19. i have never understood why she liked me. was amazing though. would love another older women as a lover.
>>16790765
Well she did tell me I was a beautiful man last time we were together. the age diff still makes me feel a bit weird but I do like her
Hi guys of /adv/. What would you want your gf/crush/SO to get your for Valentine's Day?
>>16790945
To spend time with me. A small gift would also be nice. It doesn't have to be anything fancy though, bonus points for anything that's handmade or has a special meaning for the two of us.
If it's only a crush and we aren't dating yet I'd be over the moon if they asked me out.
Girlfriend told me she would talk dirty at shit to strangers online before she met me.
Last 4 years she never told me this, so held back and acted shy in all sexual shit we did.
Also says when we first met she stopped talking dirty immediately even though she had been doing so weekly right before we met.
Idk why, but these threads get better replies, i guess if i really have to ask a girl something, why are girls such bitches?
>>16790998
Because girls can be horny too, and some of them get off by dirty talking.
Probably she didn't want to come off as a "slut" at the beginning, or she was too scared to actually do the things she talked about.
Also, no reason why she should tell you what she used to do before you two met.
I'm a gay woman and I'm falling in love with my best friend who is a straight man. I don't know what to say or how to tell him.
We've been best friends for about fifteen years, half our lives really, and we're so close. We've been living together for the past eight months and it's awesome, it's just that lately he's had at least three different women come back to our place and when I hear another female voice coming from his room I get this fucking pain in my heart and I can't take it.
It's been building up for a long time now, and it's like I have only just realized it. I want to be with him so how do I even approach this?
I haven't wanted to sleep with anyone since we moved in together. Fuck, I really do love him, I even want sex with him which feels a little weird but "normal", if that makes sense.
Please guys, what should I do? I'm lost.
