About 2 months ago I asked out a girl that I like. She told me that she had just got out of a relationship, so I didn't pursue it further.
Now, I'm aware that this could have just been a "soft" rejection (although I'm fairly certain it's not an outright lie), but it would tear me up to not get a final answer.
My question is: Is it too soon to try again now? Would it come off as desperate/rude? And if I were to try again, how should I go about doing so?
I wouldn't say it's too soon. Just casually bring it up. "hey, how about dinner? Or maybe a drink?" just don't make it a hard date. The more casual, the better.
Depends on how often you talk etc.
>>16663212
I only talk to her at uni.
Last semester we talked quite often in classes, but if I want to talk to her this semester, I'll probably have to find an opportunity to catch her as she's leaving lectures.
>>16663197
I'm not very fond of ambiguity. It seems like it would just make it more awkward.
One last humble bump.
>>16663197
This
If you say it like "hey lets grab a drink" and she's cool with it, near the end of the impromptu "date" you could (if you found it went well) ask her if she wants to go "on a proper date" and use wording similar to that so that she knows next time you're for real.
Also i don't know how much experience you have with the ladies but dating as an adult is not like dating in high school. You can eventually get serious but for the first month or so it will just be fun dates. And they are exactly that, fun. Don't expect anything serious as that can be a pitfall.
Try again. But not too hard.
Be hopeful. But don't expect anything.
>>16664620
I can see your point, but I don't think this girl is like what you describe.
She is shy and introverted, and quite traditional.
I only bring this up because she doesn't seem like the type to just casually "grab a drink", you know?
>too soon
It's too late. There is no more "try again." The only salvation from rejection is for her to come back around and pursue you. (The general theme is that a girl should be enthusiastic about dating you. You're not a hunter stalking a deer. A girl should either be into you from the start or at least put in the legwork if she changes her mind later on.)
>>16664701
Adding on to what I said above, she is definitely not the pursuant type.
I have been keeping an eye out for any signals that she may be interested in me, but it's hard to say. I think she may be a bit too "autistic" to express her feelings in such an indirect way.
>>16664698
I meant coffee, tea, a burger at mcgonads. I wasn't talking about alcohol at all
