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Should I just be myself or should I censor myself around women?
2015-12-31 09:19:25 Post No. 16625568
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Should I just be myself or should I censor myself around women?
Anonymous
2015-12-31 09:19:25
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I'm 19, and yes I know I have a long road ahead of me, but I want to ask this before I head off to college in a bit.
First girlfriend I had at 16, we got along well. She always reciprocated well to my sarcasm. We broke up because we just didn't have enough in common.
Was seeing a girl for about 6 months, she kept telling me she liked me, but said she didn't have a lot of time for a relationship with sports, work, strict parents and school. I eventually broke it off, telling her that if she felt strongly enough, she would have figured out a way to make the time. No hard feelings, but it's not worth trying to fit into her schedule. Censored myself around her quite a bit, afraid she'd dislike me for my true attitude.
Now after taking a year off, I'm gonna head into college soon with some buddies. One of them said a handful of girls asked about me when I was visiting once. I'm being told I'll probably be taken up quickly by someone. Thing is, I'm worried.
>I've always had a dark and cruel sense of humor. I can be funny without the cruelty, but I feel so restricted. Noticed most women don't take it so well. That's always been my issue with women in high school, is I've even heard from girls that I'm cute, but an asshole. A female friend of mine told me I had a warm heart wrapped in cold steel, saying that once you get past my cruel humor and almost constant sarcasm, that I'm a great guy. I've thought about this a lot. The humor goes well with guys, but not with women.
>I'm worried I'll find a girl, but fall back into that censorship, and then hate myself for never being completely myself around her, and then never feel that I can be. Should I just keep being sarcastic, pseudo-racist, cold humored me, even around women, or should I try to tone myself down around them and actually have a chance at a relationship?