>dating girl for last 5 weeks
>everything is going fine
>have sex and cuddle for hours
>she goes on her tumblr while we're in bed together to show me some picture
>bored the next day and decide to check out her tumblr
>find a bunch of things I don't like after looking through the last 6 months
>feel disgusted with her after viewing her tumblr
>don't even want to see her again
what the fuck is this feeling? has this happened to anyone else? I feel like my opinion of her just flipped a 180
What did you find that's bothering you so much?
Follow your gut but be honest and straight about breaking up
>>16615533
what did you see?
>>16615538
>posts a bunch of slutty pictures of herself
>obsessed with a few male models
>foodporn pictures of chocolate cakes and cookies and shit
>feminism crap sprinkled in there
>tons of posts so she's obviously on tumblr a lot
>>16615562
thank god she cant see your 4chan posts.
>>16615562
The only thing that really stands out to me is the slutty pics thing
like intentional ass or down-shirt shots or just wearing clothes you don't approve of
>>16615569
4chan is completely different, it's not social media meant to connect with others or broadcast your personality
>>16615573
I guess the main problem is the feeling of a disconnect between her real life persona and this online crap which doesn't seem like the her that I know.
>>16615582
Oh man, I know the feeling. My ex was the same way. Mine didn't end so well since it was long distance, but in my personal opinion, if it bothers you, bring it up to her. Communication is my #1 in good relationship.
>>16615562
>posts a bunch of slutty pictures of herself
Tell her you'll only date her if she wears a burlap sack and while you're not hanging out with her spends her time in a tower where no other man can view her.
>obsessed with a few male models
Well it has been 5 WHOLE WEEKS, she should of shut down her sex drive and stopped being attracted to men by now right?
>foodporn pictures of chocolate cakes and cookies and shit
Yeah, what kind of stupid slut likes food that literally every person on the planet likes. You should dump her for a bitch that doesn't like food and only eats pencil shavings and tap water.
>feminism crap sprinkled in there
A WOMAN who is a FEMINIST?? Jesus. That's a huge fucking shocker. I mean what gives? Next you're going to be telling me she has a menstrual cycle and breaths oxygen.
>tons of posts so she's obviously on tumblr a lot
You're a cunt, I think is the main theme of this post. You talk like you've literally never been outside before. Why does reality shock you? Have you been living in a shack in the woods?
Move to Afghanistan or some shit, then you can get married to a 14 year old untouched girl who has no opinions or hobbies or hopes or dreams of any kind. Thats what you want, right?
>>16615582
>4chan isnt social media
yes, it is.
>meant to connect with others
yes, yes it is. the entire point is that we connect with others.
>or broadcast your personality.
were not roleplaying, so yes, it is. it is all those things.
its you posting pictures that interest you, talking about subjects that interest you, looking at delicious food, discussing feminism (perhaps negatively) looking at hot female models and actual porn (dont deny it, you do) and you've been here just as long as shes been there.
perhaps the only thing you havent done is posted slutty pictures of yourself, but ur a dude, so unless you're in boipucci threads theres no point
>>16615590
pretty much this. OP is just the male equivelent of this woman, but doesnt like the same habits reflected in tumblr. what a puss.
>>16615582
>I guess the main problem is the feeling of a disconnect between her real life persona and this online crap which doesn't seem like the her that I know.
I can understand that, but that's because it's not the 'her that you know'. Social media is a place where people front to broadcast a bullshit version of themselves, not their real personality/life. Everyone just hypes themselves up. Pic VERY fucking related.
>>16615590
>>16615591
>>16615593
You don't understand, I know this is all normal behavior for women and perfectly acceptable. The problem lies with the fact that she is completely different online versus in real life
>posts slutty pictures of herself many times
I like that she dresses and acts modestly
>obsessed with fatty foods
We met at the fucking gym and have talked extensively about fitness
>most pics of hot guys
Ok mostly envy I'll admit
>feminism garbage(and other tumblr circlejerk stupid opinions that I didn't mention)
I suppose it's best that I learned this about her sooner rather than later
My point is that why the fuck is this garbage 95% of the content of her tumblr when these are not the things she broadcasts her interests and hobbies as in real life. Why no fitness pictures? Why no snowboarding pics? Why do none of the interests we share in real life have any appearance on her tumblr? I don't understand
>>16615606
The hype she's shown on her tumblr is entirely unattractive to me so it's backfired
>>16615591
Couldn't give a fuck about op's post. You personally however are fucking retarded.
4chan is not social media you fuckwit. You do not post your own photo here unless you are stupid. The entire website is based on the anonymity of its posters. While some people may post their legitimate opinion here, many do not. A large portion of this website is blatant lies or intentionally misguiding information. You do not connect with other posters, that is far from the point of the website. Some people do talk outside of this site but it's not until the leave that they reveal their true identity.
You have no fucking clue and are part of the reason why this place has gone to shit over the last 7 years.
>>16615590
Also I forgot to call you a dumb bitch for your knee jerk reaction
>>16615590
God, you seem like such a cunt of a human being. Like you make me physically sick.
Not even disagreeing with you, you just seem so disgustingly self-conceited and obnoxious
>>16615562
how can foodporn upset you, dude?
>>16615644
>Why do none of the interests we share in real life have any appearance on her tumblr?
Probably because she does them all the time already so she doesn't need to post about it.
>She normally dresses/acts modestly
Sometimes people like to look more sexy/appealing (in their mind) than they usually do.. especially women, who have so much stock put in their appearance by themselves and others. If she doesn't dress like a slut in real life, then there's no problem. Hell, you might even be able to turn it to your advantage if you ask her to dress like that for you, in private. Could lead to fun sexy roleplaying times.
>obsessed with fatty foods
Obviously if she's a fitness gal that snowboards she doesn't go overboard. People generally want what they don't/can't have, and also people overwhelmingly love chocolate; even fitness nuts.
Don't sweat about the hot guys thing. We all know that men look at women even if they're in a relationship, and women aren't any different.
>the feminism thing
Most people conform to it because it's politically correct to do so. If you couldn't tell that she was one of the crazies right away, then there's a high likelihood that she isn't one.
>>16615676
Probably weird baggage from being very much in to fitness as well as thicker girls and a history of chubby girlfriends letting themselves go while spinning lies about trying to lose weight and diet.
>>16615590
A+
OP GET FUKKIN REKT
>>16615644
If it makes you uncomfortable, it makes you uncomfortable. I agree with the others saying you're being unreasonable, but no reasoning with you is going to change your feelings about it. Just don't date her if you're not feeling it
I would dump her, nit because of anything she's done, but because it sounds like she keeps secrets. If my girlfriend posted slutty pictures that I wasn't intended to find and was paying a lot of attention to a certain male (pornstar excluded) for their attractiveness, I'd bail. Feminism isn't a deal-breaker unless it gets extreme and her feminist ideals aren't rational.
The cake and other shit is entirely fine, maybe she just likes to look at desserts. I hate sweet foods but I love looking at them.
>>16615770
It's not like she hid them from him though. She didn't hide her tumblr from him, and he found it without any trouble. She's not in a relationship with anyone anyway, I don't see why she shouldn't post risqué photos of herself if she wants to. If OP was her boyfriend and had told her that those photos make her uncomfortable, that'd be a different story, but that's not the case here
>>16615777
If you fuck and cuddle with someone, and you aren't their boyfriend/girlfriend, you more than likely mean nothing more than sex to them. She's more than likely having sex with others or doesn't want to commit to OP if they truly aren't dating.
>>16615785
That has nothing to do with this though. The point is, she hasn't really done anything wrong, and the reasons OP feels uncomfortable are in his head. That doesn't make how he feels any less valid, but there's no point in painting her as the villain and him as the victim here, because that's not their roles
>>16615785
The point is that her tumblr existed for far longer than our relationship did. Can't really hate on her for posting pics of attractive men or slutty pics 6 months ago.
>>16615804
>6 months ago
You phrased it in the original post as though this was still persisting
>>16615802
I'm saying that if I were in his situation, it would make me wary enough to not risk having a relationship that ends badly.
>>16615817
>I'm saying that if I were in his situation, it would make me wary enough to not risk having a relationship that ends badly.
What's there to make you wary though? Posting pictures of men you find attractive and photos that make you feel good about yourself? When you're single, to boot?
>>16615562
Lol, really? This sounds like Seinfeld episode.
Ok, to be totally honest, OP, you sound like a shallow guy. A lot of people are, so I won't hold that against you. However, what's important is that you buck up and acknowledge that. That is, if you do end it with her just for this, don't blame it on something else. Just be aware of the fact that you are not going to like every single aspect of a person you date. It's the same with friendships--sometimes, our friends say things we don't agree with, do things we don't agree with. My best friend is an air-headed hippie who happens to be one of these "tumblr feminists" and she does some pretty cringey shit sometimes, you can only imagine what her tumblr must look like. I shudder just to think about it. I love her anyway, though, because those things are frivolous when compared to the things I do like about her, and I understand that I am never going to find someone who is an exact clone of me.
Which brings me to my next point... Social media can be pretty intimate. There are some things on my tumblr that I would never want anybody but close friends to see. It's not that I have porn or some shit on there, it's just that it reveals a different side to me; I reblog subject matter that I don't discuss with everyone, I post really weird things that show my power level, and my tone is all around just different on there than how it is irl. Granted, this girl seems pretty open about her blog and I guess she doesn't have the same hang-up that I do about keeping it confidential, but the fact remains that her blog is going to portray a side of her that isn't immediately perceivable. You chose to look at her tumblr, so you should have known what was coming, that there was a chance that you would see some things about her that you won't like.
tl;dr Your feelings are your feelings. Do what makes you comfortable, just realise that you won't ever like/agree with all of a person's opinions/hobbies 100%.
>>16615562
>foodporn pictures of chocolate cakes and cookies and shit
I don't see the issue with that one, assuming she has control over her diet.
>>16615850
Well said. I just wish this feels bomb had been dropped after a little longer than 5-6 weeks
