I can't build myself a circle of friends for the life of

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2015-12-28 03:48:02 Post No. 16611699
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Anonymous 2015-12-28 03:48:02 Post No. 16611699 [Report]

I can't build myself a circle of friends for the life of me. I either be myself, which is lame and unattractive, or I try to put on the act, which I'm bad at. In both cases I just come across weird and hard to talk to. On top of that, I work 6 days a week, with my day-off on a Tuesday, and it seems like if I'm not there to meet people 3 or more times a week, they forget about me and it becomes hard to even be remembered enough to have a facebook event invite thrown my direction.

On top of that, I have very low self esteem (kissless virgin, for one thing) so I'm not the life of the party, or at all assertive - like I don't force myself onto people until they like me.

The end goal for me is to just get into a meaningful relationship at some point in my life, and the problem with that is that it doesn't make me WANT to have friends. Having to make friends is a total chore, and being bad at it is making it even worse.

Any advice appreciated. I'm at wit's end, sometimes. Loneliness, feelings of inadequacy, etc. etc.

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Anonymous 2015-12-28 05:31:11 Post No.16612145
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Anonymous 2015-12-28 05:31:11 Post No.16612145 [Report]

The standard advice would be... get some hobbies.. and find like minded people that enjoy it.
Gym, rc cars.

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Anonymous 2015-12-28 05:32:52 Post No.16612155
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Anonymous 2015-12-28 05:32:52 Post No.16612155 [Report]

First you gotta be patient with people, because most everyone can have their baddays and be and assholes. Noone I know is a saint. Second, don't get discouraged if people don't always respond to you. Third talk to people invite coworker out after work for a drink or food... I dunno, I'm very social and talkative and I still only have like 1 friend that hits me up to hangout on the reg. Most people tend to be Fairweather friends or just regular work friends. God be with you on your quest friend....

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Anonymous 2015-12-28 06:13:15 Post No.16612293
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Anonymous 2015-12-28 06:13:15 Post No.16612293 [Report]

>Having to make friends is a total chore
It really is, but as the saying goes "The best things in life are worth waiting/fighting for".
Do what >>16612155 says and keep putting yourself out there, and (hopefully soon) it'll get better.

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Anonymous 2015-12-28 15:05:16 Post No.16613506
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Anonymous 2015-12-28 15:05:16 Post No.16613506 [Report]

OP here.
The problem is I don't have co-workers to invite out and I stay away from alcohol-venues like bars/clubs, because I rarely drink.

I have the single hobby of video games, and it's taking up all of my free time. I work out on top of that at home, simple stuff, and jog once a day if I can. No time for gym. Barely enough time to go out to an event, even.

I'm also not in college and never had connection to people with those lifestyles.

Idunno, I just feel so stuck...