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>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
Hey Truckerfag.
I'm the chick with the low sex drive. You told me to keep a food diary for a week. I did. But I don't want to spam the thread with my eating habits, what do?
>>16580957
Post your height/weight/age and what macros you consumed over the week.
>>16580963
Macros? Shit, did I do this wrong? I just wrote down what I ate measured in volume.
>>16580963
Alright, I'll calculate out all the macros. Will return.
>>16580963
>what macros you consumed
How does one deal with mixed signals?
Sometimes this guy sends clear signals that he's into me (looking at me for prolonged periods of time, being touchy-feely when he isn't like that with other girls, that kind of stuff), but sometimes he sends clear signals that he isn't (tries to get away as far as possible, avoids starting conversation, etc).
I'm confused. Do I pay no mind to it? What do I do? He doesn't seem to be the shy type, which makes things even more confusing.
Girls, do you not find it extremely prejudiced to say I only date white men?
I'm a white dude myself, and as someone new to PoF I keep seeing people say they will only date whites.
On one hand, it's their choice right? But, on the other that's narrow minded as hell. I don't really see how race even plays a part in love.
I guess I just don't really understand hook-up culture. People are just looking to get their fuck on I guess.
I guess it's just a constant reminder of how young our species is. We are more concerned with the material world and the body than the well-being of our self an soul.
I think I'm going to delete my PoF account aswell.
>>16581136
>I don't really see how race even plays a part in love.
Black women do nothing for me, barring a special 1%. Meanwhile I'm attracted towards pretty much any white woman who takes care of herself.
It's not even about hookup culture, I just don't want to date someone I'm not attracted to and race is ultimately a factor and not just for skin color.
>I guess it's just a constant reminder of how young our species is. We are more concerned with the material world and the body than the well-being of our self an soul.
Yeah go have fun with your chakra
>>16581136
i've personally never said "i only date white men" but i can also recognize what i'm attracted to. some girls like black guys, some girls don't. some girls like super muscular guys, other girls like chunky guys. for me, i don't think black guys are inferior, i'm just not attracted to them
>>16581136
No, it's personal preference.
>>16581142
I'm not sure what you are jesting at with the last line.
Our body is a vessel for the portion of that exists in the immaterial. Aka our creativity, ingenuity, our innate genius. That's why Hamlet calls it a Mortal Coil, It's the organic material holding us in this world when our minds and personality can be anywhere. Who's to say the "real" world is any less real then than in fictional world. It's real to the mind of the creator.
All that is to say Humans our body and routinely conscious mind is the very tippy top of the ice berg of a human being.
There is so much more to people than the surface and skin or any other racial features.
That's why I mean it's narrow minded. It's just a superficial representation of the person.
I'm sorry If that's much more than what you wanted to here, but I have alot to say about it for some reason.
>>16581157
>I'm not sure what you are jesting at with the last line.
>Our body is a vessel for the portion of that exists in the immaterial.
It means you're clearly obsessed with new age mumbo jumbo.
>There is so much more to people than the surface and skin or any other racial features.
That's great and all but you need attraction in a relationship. If I'm dating an asian girl and every time I see her eyes I think of grey aliens it's going to go nowhere.
>>16581163
ayy lmao
>>16581163
if you can't sit through that until you learn to love them, you don't deserve her. this is how i feel about the ugliest first impressions and the prettiest. ffs its gonna take a long time for most people to reach this point
>>16581163
FYI that isn't new age mumbo jumbo. Writers have been writing about this for at least since the late 1700s.
As for seeing grey alien eyes... I think that really is just straight up prejudiced. Just because it is different doesn't really make it strange or lesser. The explanation just sounds very contrived.
Think of it like this, a 20 degree angle and slighty squintier eyes prevent you from possibly finding the love of your life.
>>16581171
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QysJTckaFNM
>>16581178
>I think that really is just straight up prejudiced
It would be prejudiced if I called up some of those alien hunters. The fact is I don't find certain traits attractive, so I don't date them. You need to learn to get over that.
Seriously, go have fun with your spirit stones or whatever.
>>16581185
Maybe it's because with an attitude like that you don't get any dates.
>>16581189
Yes, how dare people date people they find attractive.
You have wounded me, most noble internet warrior.
Girls:
>What is something guys do when snuggling that you like?
A girl came over and she was all over me while watching movies, and kept like rubbing my hand. I need tips and ideas to return the favor.
Question for guys and girls. But first some back story.
>meet girl. Hit it off really well
>make out the firs time we hang
>turns out she has a bf she never told me about
>he finds out about us and flips out
>she decides being with him is what's best for her and we cut contact for a while
>she comes back after realizing that was a mistake and we pick up where we left off
>she has issues with confidence, anxiety, depression, etc.
>says that I'm too good for her and she's afraid she'll hurt me or let me down
>tell her I don't care and want to be with her
>doesn't matter, she thinks it best we cut contact (again)
>in the mean time starts a relationship with a guy she's known for a long time and has gotten close to
>fast forward 2 month of us not speaking or seeing each other
> ~2 weeks ago she reaches out to me and says she misses me and thinks about me all the time
>tl;dr she says "I've never felt like this about anyone before. For whatever reason I can't shake you. I've felt worse these past 2 months after not talking to you than I did before"
>we decide to try again, mean while she's still in a relationship with this other guy
>been hanging out pretty consistently the past couple weeks. Get along great, make out, she spends the night (no sex, but lots of intimate cuddling), have deep conversations, finally taking the time to get to know each other, etc
>she says "the more you tell me about yourself the more I like you"
>but once again, is still in a relationship with this other guy
>says she doesn't want to be shady to either of us, and she's gonna tell this guy what's been going on.
>still hasn't said anything because "its a really difficult conversation to have"
I know the obvious thing for me to do is bail ("f she'll cheat someone selse with you then she'll cheat on you with someone else) but I'm completely in love with her so fuck that. What I want to know is how do I get her to break it off with him without sounding like a controlling dick? Pick semi related
>>16581286
Holy shit that's riddled with typos. Soz. Fuck posting from mobile.
>>16581286
so she's afraid she'll hurt you but will go in a relationship with another guy? that alone, don't do this to yourself. i'm begging you to trust that this is the wrong thing to do. you know it somewhere inside. there's 0% chance of this working out. i'm sorry yet happy to be the one to tell you
>>16580914
My girlfriend hates when I call her beautiful, how can I help her?
>>16581206
Massage accessible body parts gently, hug her close and kiss her on the head when the mood strikes, compliment nice things you notice about her in a gentle voice
>>16581304
ask her why, talk it out, reassure her and make her understand where you're coming from
>>16580963
5'4", 110lbs, 19 years old
>Day 1
2070 calories, 40.6g fat, 336.1g carb, 78 g protein
>Day 2
1368 calories, 4.7g fat, 236g carb, 34.9g protein
>Day 3
1905 calories, 31.8g fat, 280.8g carb, 109.7g protein
>Day 4
1910 calories, 40.7g fat, 328g carbs, 81.1g protein
>Day 5
770 calories, 28g fat, 100g carbs, 31.9g protein
>Day 6
1747 calories, 82.7g fat, 216.8g carbs, 43.7g protein
What's the diagnosis, doc
>>16581342
She considers herself fat and ugly but she's very skinny and I think she's beautiful
>>16581178
>If you don't find all races equally attractive, you're racist!
>>16581349
she's gotta trust how you feel even if it's different from herself and respect that your opinion may be different
>>16581348
you don't fucking eat anything.
>>16581349
She's fishing for compliments. Be honest in your praise, and ignore her when she tries to play the "woe is me game".
Source: I was also once an obnoxious immature young woman
>>16581377
Yeah, I forget to eat. I keep a pretty stable weight though, which is nice.
I have an annoyingly low sex drive. Which idk if it's directly to do with my diet since I still had this problem when I ate more.
A week or two ago I was asking guys about how frequent sex was required in a typical relationship, and truckerfag offered to look over my diet to give his opinion on how to help my sex drive.
>Guys (and maybe girls too?)
I've heard a stereotype about guys 'living it up' after a breakup for a while, then spiraling and becoming depressed/full of regret afterwards. For girls it's supposed to be the opposite, immediately depressed and full of regret and then after a time becoming happy and living it up.
Personal stories that confirm/deny this stereotype?
>>16581416
I personally have experienced this in all of my breakups.
27 F
>>16581416
Girl here. After a breakup I'm crushed regardless of who initiated it. With time the pain numbs and becomes manageable and I think of them less and less but I never reached that happy living it up part.
>>16581416
Depends on the guy I guess. I'm usually a bit down for a while but I move on fairly quickly. When I am down, I just keep myself busy with work.
>>16581286
Been there, done that. Had the same line of thinking you did about being in love with her. Fast forward a month and she was doing the same shit with another guy while we were dating.
You need to end it. And cut her off completely. Facebook, phones, everything. Cos she'll keep coming back. She's using you as a fall back. Someone who will be there when she has nobody to fuck. Stop wasting your time on her. Nothing good will come of it.
>>16581348
It wouldn't hurt to even out your daily caloric intake. A 50% drop between any two days isn't going to help your case. 1600-1800cal is probably where you need to be in general, but varying 200-400cal a day isn't anything to worry about.
Your proteins and fats look a bit low. How's your meat and legume intake? Have you ever been tested for anemia?
What's your hydration looking like? Are you consuming caffeine or alcohol on a regular basis?
What sort of exercise have you been doing?
Are you taking any multivitamins or other supplements?
>>16581416
No. All regret, all the time. My ideal lifestyle is in a long term committed monogamous relationship, so being single is one of the worst things that happens to me.
>>16581487
>meat and legume intake
Not great. I get most of my protein through eggs, cottage cheese, greek yogurt, and shrimp.
>anemia
I've been tested, came back negative. She said that I'm kind of low though. I used to take iron regularly. I don't anymore since even the gentle stuff made my stomach hurt. I didn't bother buying a new bottle when I ran out.
>hydration
I make a point to drink water, I'd say good.
>caffeine or alcohol
Not often. I don't like caffeine anymore and being under 21 I don't have alcohol access.
>exercise
I don't, am starting up weight lifting. I used to jog/sprint every other morning
>multivitamins or other supplements
A probiotic, sometimes D
figure I'd post this here than start a new thread
guys/girls, how do you start sex? came close once and never got the chance to try again.
for guys, what do you do? start making out, take off her shirt/ bra, then pants, then sex? do you let her take off your clothes or what? whats the process i guess is what I'm asking.
Girls, how do you like this to happen, if there's a preference?
>>16581544
Your thinking about it too hard. Just go with it damit. If she really doesnt like it she will tell you.
Question for the girls:
Would you ever date a guy with aspergers/high-functioning autism?
>>16581583
Nope. My friend's boyfriend's autistic and it sounds so fucking annoying
>>16581544
It just happens, don't overthink this. The more you try to think this through, the more obvious it is you're a virgin
>>16581504
Looks like you aren't doing too horribly. I'd recommend a multivitamin, especially as you start lifting to get your magnesium, B vitamins, potassium, and iron up (your phosphorus should be fine), but since you claim to be sensitive to iron, you'll want to stick to something with an iron dosage along the lines of a men's multivamin, since they usually have lower iron content.
It's good that you've done some sprinting. You'll want to use that same sort of explosive energy while lifting once you've mastered form, especially with compound lifts. Once you're really getting your muscles building, that should help boost your circulation, and hopefully make you more prone to engorgement of you erogenous zones, which can help you along into arousal.
>>16581623
>boost your circulation, and hopefully make you more prone to engorgement of you erogenous zones
Is that how it'll work? I worry since it's not like I get aroused without the physiological reaction, I just don't get horny at all. I don't quite follow.
>>16581416
I thought it was the other way around.
>>16581640
Arousal can start as either mental or physical. If everything is working properly then one will promote the other either way.
Guys: i made out with my (very new) bf and we both were horny. Sadly, i was on my period, so i gave him a bj. He seemed to really enjoy it and i feel like i did all i could "right". But after a while he went soft and i guess i couldn't have made him cum anyway. What happened? He's fucking huge, so i guess a bj isn't as satisfying as if you got a dick every girl can take in deep witheout any problem. What can i do to make him enjoy oral more and be able to cum from it alone? (yes, i'll ask him about it but i'd also like some ideas from you guys)
Girls,
I have a female co-worker who is always laughing extremely hard at my jokes (relative to the other women), she touches me from time to time when she passes my desk (back, neck) and I've caught her staring at me as I pass her several times. She's in a relationship though and she's kind of flirty with a lot guys. Should I steer clear or wait for her to break up with her boyfriend and then make a move? I'm leaning towards steering clear but I do find her very attractive (both physically and emotionally).
>>16581809
Stop what you're doing with his cock still in your mouth, put his hands on the sides of your head, and look up at him. He'll take it from there.
>>16581809
he probably nervous. happen sometimes earlier in my new relationships
>>16581811
How can you find her emotionally attractive if she is touchy feely flirty with guys whilst in a relationship? Do you want to end as a cu.ck like her bf now? Steer clear. Seems attentionwhory.
>>16581813
Sounds like a plan. I'll try that next time.
Also, how tf should i be able to produce nearly enough spit? It takes some dt-ing first for me to have enough saliva to really get him wet all over. I had to take some lube yesterday...
>>16581815
I had a feeling like it was going into that direction. It was the first time i gave him a bj that wasn't tied into having sex, so that could have been it. I'll just keep trying i guess
>>16581821
Once he starts slamming his cock into your uvula things should get flowing. Don't swallow anything but cum. Scrape the top of your tongue with your front teeth right before you begin to get things started.
>>16581829
I just tried that teeth/tongue thing. Awesome! Thanks in the name of my bf, anon
>>16581832
Keep in mind, the saliva from the tongue trick isn't a very good lubricant. You'll need to get some mucus from the back of your throat mixed in as well. This is a part of what all the coughing in throat fucking porn is about; working more of it up from the lungs and irritating the throat and uvula to increase saliva production.
>>16581840
Yeah i know. But this trick is good to start. Can't dt him dry
Ladies, is it a turn off for a man to be a Pacifist?
Obviously I will go full berserker overlord on any wild animal that tries to kill me or my friends/family/loved ones, but self defense laws in my country make it difficult to use "Reasonable Amount" of violence in self defense without being thrown in prison so yeah.
>>16581864
Nah. It's rather a requirement. I don't need somebody that seeks troubles. I want a guy that is mature enough to only use sheer force if all else fails.
Is a high libido on a man a turn on for you ladies?
>>16581871
Yes, very. I have a high libido myselfe, and i love love love that my bf and i both get horny af all the time. But i guess it could be annoying if your girl has a low libido. Compatibility is key.
>>16581864
I prefer it, but I have a bit of an issue with
>self defense laws in my country make it difficult to use "Reasonable Amount" of violence in self defense without being thrown in prison so yeah
That's making excuses, and a guy who makes excuses is not attractive.
>>16581864
>self defense laws in my country make it difficult to use "Reasonable Amount" of violence in self defense without being thrown in prison so yeah.
God bless castle doctrine.
>>16581884
>God bless castle doctrine.
Nope. I can be sent to prison for using any object in self defense in my own home/apartment, like a knife or any heavy object.
Obviously I can use my hands and legs to defend myself but they would probably not be great against knives or gunfire or axes or other heavy objects an attacker would use to harm me.
I mean why the fuck should a citizen be punished for defending its own life or the lives of others?
And the attacker would get a much more lighter sentence anyways.
>>16581875
Same. It sound like you are a pussy and a pussy again to not admit it. I'm >>16581869, but you know anon, being a pacifist isn't equal to not standing up for oneselfe. It means that you have grown beyond physical violence. That you are the bigger man. Not the bigger pussy. That's a big difference
>>16581896
You obviously don't know how the self defence defence works. Lack of intelligence is also an unattractive trait.
>>16581903
Say that to UK laws.
>>16581905
Anon, sorry to break it to you, but you sound less attractive with every sentence. You use excuses over excuses and hide behind ideologies. Just admit that you are a anxiety ridden beta abd start working on that instead of finding ways out
>>16581905
Self defence is part of UK law. I feel like you've misinterpreted something you've heard about the law at some point, and now you're using it as an excuse as to why you're a 'pacifist'.
>>16581896
>Nope. I can be sent to prison for using any object in self defense in my own home/apartment, like a knife or any heavy object.
That's the point. We don't side with criminals where I live.
>>16581908
http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-18002220
wew lad
>>16581915
>http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-18002220
What is this supposed to prove? That self defence doesn't exist in UK law books? Because it does
http://www.cps.gov.uk/legal/s_to_u/self_defence/
http://www.bsdgb.co.uk/index.php?Information:Law_Relating_to_Self_Defence
http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-19886504
http://e-lawresources.co.uk/Public-and-private-defences.php
>>16581917
>That self defence doesn't exist in UK law books?
They banned a self defense expert because "his presence here was not conducive to the public good".
Anglo countries are an amazing thing, really.
>>16581917
>anyone can use "reasonable" force to protect themselves or others
>"reasonable"
>>16581922
What's your point? Maybe it was unreasonable for them to do that, I don't know. It doesn't change that >>16581864 is making excuses for being a wimp.
>>16581925
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-defence_in_English_law#Reasonable_force
>>16581817
>How can you find her emotionally attractive if she is touchy feely flirty with guys whilst in a relationship?
That's not mutually exclusive.
>Do you want to end as a cu.ck like her bf now?
Obviously not but I keep thinking about her and I've tried keeping a distance but she crawls herself back in, every time.
>>16581928
Then you should really work on your standarts. What is it that makes her so emotionally attractive? Her egocentric ways or her lack of loyalty?
It this isn't a dealbreaker, i don't know what is. But yeah, it's your life. Maybe getting your feeling stomped on is your fetish.
Sure she is. She needs constant validation and attention. And you give it to her freely.
>>16581926
>It doesn't change that >>16581864(You) is making excuses for being a wimp.
So I absolutely should defend myself at the risk of being sent to prison?
Fine. I won't make excuses then.
But if my friends, family or loved ones are ever hurt or assaulted or attacked I can't hold myself back or to show any amount of mercy in a situation like that, even if I end up dead. I do have my own moral codes after all.
>>16581943
It takes some ability to judge a situation. Which translates to maturity. If you think you have to get into a fist fight because somebody said something offensive to your mom, you are an agressive moron. If somebody breaks into your house and points a weapon at your daughter, you damn sure are free to use every technique known to mankind to kill that motherfucker even if you get a life sentence for it. Context anon.
>>16581917
>One of the cases that was prosecuted involved a man who lay in wait for an intruder and then beat him, threw him into a pit and set him alight.
OK that is way overboard in terms of self defense.
Just scare them away if you can, or run away, you're not a pussy for running away from an attacker.
>Inb4 you really are a gigantic pussy for running away
>>16581954
>Inb4 you really are a gigantic pussy for running away
If you let a murder rapist walk free he'll just murder rape someone else. They're rabid animals, not people.
>>16581960
Well I can't just dislocate my attackers limbs or do some other shit like that either.
>>16581967
Not with that attitude. With a little care you too can have a concealed carry and protect the populace from murder rapists.
>>16581976
Can get a gun license, but not use it in self defense.
No, really I'm legally not allowed to use any firearms to defend myself from people, animals, yes, people, no.
Pepper spray is allowed of course.
I just wish the Right of Self-Defense laws in my country were more like in the US.
>>16581954
>OK that is way overboard in terms of self defense.
kill yourself. you are not fit for the title of 'person'
To both: Why are self defense laws so fucking complicated everywhere?
Might as well move to Antarctica and freeze my ass instead.
>>16581304
Try calling her ugly in a joking manner.
Girls, what's the one thing that's always able to make you laugh?
This girl says she sees me as a friend, but she puts zero effort in actually being friends. If I want to meet she's completely booked; if I want to text she only responds to direct questions in a matter-of-fact way and takes ages to respond to anything else, if at all; if I talk to her in person she's mostly seriousness embodied yet towards another friend she's all fun and games; and she initiates nothing herself unless something's up and it's me she needs help from. Even now she's left a text of mine hanging for 4 hours, despite coming online a few times in the meantime. Unread, unresponded.
What am I supposed to do here? We go back about half a year and she wasn't always this way. I don't want to ditch her because she has genuine excuses for most of her actions, but come on. There's zero respect here.
>>16582110
Just stick with her. She may need to use you from time to time.
Why do you need to look away when you look at a guy, girls?
>>16580914
I'd like an answer from both genders if possible. Is there ever any good reason to have your SO blocked on a social media account? What if they tell you that it bothers them, would you maintain the block or unblock them right away? Thanks :)
>>16582214
Huge red flag. Abandone ship and also, delete sm
>>16582145
Because we are shy. Because we need to grin really hard. Because we are blushing. That would be some reasons to look away that indicate strong interest. If she keeps stealing glances, go for it!
Girls, are shy guys alright?
Also, when is it appropriate to say I'm shy?
>>16582246
Absolutely. When you want her to know you are shy. For example, if you can't muster up the courage to make a move. Just tell her "i'm shy". It will probably make her go into adorable overdose and she'll be glad to take the lead.
How do I convince my older sister to have sex with me?
>>16582228
I figured but every time I try to pull away they have a melt down like they can't grasp why it bugs the shit out of me. Also got hit on randomly by someone on a pic and they replied with emojis which seems flirty but their reply about that was basically "It's just social media..." and I stopped replying when they kept saying stuff on my other pictures. It just seems like half a solution to me instead of just saying I'm with you and I'll take care of this for you. Meanwhile if I like or retweet anything that they think could even remotely possibly mean I'm unhappy with them they act distant. Double standards man.
>>16582268
/pol/ pls go
girls
how do you feel about hairy dudes? I'm 24, my chest is hairy/stomach is hairy and it spreads around over my shoulders a little bit and on the very sides of my back.
shaving it off/trimming it just makes it feel even worse because its super sharp on touch and I feel like women would hate that even more.
wat do.
>>16582309
as long as i can't braid it.....
for me it depends on the full picture, too. someone with a really pale skin and totally dark hair is kind of meh for me (though there will always be exceptions), but then if the hair is lighter, or skin is not of a snowflake, so the contrast is not too big, then i might like it.
>>16582070
Someone falling down
>>16582316
I on the other hand do like light skind and dark hair. Don't worry too much about it. If it isn't like pic related, everything's fine.
>>16582309
I enjoy all levels of body hair on men, I don't really have a preference. I like it when a guy is mostly hairless and very smooth, and I like it when a man is covered almost head to toe with that layer of soft fuzz. Overall I think I just enjoy being in an intimate scenario with a man and everything about him is neat at that point.
>>16582316
>>16582328
>>16582329
Thanks for the replies, I feel less worried now. I never had a girl complain about it before but I know its definitely not a dream scenario of any kind and I was always a bit selfconscious and insecure about it.
I'm a 6'2 ~190 pounds dude so I guess I carry it alright. Also I'm fairly light-skinned/pale and blonde so hair isn't too dark.
Irony of all is that my actual hair is thinning out and I had to cut my super long hair off and now buzzcutting it once a week. Life is funny that way.
is 5 inches laughably tiny
no, it's not thick
i am not a big guy if the relative size is important (179cm, skinny)
>>16582354
excuse me for breaking the rules, really.. eh
opinions/hard facts still appreciated
It hurts to wait, but worse to regret..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GHOmy6HabXA
>>16581416
Guys here.
In my two serious relationship I've had. After the breaksups I was sad and cried for about 30 minutes and after that I'm all good and never think about it again.
So I guess I'm in the girl section of this sterotype.
>>16581286
My friend was in the exact same posititon. It ended up with her cheating on him after about 2 months.
Don't go there, it usually won't end well.
>>16581416
For the guy it depends on who did the dumping. If she did it he's probably crushed. He did it, he's ready to start smashing other chicks
>>16581136
It's good to know that if I ever have to online date, that one line will get rid of all the non-white guys and whiney progressive white guys. Two birds with one stone.
How do I tell my fiance I want to call off the wedding? Her family wants to excommunicate her for marrying me, and I feel that once we get married, she'll have no one. I feel bad for her and think she'd have a happier life if she married someone her parents approved of.
FWIW I'm white, she's white, it's a matter of faith (I'm agnostic leaning Catholic, she's Orthodox). The problem is the Catholic bit.
>>16582426
Shes supposed to have you and your family.
>>16582426
If she's accepted to marry you it's clear she's made a choice, you>stupid religious beliefs.
Because of this I think calling it off would break her heart.
Don't let their close-minded relatives keep you from being happy.
>>16582110
Did you ask her out? "I just see you as a friend" is polite for "I have zero interest in you"
Guys, would you hook up with a girl who's in a relationship, or is it a deal breaker?
>>16582281
>>16582214
Break up with this person, sheesh.
>>16582432
My family is accepting of her but not the other way around. None of their extended family approves of me, and if she marries me, she has literally no one. I don't know if they'll ever come around but it's something I don't know if I want to risk.
>>16582446
I'm not even religious. I go to church for funerals or weddings, it's not like I go for Sunday service or what-have-you. Her family takes their faith seriously although she doesn't.
I'm on board, she's on board, my family's on board, but she's family oriented and will lose hers.
>>16582454
>literally no one
>you and your family
Marriage is to make a new family mate.
Convert or something if the religion is such a big deal for you.
Is it true that men take breakups exponentially worse than women?
>>16582458
They might have a harder time coping with it since it isn't socially acceptable to really grieve the relationship for a guy. Girls can sob into ice cream with a friend. Guys are more encouraged to forget about it, get drunk, and fuck a slut
>>16581126
>dealing with mixed signals
If you're mildly interested in him, ask him out. If he accepts, he's interested, if he doesn't he's not. Signals cleared.
If you're not interested, don't ignore it and move on with your life.
>>16581544
>how to start sex?
One thing just leads to another, and you both just feel it and go for it. It's just unthinking escalation until either you go all the way, or someone hit's the pause button and you talk about it and decide what to do.
>>16581809
>go goes soft during BJ, how to make him cum?
First off, you might not be able to. It's a lot easier than it is for girls, but like with women, not every guy cums the same way.
Second, sounds more like nerves on his part than anything. It's pretty easy for guys to completely fuck up their ability to cum based off their mental state (most guys just don't think about it).
>>16582451
>would you hook up with girl who's in a relationship?
The majority would not. Many may.
>>16582458
I've got a thing about this
It has to do with the way men and women tend to processes emotional situations.
Women tend to experience things when they experience them and are able to emote them. When they feel like they're dying relationship they whine, they complain, they cry, they talk about it to their friends, they feel everything that they feel, LOONG before the breakup occurs. The deal with it all bit by bit, over a prolonged period of time.
With men though, we're not really trained to deal with emotional situations. We instead are taught to think logically, to find the least emotional solution, to find the quickest solution that reduces our exposure to the situation, or to outright ignore it and "tough it out". So we try to deal with it all at a once (rip the band-aid off logic)
This means that by the time breakup happens, sometimes there are these cases where when it happens to a woman, she's ALREADY dealt with nearly ALL the emotional baggage that a breakup entails, days/weeks/months in advance, so she's just instantly able to pick up and move on.
But with a guy, maybe he's ignore the ENTIRE thing, and then when it his, he's completely blinded by the event. On top of that, in some extreme cases, because their system just isn't used to dealing with intense emotions and just doesn't know how to respond to the smallest thing, let alone the massive tidal wave of emotions a breakup can come crash down with. And they get overwhelmed
TL;DR:
Women tend to get used to dealing with emotional events, a little at a bit over long periods of time
Men: Tend to deal with emotional events as one giant block, all at once.
There's also this funny dynamic that sometimes women will go in to denial because they they just get TOO used to dealing with something to the point that they think it's normal. Whereas men will just bury their heads in the sand because dealing with it is just an uncomfortably terrifying prospect.
>>16582145
Personally it's because I'm terrified/insecure.
I get stared at sometimes by strangers with no discretion and it makes me uncomfortable, so I'm really wary of being seen in the same way.
Messaging girls from soc on kik. One girl was sexting with me last night but then read my last message and went dark.
How do I initiate conversation with her again without seeming too thirsty? Just keep it normal? She was a pretty chill person regardless of the sexting
My boyfriend's biggest fetish is facesitting and always asks me if I could "indulge" him. I'm 100% against it, I think it's a little gross. He asks so frequently I think I want to break it off, am I being a cunt?
Part of me thinks that since I don't like it, he'll find someone else who will (cheating), part of me thinks its disgusting and by extension he's disgusting.
I'd really appreciate any advice at all.
I've been with this girl for about a month. We had one date and she practically moved in, she sleeps here every night. She gave me my space in the beginning but now she's starting to make demands, and I only liked her to begin with because she went with my flow naturally. Not only that, but she likes to talk about getting pregnant by me because "she likes to stress me out" and sometimes she'll just stop mid-blowjob because "she likes to make me suffer." We haven't had sex yet, it's always just blowjobs and reciprocation. She had me blindfold her and lock her in handcuffs and even then I only fucked her face. The more demands she makes, the more frequent my sufferings occur. I can't handle getting halfway blown, its the fucking worst but she keeps doing it. I can barley even get hard anymore because of this teasing bullshit, my dick just goes, "nah breh, you can't fool me again." I did a lot for her in the beginning and now she's comfortable and used to my help, and she doesn't contribute to the same degree anymore. She hardly cooks or cleans anymore. I'm starting to resent her, she eats my food and sleeps in my bed and expects me to buy shit for the apartment that we basically share at this point, all while refusing to have sex for some reason. I feel as though I'm putting more into this than I'm getting back. I'm usually very domineering and controlling in relationships so I'm actively trying to be more abiding with her and I end up getting walked on. I'm close to readopting my usual emotional-manipulation routine but thats always bad for the chick emotionally and I always end up feeling bad about it after I dump them.
What to I do to save this, and how to I avoid the temptation to just control her? It would be so much easier but she already seems kind of emotionally imbalanced and I don't want to be responsible for making that worse.
>>16580914
Why do you cunts bleed and not die? Are you some kind of devil spawn?
Girls, how common is it for you to be asked out on dates? Is it the same if you're in a relationship?
>>16582678
It sounds like you guys aren't compatible.
>>16582681
most couples take several years or even decades to get to the point where you're at, and you made it in a month. Congrats anon
>>16582328
Austin Danger Powers?
>>16582711
I'm fairly introverted. Would go out a little more than usual when I'm single though. Not clubbing or partying, but I would hang out with mutual friends of friends.
I'd get asked on a date maybe once every two months or so. Usually by a mutual friend that recently met me. Or some guy I went to school with that had not talked to me in a while.
In a relationship, male acquaintances have messaged me insinuated that they want more with me, but I remind them I have a bf and not interested. Less often, maybe once a year or so. Randoms that meet me and try to pick me up when I'm alone (at college, at the store, at a shop) happens on occasion, but I just decline politely.
Their approaches are obviously different if they know I am in a relationship, but the main difference is that once I say no to an acquaintance that knows I have a boyfriend, they kinda start to orbit around my social media.
Once my boyfriend deleted his facebook for a short while, then a lot of my high school friends started hitting me up on facebook. Kinda seemed like they beated around the bush a lot and asked if I was still with my boyfriend. I don't know if it was a coincidence or if they are watching my facebook or something.
But that's about it.
>>16582451
I have a long history of it, fortunately or unfortunately depending on your perspective. The mistake which I only made once was thinking that it could translate to something more.
Hooking up is great. Not only am I enjoying it, but that girl is having the only kind of intimate contact which she should be having. Obviously she's got no business being in relationships. That doesn't mean she should live the wizard life though. It's a shitty way to reach that conclusion at the other guy's expense but, seriously, was she going to come to that admission in a more merciful way? Meanwhile I'd be passing up opportunity after opportunity while she just hooks up with someone else.
>>16582580
Bump? I know it's kind of dumb but she's a pretty cool person to talk to.
>>16582849
She'll get back to you if she thought the same about the convo. Otherwise it's safe to say that she went dark when she got bored.
>>16582857
Alright. That was pretty much the first time it went that way, we had normal conversations otherwise. So no initiation by me, then?
>>16582868
There's nothing wrong with initiating, but it wouldn't answer your question. Right now you care about finding out how enthusiastic she is about talking to you. You have to find that out the hard way.
>>16582711
I honestly can't recall being asked out on more than two occasions in my life. My boyfriend is the second one.
>>16582870
Yeah true. Eh alright. Maybe I'll hit her up tonight or tomorrow. Thanks. Not used to just messaging random girls, so this is kind of new to me.
To both: Should I avoid Nymphomaniacs at all costs?
Yes the thought is obviously tempting for everyone.
>>16582896
As long as you don't catch feels or STD's, I suppose no harm done.
It sounds like a bad time to be caught up in the intimate details of a nymphos life, it's probably depressing. Nymphos are generally selfish lovers too tho. Unless you're a pleaser, you're not gonna get a call back after the first night.
>>16582914
Also, no harm done if neither of you are the other lover... Don't cheat with a nympho. That's a trainwreck to avoid at all costs. A non-nypho slag would probably give it up for less drama.
So i guess this is a general question for everyone. i've always had trouble making meaningful relationships with women, i have plenty of friends but i've only truly gotten intimate with one person, and she's out of my life forever. My closest friends tell me i'm attractive, well-dress, well-mannered ect. ect., but consistently tell me that I shut myself off from women that are interested in me. that i shut myself from anyone interested. One of my close friends even got visibly offended when i told him I declined going on a date with someone he had been crushing on, she as very interested in me, but i was not in her. i'm not sure what it is, my friends are right, i always do this shit to myself. I haven't really been happy with myself for the past couple of years, i think the inability to getting intimate with someone is really getting to me. I have only hooked up with 1 girl ever in my entire life (we just made out), but a lot of my friends assume that I pull women with ease, but in reality i'm still a virgin. So i live a life where all my friends think i'm some sort of one-night stand connoisseur, when in reality im incredibly alone and have struggles romantically. what the fuck is wrong with me?
>>16581126
Females do this too. It's really fucking with my head because you can't get a clear read from the person doing it.
This is a little different from the usual posts in these threads, but bear with me.
My parents were very abusive and because they're "important" people, they got away with it. I want nothing to do with them and have tried to limit their ability to communicate with me as much as possible.
My dad sent me a message on Facebook saying that he wanted to talk to me on Skype, and that he wanted my bank account number to transfer money for me for Xmas. I absolutely do not want to do this. I don't want his money, I don't want to talk to either of my parents, I want no part of this whatsoever.
Here's the tricky part: I have to use my parents address as my mailing address because I live in a foreign country, and my bank refuses to send my mail anywhere that isn't in America. So I have to maintain some kind of line of communication with them in order to get my new bank cards. I fucking hate this and am currently seeking a way around it.
What do I tell my dad to get out of talking to him and get out of this situation where he's trying to get my account number to supposedly give me money as a Christmas present? Like I'd totally be lying if I said I didn't need the money right now, but the strings attached to that gift are something I don't fucking want or need in my life right now.
Advice?
>>16583098
If your mail is getting sent to them, wouldn't they just be able to look at your account number on there?
>>16580914
is this pic true?
Fellow females,
Today my breasts are more tender and sore than I think they ever have been. What the heck is going on? Should I be concerned?
>>16583114
No, the gender studies girls aren't nearly fat enough
>>16583110
Right? That part was really weird, especially because if they actually needed my account number, they could get it from my brother (who is a NEET who lives at home with them still) because he needed it to deposit my tax returns into my account last year.
Something is just really weird about all of this and I don't know how to proceed.
>>16583116
Pregnant?
>>16583114
A lot of this comes down the the fact that girls are kind of brought up thinking that STEM are 'boys subjects', so by the time it comes to them picking what they want to study, it's ingrained in them that STEM is not for them. When women complain that STEM is sexist, it's talking about the whole system, right from when kids are kids.
Also where's the token male signing up for gender studies to try and get laid?
>>16583130
I just finished a completely normal period, heavy bleeding and all, less than a week ago. Plus I'm a virgin lol
>>16583138
Probably just hormones then.
>>16583130
dunno but if i could start over i would sign up just for the heck of it
imagine the trolling opportunities
>>16583114
I can't speak for everyone, but I happened to go to school in a town where engineering and practical skills were pushed hard on everyone. The community culture is a strange mix of "do whatever you want as long as it's useful" and "women are just as capable as men."
The result is that year after year our high school pushes out men and women who go to college for technical and professional disciplines. Even those who didn't do engineering or medicine/pharma in my graduating class still pursued stuff like law, business, etc. Of course we had a smattering of teachers, secretaries, artists and so on, but to wrap it up I'll say one thing: I don't know of a single one who went into gender studies or whatever. In fact I'm not sure anyone from my hometown ever does.
So at least in towns like mine, I don't think the pic is true. If you encourage girls with the same practical rhetoric as boys then they embrace those fields. At the very least they don't whine about under-representation just because they personally have chosen other avenues. My experience makes me suspect that things like that pic happen when kids aren't given enough guidance and need something to blame for the consequences of that.
>>16583148
Damn hormones. Though if that's all it is, I'm glad.
hey this one goes to girls
i had a crush on a friend of mine, talked to her about it, she pretty much made it clear that it wouldn't be "wise" for us to date. I was heartbroken for a while because i really liked her but managed to get through , tried to distance myself, but contact is inevitable since we're in the same group of really close friends. Now everytime we happen to talk to each other *something that i generally avoid* we get into heated arguments about stupid shit, and sometimes she gives me those stares man, those stares give me nightmares, and it's generally tense although several months have passed, how to resolve the situation? should i tell her we should cut contact? i'm afraid it's going to bring frustration to the whole group, at the same time it's really hard for me to go on like that
girls,
do you ever lie about liking what your bf gets you (gifts)?
>>16583644
I've only ever had one bf but honestly I was just so happy he thought to get me something that I didn't care what it was. So... no?
Guys, would you date a girl who was a dietary vegan if she wasn't at all pushy/preachy about it?
>>16583644
Dude.... not even a girl, but do you ever lie when your girlfriend is having a shitty day and asks you if she's being a bother or looks fat in that dress?
>>16583649
Sure, but being a massively in to food, craft beers, and wine, I wouldn't at all be able to become one.
I'll say, since it's such a major part of my life, it /would/ kind of suck if I wasn't able to share that with my partner though. I guess i'm lucky in that my girlfriend learned to love craft beer and fine dining from me--she didn't at all drink or really eat adventurously before meeting me. That being said, I think I could manage if we shared enough otherwise (once dated a girl with celiacs, and while It made things tougher, it was kind of fun finding work arounds)
>>16583644
I haven't had to.
But like >>16583650 said. Also were you ever taught when you were young to ALWAYS be grateful and appreciative regardless of if you like a gift or not, or already have it? That's what I was always told anyway. Is that a lesson just girls get?
Do you agree?
>>16583116
Probably PMS
any gender rlly:
so i have a close friend ive been fucking/my crush and i came across his ex's tumblr, i wasn't even looking for it and i actually know her irl but i didnt know they used to be together. i found a whooole bunch of interesting shit, like where shes talking shit about him. i took about 20 screencaps and i dont know how creepy this is. she also mentioned me a few times but not directly, just saying stuff like "hes really lame for going for a highschooler he should be in jail" (she was referencing me because i was underage when i met him)
am i really creepy for doing this because it feels like it. Im not sending it to anyone
>>16581136
>I'm a white dude myself
>t. a black guy
>>16583682
*shrug*
Who gives a fuck.
It's only creepy if you obsess over it and keep looking over those screencaps winding yourself up (delete them for your own sanity imo)
Her issues are her own. Don't let them become yours.
Have a laugh and move on with your life.
>>16583669
It's true, the first thing most girls ask a guy (and despite that they all won't ask it, they all expect it) when they start a relationship is for him to be honest, it means both not to lie
>still white lies will be needed
Also, it means that you need to say flat out how you feel towards different situations involving her, or just things in general, if you don't she might get the idea that you don't care about her etc, maybe some one could elaborate on this as well, anyway, I learnt this the hard way
How do I find a girl who isnt a whore. Someone with a sexual history you can count on 1 hand. Im a gentleman so women like to tease and flirt with me. But I cant ever consider them because I just assume that they spread their legs for anyone. I just want a pure qt to do nice things for but I cant go around asking how many sexual partners everyone's had?
I posted a few times a year ago about a girl in my o-chem lab and how I thought she liked me (she would always look at me in the eyes, initiate conversations, walk with me, little excuses to touch me and talk to me, etc.) Then I found out she had a bf, so I assumed she was just being really friendly. She would still always be super friendly and she would get excited when I saw her around campus
Now I found out she and her bf broke up. I'm questioning if she was really being friendly or if she was trying to hint at me (I felt like she was hinting but idk because I'm a hugless/kissless virgin) because her new bf looks like a white trash alcoholic version of me.
I guess I'm asking if the first paragraph sounds like she was into me, or if I'm a delusional virgin.
>>16583709
>How do I find a girl who isn't a whore
Try going outside.
>>16583730
Thats the worst place to look. Just thinking about how loose our society is upsets me. I need a like minded person by my side.
When you fuck your girl, do you just leave her shirt on? It seems like too much work to pull it off
>>16583669
In part true, it's just skewed to fit the bad boys/nice guys thing. Everyone wants honesty in a relationship. That shouldn't be eye opening. I haven't heard that girls go after bad boys because they're honest. I've heard the opposite actually, he's a lost soul and she's going to change him into who she truly knows he is inside. So lumping it up to at least they're honest isn't the reason.
The other part that's true but just common sense, if someone is being nice to you, doing stuff for you, all claiming it's nothing and then they ask you to pay them back... No one likes that. Of course it gets a negative reaction.
>>16583768
>Not wanting to see her breast bounce around
You gay?
>>16583709
>>16583762
Are you me?
Anyway, all of the similar-minded ~pure virgin waifus~ I know, myself included, don't really go out much because we tend to be more shy/reserved, but I don't know if that applies to everyone. When I am out alone, you can find me in a coffee shop, on a walk, or grocery shopping.
>>16583669
honesty is surely something very important in a relationship, but i think what's more appealing to women at first is confidence, a man who knows what he wants and is not afraid to go and get it, but what do i know, i'm a man after all
>>16583669
completely wrong. Of course nice guys want to have sex. Their guys. But what they try to obtain by being friends is so much more. They want your company and find joy in making you happen. Nothing the whores of today could understand.
>>16583777
Thats why theyre so hard to find. Because they dont go out. Im not the type to just go up to a girl in a coffee shop because she doesnt look like a whore.
Hey, girls, why the hell do so many of you smoke? What the fuck, you spend lavishly on various comestic products yet almost nullify it by smoking.
This is both to guys and girls, why is smoking so relevant everywhere? is it still a trendy thing to do? Helps to fit in? It doesn't even get you high
>>16583801
>Im not the type to just go up to a girl in a coffee shop because she doesnt look like a whore.
This hit so close to my special snowflake princess heart, laughing so hard (at myself).
Eg. earlier today I would be at Starbucks (why?!), find many hearts next to my name... Then start to wonder whether that's a company policy or the guy liked me. Decide it's a company policy, otherwise the guy would've asked for my number or something.
>>16583114
Kek I like how they all turned into redheads with glasses in the last panel.
To answer, I think this is only true in certain areas/countries. I live in a third world kind of place where people of either gender don't have as much luxury to take up useless majors like gender studies. My engineering classes tended more toward an even male-female split.
>>16583130
I think this is bullshit. I lived in the US when I was a kid and never, ever got the idea that science was for boys. I mean, maybe robotics and the like. But I think the bigger problem is that STEM isn't 'glamorized'. You can't connect it to celebrity culture or whatever, unlike gender studies and the humanities.
girls I need some help, how do i behave
This girl I've talked to for the past 3 weeks noticed that I realized she's chubbier than her pics on instagram, since although we were so in, and we still are, she resisted to hang out
and told me to be more patient with her
Well fast forward a week later, I see her randomly in a busy street and I'm in a car with my friend, so I messaged her saying that I saw her
Nothing really changed, the vibes are still good, though I think she's kinda disappointed since now I know she's fatter than she looks and she might think I've expected much better.
I don't know how to behave about it, I didn't change the way I'm talking at all
I really don't mind that she's kinda slightly more fat but she seems to have it as a big self esteem issue. She didn't even put up a picture on instagram since that day and it's been like a week and a half now.
>>16583822
Wut. Males are more likely to smoke than females
>Nearly 19 of every 100 adult men (18.8%)
Nearly 15 of every 100 adult women (14.8%)
From the CDC
>>16580914
Women only pls,
if u meet a man and find out he takes medication for biploar disorder but hes caring, sincere, not a douche etc (and ur interested of course before finding this out) is this a deal breaker?
>>16583861
I'd rather he tell me instead of me having to find out myself by accident. Secrets and dishonesty are the real dealbreaker.
>>16583861
if it's under control and he tells me about the illness himself, as long as he doesn't get really depressed or have bad manic episodes it's ok, basically as long as i don't have to worry about him a lot and take care of him it's okay
Guys - What does it mean when you begin taking an interest in the things that I like, drop the "we never really hangout" line, and ask me about my interests? Keep in mind this is a guy that I've known for a few years, and he usually just keeps to himself.
>>16583857
Comparing which of the two smoke more is really not my point. I just don't get what's still driving people to take up smoking, especially for girls, because it contradicts with some things, like I mentioned in the post before
I'd guess it's unwillingly passed down to younger generations same as other things, we see olders do it and we want to try it ourselves , plus it almost seems like a rational thing to do, if they do it as well. Despite the era of popularising cigarettes in different media sources, 1/5 is a damn large part when it comes to smoking, but I would think it might be even larger
>>16583874
I'd think that it's a sign of affection, girls do the same when they like someone, for example, if a guy is into basketball, volleyball, whatever, she will at least pay some interest to it, remember some things about it, make remarks about it, it goes vice-versa I think
>>16583879
I think it really depends on where you live and your social circle. I live in Los Angeles and I don't know anybody who smokes. I have never and will never smoke and hang around people like me.
>>16583861
It's fine, not a deal breaker. The deal breaker would be if the man would go out of his way to hide that he takes medication.
>>16583865
>>16583871
>>16583905
So when would you want to find out? How many dates into this are we talking, or is it something to get out when you first meet...?
How do women deal with menstruation? How does your daily routine change when you're bleeding from your cunt?
>>16584128
I curl up on my bed/floor/couch with a hot water bottle, pop ibuprophen like candy and whiiiiiiine until the cramps are done. One time I passed out from the pain. Collapsed on my way to the bathroom. I've heard of girls who vomit from the pain. Cramps are essentially contractions. So mini birth.
The actual period part isn't too bad for me. I just have to remember to change my tampon before I ruin my pants. I'm achy and have a head ache, but it's not the big rolling pain that are cramps.
>>16584128
Heating pad and ibuprofen. I usually have to spend most of the first day in bed. Thankfully it usually comes on the weekend.
>>16583905
How do you go out of your way to hide medication? Are you supposed to chit chat about it?
>>16583950
There isn't really a set time, you'll know when you both start getting more intimate and talking about more deep and personal details with each other.
>>16583861
I would keep an eye on it, but it definitely wouldn't be a deal breaker. You can be diagnosed and able to keep it under control. Plus I don't want kids, so the worry of passing it on is irrelevant to me.
I don't mind it being hidden either. I understand that some things are hard to talk about. I'm not going to take it personally. It'd be nice to learn about it someday just so I can be aware and able to help all I can. I'd expect it to come up in the natural progression of revealing our fears, vulnerabilities, and issues.
I was still learning about some of my boyfriend's insecurities and troubled past a year or two into the relationship.
If you're clumsy as fuck in front of the girl, is that a turn off?
Males, how skinny is too skinny? If you have a BMI/weight/pic to post that would be awesome. Curious about your opinions
>>16584205
As long as he laughs it off and isn't bothered by it. Then it's funny and he shows he can recover from an awkward spot.
If he's all freaking out, that's unattractive because he's so obviously insecure. I'd have to be constantly reassuring him. That's not hot.
>>16584205
It would be cute, as long as it wasn't 24/7 or dangerous or anything.
There's this girl I like. When I talk to her she seems to just reply in monosylables and yes/no, we have trouble holding a conversation past the first line. She's sort of awkward but she's waaay less awkward with other guys. However she did try to engage me in conversation herself today (couldn't talk enough though cause I had to leave). Does the first part confirm she doesn't like me? Or does the second part confirm she doesn't dislike me?
>>16584243
Sounds like something I would do to a guy I felt was coming onto me whom I didn't like and was annoyed by. Just my input/
>>16584250
Im the asker. Yah that's what I thought too, it sucks, but thanks for the answer!
>>16583711
/adv/ pls
Can't get a good read on this girl I work with. Me and her talk as often as we can while at work. We eat lunch together and at times eat out for lunch together. Couple of my coworkers point it out that we seem to get along quite well. She's told me before that she trusts me out of all our coworkers with certain things and topics of conversations. Also, on one conversation, she let it slip that she talks about me to her friends.
Now to me, this seems clear that she might be interested, but then there's this. Any attempt I've made to hang out with her outside of work was met by her being busy. We don't converse much outside of work, with conversations usually kept short. Now that she's on winter break, figure shed be able to hang, but can't seem to get a response.
I'm just a guy trying to hang out as friends if anything. What should I do? Is there such a thing as only being a work friend and not a real friend? Should I even bother being a friend at work if she can't bother to hang outside of work?
>>16584455
>Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
You were warned
He...definitely likes me, right? What can i do about it? Im not interested at all but i cant completely ignore him
>we're classmates and friends
>i already told him i'm not interested in him at all after we both got drunk and he started acting weird like wanting to cuddle
>i told him sorry im not interested when we were both sober. he said 'omg yeah same i'm interested in someone else wow wtf happened that night'
>i try to keep my distance a bit, seems ok
>now its xmas break and we text a bit asking hows the break going
>i dont respond much
>he keeps bringing up the fact that it takes me a while to respond after i already told him i was busy and not to take it to heart
>'wow it takes you a week to respond lol' after i dont respond to something
...i already told him im not interested?? Or am i misinterpreting things?
Girls would it be weird if I followed you on Instagram even though we have never talked? I've seen this girl at parties but I've been too afraid to talk to her. Since I won't see her until spring semester would it be okay to follow her and see if she follows back/likes any of my pictures? Or should I just wait until I've actually spoken to her irl?
O thou vagina endowed:
Women seem to only want me for my dick. Does this mean I'm attrictive, or that I have a horrible personality?
>>16583874
He's interested in you. Romantically or just because he enjoys your company I can't really say.
>>16583669
Partially true. But if a girl sleeps with a guy who's honest about his intentions to pump and dump her, she's not the type I'd be interested in.
>>16583130
>When women complain that STEM is sexist, it's talking about the whole system,
STEM isnt responsible for your poor parents. It's about as objective as you'll ever get. If anything its slanted in favor of women with all of the money they keep throwing at the situation.
>>16584810
I guess it's probably the same reason as to why some girls are only wanted for their pussy
Female co-worker and I flirt daily
Both are very playful with one another.
Talk with each other almost constantly.
When I say things like come on a date with me.
Try to ask her out...She responds with a nah..I said psh oh well...both are still playing at this point.
Ask again...still same answer. shrug it off
idk if she realizes that Im being serious at this point but she just keeps being playful and whatnot.
Question to both genders
Are curved/bent penises normal? How many of you have it? Is it any trouble to you/your partner?
I don't have Peyronies thankfully as my doctor said that's an extreme curvature with a problem of insertion and having extreme pain.
Still, years of going to the shower room during my HS days and watching porn made me self conscious of my dick. I haven't gotten into a relationship to this day because of it, I'm turning 23
>>16584831
Shes interested in flirting but not anything more. Flirting is fun for some people. She already shut you down twice dont try again or you'll be seen as a creeper
>>16584837
Yeah I thought of this as well. She will say things like hey why dont you come over or something but no real effort will ever be made .
What are the popular dating websites nowadays? I assume Tinder and Okcupid, but I have no degree of certainty with that.
>>16584889
Found gf on okc. Decent chicks.
I'm an unemployed 26 year old virgin who lives with his mom. How do I get myself out there into the dating pool? I'm looking for something long term.
>>16584958
Is this bait?
>>16584973
Naw.
How do you feel about people who are into hentai?
>>16585082
As long as your porn doesnt control you, it's generally not an issue.
>>16583669
I am an honest guy but my shyness tends to get in the way.
It's not like I'm implying anything or some shit. I'm just super shy is all.
fegit
>>16583669
how often are girls honest about their intentions...
just sayin', this goes both ways
I refuse to physically or verbally or psychologically harm women due to my moral codes and other reasons.
Ladies, is this a gigantic turnoff or turn on?
>>16585195
Hurting anybody who is weaker than you is super lame, but if you don't include physically weaker men in that rule it's sexist imo and therefore a major turn-off/dealbreaker. I, personally, do not want to be treated specially just because i'm a woman.
>>16584175
>>16584178
What the fuck so menstruation actually hurts? I thought it was just uncomfortable. What if it happens during a weekday? Do you just skip work?
>>16585216
Varies from girl to girl. I personally only get cramps only once every two or so periods, it's only when my flow is greatest for a few hours, and it's nothing an ibuprofen and distractions can't deal with.
Guys, what sort of style do you like to see girls wear? I'm curious. Post pics if it helps you explain better
>>16585235
>At home
T-shirts, shorts, sweats, pajamas, whatever's comfortable and breathable
>Out
Skirts and leggings/socks, dresses, coats with big buttons
>>16585250
>coats with big buttons
That's... unusual to hear
Guys,
Let's say your gf is thin and conventionally attractive and you're the best of friends and get along spendidly. But you simply aren't sexually compatible, ie, you like cuddling but anything beyond that is not sexually arousing -- do you still want to remain bf-gf?
>>16585283
Not a guy, but he'll probably stick with you until it becomes unbearable. Sex isn't an insignificant part of relationships
>>16585297
When does the lack of sexual attraction become unbearable?
When he meets someone whom he is sexually attracted to?
>>16585303
I can't answer those questions, only he can.
>>16585283
who is the sexually incompatible one, do you not find him attractive or does he not find you attractive? or do you both somehow find each other unattractive?
>>16585310
he not find me sexually attractive
He thinks I'm a qt3.14 but he doesn't want to stick his dick in my vagina
do girls care about a guy's height that much?
>>16585252
I think they're pretty cool looking on girls, whether they are skirt jackets, trenchcoats, peacoats, military style, short or long jackets, winter coats, etc., with large buttons in either double rows or an offset row (metal is nicest, though any material is fine so long as they're big), especially when worn with stockings and boots. Obviously this is more for winter or fall wear, when it's warm out then skirts and shorts are great
>>16585312
Huh... well, that decision honestly falls on you then, can you handle a sexless relationship? How seriously do you both take your relationship, do you want this to be long term?
>>16585331
I do, and I think he did, but not if there's going to be sex
So I think it'd be okay if it were a sexless relationship
The only I'd be worried about is if he met a girl he was sexually attracted to, which is pretty likely, there are a lot of qt3.14s in the world
>>16585339
Does he talk about wanting/needing sex?
>>16585346
No. I think he'd rather we never have sex because he is not sexually attracted to me
>like (i know, fucking dumb) girl with boyfriend in long range relationship, we are both in medschool
>she said she would never cheat
>playful flirting, gave me massage and feels my muscles sometimes etc
>can't make a move because I don't want to fuck shit up
>just do my own thing to avoid the feels, study, lift, study, lift, it has to be for the best right?
I should ignore her and see other people right?
dont get oneitis dont get oneitis, kill the beta inside kill it kill it
This newfound attention from grills (mirin, compliments, asking me to flex etc.) after turning my life around is very weird for a 25 yr virgin.
>>16585350
If it's really weighing on you, I'd suggest talking to him and trying to get him to clarify what he wants. Just share with him that this is weighing on you and you want to know how he feels about it. Ask him if he's okay with being in a sexless relationship for the long term.
>>16585366
>Ask him if he's okay with being in a sexless relationship for the long term.
I want to ask him that, but that sounds to me absolutely ridiculous. Would any man agree to that? I'm asking you, guys of /adv
My girlfriend left me 2 weeks ago for a lot of reasons i won't go into right now.
We were Long distance. We primarily spoke over skype. She only really used skype to talk to me, she uses facebook and other phone apps to chat to others. In the first 10 days she just basically did not come online on skype as you would expect as she didn't want to talk to me, and we're doing no contact. I have it signed in but appearing offline, but basically in the past 2 or 3 days she has been appearing online, sometimes at totally random times like 3am (which is still evening for me), but also at the times we would always definitely speak at when we were together. In the brief contact we have had she said things like she wakes up in the night thinking about me, and she goes on skype offline to see if i am online. But then she also says she never wants to be with me again. We were together for over 6 years.
Does it mean anything, or nothing, does she want me to message her or am i over analysing and she's just needing skype to chat with people now for some reason and if i talk to her it will just annoy her? I really want to give her space because i think she needs it but think makes me feel like she wants to talk.
>>16585360
Yeah, avoid that.
