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I feel so lonely I cry pretty much every morning. I don't want to kill myself but it's terrible. I have a family that loves me, friends that like me a lot, no gf (I'm not a virgin but I'm gfless since I can remember). Three days ago I asked a girl for a day to go on a date with and she said she'll check her agenda, sent me a kiss and never heard of her anymore. Should I tell her I'm desperately in need for a date? The date itself could be enough to experience something exciting once in this crap life.
I'm not even ugly, I'm 1.90 mt, athletic, face is average, /soc/ gave me 7 but I think it's a 6, whatever. The issue is that Tinder and the likes have too many 8,9/10 guys so there's no chance for me at all. And dating in real life... I wouldn't even know where to start, I'm 29 and I'm pretty much set with my coworkers and friends as far as social life goes.
Anyway, sorry for the textwall, my question is up there
just a bump
Don't tell her that you sorry sack of shit. Jesus christ the fastest way to make a girl running is to proclaim you are desperate.
You are desperate to get laid and feel that tinder has too much competition right?
Two solutions:
Plentyoffish (lots of ugly women but hey beggars like you can't be choosers)
Calling up a hooker
Don't be desperate. Just tend the field. If you don't set reasonable standards then you won't get gf material out of any dates.
>>16553397
/soc/ loves blowing smoke up peoples asses.
Show us your face and i'll give you your real /10
>>16553532
I don't want to get laid lol. I'd go to escorts the whole week.
I want to feel loved, and there's no way to pay for that. That's what depressing me, I had sex in my life, enough of it, but I never felt love. Tinder is just the easiest way to meet girls for me
>>16553542
Well I'm saying things that not even my closest friend know about me, so it's difficult for me to put a face out there. Just consider me a 6, 7 or whatever, I think that defies the point
>>16553567
Well if you're a 6 then you have to lower your standards. If you're a 7+ it might just be a case of keeping up with Tinder and hoping someone comes along. I don't see why you have to give up because you didn't find anyone instantly.
>>16553541
I think that the girl I was trying to date is a 5/6/7 depending on your preferences, no more. But i loved her flaws, her eyes, she sent me pictures of their relatives, she asked my number and everything was going perfectly. The I asked a date and, bam. Chances are she'll date a beautiful guy that texted her before I asked for a date and that will dump her the next minute. That's even more painful.
I just want to spend the NYE alone.
Anyway, thanks for the replies everyone
>>16553585
You can come here if you want, I have no plans.
>>16553600
I would love to whoever you are, but I'm afraid there's an ocean between us
>>16553623
How do you know?
>>16553647
Well, given the time I suppose you're American but that was just thrown out there
>>16553668
I'm not American.
>>16553678
Europe then? Which part?
>>16553707
UK, yourself?
>>16553723
North west Italy, 30 km from France
>>16553727
You could probably get here before NYE then.
>>16553758
Worst case scenario, I'll be alone in another country instead of my own.
Well, give me a random street you can check and a time/date, it's crazy enough that I might show up
>>16553771
You are being troll faggot. Settle down and follow the advice I gave you about hookers.
Or and this is pretty bold on your part, you could approach a bunch of women and get some dates. Sounds far better then talking to a guy pretending to be a girl who you will never meet.
Femanon here.
OP please disregard this fucked up rating system. Don't worry about how you look, I'm serious.
Yes looks will be the first thing people/girls notice about you, and if they're after a one night stand then yes, looks/charm/dick size/social skills matter.
But when you're going on a date the most important thing is that you treat her nicely and put yourself out there. Then how you look to girls will correspond to how they feel about you.
If I were on a date with you I'd totally relate to being lonely at times, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that, just don't make a big deal out of it and scare her.
You'd be surprised what you could get on Tinder even if you aren't 9/10
Don't be a pussy and text her again. Would you rather give up now and wonder what could've been? Or at least try and see what happens.
you need more self confidence:
Go out to a bar alone.. no friends.. order a drink at the bar and just observe your "competition".
Everyone in the fucking place is so worried about what other people think of them that they are not concerned with you being out by yourself.
#1. strike up a simple conversation with a girl it could be as mundane as a compliment about a piece of jewelry.
If it goes wacky.. fuck off out of the conversation. Manuever her so that to everyone else it looks like she is gaming you.. like post up against a wall and have her talk to you there.
Instead of you leaning in and hitting on.. on a point scale your value will go up to everyone in the place. As it appears that she is hitting on you.. even if she is really saying "get away from me you creep." just smile.
Just look for a conversation with a bitch.. not a end result. Dont ever buy a bitch a drink either.. you sound like the type of nigger that would buy a girls time. She will hang around till the last drop of that drink.. so you got Approx.. 5 minutes to woo her if you go that route. Dont be sucker.. if she asks for a drink... make her work for it.. point to your cheek.. get a kiss, atleast.
Theres allot to game that you obviously dont understand at all... the only way up is.. get out there you stupid cunt and make the mistakes now before you become some bitter pos muslim with a AK. Every interaction you have... note where you fucked up.
Heres a simple fucking test... simply say "hello!" to a girl. If she stops and says hello back - obviously your avatar that you presented is working well for you. If she runs in disgust, etc.. 1. she thinks she is higher value than you. or
2. something is wrong with how you look tonight... fix your shit: clothing, approach, voice control, appearance, nervous ticks?
>>16553778
Well I wouldn't have taken the chance but the roleplay was good lol
Still coming for NYE
>>16554528
You see, I don't even lack confidence, at least in a social context. When I go out with a girl, I make her laugh, I care about her, I talk about a lot of things and I smile. Couple this with the fact that I'm not bad looking (not very good either but still), I'm 1.90, good build, you can see that I have few issues in having a girl for a one night stand (it rarely happens thou). The fact is that I'd like to settle down, to have someone I can hold in my arms when I come home from work, to cuddle with. I want a gf and not some crap one night stand at this point in my life, but no one wants that in Tinder, and the few looking for it get texted by way more attractive guys, and as a result I don't have a chance to tell the girl how much I like her and what I'm looking for.
tl;dr I just want a chance, but girls give a chance based solely on looks, and there's always someone better
>>16554077
how much time should pass before texting her again? I asked her to choose a day for a date and she disappeared, that was four days ago. I would have set one myself but her working schedule is so messed up it would have been a guess
