I have been with a guy for almost 5 years now. He is 32 and I am his first girlfriend. He used to just fuck girls and leave them. We had crazy nasty sex on the first date that was enough to hook him for this long I guess but he is really immature and he can act like a real jerk about how long my hair is (about 2 inches past the bottom of my shoulder blades) and he is also mean sometimes about how I dress. He is a real tiny hipster white guy but he plays at being a thug because he is a drug addict. He once found a photo of a huge black dick I banged on my computer and sometimes I think that is part of why he is so mean. He seems to want to break me down but at the same time he wants a lot of romance and kissing and love. It is very very confusing to me and I am rapidly falling out of love with him. He wants to stay together. We have a beautiful baby girl and he asks me to marry him often. But I cannot say yes when he treats me like I am the ugliest piece or crap sometimes because my hair is not past my butt and I don't wear name brand clothes. What should I do?
Or maybe i should put it a different way: can a little white dude with a big dick obsessed with rap and black men get over the fact that his girl had a threesome with two hung muscular black twins? Or should i just find a new guy that knows nothing about my past?
>>16506362
>It is very very confusing to me and I am rapidly falling out of love with him. He wants to stay together. We have a beautiful baby girl and he asks me to marry him often. But I cannot say yes when he treats me like I am the ugliest piece or crap sometimes because my hair is not past my butt and I don't wear name brand clothes. What should I do?
Tell him this.
>>16506397
You have a kid with him, that changes things, also if he has big dick, he doesn't have dick envy.
>>16506399
I did.
He says he loves me and he loves everything about me and not to be so insecure.
But here's a good example: he tries on clothes wayyyyyy to big for him at the mall and i said those are too big babe and gave him a little squeeze and he freaked out and told me all my clothes are way to small for me (?) and why would he take advice from someone like me............
Burn the coal, pay the toll. Burn in hell, heathen. He hates you because your soul cannot be saved and he will not see you in the after life.
>>16506403
He shouldnt have dick envy.
I always wanted a big WHITE uncut dick. I was just passing time with some black dude before him and i never even told the guy my name but he brings it up ALLLLLLLL the time
>>16506409
I dunno his afterlife might be pretty unswell too...
He won me fair and square but now he is not happy with the prize.
He helped deliver his daughter but he still wants to know why we don't have "more intimate experiences together"
>>16506408
This example is quite autistic to be honest, but this level of weirdism is ok I think if he is normal in general.
>>16506410
He sounds insecure. Just show him that you love him the way he is, and he will drop such topics.
This is the reason why the west is falling. You will be tortured and face a slow death when the revolution to take back this country starts. The fourth Reich shall rise to make a decent world.
>>16506417
Hes pretty dang weird to be honest...
He throws temper tantrums all the time.
When he met me he was totally cool with my past but then i got a new cell and for some reason when i connected it to my laptop it restored all the photos i had ever had sent to my # to my computer and he saw this dick pic and he has been so rude and weird since.
It really hurts my feelings how he gets.
Everyoen tells him i love him and the baby looks JUST like him shes like a girl version of her daddy everyone tells him "that means she loves you a lot"
But he is sooo bipolar with his emotions.
>>16506420
Cuz of black dudes?
>>16506433
How big was it? What do you consider "hung"? Triple the average pens size? Why not just get a dragon dildo and let humanity die our for selfish desires that ruin your body and destabilize your mind? Why not just give up and let Satan take over your mind, corrupt your daughter, and never find happiness based on something men can't change, making you one of the lowest lifeforms on this planet
>>16506433
He'll get over it. Just be good with him, get more experiences together, and show him that you love him. What could have hurt him is that you were hoarding of dicktrophies on your phone. That kind of says that your past is not closed and kind of slutty, which is annoying in a long term relationship. After all he was the father of your kid not the donkeydick black dude.
>>16506446
You are right that IS what upset him.
But honestly i deleted the photo ages ago when i met him i knew i did not want anyone else. He was enough to keep me
Happy for life. And i deleted everything but for some reason a new phone was able to retrieve all these old deleted pics and download them to my computer and it really hurt him.
He has been really insecure since then and i have been loyal and like i said he delivered his daughter with the nurses i really cant imagine a more intimate experience than that....
I gusss i shouldcount myself lucky he wanted to have sex after watching a baby come out my vagina but hes been hornier than ever
Buy a shotgun and take him out back.
>>16506470
There is an old childhood friend that wants to steal me and be the new daddy but surprse -- hes white
Boy that would throw my bf for a loop to realize i actually like white men
This is...just so stupid. Tell him to stop acting like a shit bag towards you. Why would you even put up with that to begin with?? You have a kid now so you're pretty stuck. You need to sit his ass down and talk to him about this ASAP.
>>16506464
>And i deleted everything but for some reason a new phone was able to retrieve all these old deleted pics and download them to my computer and it really hurt him.
Still, he doesn't know that. He has doubts, help him get over that.
> i really cant imagine a more intimate experience than that...
That's intimate, but I was thinking about you two and not just a single instance.
>I gusss i shouldcount myself lucky he wanted to have sex after watching a baby come out my vagina but hes been hornier than ever
Don't be silly, you just gave life to his kid.
I think he loves you, you just behve confusing to him and he doesn't know how to react to that.
>>16506362
>What should I do?
Stay with the emotionally abusive guy who treats you like shit so you can spend the rest of your life being treated like shit.
The great bonus is your daughter will go through her childhood watching her dad treat her mother like shit and she will grow up just like you and fall in love with a guy that treats her like shit so not only do you get to take this daily abuse from your husband you'll train your daughter to think its okay to be abused by her husband and the cycle will go on and on and on and everyone will be great and happy.
>>16506488
I try to talk to him all the time.
Hes literally the most
Immature person i have ever met... He is on drugs all the time he cannot understand common sense.
I told him it hurts me and just because my hair isnt down to my ass and i cant afford to be wearing gucci there are plenty of people who would love me for being smart, down to earth, feminine, and a very giving lover. He just nods his head and says i love you so much.
Its not a problem to me that he has the body of a skinny ass hipster because the second i saw his dick i knew i wanted it for life. But even good dick is not worth the Bs i go through every day because he is insecure and jealous and he must have somevery heavysocial anxiety because he acts crrrrrrrazy whenever we go to a mall or a restaurant. Im not even sure whats wrong wih him
>>16506504
Is that a mannish chick or a dude in a wig?
>>16506500
Well he keeps wanting anal sex but his dick is so big so i bought an anal training kit so he can stretch mybutthole out i thought that would be intimate but he doesnt even want to use it
>>16506532
Stretching a butthole is not really a pleasant bonding experience. Spend time together, be romantic, do things together etc...
>>16506544
He doesnt seem fulfilled by that sort of thing, to be perfectly honest.
He only finds happiness in drugs and dirty sex
>>16506550
That's kind of a screwed up personality. Are you like him as well?
>>16506508
>He is on drugs all the time
you want that for a father of your child? I question your maturity too
>>16506554
I like good sex but i also love to have emotional bonding experiences. Before i met him i loved to do something like take a weekend in the country or go on a small vacay butsince i met him theres no money and he cant handle more than a few hours away from home before going nuts
>>16506508
He sounds kind of a superficial loser with abusive tendencies.
How did you manage to let him fuck you?
>>16506557
You would be surprised how a smart adult can get caught in a bad relationship with someone who has mastered the art of lying and manipulation. I have two dogs and a baby girl that adore him and wouldn't understand why I am taking them away.
>>16506564
>I like good sex but i also love to have emotional bonding experiences. Before i met him i loved to do something like take a weekend in the country or go on a small vacay
Like a normal person. IMO he sounds like an extremely bad father figure for your daughter.
>>16506566
He tricked me and broke into his moms house while she was out of town for 2 weeks and told me he had this awesome job and apartment in the city but we should just chill at his moms while we had the opportunity and it was so close to my own work and home.
By the time she got back and he confessed he was a drug addict
Homeless guy i was too hooked on the dick and easy access to drugs
Picture me: young party type with a solid work ethic and brain - dumped by mycollege sweetheart of 5 years by email with no explanation. Go into a deep depression for 2 years feeling worthless and having random sexual encounters.
Meet a guy with a dick like my exes that finally satisfies the deep sexual need inside of me. Think im strong enough to keep it casual but this guy is an expert liar and manipulator.
Get introduced to dope and all sorts of pills. Manage to keep my life together and left the dope after 3 weeks. Have a great job and hes only a nuisance.
Get pregnant when the doctots told me i could never have. A baby because of a complication from a previous contracepive. Keep the baby and she is my life.
She loves her daddy and sees no wrong bc
Shes too little...
>>16506568
I'm not naive and understand the trap you fell into however you are aware so haven't much excuse. It only will get worse. Dogs don't count
>>16506591
>>16506575
Tell daddy, what's going on, don't be a bitch but be confident and confront him. If he loves you two, he will get his shit together.
>>16506591
I like drugs but ive never had the problem like he does. I stayed sober for my baby and me the whole pregnancy. Still sober. Ive spent years without even a drink. Inb4 people telling me i hurt my baby or some shit. Im not like that.
But i can understand the desre to party. But not with a. Baby around
>>16506592
Yea they dont.
I got one of those pug mixes though and whenever i leave him she gives me those eyes nonstop like... Whyyyyyyyyy
Sometimes the baby i think woild rather be out of the hoise he gets too fristrated with her when hes high
Recently he almost burned the house down leaving the stove on while on pills. Luckily me the baby and all dogs were in the other room and the carpet was high enough to the door that no smoke came through. I woke up at 5 am and saved his life and he still wanted to blame the incident on me because i had cooked a dinner for him and he reheated it when he got home from work then fell asleep and almost killed himself.
>>16506598
goddamn girl get the fuck out or you'll look up the child will be in it's teens or for fucks sake you have another child and you'll still be wiping this guys ass half the time and beat down emotionally the other half. If you as as together as you say and your child is your priority you can set aside the dick for a while and do the right thing.
>>16506613
Right.
Thats how i feel most the time. I have a few guys from childhood that love me deeply and are doing a lot better and want me to come stay with them with the baby. Im a little under 30 and I am no model type but a bit of a porn star type and i think i have a good personality that has stuck with people for a long time and now they are getting older i have a lot of guys that want to settle down and have their own kid and really love me and i am sure would love my daughter because she is so sweet and mature from growing up like this.
At the same time the insults and the lying and the back and forth behavior have seriously wrecked my self esteem. Before the baby he was physically abusive now its just verbal and emotional but it makes me feel hopeless and weak and like no one could ever love me.
I am sorry to say this, OP, but this relationship is not what you thought it was. You've hooked yourself a manchild, and manchildren don't have girlfriends: they have mommies that they fuck.
It's a thorny situation to navigate. If you didn't have a daughter, I would tell you to leave this man for both his sake and yours. He has a lot of growing left to do, and it's going to be almost impossible while his sexy-mama is still around.
But there is a third party to consider, and that complicates matters. Splitting is in both of your best interests, but probably not in hers, and that makes things tough. I don't know what to tell you, except to seek professional help. This is over our heads. I suggest couples counseling to start: he needs the help way more than you do, but a neutral arbiter is a good idea in cases like these.
>>16506622
why are you talking of bouncing right to another guy? I said if you are as together as you say how about creating your own life for you and your child, get some distance from the fucked up dynamic you've lived for half a dozen years then find someone you want
>>16506591
>She loves her daddy and sees no wrong bc
>Shes too little...
That's why you need to get her away from him NOW. Because he's only going to get worse. You have no idea how terrifying it is to live under someone like your guy. He's trash and will amount to nothing, and you're just letting him drag you and your child down with him.
>>16506622
>I have a few guys from childhood that love me deeply and are doing a lot better and want me to come stay with them with the baby.
The fuck is wrong with you? Why does leaving this guy, for the sake of your child, automatically mean jumping on to a new dick? You talk about how mature you are and how you have such a great personality, but you're fucking retarded.
>>16506634
I have been to counseling a lot. They all use this term "manchild."
Unfortunately he is also very attached to his own mom who is a drug addict turned lawyer that acts like a high school bitch. And they have some weird love hate only child incestuous relationship.
Unfortunately, my insurance does not cover couples therapy just individual therapy. And yes, It is in my daughters favor because if i Leave both he and his mother will go on a rampage and have my little girl in and out of the court system. Just last week I told him I was unhappy with him for treating me the way he does and he actually called 911 and said he felt threatend.
The cops came like........ Ummm. Sweetheart are YOU okay? Alright, keep that baby safe and have a good night.
Her life is going to be pretty F-ed unless I leave him and get right into a relationship with an adult man with some assets.
>>16506638
BecUse his mom is a lawyer who will hunt me down as a single mom and keep me so locked up in the court system my life will be constant misery
>>16506646
Well i dont see how else I can make sure im out of the court system. A man with money and stability can make a lot of things go away
>>16506656
>Her life is going to be pretty F-ed unless I leave him and get right into a relationship with an adult man with some assets.
You're her mother--it looks like her life is going to be fucked up regardless.
>>16506661
>BecUse his mom is a lawyer who will hunt me down as a single mom and keep me so locked up in the court system my life will be constant misery
That's a bullshit answer. You just don't want to go through with this because you'd rather take the easy road. You don't give a shit about your daughter.
>>16506665
>A man with money and stability can make a lot of things go away
And he can also throw his own baggage at you, or turn out to be a pedophile interested in your daughter.
>>16506362
>He once found a photo of a huge black dick I banged on my computer
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>>16506683
I dont think that is fair. I try to be a good person and I think I am a good mother to her. I take care of her and protect her the best I can.
Its a difficult situation and I am trying to figure out the best way to move forward
>>16506362
I would just ditch him if he's mean to you; Doesn't sound like he deserves you. Give the child up for adoption. Not having the biological father around is a death sentence, especially for a young girl. Well, that's it. Time to act. Chop, chop.
>>16506702
I was adopted and put into foster care at birth.
I would have a hard time doing the same!
>>16506709
>I would, though. You sound like a healhty whole individual. Imagined what would have happened if you had been left with your single mom!
>>16506362
As someone that grew up in your daughter's position, you need to leave this guy. She's going to grow up terrified and feeling vulnerable, because his drug problem is only going to get worse. And once she's no longer a baby, and he thinks he can get away with it, he'll start hitting you again. She'll grow up, not just hating him, but resenting you for not properly shielding her from this guy. It's going to be difficult, because he's on the certificate (which gives him rights), but it's something that needs to be done. Distance yourself from him and try to bring his drug problem to light.
My mom went through a rough patch with my biological father and he kept her in court for nearly 5 years. But when he realized he couldn't hurt her anymore, he used me. So he started doing inappropriate things to me and told me to tell my mom. I did after a few months. He's a sociopath, so he's quite the charmer, and he had everyone wrapped around his finger. Everyone was led to believe that my mom was making this shit up, that she brainwashed me, and that I "didn't seem all that abused." It continued on my visits with him. Eventually my mom just had to pack up and leave with me in secret. We hopped from state to state every few years until I was an adult.
>>16506734
Cool story.
>>16506738
It's not.
