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TL;DR - Time to cut the 'if science thinks you're nuts, you're nuts' shit. Pretty sure I'm an empath. How do I make it stronger?
More interesting bits in second post, I guess.

Text Wall: So I've always been able to tell with 99% of people, when I say something wrong in a conversation. I say it, there's sometimes awkward silence, regardless of if there is or not, I feel a tinge of.. something in the air. negativity, for lack of better understanding.
When I was a kid it was always if I swore, once when I said a movie 'sucked' and apparently that was a bad word to that group. I laughed and more negativity flew.
That was awkward.
There were other times when I was little, like talking to my parents, but the swearing is the most memorable.
I got depressed when I had to repeat a grade since all my friends moved on to college and such without me. Those of us still around still hung out but eventually that stopped too.
I was 19 and a virgin, I know there's been much worse there, but I was depressed. Had two failed 'relationships', one where the girl wanted to form too deep a connection too quick, (eg, wanted to jump my bones in the first week I guess?) and wouldn't really cuddle. Second was cuddly until she found out the rumors were true and I look at porn, shocker. So she left me for her childhood friend who then proceeded to sign up for the military, deploy, and cheat on her with men.
It's ok, she wasn't the brightest anyway.
Last year of school, no perceived friends.
Met someone on the bus. First 'date' was to come over to her crazy-animal-lady mom's house and help clean one of their snake cages.
I couldn't, and can't feel her emotions well. I'll be knee-deep in the dog house before I realize I've said anything wrong. Er, anyway - She confessed to liking me, I did the same. We kissed, and cuddled like just, uh, her sitting between my legs and she was leaning on me.
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The confession released a wave of emotion, but the cuddling was unlike anything I'd ever felt. I didn't want to move. It was like I was high on something. For a good half hour we just sat there, because neither of us wanted to move. I didn't know I had that much happiness/pleasure in my head.

Fast forward about eight years, and at my new shitty job someone just started working who I can feel. Like, I feel when she's around if she's in good spirits, if she's down I don't feel her presence, probably because at our shitty job everyone's usually in a bad mood, so I cant detect more negativity in the sea of negativity.
she's got self-image/esteem/confidence issues like most girls now, she's 9 years younger than me - a minor, and as far as I can tell, is easily depressed.
She's played with my hair, she likes to touch me, drawn a smiley on me with one of those counterfeit pens, fixed my collar, fixed my necklace... and recently told me she does that sort of thing to everyone, but I'm the only one I've seen her really interact with besides talking.
I'm not sure what the range is on this connection or where she lives, but I used to be able to tell when she walked into work, now I just feel the positivity feeling from her most of the time.

Anyway that's enough about her, I won't get with her anymore than as a friend since I'm engaged and she's still a minor and all that. She did ask my birthday so maybe I can get her number and we can hang out outside of work, or talk more.
The managers noticed her playing with my hair and such and I think they're scheduling us mostly different shifts because of it.

Which brings me to another point, I can apparently feel when someone's behind a giant thick metal door and is listening to my conversation, as one of the managers did that.

But that about, oh, no, wait, I can also feel when someone I'm familiar with is going to die soon, or as they're dying. Problem is I don't know who it is until it's too late, usually.
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That's all. I'd like to know if anyone has experience with this. if anything they took increased its effectiveness, how to tell more besides just negativity and positivity apart. that sort of thing.
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Most of this can be explained by alterEd memory perception. Sometimes your brain stores a short term memory as a long term memory, and this is how some de ja vu happens. Your brain is dun goofing and making you falsely remember feeling something when you receibe confirmation input of someone entering a building or dieing. However as far as being a self proclaimed empath myself. There are some similarities I can see between us.
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>>17740897
I have found that I can replace someone's emotional responce with my own. If someone is stressed, or having a panic attack, I take in the emotion by creating an empathic link, letting it take me over as best I can. Then I conquer that feeling with love and positivity, and begin to try and replace their feelings with mine. I give them the power they need to overcome it on their own, or atleast I try to lol
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>>17740910
For my one grandma I didn't know what was going on, she was in the hospital but I figured she'd get better. I was playing something on my ps2, and my heart went into overdrive. It wasn't a stressful game, so it didn't make any sense until my mom called and told me she had passed.
My friend's dad had some sort of cancer, and once I was out on the porch I told him and my other friends 'it felt like I'd never see him in that chair again'. and soon after he went into the hospital, had a lengthy battle he lost.

As for the girl entering the building, it's only her. I can't feel any of my other coworkers though I've formed friendships with them.
I think the connection's active, even now. whereas when I could feel her entering the building it ended when either of us left work.
I really don't have good control over it.
But you could be right, human memory is garbage. Even if I think this is what happened it could be something else.
Are there any books I can read, or other material on it that aren't littered with irrelevant bullshit?

I wouldn't mind most things if it's got a good shot at helping me cultivate this.

I have improved her mood before, but only through talking. I could feel the positivity flick on afterwards though.
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>>17740927
>>17740977
erm, not to say what you posted didn't help. it did.
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Empath with passive antisocial personality disorder here, ask me anything.
No wait, ask me nothing because I don't give a fuck.
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>>17740894
>half hour of unexplained dopamine flood laying in bed
YES. This happened to me a little over a month ago, no buildup, no drugs, nothing.
I can confirm that this guy is actually being honest. I told you guys a while back but low interest.

I want it to happen again, that's all I know.
It was surely paranormal and I could tell it was a female, not sure how.
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>>17740998
Actually I completely misread. No ghost sex for you op.
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>>17740990
Well honestly helping others can just boil down to active listening most of the time lol. That is interesting though, I can't even speculate on any "connections" you might have. But once I discovered my "abilities " I devoted my life to helping others. Are you and extrovert?
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>>17740995
Lol fair enough
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>>17740998
Well, I mean I've cuddled before, but like I said, that time it was unlike anything I'd ever felt. We weren't touching eachother in weird places, I was just holding her and it felt amazing. She said she felt it too.. And I can usually tell when someone's lying to my face, but this is the girl I can't read well.
>>17741005
Almost complete introvert. I've only recently been going out with my SO and her one easily depressed coworker.
My friends from school and I still get together, but it's more like once a year, if that.
My workplace and school were high-energy. My school bus was high-energy. I like being home, so maybe I'm shying away from those sorts of places because of all the ruckus I feel. If so I'm doing it subconsciously though.

>>17740995
Anything you know to help cultivate the ability/ies?
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>>17740869
>Pretty sure I'm an empath. How do I make it stronger?
Find another empath who is stronger than you, and train with them. Let them teach you. Just like martial arts. If you pass up an empath mentor, you might be emotionally aware but your intellectually dumb as rocks. They're very very rare.
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>>17741031
>Anything you know to help cultivate the ability/ies?
Speak with more/different people.
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>>17740927
>I have found that I can replace someone's emotional responce with my own. If someone is stressed, or having a panic attack, I take in the emotion by creating an empathic link, letting it take me over as best I can. Then I conquer that feeling with love and positivity, and begin to try and replace their feelings with mine. I give them the power they need to overcome it on their own, or atleast I try to lol
That's called tel-empathic projection, or "sending", and it's hard. I've known two people in teh past year who could send, naturally. Neither knew they were an empath. Now both hate me for no good reason. All because I could see through them. Go figure.
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>>17740894
>Anyway that's enough about her, I won't get with her anymore than as a friend since I'm engaged and she's still a minor and all that. She did ask my birthday so maybe I can get her number and we can hang out outside of work, or talk more.
Don't date minors anon, that's fucking sick.
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You don't want to make it stronger. I probably can't say that I'm an established empath, but I the little bit that I have is pretty hellish. Dealing with my own emotional fallout is a struggle, dealing with my loved ones is tougher, and dealing with the feelings of strangers is like sensory overload. It's like being painfully aware or sensitive of everything going on around you.
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If you dig deeper it does start out like how >>17741221 explained. But you learn to control it at this stage, blocking out and accepting what you want or don't want. Keep going either way, it's a very useful tool once you establish some control.
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>>17741221
>You don't want to make it stronger. I probably can't say that I'm an established empath, but I the little bit that I have is pretty hellish.
^^^ This.

It's bad enough as it is.
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>>17740910
That's just one form of Deja Vu. If you think people can't percieve the future you know nothing of both combat and quantum theory.
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>pretty hellish
>you don't want to
This sounds like opening my mind's eye chakra. Is that the same or similar?

As for my own emotion, I tend to internalize everything. I don't vent much. It's difficult to get me to feel strong emotion normally, which is why that cuddling was so bizarre to me.

>>17741206
You remember how I said she has self-esteem and confidence problems? She's missed a week of work because of it. It was when the connection was lost when either of us left work so I just assumed she died or quit or was whisked away by something.
ANYWAY I overheard my managers talking and they said she was in the looney bin. I'm assuming she tried to hurt herself for some reason.

Anyway I naturally want to help anyone who's not on my bad side. So, I'm not trying to date her. She has a boyfriend. I'm engaged to #3 and have been for 7 years. Been together for 8. I explained the depression shit to my SO and she's letting me try to get this girl's contact info so we can hang out.

I just left out the part about having some weird connection to her. I don't think it's a good idea to go 'oh by the way, I've got some weird link to her that's more intimate than 99% of planet can even establish, and I can't turn it off.'

My SO might not react well to that.
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>>17740869
>Pretty sure I'm an empath. How do I make it stronger?

I heard posting nudes online makes you more empathetic
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>>17743812
this is /x/ - please return from whence you came.
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Oh yeah, sage because not much new, but adding to this a little.
I've also noticed people tend to follow me to wherever I end up going. Well, not follow, but I arrive first and the place is dead, then almost immediately it starts getting busy.
I just brushed it off the first few times, but its starting to bug me. Beer Distributors, department stores, bars, malls - everywhere public, people tend to suddenly think its a good idea to go wherever, right after I get there.

Does that have to do with being an empath?
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>>17741202
Well that is interesting, I've never heard of that term.
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>>17742360
I was just giving a possibility to some of this anons occurrences
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Well if you believe in this stuff,it could have been someone you knew in a past life. It's possible that in a past life you made an important promise to her other past self, thus you having such a strong link. Also yeah the reason you can sense certian things like when before something tragic happens is most likely because of your third eye. I'm nor an expert but I'm sharing with you what I know.
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>>17743921
Well, I read tarot well apparently. I'm an empath, can sense tragedy, and have had a couple experiences with ghosts or poltergeists, so why the fuck not?

Next I'm going to start seeing cryptids all over the place...
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>>17740869
I know this may be a foreign concept on 4change, but you have what's called "social awareness."
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>>17744737
I know, holy shit. This guy is literally explaining that he is going through the same thing EVERY SINGLE FUCKING ONE of us goes through on a daily basis.

But no, he must be a fucking empath.

What you are, OP, is a spoiled child who was brought up to believe he's special and not just one of us. You can probably blame your mother for your inflated ego and other assorted arrogance issues.
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If you were really an empath you'd empathise how fucking angry you're making me and you wouldn't do this emo bullshit.
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>>17740869
>'if science thinks you're nuts,
Science is a tool/method. It's not able to think on it's own any more than the PEMDAS method for math can think.

Also, everyone is an empath to some degree. It's our subconscious picking up minute details such as tone and body language that our brains can interpret without us fully realizing it. Some people are naturally better than others (people with autism, for example, are very bad at it). If you want to improve it, study up on reading body language and cold reading techniques.

Saged because not paranormal, and you're a faggot.
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So, a socially aware person can pick up on someone having a bad day without even seeing them in their peripheral vision once that day?

Not my first post on the internet, boys.
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>>17740995
>DGAF
>AMA
>someone please pay attention to
>meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
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>>17746057
Hey, you're the first to notice the joke! Congratulations!
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>>17743869
It's because you sleep until noon every day, so you get dressed and leave the house and go wherever you're going about an hour before those of us with jobs get off work and join the party.

/mystery
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>>17740869
Really curious how much of this can be explained by pheromones or something similar.
Maybe when humans feel certain ways, they put out a chemical or a scent, too subtle for us to consciously notice (usually). Maybe we subconsciously use this info to determine others moods. I could even see how someone could influence other people's moods this way (by exuding positive chemicals).
This kind of stuff is super very common for ants who uses chemical detecting sensors to "communicate" information about their needs, fears, etc. all the time.
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>>17743852
Piss off nigger, OP is a stupid fucking faggot and you aren't any better encouraging him like this.
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>>17746065
>M-Merely jesting!
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>>17746127
Not even the same guy tho.
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>>17746116
that was OP, bruh.
OP is me.

Sorry, I'm not always on the same connection or same device.

>>17744758
sorry this isn't some spoopy greentext story, but it IS paranormal as paranormal is simply what is not normal.

I'm not cold reading as far as I know, the only time I receive 'help' with what I'm feel-ceiving is when they're talking. That's different, sure, but this is mostly about what I feel without even looking at her, not analyzing her appearance, not listening to her talk. I don't really have time to do that consciously at work. And I don't feel the same sorts of things when I talk to my other coworkers or my fiancee.

>>17746068
I get up at 6a some days and 10a others. Unlikely.

>>17746089
Thanks for taking it seriously. I'm not meaning this as a joke or to stroke my own ego. (Though my moon sign is Leo)
I consider this to be a valid possibility, But I'm unsure how to test.
Trying to broadcast murderous intent to those in my way doesn't seem to work, currently.
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>>17740869
>Time to cut the 'if science thinks you're nuts, you're nuts' shit.

This is a little irrelevant to the thread but I've been thinking about how any time someone comes here with some kind of paranormal entity that they believe to be dealing with, everyone simply calls them schizophrenic and crazy. Now, obviously paranormal beings have been around for just as long as us or even more. As we've evolved as human beings, would the paranormal not have evolved as well? What if modern day "mental illnesses" (paranoia, psychosis, depression, anxiety, etc) are simply the way paranormal entities express themselves now? I don't know, just something I've been thinking about lately.
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>>17747070
Empathy isn't paranormal you fucking tard.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy

>I'm not cold reading as far as I know,
I didn't say you were, I said to read up on it to improve your empathy.
>I don't have time to do that consciously at work
Do you not know how to fucking read? Empathy is done SUBconsciously.
>And I don't feel the same sorts of things when I talk to my other coworkers or my fiancee.
You're not going to empathize with everyone on the same level.

gods damn, does anyone ever bother to fucking learn anything these days? This is full on "I don't understand it, must be paranormal!"

Read some high school level psychology for fucks sake, it doesn't take a psychology major to understand something so basic.
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>>17747129
>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy
Yeah, I skimmed that and mostly found it to be talking about "your opposite is feeling anger, and you see that, so you feel anger too." That's not exactly what's going on.
also
>wikipedia
>reliable source
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>>17740869
sweety this is your mom we just wanted to tell you how special you are ! You are a unique snowflake and totally not a normal sheeple!
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>>17747179
Sweety this is your mom don't listen to those meanie sites full of their scientific resources and research. We promise you are a unique and special snowflake.
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>>17747179
>>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy
Empathy Is Killed By Popular Painkiller Found In 600 Different Drugs

http://www.spring.org.uk/2016/05/empathy-killed-popular-painkiller.php
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>>17747129
let me put it another way.
I'm not feeling happiness as a direct result of seeing her being happy.
I'm feeling her positive emotion without really seeing her at all, as the job demands full attention to your station most of the time - and feeling happy as a result.
I'm not putting myself in her shoes, I don't even know where or how she lives. I can't do that.
I can CONSCIOUSLY feel the difference between her positive emotion and my response.
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>>17743807
>I just left out the part about having some weird connection to her. I don't think it's a good idea to go 'oh by the way, I've got some weird link to her that's more intimate than 99% of planet can even establish, and I can't turn it off.'
I know exactly how you feel.

Unfortunate, isn't it?
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>>17743910
>>>17741202
>Well that is interesting, I've never heard of that term.
Telempathic Projection is actually sending your own mood to another person. Anything within emotion-space can be conveyed. For example, you can't send the letters in the word "green", but you can send the color, if it evokes emotion in you at the time.

At very advanced proficiency it becomes possible to alter a subject's mood. But that would be a misuse, I think.
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>>17747206
>http://www.spring.org.uk/2016/05/empathy-killed-popular-painkiller.php
Acetaminophen, I know already. Doesn't really seem to stop this, or dull it.
Is it not empathy then? Are they two things that share the same word?
Does there need to be a Empathy (Disambiguation) page on wikipedia?
Should I have made the subject "Empaths" instead of empathy? since those google results don't include some 'walk a mile in their shoes' type of thing?
Or is there not a word for it?
Empathy logically comes from empath, but googling empathy and empath get two separate sets of results, empath isn't a recognized term to my autocorrect, apparently.

I like language, so apologies for all the text walls. If I'm using the wrong words it's because I don't know them.
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>>17744042
>Well, I read tarot well apparently. I'm an empath, can sense tragedy, and have had a couple experiences with ghosts or poltergeists, so why the fuck not?
Your ghosts and poltergeists are just uncontrolled emotional and spiritual energy expressing itself somehow. Sometimes when I'm grief stricken, or feel like a horrible injustice has been done, lights and electronics will sometimes fail around me.

So try to chill.

And I will pray for God to protect you from evil spirits and influences in Jesus' name.
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>>17744749
>What you are, OP, is a spoiled child who was brought up to believe he's special and not just one of us. You can probably blame your mother for your inflated ego and other assorted arrogance issues.
Why do you feel so small?

You don't have to.
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>>17747070
>the only time I receive 'help' with what I'm feel-ceiving is when they're talking.
That's so frustrating.
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>>17747209
>I'm not putting myself in her shoes, I don't even know where or how she lives. I can't do that.
>I can CONSCIOUSLY feel the difference between her positive emotion and my response.
Mmmm, just wait 'till she does something to betray herself.

You know something that makes her realllly ashamed of herself?

That's full-on grief-stricken painful, if you really Love her. Because you want to save her, and you both, from that.
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>>17747268
Well, I've thought about that. But I'm not sure that's it. Notable ghost-like encounter was during a simple skype call. At the time my fiancee and I skyped every day, most of the day. We were already pretty chill.
Then while we're talking I hear a woman screaming at the foot of my bed.
After a couple seconds of silence my fiancee asked 'what was that?' in a shaky tone.
Nothing else happened from it but we both had trouble sleeping that night.
there was no normal explanation for it, the only woman in the house was my mom (in the first year of our relationship, I was 19, i think? So yeah still living with mum)... and she was asleep in her room, which is in another direction.
I've heard Air Conditioners can whine somewhat similarly, but it wasn't on, and would also have been coming from a different angle.
What I think is it was something attached to this tackle box my mum brought home from work, her coworker had an uncle or something that passed recently and was trying to get rid of his stuff.
I got rid of it after that and there were no more occurrences.. but that's just confirmation bias, it could've been something else.
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>>17747263
>Acetaminophen, I know already. Doesn't really seem to stop this, or dull it.
Exactly because natural empathy is biological. Supernatural empathy is not.

>Is it not empathy then?
The textbook definition is the "capacity" to understand what another is feeling. That's natural empathy, but I think of it more as "sympathy".

Supernatural Empathy occurs when two human souls are bonded in such a manner that they directly experience each other's emotional states, whether they like it or not.

For example, I can tell you with certainty that my 'bondee', with whom I haven't spoken for over ten days, became sad (to the point of real tears) over _something_ during the late night hours of Friday, 27 May. I also know she's grieving because she's making choices that are hurting her, but other people think look great.

>Are they two things that share the same word?
Yes.

>Does there need to be a Empathy (Disambiguation) page on wikipedia?
Yes.

>Should I have made the subject "Empaths" instead of empathy? since those google results don't include some 'walk a mile in their shoes' type of thing?
Yes. People who experience the emotional states of others are known as "Emapths". All can receive, to some degree, but only some can actively send. Language information can't be sent.

In my case I can affect the outcome of random number generators, and cause lights to flicker and fail when experiencing states of extreme concentration or involuntary emotion. I try not to "push" negative emotional states, I try very hard to stay positive.

>Or is there not a word for it?
Telempathic Projection

>Empathy logically comes from empath, but googling empathy and empath get two separate sets of results, empath isn't a recognized term to my autocorrect, apparently.
It's not a scientific term.

>I like language, so apologies for all the text walls. If I'm using the wrong words it's because I don't know them.
I like language as well.

"Empathy" is psychology.

"Empath" is different.
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>>17747179
>Yeah, I skimmed that and didn't like that it doesn't agree with my ill-informed misconceptions, therefore I will disregard it
How about taking the time to try and fucking learn something for once, you lazy nigger?
>>17747209
If you aren't anywhere near her at the time, how the fuck would you know if you are actually picking up on her emotions like some kind of psychic? Do you log how you feel every minute of the day then compare notes with her to see if it matches up? Because unless you've done something to validate this beyond "muh feelings", then you might just be delusional.
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>>17747271
>I know you are but what am I
not him, but nice counterargument, you egotistical faggot. Get the fuck over yourself, you're not fucking special.
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>>17747356
>For example, I can tell you with certainty that my 'bondee', with whom I haven't spoken for over ten days, became sad (to the point of real tears) over _something_ during the late night hours of Friday, 27 May. I also know she's grieving because she's making choices that are hurting her, but other people think look great.
If that's the case, why don't you and your "bondee" take the Randi Challenge and make big bucks? Surely if you connection is that strong and specific, you should have no trouble getting results.
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>>17747356
>Supernatural Empathy occurs when two human souls are bonded in such a manner that they directly experience each other's emotional states, whether they like it or not.
Actually we are all connected together in some way or another, so everyone has a low-key bond like this with all other living things.

But for me, and Empathic bond like the one we've been talking about for weeks depends upon the amount of time your consciousnesses spend co-existing in space and time, and sharing thoughts and feelings. (And to some extent, emotional states, for some of us I suppose?)
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>>17747449
>If that's the case, why don't you and your "bondee" take the Randi Challenge and make big bucks? Surely if you connection is that strong and specific, you should have no trouble getting results.
tl;dr we're not speaking, and we may never speak again.

I vowed when I met her that I would not abandon her until she told me to "go away".

She finally said that to me about a week ago, after an emotionally rich, happy history, and I haven't spoken to her since. But my promise has been fulfilled, and I'm under no obligation to consider her a priority, now that she set me free.

Curiously I expected her words would sever the bond, and it has certainly freed me to seek other female company if I want, but it still feels like that bond still there, somehow. Just asleep.

This might mean that even though I wanted to break the bond after what she said to me, I wasn't able to do it by myself, because on some level, she held on.

Or it might mean nothing.

In any case, I wish her the best, and if she doesn't do something to reach out, then I suppose that's it, then. Which is sad.

People get afraid of bonds like this. Being your emotionally honest, true, vulnerable self is hard to do all the time. If someone gets too close and you're a defensive person, which most people are, you're gonna eventually become guarded and withdraw, which leads to situations like I described above. Over and over and over again.. :(

Sadly, people often choose any temporary distraction or diversion that will keep them from being truly known and Loved for who they truly are... it's a defense mechanism.
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>>17747528
>tl;dr we're not speaking, and we may never speak again.
yeah, how convenient... Shoot her a line about making half a million dollars, I'm sure that will change her tune.
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>>17747423
Sometimes I ask her if she's in a good mood, or at least alright. When I feel her positive emotions is when she says she's fine. When I don't feel her presence is when I find her (@ work of course) and ask if she's having a bad day. She's always said yeah - so far. Then I try to cheer her up, and sometimes I feel her positivity return.
I might actually try 'comparing notes' some time. She seems to be attracted to my body type, so unless I'm crazier than deep-fried water in how I explain it to her, she'll probably go with it. Seems the adventurous type.

also
>>Yeah, I skimmed that and didn't like that it doesn't agree with my ill-informed misconceptions, therefore I will disregard it
You just told me it doesn't.
The more experienced one here's explanation fits how I describe normal empathy to a T. It's basically sympathy.
I don't know why I'm bothering to explain again, but what I'm feeling isn't what you call empathy, it's the other kind.
Forgive the incorrect subject line then, but shouldn't you have been able to tell that if you actually read the thread?
I haven't really talked about it before, so I wasn't sure if I should label the thread empathy or empath.

He's right though, why are you so angry about all this? You don't HAVE to post here, you can just filter it or manually ignore it or whatever, yet here you are, trying to tear me apart just because
'nuh, yer just a sheeple, special snowflake, delusional faggot, this isn't empathy, wah'.

Bitch to someone who cares.
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>>17747610
You just said
>we're not speaking, and we may never speak again.
but now
>I might actually try 'comparing notes' some time
Which is it?
>fits how I describe normal empathy to a T. It's basically sympathy.
no, they are not the same thing. read the definitions of "sympathy" vs "empathy". You can't just change the definitions of words just to fit your argument.

And no, the subject is fitting. Like i said before, EVERYONE, with the exceptions of sociopaths, are empaths to a degree. It's not supernatural, though. It just seems that way because you don't understand how it works, and then you fill in the blanks with guesses and assumptions and just roll with it. That's how you get well on your way to delusionville.

>He's right though, why are you so angry about this?
Because it's not supernatural, and people being willfully ignorant pisses me off, since this is the type of woo woo bullshit that only further discredits the intelligence and credibility of those who believe in the supernatural.

Also, I believe you may be confusing me with another anon. I casually curse, but haven't been trying to "tear you apart", or insult you beyond you unwillingness to look into what actual empathy is, on the sole grounds of "hurr wikipedia durr". It's got references at the bottom of the page to double check, genius, or better yet, google it yourself and do more than just "skim". Learn something about yourself.

And of course, as has been said, if it really is something to the degree you assert and is of a supernatural variety, why aren't your bondee making bank? At the very least go hustle some poker tables.

>Bitch to someone who cares.
Aw, did I hurt your wittle feewings? I'm SO sorry that I don't just believe whatever shit any random person spouts without question, and refuses to try and learn anything. Actually, now I think I will insult you, you co-dependent, delusional, special snowflake wannabe faggot.
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>>17747889

>>17747610
Is OP.
>>17747528
Is another empath.

How are you talking to two different people and not realizing it? A few good cues in the posts.
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>>17747441
>not him, but nice counterargument, you egotistical faggot. Get the fuck over yourself, you're not fucking special.
Yes I am. :)
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>>17747596
>>tl;dr we're not speaking, and we may never speak again.
>yeah, how convenient... Shoot her a line about making half a million dollars, I'm sure that will change her tune.
That would change her tune.

Do you have half a million dollars?
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