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>>24159962
nobody wants to be my friend as badly as i want to be their friend
>>24159980
Go to church and be saved. People will be obligated to be your friend because Jesus
>>24159980
>best friend from high school in town
>just passing through for a few hours between busses
>his girlfriend lives in town
>she visits him every weekend
>"hey want to get dinner its been over a month, man!"
>"yeah for sure dude I get in 5pm"
>head downtown to maximize hang with old friend time
>5:30, no reply
>6:00, get call from his girlfriend
>"hey he doesnt know if hes gonna take the 7:30 or the eleven we'll let you know by 6:30. Also his phone is dead."
>head home
>6:30 no call, figured
>7:20, text from his girlfriend
>"he gone"
Did he seriously skip on his chance to see me just to fuck his girlfriend he had already spent the entire weekend on vacation with? I thought we were better friends than this..
grill say i'm cold, distant, aloof, and unapproachable, but love when i talk.
what do or think of this
>>24160221
>Did he seriously skip on his chance to see me just to fuck his girlfriend he had already spent the entire weekend on vacation with?
Yes he did.
>>24160221
Shit often happens while traveling. This is why it's dumb to schedule layovers of less than 2 hours when flying.
>>24160221
bros before hoes is a lie!
>>24160239
Continue as is... but when her friends are around you should perform gentlemanly gestures for her so they get slightly jealous that their normie BFs don't do stuff like that.
How do I open my heart and mind?
>>24160303
she visits him EVERY SINGLE WEEKEND. she seriously burned bridges with all of her local friends and just visits whenever shes off work
>>24160334
took the bus desu
>>24160339
this isnt just some guy, we were seriously best friends for at least half of high school
>>24159962
>advice thread
>BOD
>>24160460
I've gone through similar and even a time when they kicked me out of the house while we were hanging out because they wanted to have sex. Now, I thought we were best friends for a while too, but things fall apart quickly. Before you know it you might not even see him again.
>>24159962
How do i stop being short?
>>24160458
Start with your ass
>>24160506
HGH
>>24160411
I think you're just trying to get me to be a fedora.
>>24160458
Think like a 12 year old girl. Listen to Owl City and start reading those Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul books
>>24160498
you know the worst part is this is the second one of my friends shes dated. I actually like being her friend when she isnt dating someone I know, but shes extremely coveting.
>>24160539
does not work once your growthplates are fused
>>24160546
I would never...
>>24160460
THIS IS WHAT WHORES DO TO REGULAR MEN. GIVE IT A FEW MONTHS AND SOON HE WILL BE SENDING HER MONEY.
>>24160568
I assumed underage. A safe assumption usually
>>24160035
I know that's a /pol/ meme (or was a year or so ago, at least, haven't browsed that place in a while) but are you being sincere? Even in highschool, and I was at a fairly social youth-crowd church, my highschool church was just as clique-y and if anything more excluding than my public highschool.
Now yeah, absolutely, I wasn't just introverted but I was the full autist meme where I'd try to make a friend by walking up to someone and trying to make them think I was cooler than them. I didn't just fail to reach out, I almost actively pushed people away with my social failures. But I feel like that's the issue of a lot of people here, and of course myself since I'm asking you this.
I attendedmy grandparents'church's college-age group for a few months in Dallas and I felt incredibly rejected, but I was new in the city and coming from a small town, and there's a huge culture gap there that I wasn't adept enough to get over as well.
A girl likes me. She's got a nice body, and acts adorable. She also has an awful smile and bad body odor.
She made a move on me, and I got close to her and nearly gagged. I have to deal with this person pretty often, and I think she has lost all interest in me.
I have no idea why I care at this point if I didn't care at the start.
Some fedora chad I know insists on talking to me and sharing his obnoxious edgelordery with me.
He's only chad in the sense that he works out on a daily basis and makes sure everyone in the room knows he can kick their ass because god forbid anyone consider disagreeing with him, which they do anyway, at which point he gets pissy and makes sure nobody has any fun until he leaves.
Nobody wants to hang out with this guy; he just follows me around because I don't have the clout or physical strength to make him fuck off.
Just imagine everything you guys hate about reddit and 9gag and put it in a chad's body. That's this guy.
I did a really good job of not masturbating everyday, but I relapsed recently.
Not even jacking to porn, but I get off playing with it
I need to do something about this fucking noise or I'm gonna go ballistic.
Long story short, I've got a thing with sounds, and certain ones are kryptonite to me. Whistling, in particular, is something I can't stand. When I hear it, I'd rather shoot myself in the dick than listen to another second of it. It's enough that I'll leave something I'm enjoying just to escape it or just not go someplace (like lunch) just for some fucking quiet.
Honestly, most sound I can actually deal with, even the fucking blender and that weird ringing i pick up from the golf cart engine going by, but I swear to God everybody fucking whistles here. It's not something you'd notice if you weren't in physical pain from it, but holy fuck, people here whistle more than anywhere else I've been, and I could watch the habit fucking spread. It's in my dorm where I fucking sleep now.
I really don't know what to fucking do but clearly this is enough of an issue that I need to do something. The earmuffs look autistic as hell and don't even block whistling. Fingers barely do the trick if I move them to make noise. Earplugs I'm wary of because I don't want to build up wax and hurt my ears, and I obviously can't get away with wearing earplugs in a discussion-based class.
It seriously fucks with me. I feel like I'm being chased by a hostile presence when I'm just walking in tandem with somebody who's whistling and trying to get away as fast as possible. I hear that shit cutting through the window from outside while I sleep or I'm in class. It's often why I wake up in the morning, and I wake up confused and fucking hurting. People whistle at breakfast, lunch, and dinner in the cafeteria, and it's way too fucking cold to sit outside.Sometimes, I'm just in line for a smoothie and somebody's whistling right in front of or behind me while the fucking blender is going, and then I'm just in hell.
I haven't talked to people for about a year and i'm trying to make some friends now. Started to talk to people online but after like 15 min i just don't know what to say. How do i do small talk
>>24160607
>I was the full autist meme where I'd try to make a friend by walking up to someone and trying to make them think I was cooler than them
Well you are is a good place to realize this is poor social behavior. I once knew a girl who would go to several churches every Sunday. I went with her a couple times... it was surprising how often a random young person would notice new faces and come over to ask us for phone numbers/emails to get involved with groups.
>>24160624
He has an inferiority complex because the thinks people will respect him if he's bigger or stronger than them.
Why not try showing him patrician tier media and molding him so that he stops talking about reddit. If he says that the stuff you like is bad, just tell him that he's a jerk/ass and should spread his horizons.
>>24160035
I went there a few times but everyone was old.
>>24160723
Tried that. He's incapable of conceding defeat in an argument and will keep going until you give up trying to reason with him, at which point he will claim it as a victory.
>>24160619
Too bad you have to deal with her regularly. She sounds like she would make a great long distance texting partner.
Are you sure it's body odor or could she be using way too much cheap nasty perfume?
>>24160650
I've never heard of a problem like yours, if the severity you're describing is accurate. Not just annoying but bordering on physical pain? Has this been a lifelong thing, has it gotten worse lately?
Honestly I don't say this too often on this board, but I'd strongly urge you to seek professional help. Not because you're a crazy or anything, but because this sounds like such a niche issue that there's really not much I'd expect any average chum to be able to talk about.
Beware of searching the internet for help on things like this, especially in recent years the trend has been to take a problem and write an article amplifying its effect to ridiculous heights and encouraging you to do the same. It's harmful, I used to buy into that shit and it messed up my life. Recently, for instance, I read an article about being deaf in one ear; it summed up the medical facts pretty accurately (I mean, not much to say, you're deaf in one ear, what more needs explaining) but then started going on a giant rant about oppression. Apparently, being deaf in one ear means you can't hear anyone talking ever, can't hear waiters at restaurants asking you for your order, means you are incapable of watching a movie without subtitles, etc. etc. Now I'm deaf in one ear, 100%, and partial in the other, and I can do all of those things. But if I sit on my computer reading articles about how I can't, eventually I'll start to believe it. In fact, I used to have to watch movies with subtitles, because that sort of shit made me think I'd never be able to understand, so I might as well not even try. So obviously I didn't, and wow what a surprise I never got better at it.
Tl;dr (wow that was long and holy shit you don't care about my story) please see a professional, this sounds like a very small niche that one with education might be able to help you on.
>>24160650
I seriously don't know what to fucking do. I try to be accommodating. I don't bring it up. I'll leave my own fucking room for 45 minutes and stand in the hail waiting out your in-shower falsetto performance. I try to do this shit passively or just put up with it and act normal and twist the grimace into a grin when I'm with people.
I've seriously considered just making a diary to keep track of when I have the most trouble with noise throughout my day and just prepping for it like I would for rain or snow. I'd probably look spergy as hell walking into the cafeteria every day with earmuffs, but this shit is rapidly becoming a QOL issue.
Plz halp.
>>24160647
Find something else to fill the void, sublimate the urge, and keep your mind off of it. Idle hands are the devil's plaything.
>>24160684
Let people into your internal monologue. Make comments and observations. Take advantage of social vehicles and stuff like "Hello" and "Thank you."
>>24160763
Well, it's kind of funny. At first I thought it was just an odd perfume since she's a foreigner.
What I realized the more I was around her is that whenever she was cooped up for a while and not showering she'd start to reek.
>At her place after she takes a shower?
>Absolutely fine.
>After 5 hours on a bus?
>Smells like garbage and I want to gag
>>24160458
>town
I did Ayahuasca in Peru. It did open it, but since coming back, it's closed again. Compassion meditation works, but I'm WAY too fucking lazy!
>>24160684
Read the chapter about how to talk to people in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People... I think it's called "Seek first to understand" or something like that.
You learn to ask open ended questions, repeat important parts of their stories, and make them feel like you "get" them. People here will claim it will turn you into a soul-less normie... but whatevs.
>>24160506
Hang out with midgets
>>24160684
here's a few things to think of during every conversation
>are you talking more than they are?
>Are they not asking you questions?
>do they not start up conversations with you every once in a while just to talk?
If you answered yes to two of these, they might not think of you as a good friend.
Try opening up about interresting personal stories. If you aren't interresting, find something THEY are interested in, and try to learn more about it so you can talk to them about it.
Source: a robot with no friends who has used this method to talk to people to keep up my image as a human being. So far, they suspect nothing.
>>24160756
At the end, next time he wins, say, "oh well, I guess we just disagree"
If he tells you that you're objectively wrong, say
"Alright, whatever you say chad, we all have out own opinions"
If he insists that it isn't an opinion, just say, "I think I'll just remain 'ignorant' then, because things have been working out for me so far"
Should I accept a seasonal job at costco I half-heartedly applied for or live my neet life for a couple more months while I keep going to school weekends to get my commercial driver's license?
I got enough saved for car payments from my savings to last me until at LEAST July and parents support me financially so no worry about that
On one hand more money
On the other be wagekuking moving carts for 11.50
>>24160773
Well fuck, you were fast.
>Not just annoying but bordering on physical pain?
It's really NOT just annoying. You nailed it with that. It doesn't even border on pain. It is pain. I have experienced annoyance and know what it is. This is not it. This is way closer to what I know to be pain.
That's what's impossible to express. I really can't just fucking deal with it because I'm the only guy in the room who literally feels like I'm being touched.
>Has this been a lifelong thing, has it gotten worse lately?
It's been lifelong. I used to throw fucking fits and be an irritable kid over sounds all the time. Sound gives me feeling and corresponding images, and for whatever reason I'm sensitive as fuck.
>Tl;dr (wow that was long and holy shit you don't care about my story)
Honestly, I find descriptions of the way people experience sensory input to be pretty interesting in general. Deafness seems weird. In any case, I agree, the tumblr snowflake crowd especially blows their issues way out of proportion. Half the reason I haven't done shit is because I don't want to wind up seeing a snowflakeist or getting the issue blown out of propration. On the other hand, it DOES interfere with my day.
>>24160904
Opening more doors seems like a better option than jumping into Costco.
>>24160845
kek
>>24160904
>11.50
I'd take your job in a heartbeat where I live.
What state are you in?
>>24160895
That's good.
That's very good.
>>24160904
As far as low-level wagekuk jobs, Costco is one of the better places to work. $11.50 for being a cartwhore is pretty good.
>>24160932
>Opening more doors seems like a better option than jumping into Costco.
Well the costco job is seasonal. So until January which is around the time my truck school ends and I take my cdl test
I just applied as an opportunity to watch my bank account grow though I am not strapped for cash
>>24160933
CA
>>24160977
Then 11.50 seems like a solid temporary status if you're just accumulating money in lieu of staying NEET till January.
I live in a rural area on a ranch. I'm looking for a whore to take my virginity. Where should I look for "escorts"? I'm having trouble with craigslist / backpage
I found a 1 year old post from a prostitute near me.
>>24160977
>CA
Your state probably has the most corruption next to new York
Stay neet.
>>24160714
Now I'm not full New Atheist or whatever, but I am not religious and find it very challenging to fake things like that. I've often contemplated finding a church for social purposes, but just could never get over how all the social activity was very much based around the Bible, no matter what church it was at. Call it autism or whatever, but faking that (or even faking respect for a grown man who stands up and says the earth is 8000 years old because chimpanzees don't look like humans) has always been very difficult for me.
Now I'm not calling all christians Young Earthers, but it's that sort of thing. I don't really know what questions to ask here, other than, this is my biggest concern with that "go to church" 4chan meme and ask if you have any suggestions or criticisms for it.
>>24159962
How do I stop being a unmotivated lazy fuckwit? I've got homework to do, but I'd rather watch paint dry than do that shit. I've made a list of what I need to get done to remind me, but that seemed to have made it worse.
>>24161002
Rural prostitutes are never a good option. Travel to a city or look for swingers (though you'd have to deal with some old fart watching you bang his wife).
>>24161022
>Your state probably has the most corruption next to new York
What does that have to do with my problem tho
>>24161002
>whore to take my virginity
You do know any escort you hire will only fuck you with a condom right?
It's difficult to inspire myself to just get out of bed and draw.
>bar
>drunk
>spot an easy girl
>approach
>if instantly rejected move to another one
>continue until you find a grill that actually wants to talk
>drink more
>"hey you wanna go to my place 2 sleep"
also wear a dress shirt or a polo to look more trustworthy
>>24161089
wait what?
having sex with a condom = virgin?
>>24160853
Not the anon you're responding to, but
>>are you talking more than they are?
>>Are they not asking you questions?
>>do they not start up conversations with you every once in a while just to talk?
That's a pretty good description of me, and many other socially challenged people I know. I actively try to do things like that, but I don't know what questions to ask and I don't have a good sense of recognizing good openings to talk vs. just interrupting them and making them feel like I don't care about what they're saying.
It's definitely a thing I work on, just as hard as I work on anything. Schoolwork, professional work, /fit/ work, socialization work. It's honestly not fun for me (to work on), but I do want to be able to socialize competently so I force myself to.
>>24161109
yes
doesn't count
>>24161061
I think there are a fair number of agnostics in the unitarian universalist church.
As far as the idea behind "go to church"... the idea is find a group that is accepting with a low barrier of entry. Most churches fit that description... of course the same could be said of joining bullshit activist groups who will have frequent planned social/activist activities.
I'm sure there are other examples, but those are the two that come to mind most predominantly.
I don't know if this is a problem or not. I don't enjoy the things I used to, and I don't connect with my friends anymore as a result. Things like new game releases, or geeky movies, or tabletop games. They just seem kind of boring and silly to me now. I don't know if that's a positive or negative change. I worry my imagination got broken, and I feel kind of lonely. At the same time though, all that stuff that used to interest me seems pretty vapid. Formulaic products with absurd cycles of hype, forgotten about a week later in search of the next thing. Nothing has any lasting value.
>>24160831
>>24160853
Thank you for the advice! I'll try both!
>>24160932
>It is pain
I know you said earplugs don't (or barely) work, but just out of curiosity, have you talked to a doctor about it? Generic earplugs are generally just to make the world in general quieter, if I'm correct it sounds like your issue is primarily with higher-pitched sounds. On that topic, have you tried active noise-canceling earbuds? I've never used earbuds, but I have used active noise-canceling headsets (the big ones, the kind pilots wear, because I was flying a plane) and they do a lot. They're not perfect, and obviously you can't always wear them, but it's something I guess.
>deafness seems weird
Honestly, it's weird, but (and remember I'm not totally deaf, just one-ear) most of the time it's hardly noticeable. That was why the article annoyed me so much. Surround-sound systems do me zero benefit and I can't pinpoint position of peoples' voices, for instance (basically life is a movie on mono sound) but that's it.
I'm really curious though, and I apologize for asking, do you have hyper-sensitive ears, are you sensitive to higher frequencies than 99% of the population? 'Cause shit, I'm no doctor, but short of surgery it really does seem like the only fix would be to block out higher ranges (unless you do have some undetected-since-birth infection in your eardrums or something, shit, I'm not a doctor I have no idea how bodies work.)
>>24161177
>activist groups
I'd sooner krill myself.
>low barrier of entry
I mean pretty much every American Christian church is gonna let anyone through the door, and I know there are a lot of the "ask forgiveness not permission/God hates sins except for my sins" crowd on top of that. Are you religious, or devout, or do you use it for the social crowd? If you're the first, what do you think of people like me who have been through the Christianity --> atheism path and will likely never convert but pretend to be faithful? If you're the second, what's the experience been like for you? Obviously rewarding if you're preaching it, I guess.
>>24161178
Sounds like healthy behavior of someone maturing normally. There is little downside to totally ignoring the "cycles of hype". Sounds like you are looking for a creative outlet though...
How do i cope with loneliness?
>>24161339
I'm not active in the church scene anymore, but when I was I'd say it was about a 50/50 split between be interested in the "message" being delivered that week and the social side of things. I was never much for praying in church or singing, but went through the motions anyway.
It filled a need I had at that point in my life by giving me interesting things to think about and putting things into perspective while at the same time surrounding me with mostly positive, welcoming people. I remember my first night going to an intervarsity meeting... this random girl asked if I was new and invited me to go to mcdonalds with her afterwards.
Ultimately, I drifted away from it and found other groups of people to hang with, but it had value during that particular time in my life.
>>24161410
Cope with it? Drugs and alcohol and escaping to the internet.
But coping is for suckers.
>>24161355
Perhaps that is what I need. I'm not sure what I could make though, that wouldn't just be another petty distraction.
I hate my roommate but there is no one else in my life. I don't know what to do. I don't want to live alone and be alone but whatever...
How do I have conversations without awkward silences?
>>24161732
If you find yourself in an awkward silence, repeat or paraphrase the last thing the other person said and ask them a question.
>>24161707
Having a roommate is a pretty unnatural way to live. That's why most people move away from that arrangement by their mid 20s.
Posted this in another thread, I seriously don't know what to do. I ordered aldactone and progynova a few weeks ago so that I could look cuter and I think my mom found it. She keeps asking me how I'm feeling, if there's anything I need to talk to her about, would I want to see a psych, and that she'll love me no matter what.
I'm not trans, but I think she suspects I am. What am I supposed to do in this situation?
I'm bad at talking. I have nothing to say. I'm just unfunny and boring.
>>24162175
Ask questions and focus your energy on making the other person feel like they are interesting.
>>24162132
Mom is concerned about your health. Find a way to ease this fear.
>>24162235
My mom doesn't know I'm taking them just to be cute, she just found them. I'm pretty sure she's concerned because she thinks I'm trans.
There's this girl who I never asked her number and now she's gone. I know someone who has her number though. Do I just get the number and txt her, or should I get the person to ask her if it's okay to get her number? I don't want to be a creep but I don't want to be beta either.
I worship the Devil and hear voices inside of the walls.
>>24162384
Depends how well you know her
>>24162433
Sometimes the only devil we need to fight is the one between our ears.
>>24162446
Not very.
