Question to those who had dated psycho women
Lets say i want to get together with a girl with borderline personality disorder, but i just want to white knight her and put her on the pedestal and make her feel that im absolutely devoted to her, but the truth is im doing it all to compensate for my own ego.
How will the relationship work out?
Female wojak to atteact female posters too
Borderline girls aren't as scary as everyone makes them out to be.
That said, be prepared to deal with a lot of paranoia and her questioning your intentions. Make sure you're really, really okay with the extra baggage before you succeed. Also, be ready to pick your battles wisely. Even if you're in the right, sometimes it's much easier to just let shit slide if it's not inconveniencing you in some way.
Her mindset is going to be a lot of black and white thinking. You're either her hero or her abuser, in her eyes, and that can change very quickly depending on the situation/her emotions. Talking calmly and reassuring tends to work. Remind her of things you've done that evidence that you care if she's feeling insecure.
>>26941703
I read the sex is really really great. Porn star tier sex. Is that true?
>>26941287
I think with that attitude, the relationship can go well,
but when you will be tired of her retardness, and want to break up, you will be fucked.
>>26942229
Is the sex porn star tier? Do you know? What can she even do to me if i get bored of her? Ill have everything planned anyway
Answer me fucker
crazy girls are fun if they let you fuck. if they only want you for attention you'll hate it.
>>26943285
How fun so i can fap to it
>>26941287
I will answer your question if you answer mine.
How the fuck does anautismo grillfind a way to cope with guys who possibly like her too much and that get jealous over anything?
Grown ass men throwing temper tantrums because my life doesn't revolve around them and their dick make me want to kill myself desu.
To answer your question anyway, I get turned off enough from what most people consider "normal" jealousy. Let alone psycho bitches. Only date her if you have a desire to help her and care for her and feel brotherly towards her.
>>26943318
Just pick men more wisely. Maybe aim higher, because it's pretty easy to tell what guys are going to be like this. They're insecure, awkward, maybe hard to talk to. If you feel comfy with them it's because you think you're just as bad. Which you might be, but, you're a woman so you can always get someone better(provided you are not fat).
>brotherly
What the fuck? You don't want to date, you just want a really close friend strictly on your relationship terms.
>>26941287
Cluster B disorders are terrible, and you should not associate with people who have them if you can avoid doing so. People like that will ruin your life, they won't feel bad after, and they will always find some way to make it all your fault.
>>26943318
in general guys who show a lot of attention towards you are probably not compatitive with, for a balanced relationship you need a guy who has a lot of own interests that he likes to focus on and sees you more as companionship than s "love partner". friends with benefits sort of thing, but of course you can call it dating or whatever you two want.
>>26943318
well the autism girl would have to reassure him a lot and tell him hes important to her, she loves him, she needs him.
Do things for him say writing cute little i love you notes or drawings
Do anything he requires to assuage his feelings of insecurity because thats where jealosuy stems feom, e.g. He doesn't like you hanging out with your friends, you tell him that you love him and reassure him by not hanging out with your friends.
Perhaps you didn't understand my question. I just want to get together with her to feed my own ego by playing along with a pay ho girls drama. Those who get hurt really bad are those who are really emotionally invested into their partners craziness. I on the otherhand do this as sort of a goal or a game
My word of advice: don't get too drunk or in any kind of mindstate you're not in control of your actions. They're fucking amazing at getting a rise out of you when they want to.
Signed,
Anon who got blind drunk and got a domestic violence conviction.
>>26943358
What? Jesus christ, I was referring to OPs question. I mentioned brotherly because of the unconditional love aspect traditionally seen as exclusive to family members.
Also, I'm really not sure I want to date, you still have a point. The men I've dated always complain about feeling inadequate for me, but then again, I've never met anyone I considered adequate for me so I just don't even make an effort into trying to find a perfect someone and roll with whatever comes my way.
Maybe I should stop doing that.
>>26943386
Everyone says this on forums ive googled. GIVE ME EXAMPLES HAT YOUVE EXPERIENCED DAMMIT, I NEED YOUR EXAMPLES
>>26943379
I'm going to assume that there's no point in trying to find someone compatible with me seeing as that person would also not be trying to find someone compatible with them to begin with.
>>26943383
Ok Hijak or Wojak or whatever the fuck meme your personality is. Also, what a shit answer. "All the girl has to do is do what he wants", it didn't even have comedic value you fucking edgelord.
>>26941287
I've dealt with legit bpd people in the past. The only way I've ever been able to garner loyalty with them is to have consistent indifference for months on end. ie. no trying to dissect them, taking a strong stance toward anything they do, or having personal life conversations.
I'm not sure why this is, but I'm guessing they eventually just affiliate you being around as part of their normal environment. Generally someone with bpd will immediately throw their ties with you under the bus the moment you do something they don't consider tasteful.
>>26942068
Greatly depends on the girl,
Faggot.
>>26943368
It's pretty much true, I have a mild case of a cluster B disorder and I can be manipulative as FUCK. It usually isn't even conscious, I don't go in with manipulative intent but that's my means to whatever end. I don't have much of a conscience either, and I will find a way to make it at least partially your fault, I am apt in the art of shifting blame (a subtype of manipulation)
I could have been gifted in writing or math or something great, instead I was given this. People end up resenting me for it, too. Fuck.
Cluster B is a special type of hell, friend. Like I said, my case is pretty mild. Someone with more severity will be a manipulative, snaking cunt like me only more unstable. I'm able to keep myself relatively in check.
>>26943421
Holy fuck you disint wven answer my part of the question you piece of shit. I answered your question the way you wanted 'you ask how do i cope' and i gave suggestions on how to cope with his jealosuy now answer mine unless youre not the same poster
>>26943318
> feel brotherly towards her.
is this you're fetish??
guise get jelous when they see a whore they are talking to start talking to another guy. it doesnt matter about what. whores are gonna be whores and thats confirmed. just look at how many people post revenge pictures and videos after they're gf goes and breaks up with them for some guy they bearly started talking to. dont blame the malebots blame yourself and the reputation women have given themselves thru their actions.
>>26943475
>saying it dpends
You know thats the most shittest answer to any subjective question right? Saying it depends is pretty much a non answer aside from bumping my thread. If you have no personal experience to draw from, kindly fuck off and fap to your hentai grils faggot :)
>>26943524
You fag, not all girls behave in the same way, they don't have a hive mind, so depends is as close as anyone can give you, specially if we're talking about mentally unstable girls.
>>26943488
I already answered in the very thread.
>>26943489
I already explained what I meant you faggot, also, kill yourself.
>>26943524
It depends because it fucking depends.
>>26943489
This is that bitch from those prank videos?
>>26943545
Trying to explain a guy who fell for the women are ALL whores meme that women don't have a hive mind. Prepare for all the REEEEEEEE anon.
Op i think i understand where you're coming from and i can see from the replies a lot, if no one, here has no idea what you're trying to convey because they all think you're getting into a serious relationship with this girl when infact your posts clearly shows a different intent. I think these relationship romantics are purposely ignoring important parts of your post and framing the question to auit their perceptions.
Ive properly read your post but desu i have no advice because i have tfwnoff, but maybe thats why i was able to read your question objectively.
Just want to let any retards who reads this know
>>26943563
To think that all women are the same is autistic, you man see them all as the same but they really aren't.
>>26943570
THanks for clarifying at least
>>26943595
I dare say that you either lack reading comprehension or are autistic yourself, I was agreeing with what you just said.
>>26943570
Thing is that it doesn't make a difference whether or not he wants to make himself feel better by inflating her ego, he'd go through hell anyway and would get his life made miserable. Cluster B will fuck you up.
>>26943415
Examples of getting a rise out of me?
> car needed some work done suddenly and unexpectedly
> kinda broke, so I got a payday loan from a pawn shop to make sure I had enough
> woman behind the counter says because Im on a decent wage, I can get more cash if I want
> decide to get an extra $100 and take her to this fancy cocktail bar she'd been asking me to take her to.
> figure I'll surprise her, just told her we were going to a pub (across the road from cocktail bar) to watch the rugby
> ordering first round of drinks, she notices the extra cash in my wallet
> demands to know where it came from
> don't want to spoil the surprise so I just tell her jokingly that I robbed a 7/11
> she doesn't laugh, demands I tell her
> really surprising to me since we didn't live together at this point and our finances weren't at all intertwined
> eventually I tell her about the pay day loan and how I was planning on taking her to that bar she wanted to see
> rather than being happy, says, "at least I know where I stand" then leaves to go smoke a cigarette
> decide this is b8, she just wants me to follow her and argue some more
> don't get up, keep drinking alone and watching the rugby
> fifteen minutes later she comes back, "I've just been out smoking with a real man"
> lose my fucking shit, tell her she's being a miserable sour cunt for no reason, all I tried to do was do something nice for her
It carried on in the cab, then we got back to my place, I told her to sleep in my bed, I'll sleep on the couch and she can drive herself home in the morning.
Instead she Sat in the middle of my loungeroom chain smoking and telling me Im pathetic.
>>26943556
idk i found the set on s and saved them
>>26943553
Hen what the fuck was the problem, you aked how an autistic girl cope with a. Jealous guy, i answered how an autistic girl could cope with a jealous guy. Okay what else do you want me to say? The austistic girl could always emotionally disconnect herself from the strain and load of having to deal with a jealous boyfriend.
Your move.
>>26943615
Sounds like you're dating my mom.
>>26943318
Cope? Find a partner who doesn't get that jealous. Someone as indifferent and detached as yourself. I mean is this a relationship or a business transaction? From where I'm sitting you sound cold as ice, the annoying jealousy comes from a place of love.. if it's someone you really wanted to be with I think you'd find a workaround. You're gonna have to put up with bullshit no matter who you're with.
This post has scared me off all girls on the spectrum, that's for damn sure
>>26943629
I already answered, you're not going to manage to compensate for your own anything. Cluster B is AIDS tier, you'll regret it.
>>26943614
I am autistic and I have dyslexia.
Sorry didn't read that properly
>>26943615
LMAO this is exactly what im after. You did good my man. Its definitely difficult to do ehat you did if one is only pretending tto care about her. TIS is what im looking for here.
>>26943614
Op here, the other guy understood perhaps he isnt tainted by your cynical past experiences. I read the real life experience from the above reply and it made me lol.
Tell me some of your worst experiences(if you even have any) or just fuck off
>>26943653
Give personal examples now, all these people telling me im going to get royally rekt in my own game, tell me what youre dealing with then
>>26943637
Most girls on the spectrum aren't quite as bad as I am (not even close, most of them are the type to actually get obsessed over men).
Also, I seem cold as ice but I'm really not. If the guy was contributing in any way to my life or helping me out or motivating me I'd be feeling good about it. But nope, all he does is say that I've hurt him all the time when I don't even know what the fuck I did /this time/ and doesn't even display interest in my fucking life. He's also often shallow in terms of his expression of affection and it hurts me more than it makes me happy to know someone wants to be with me because of the way I look and my desirability than because they empathize and are in tune with me.
Did I also mention that he manages to be about as boring as a stacy or a chad? Despite actually having interests?
>>26943653
I don't like your broad, sweeping generalizations familia
I can be a pretty rad guy sometimes, my diagnosis doesn't define me and all that happy bullshit
I bet you'd be begging for someone in cluster B if you had to deal with someone with antisocial pd for too long
>>26943696
Wait so is this about you. You shouldve just said so. You want to cope? Break up with him and find another guy. The guy should satisfy you. Its his duty
>>26943676
>>26943615 Here
The sex is adequate, not the best, but not the worst. But extremely frequent. 10-15 times a weekend most of the time.
But sometimes she stops giving a fuck about how she looks. Yesterday she put her hair in a fucked up top bun, but missed 2/3rds of it which was just hanging out in a knotty mess. While she was riding my cock I looked up and it legit looked like I was fucking krusty the clown
>>26943697
I wouldn't deal with someone with antisocial pd to begin with unless he was incredibly good at faking it. Also, I've dealt with Cluster B all my life, it makes me want to kill myself, they are effectively patternless people who are inflammatory for the sake it.
They will not give up until they manage to ruin your life and make you feel like a piece of shit for "doing wrong by them".
>>26943693
>>26943676
I don't feel like giving personal examples (because I get triggered just from thinking about it), but it's everyday shit just like the other kid described with the loan. Every single fucking day I'd get home and I had apparently always done or not done something to deserve being haunted around the fucking house by my mother's screaming.
Here's a quick sample of the shit I have to put up with:
>I'D SELL MY BODY EVERY NIGHT IF THAT MEANT YOU COULD BE HAPPY, I'D SELL ORGANS FOR YOUR HAPPINESS!
>You know, you don't have to sell anything or be a fucking whore in order to help me be happy, all you have to do is fucking shut up.
>REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT ME, YOU DISAPPOINT ME.
>>26943723
It is indeed about me. I already tried to break up with him once and ended up feeling too sad to be able to cope with it, so I'm giving it another chance and I'm passive aggressively starting to wish he'd fall in love with someone else. So swept off his feet that he'd forget all about me and break up with me himself.
>>26943732
So tell me , anon why havent you. Broken up with the psycho? Has she caught you by thw balls from the frquent sex?
>>26943753
Looks appealing to me anon, whats the problem here? Youre clearly not hijaked enough for opie
>>26943785
Okay, i get it now. Whats your official diagnosis, if youve been officially diagnosed.
As a borderline woman DO NOT do that, if she knows you're that into her she will lose interest faster than usual.
>>26943786
You're right, I'm not. Neither was my father, neither is her current husband. Neither is her entire family, neither are any of her friends (all of which are Cluster B tier batshit and talk to each other to brag about how their husbands cook for them, and meanwhile, my mother's husband fucks other women every friday night).
She's pathetic. I suspect the only real talent she has is the fact that she manages to find herself reasonable and likeable despite all the crazy shit she says and the fact that she's a mother with no motherly instincts.
Indeed, it's fascinating. Also, she would never whore herself for me. She says that shit for shock value to try and evoke a reaction. She hates me because I counter her with solid stop talking trash you cunt tier insults.
TFW you have to scream louder than her for her to actually process any of the words you say.
Also, I'm the autistic femanon with the question about the overly attached guy.
>>26943786
She is pretty fun. We both love nature, we spend our nights watching documentaries and our days out in the bush or snorkeling and meeting wild animals. I've never met a woman as curious as her, she will eat a berry off a tree if it looks tasty despite having no idea if its poisonous or not. She'll happily jump on my bike with me and do well over 100mph, she can be funny sometimes and leave me little surprises where she knows I'll find them just to make me smile.
It's always an adventure. Her birthday is Monday, she said she wanted to just take Molly and eat kiwi fruits all day. Then we're driving to a court date she has a few hours north, then snorkeling with sea turtles then camping near a waterfall.
Pic related is the painting she did for me for valentines day.
>>26943832
I've been officially diagnosed with an ASD, no specifics as of yet. I have a long story mental health wise, let's not go into that too in depth, but, I was misdiagnosed with schizophrenia and all kinds of ridiculous shit for many years and took all kinds of vicious medication that I never needed. Eventually I decided that I needed to save myself and that surely the diagnosis all had to be wrong because none of the anti psychotics I took (I tried over 10 different meds) took away any of my "hallucinations". Which turned out to be actual thing I was hearing, I have heightened hearing (like a bunch of autistic kiddos do). So yeah, I'm indicated for the diagnosis within the spectrum but no actual specifics.
>>26943851
Good to hear from a borderline woman. How should i act to keep her longer?
>>26943892
So i guess you're okay with her Bpd and isnt enough for you to leave her anytime soon?
>>26943909
You should act abusive, basically. As much as I hate this cliche many borderlines (myself included) can only believe this form of love.
>>26943899
1) why is it so difficult to leave your boyfriend
2) what initally drew you to him
>>26943954
So the more abusive i am,
1)the more she wants me and
2)is less likely to pull shit like >>26943615?
>>26943785
How long have you two been together?
>>26943931
Tbqh I probably would never leave her unless she cheated on me or something. I am like a messiah for broken people, for some reason they love me. It's difficult at times, but most of the time Im fairly happy. I just really like making people happy. And I really like having someone I can be gentle with.
Even as a little boy I was always bringing home injured birds and babies that fell out of the nest. It's just my nature I suppose.
It's fucked up that I got a DV conviction and my probation officer can be a cunt sometimes. But crying about it won't change anything.
>>26943961
1) I hated seeing how heartbroken he was when I tried to break up with him the first time and, overall, the time we spend together is quite good.
2) I fall in love too easily but, we have a weird dynamic that draws us together. We both have some sort of generalized hatred towards most people but do our best to treat everyone in the best way possible. We related subconsciously because we both have that perspective about life. The problem is that we're very different people when we fall for someone. The way we express our feelings and display affection is radically different. Which also works as an endearing dynamic from both of our perspectives.
Living the Shoujo dream anon. I fucking hate it.
>>26943975
Pretty much, borderlines (myself included) will try to spite you in order to get a reaction out of you very often.
>>26943851
>borderline
FUCK OFF WITH YOUR MEME DISORDER AND GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER
>>>/trash/
>>>/trash/
>>>/trash/
>>26943980
Not long enough for it to justify the amount of drama he's managed to unfold and get me mixed up in.Less than a month, go figure, haven't even assumed any kind of commitment ffs.
>>26944035
What's the first letter of your name?
>>26944035
You can't handle breaking up with someone who youve only been seeing for less than a month? Is he that great for you?
>>26944045
>>26944068
No, he's not. Refer to the previous post. Also, why does the first letter of my name matter?
>>26944021
Can you give me some insight as to why she doesn't like her previous boufriend even though he treated like straight shit?
http://youtu.be/EmyZtb31hss
Between 8:00 - 11:40
>>26944105
>why does the first letter of my name matter?
I think I know somebody that knows you.
>>26944105
Im the OP. Im not the other cuck who asked for your name. I dont care about you as a person im only asking questions to sate my curiosity and answer your questions for personal amusement
>>26944158
Will it benefit me in any way if you confirm that you know somebody that knows me?
>>26944162
If only everyone on 4chan was capable of such high level of Internet morality my friend. Oh well, cucks will cuck.
>>26944011
>I hated seeing how heartbroken he was when I tried to break up with him
you pity him & think so lowly of yourself that neither one of you will ever be happy together
>strange dynamic
is your strange dynamic you two arguing all the time?
>>26944214
Whelp, I agree. Which is why I want to break up with him and have been waiting it out to see if it improvesseen as it has barely been a month, things may change, I sincerely doubt it thoughSo, aside from me thinking lowly of myself, you're right. I actually have a healthy self esteem. The real reason I'm still trying to see if it works is because things MAY change. But I'm not too hopeful. Drama happened today again which is why I'm fucking triggered and oversharing on 4chan.
lmfao at all these borderline roasties
your disorder is fake
you do shit for attention intentionally
all your problems could be solved if you didn't act like a cunt so much.
>>26944342
>all these borderline roasties
>only 1 has posted to say she has BPD
Did you read anything youLITERALLYfaggot?
I just don't think there's such thing as too crazy to be dateable.
BPD is just saying you don't feel like fixing yourself and you'd rather make excuses to keep being a bitch.
