Having girl troubles anon? Come tell me what is on your mind
I'm 18 and haven't had a gf technically yet, and idk if I want one just yet . I need thoughts on if I should set up an okcupid account to get a gf or wait until after college or wait until school starts. I'm avg.build 6 ft tall, got my life planned out working part time and going to b debt free from college tuition. I just want to know your guy's thoughts on what I should do.
>>29937659
not Dr Pepe but you don't have to worry about it for a couple more years, if you're a normie chances are you'll meet a gf naturally during college. once you're nearing the end of college and no gf that's when you should start making an effort to find one
I want these never-ending nights toend
>>29937659
You have so much more in life to look forward to than getting a gf, start a hobby or learn an extremely useful skill like drawing, playing an instrument or building something useful
If you do this correctly, by 21 you will have no need for a gf because you'll be too busy cashing out on your hard work
But if you must fall for the gf meme and see what it's like, pof is better than okcupid, or join a club at school,
>>29937819
Are you feeling suicidal by any chance? Have you been getting enough sleep? Gonna need some more info on your condition fambrino
>>29937327
Got a girl who seems to at least be interested in hanging out with me to play PokeNormie Go (there's a meetup in my state next week).
I feel like by asking for advice on her from my friends I'm indirectly cockblocking myself by getting my hopes too high. They all say "Well, she definitely seems interested!" and I can't help but have a sneaking suspicion that it's not the romantic kind of interested.
Should I try to stop thinking about her so often to reset the natural balance?
Also 18, have some very good things going for me, and am excited for university in the fall. Feel like I'm starting to fall in a trap though. Whenever I'm home, I just want to steal my folk's liquor until I get silly. I've done it a few times already, haven't been preoccupied w/ work recently because the payroll is tight. Not so much of a go-getter either that I'm looking for a new job yet either. Is there anyplace I can just go when I'm feeling stircrazy and want to leave the house at midnight?
>>29937327
>over heard cute 7/10 blonde said i was attractive
>later i was shirtless at the gym (it was really hot and everyone was doing it so i wasnt being "that guy" or anything)
>go outside too cool off between sets
>she saw me
>disgust.jpg
To dissolve into the ground
>>29938037
Not Dr Pepe, but traditionally young folk go to the club or call up their night owl friends with neglectful parents.
I personally would be content with a nice walk outside at night. Everything's prettier and more mysterious.
>>29937933
Apologizes, I didn't expect actual help, I was being cryptic on purpose.
>>29938187
I like to walk out at night, i pray to meet a similaryly inclined grill someday.
I like to have conversations with girls in my head when i walk. I base them off real girls or make them up but even in my head the get creeped out and run away.
>tfw can't compose music
I just wish I could make a copypasted hands up song in FL studio to start with, but I can't put anything down. My brain wants everything to come together immediately, but then I get perfectionist. I end up googling how to create effects, or neapolitan or midichlorian chords.
>>29938287
Think that might be a little unhealthy.
I can't fap to Facebook/Instagram pictures of girls I know IRL (I've tried). Feels like an invasion of privacy or something.
>>29937999
If you want to play Pokemon GO then just go do it, remember that she's not a whore so there's no need to try and fuck her right on the spot, but you gotta take your time and let her see you are not focused on one thing.
But to answer your original question, yes. Don't invest such expensive feelings in a person you hardly know. Give it some time and see if her personality stays consistent with your expectations, if it does, make it known what your intentions are and go from there.
>>29938166
You are alive and healthy and that is a feel roasties can't comprehend because they are too absorbed in themselves. Also she wanted your attention and for you to react so that she'd have something to talk to her friends about.
>>29938414
I mean I'm largely trying to convince myself that she's just a fellow trainer who I'd like to run around with, but fuck me I can't help but have a hard-on for scene/alternative chicks.
there is paleskin darkhair cutie at local grocery that always smile at me but so far ive been too pussy to say hi. talking to her or going on a date would make my month, maybe my year
>>29938309
There are self help books on the Internet, if you aren't a normie and know how to torrent, I'm positive that there exists some helpful material. There are youtube channels dedicated to FL tutorials, it shouldn't be too hard to find some.
>>29938355
It's only a invasion of privacy if you comment on their pictures. Nobody can judge you for beating your meat to qts.
>>29938287
You should take the next step and actually talk to one. The quality of conversation and overall personality depends on where you meet this person. I will personally tell you not to go to bars/clubs to expect to have a logical and thrilling conversation, try going to placed that you have not been to before, maybe a park or a obscure book store. Or if you are an absolute madman, go to a uni in your area and pretend to be a student there taking distance courses, strike up some interesting conversation and get those digits.
>>29938455
If you aren't into it 100% don't force yourself because it will get boring quickly for you. If you want a scene girl start going to concerts, frequent your local hot topics and stay in the loop with local bands playing in venues. Also if you aren't looking and feeling 100% every day you wake up I'd advise some self improvement to boost confidence to prevent the dropping of spaghetti.
>>29938466
The least a woman could say to express uninterest in you is "no" anything else and she will risk sounding like a bitch which does not benefit her. Say hello and try to make yourself seem friendly and harmless. Don't straight out ask her what she's into but subtly get her to reveal what you want to know about her without really asking. Your goal the next time you see her should be to get just her name & number. Don't try to get a date out the gate because you'll run the risk of scaring her away. And don't get overly personal with her. Afterwards just operate like a green beret, don't rush in guns blazing but use some quick thinking and strategy to get what you want from her.
>>29938722
That drop about not feeling 100% was weird but yeah you make a good point. I was planning on going running tomorrow morning, partially to incubate an egg and partially because I want to try and actually do something with my day that isn't abusing the theater I work at's free movie policy.
>>29937327
I don't know any girls anymore Dr. Pepe where can I find a qtp2t
>>29938791
From my experience I can only hatch eggs while the app is open, I don't get notifications when a mon is near me or stuff like that. Running with the app is retarded, use a bike for better & quicker results or drive if you have that option.
Reading in a dark room is pretty comfy and a good way to kill time.
My GF hates giving blowjobs and we keep arguing about it. Im lucky to get one every couple months
>>29938937
Fucking normies
Origami
>>29938908
There are qts everywhere anon, but sometimes being cute is not always a good thing. Did you know that women put so much effort into looking good not for confidence but because they want male (and female) attention? Try socializing a bit and exploring more of your town/city, I'm sure you'll find some qts to bag
Im not interested in real women my dick does not get hard when i see a real live woman.My dick only responds to anime women and only anime women.
>>29937327
I'm 19 and I've never held a conversation with a girl before
I try to become one of those cool apathetic "dude I don't need a gf I have found inner tranquility" guys but I can't do it, I really want a gf
>>29938937
Remind her on the labor eating butt and vagina is like. Tell her you sometimes cannot breathe and you don't like the taste, but you are not the type to complain so you always do your best.
If she still refuses to suck your dick then you have every right to leave her and find someone with a better attitude.
>>29938993
Your next step should be to buy the following products
>a dakimakura of your 2D waifu
>a couple of onaholes (mouth of truth and Venus soft are good starting points)
>get some figures to hot glue and so you can get accustomed to masturbating while standing
>learn beginners japanese so you can not only communicate with your waifu in her native tongue, but also be able to browse yahoo auctions and get some rare merch of your waifu
>>29939014
The next woman you meet, qt or ugly, just say hello and ask them how their day is going. Make sure you speak loud enough so that they can hear you. Genuinely listen and give relevant responses to what these people are saying. Think before you speak and consider if the words coming out of your mouth are appropriate.
After you have done that for a while finding a gf should be a bit easier.
>>29937327
We texted daily for like a year but it looks like it's coming to an end dog. I used to think I felt lonely but now I miss those days.
>I know it's over
And it never really began
But in my heart it was so real.
>>29939284
Nothing is gained from living in the past anon, you have to put aside your pride and focus on your future.
Life is about enjoying the things that you like doing. Instead of giving this previous girl so much attention, start giving yourself some attention. You'll be supported by the results
>>29939014
that knot is really bad for if you want to hang yourself btw
Id post a how-to picture for a lasso knot here but, lazy and all that
>>29939329
Yeah but I feel that's what held me back man. I felt like I couldn't ask her out because I was just so ashamed of how I act and how I look when in reality I had no idea if that mattered to her or not. I'm still gonna try to improve but its tough.
>>29939496
Don't try to do something, just do it. No matter what you might think nothing in life is easy and everything requires some amount of effort.
You either put forth the effort to change or remain stuck in your current position.
If she's gone then she's gone and you can only move on and forget about her.
Don't make a easy decision so purposely difficult.
I'm infatuated with a tranny I met online who I talk with everyday in voip. We used to talk a lot and joke a shitton but its been getting less and less fun to talk to 'her' since we've been talking to each other for a month straight every day and we're starting to run out of stuff to BS with.
I promised I'd never get onitis again after a bad experience in HS, but alas 4 years later I've become infatuated with a fucking tranny that lives across the country.
I don't understand, I could care or less about woman I see in the day to day but I'm falling for a mentally diseased man. Fucking kill me, I can't stop thinking about 'her' everyday.
I can't believe how beta I've become after being very well adjusted and independent for the past 4 years.
>>29939988
Its probably best to space out conversations, as it makes it easier to find things to talk about if you're not talking every day.
Well, Dr pepe.
I met a girl, we dated for a couple of weeks. Although sometimes she would ask me why I was dating her and that I was out of her league. I shrugged off the insecurity. One day while I was working, she abruptly cut the relationship off. Tell me how she didn't want to meet anyone and it made her anxious.
When we first started dating she mentioned how she was cheated on in her last relationship.
I feel like she thinks I would cheat on her and ended things before the relationship when further.
She recently moved to my city and I know where she works.
I'm tempted to go to her work and try to work things out.
A few of my coworkers/friends agree that "women don't know what they want" and I should take charge.
Part of me doesn't want to come off as a stalker or a creep.
>>29939988
Do you want to be with that person or is it just fetish fuel? If you don't feel a real attraction to this person then it's in your best interest to move on and invest your time in someone who can provide a better return on your expectations.
You can also take a break from this person and do some self improvement to better yourself and your confidence.
Okay, I'm basically at a crossroads. I have had perfectly normal relationships with women before, and the ones I did have were all long term. But for some strange, literally since I was like 14, I've always had a craving for cock. I discovered sissyhypno and sissy culture in college when I was 18, and I have been constantly haunted by it. I've kept it quiet during relationships, and made sure to hide it from my then gfs, but even during that I still constantly fantasized about being fucked, being used as holes, riding my dildo and using it as something to suck in the shower while I jack off. I'm now at a crossroads, and I have 0 clue what to decide. I've been single for a while now, and I have no idea where to go with my body. I want to both be masculine and fit and get a gf, but I also want to be small and fem and become a sissy for a hot dom to use me as his personal slut. I don't know what to even do, and I've been holding off from acting on my sissy urges since I don't feel comfortable with my body (slightly overweight since I stopped working out, and hairy since I stopped shaving my body). I don't know honestly know if I want to find a man or a woman. I know with women, I can actually connect and have a cuddling and cute relationship along with being dominating and on top. But if I did I still wouldn't be able to get rid of these urges to become a sissy and serve a dom. If I get with a guy, it would be exclusively sex really. I would lock up in chastity, and be constantly femme for him, but I know that if I did that I would only want to be around him when I'm horny (which is very often admittedly). Idk what to do
>>29938309
Keep working and stay patient, I know it's normie advice but do it. Don't focus on making a hit song first. Fck around with samples and synths. Learn a bit about sound design and music theory. Change genres if you feel uninspired.
If you still have a producer's block, literally click on random steps in your sequencer, it will get yourself in a creative mood and mess around 3x osc for a couple minutes. And also remember that this hobby takes a shit load of time to master but it's really rewarding so hang in there. Have confidence, trust your instincts brother.
>>29940051
Don't listen to your co workers. Someone who honestly told you that you were out of your league is a not a good catch and it would be wise to toss her back in the water for someone else.
Don't invest anymore time in this woman if she doesn't want to get her act together.
If you are brave enough to go to where she works, instead try going to a happy hour, drink and make some new friends.
And my most important piece of advice is to think of yourself as a investment, the more you put in the more you put out, and your goal is to attract other investors (mostly women) who you use to further increase your value. If said person is not showing signs of being worth your time, simply cut her off and keep improving yourself.
>>29940104
I legitimately like her and she is extremely cute and honestly better looking than most normal woman I see. I have never fapped to a tranny before but she made me. I'm still not really into trap porn when I look it up on /gif/ so it is definetly not fetish fuel, I just like her as a person.
And yeah, I need to do more shit. Class doesn't start up again for 2 months and literally all I do is work and lift weights.
Problem is I'm pretty apathetic/depressed and EVERYTHING I try to get into is boring. Guitar, learning a language, coding, reading books, watching TV, even playing video games has lost its luster. She has sent me a few ass pics before after joking/asking enough and we talk about sex/porn a lot. I think my dopamine receptors are fried. I'm literally ALWAYS tired, lethargic and moody unless I'm sitting in my room on my PC or at the gym.
I've been monitoring what I say more as I got closer to her despite me being balls to the wall stupid and sexual when I just started talking to her. I don't know why this is, I would imagine it should be the opposite.
>>29940129
I know exactly how you feel. I have had strange gay/crossdressing fantasies my whole life and I discovered sissy hypno when I was twelve.
My opinion - if you think about men purely for sex then it probably isn't worth pursuing in the long term.
>>29940235
I've tried to stop. Multiple times. I've even once threw away all my toys. All that happened was I bought them again not long after. I can't stop thinking about it, and it eats at me. Even when I was with my ex, who was in my opinion nearly perfect, I still had those thoughts, and hid them from her. It just doesn't go away.
>>29940129
Some fantasies are purely mental and quickly change depending on the person. If you are really into it and want to validate your fantasies I'd start with prostate stimulation and work my way up. And play around with crossdressing, maybe you might have some hidden talent that you can take advantage of. The point I'm making is to be honest with yourself as a whole, not just your mind or body.
It's possible to have both, but of course you are going to need to really get out there and find what works for you.
But if you want to go the gay route, I think you should start hanging out with gay people and get comfortable enough to tell them what you are into.
Thanks anons I'll be patient and focus on my studies. I wouldn't consider myself a normie yet though ,it's only recently my life's been going good. The only down part is I lost all my friends after high school so it's whatever.
>>29940323
I've done prostate stimulation. I have a suction cup dildo I absolutely love to ride in the shower. As for clothes, I've never actually been into that. But you're probably right, I'd have to actually go around and try to find someone into my weird stuff. But the thing is that I don't actually hang out with many people in the first place... Mostly go to lectures and just play overwatch/league with friends. No one knows about it, and I'm scared of anyone I know finding out, especially my family, since they're very conservative christian. Life sucks.
>>29940220
Plan a meetup then and go see her, it sounds tough to do but if you don't push yourself to be more productive then you are always going to feel the way you do.
As for vidya, if it's lost its luster maybe w just need something new to play. I'd suggest playing the new Odin sphere remaster for the ps4.
Also try looking into doing some kind of sport that you can do by yourself like basketball or golf. Even tennis or swimming would work. The point is to find your zone, find what works for you and only you
>>29940302
I've been right there with you. Telling myself that TONIGHT IS THE ABSOLUTE LAST TIME I wear girls clothes, and then doing it again a week later. Throwing away the improv stuff I'd put in my ass when I lived with my parents and then immediately finding something new to do the job. But I think it would be very unsatisfying to act these things out on a long term, because they're just extreme sexual urges at the end of the day.
>>29940432
Yeah, that's how I feel. I can edge for hours to all the thoughts of sissy stuff and doing sissy things, but as soon as I cum, I am basically disgusted and get clean. But invariably it all comes back.
>>29940391
If you don't have any friends look at it as an opportunity to do something different, "instead of playing vidya today I'll go hang out in the gay part of town and see what's going on" also have you been on the mwm on Craigslist? Post a ad and you are guaranteed results if you just want a quick pump.
But you should try and live a more active lifestyle so that more people you are interested in will notice you and your interests.
It's literally just impossible for me to get close enough to women to date them. I can engage in small-talk with them, but I just always run out of things to say. Ultimately, I would be a boring boyfriend anyway and most likely a huge burden.
I also look really young for a 20 year old and get a decent amount of positive female attention, but it's the sort of positive attention that a child would get. Girls always tell me that I'm "cute", but never handsome. And they always use the "Any girl would be lucky to have you" line, but obviously they're exempting themselves from that.
I've literally never had a girl interested in me besides some shitty long distance relationships that were just girls using the fuck out of me & desu I'm probably just going to kill myself.
>>29940399
Thing is I don't think she likes me the way I like her. She keeps saying how she has almost no standards since a lot of the guys she meets aren't into the dick but I can tell she is not nearly as interested in me as I am into her since I end up starting most of the conversations/questions nowadays.
I'm an extremely boring person with little life experience besides playing videogames, lifting weights and a few years of uni where I made literally 0 friends.
Thankfully she has all the same hobbies, lifting included, but she is more socially adjusted and much much smarter. I have no common sense and I know literally nothing about politics/current events/history and no experience with a love life so I have nothing to talk about really.
I just need to find a new hobby on top of lifting to help me develop more as a person. If only everything I could think of wasn't so fucking dull, it is like I have a fog over my head from the time I wake up until the time I sleep unless I am shitfaced. I can never get out of my fucking head thinking about the past and future.
Sorry about the blogging
>>29940432
Then maybe it's just something you should keep to yourself if you feel that way afterwards.
What's the point of forcing yourself to keep doing something but always say you don't like it afterwards? If anal and cosplay is your thing and you like it, accept it and try to make it more enjoyable.
>>29940218
I know her saying "you're out of my league" is not a good thing to hear. It an emotional rollercoaster but in my mind, I feel like if I could help her love herself...then maybe >tfw no gf - would be a distant memory.
That being said, there's a chance I could go to her work and she's not scheduled that day.
Frequenting her work would feel...creepy.
>>29940466
I'm strangely not scared of meeting men or couples. What I'm actually scared of is not living up to the expectations I've set for myself of what a sissy should look and act like. Basically, I want a dom that not only wants to fuck me, but also mold me, tell me how to eat and exercise and look like for him, because I'm for some reason incapable of doing it myself. I swear if I had a gf or dom tell me to get perfect grades, I would do it, but for some reason I can't be bothered enough to do it for myself. Maybe that's where I need to start. I need to start with doing it for myself.
>>29940506
You have absolutely zero reason to make all those excuses for yourself. In fact you are holding yourself back and doing more harm than good.
The only way to know if she is legitimately interested in you is to simply ask her. Does she want to meet up or does she want to keep her distance? If it's the latter don't feed her any more attention and just phase her out and do what I recommendedin my previous post which was getting more active outside of what you are already doing.
The fog over your head can be cleared by knowing what you want out of life, and you navigate by making a positive effort to get what you want.
>>29940536
It's not your job to help her love herself, you can't change someone and especially just so she will think differently about you.
It's hard to do but move on, because the time you wasted on her could be time spent with someone who is actually interested in you.
>tfw no gf
Is a meme and should not be taken seriously outside of 4chan, because then you start to let it affect you and distract you from more important goals in your life.
Listen to me
DON'T GO TO HER JOB
DON'T FOLLOW HER OR MAKE ANY DIRECT OR INDIRECT CONTACT WITH HER
>>29940633
Thanks for the encouraging words anon. I'm going to try to stop talking to her so much and concentrate on other things. I'll jokingly ask her if she is going to come to my state on vacation since uni ended for both of us I suppose
>>29940564
the only person who can improve your life is YOU. don't get perfect grades because someone told you don't it because you want to. Don't be a sissy (and all it entails) because you just figured it'd be hot, do it because you truly want to be domd and etc.
>>29940785
Thank you for the kind words anon. I don't really know if realistically anything will change, but I really do want to be a sissy, or at the very least try it. It's just really taken a back seat for now, between being scared and being busy with school. But maybe tomorrow will be different. Anyways I'ma go buy some beer, and play some more overwatch, then sleep. Later anons!
>>29940738
My encouragement won't mean shit if you don't actually act on it. And i wish the best for you anon, there is a qt out there for you somewhere
>>29940707
Alright alright, I'll probably be too lazy/cheap to go to her work anyways....but if I run into her on the street. I'll consider it gods will and actions will be made.
Also I understand tfw no gf is comical in nature and meant to be taken with a grain of salt but loneliness is real and Ya boi ain't been laid in a hot minute.
>>29940866
I hope so man, I really just want companionship. I know it won't work out with her since she seems more interested in another guy in our voip a week ago.
Also, a LDR will not work since I'm a really needy, jealous person. My heart rate spikes when she just talks to other people. I seriously need to stop being a pussy and just do the fucking things though.
>>29937327
How can I get over the fact I'll be a virgin forever
>>29941113
By accepting alternate means of losing your virginity :)
>>29940909
Buy a onahole and gomad family, cost less than a BP hoe and can last you months if you keep it clean and take care of it
>>29941059
It's all in your head, when you start spending time using the muscles you are lifting for and exploring the places you never knew existed in town your whole mindset will change
>>29941113
I almost told you to get a hooker but authentic advice incoming.
>befriend a female
>don't try to ask her out as soon as you meet her
>get to know her a bit
>make shit up to make yourself sound interesting
>buy a hotel room and tell her that you'd like to hang out before you leave town
>assuming that you have been speaking to this woman for at least 2 weeks and managed to get some nudes out if it, she should have a expectation of you that she will want you to do
Also when she starts acting like she doesn't want it just give it to her anyway
>>29941288
Sauce me up famchu
>>29937327
I'll tell you what's on my mind.
The girl I met while working at a movie theater one summer.
Fair haired, blue eyed, white dragon. Just kidding, she wasn't a trading card. The first time I met her I sized her up and thought okay, but her friend leaves a stronger impression, maybe I'll go for her as a backup to her friend. Turns out her friend was not my type.
I didn't think much of her to begin with but as we worked more and more shifts together I started to see a genuine charm to her. She was moral, kind, and best of all she had a wicked sense of humor. That sort of thing really comes out when you're nearing the end of a long shift in the middle of the night. One particular night comes to mind, we had skimmed some m&m's from stock while working with another guy, goofy and mean spirited, never liked him. She offered me some m&m's and I said only if she fed them to me, she looked confused so I said "like a baby bird". Without a word she took a handful of m&m's, filled her mouth and started chewing as she got up on the counter. Once she was up there on all fours she said through a mouthful of chocolate, "are we doing this?"
I got into position below her with my mouth open as the goofy guy was saying this is so gross, I can't watch this.
I balked. I never got to taste her saliva mixed with masticated chocolate and candy shell.
Not long after I got dismissed from the job with no warning or reason. I had no reason to expect it either. When I dropped off my uniform I asked her out got a yes with some attitude and her number. I called her up, no answer. I sent a text much later, she had gone back to college early.
Many months later I said I'd be back in town and would like to get coffee, she wasn't going to be around.
(1/2)
>>29941630
I haven't met any woman with such joy, such wit, such life before or since. Now and again I dream about being with her. In the day I'll be going about my business and a thought of her will intrude so strongly in my mind I lose all sense of my surroundings. Every so often I'll be driving through her town and I find myself looking for her car on the road hoping to see her again, to know she's near enough that we could meet again and rekindle the bizarre banter we had.
She lives states away now and I don't think she'll be back soon. Sometimes I dream that I'll arrange a "chance" encounter and see her again. But until I have my life back on track I know it would do no good for her to see me the way I am, not much better off than I was then.
(2/2)
>>29941457
Sadly I just found it somewhere on here, and I don't know the source. Hang around /trash/ they generally got good stuff
>fall in love with a girl
>she's my dream girl
>date
>she dumps me, with the bomb that she's leaving the country soon
>start seeing eachother again, but we're not "dating"
>hang out,have sex, enjoy eachother's company
>tfw still in love with her
>tfw she says she still loves me
>but she's still leaving the country soon
I feel so many things, bros. Mostly just despair though.
>>29941936
Why despair? You've already had your fun and spent time together. She might be leaving, and there might not be much you can do about it, but you'll always have those good times to look back on. Whenever you're feeling down, you'll always be able to look back and reminisce on happier times. And that's a lot to ask for around here, where most of us have never come close to having a gf, and don't have any of those good times to look back on.
Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.
