What's the worst part about being a virgin?
literally just the stigma on the word
well imagine you have a hormonal surge telling you to go fuck someone every day and you feel like you can do that. unless you've got something else really going well, you're going to go insane.
thankfully i lost it at 19.
>>28879275
Lack of intimacy.
I don't want sex for LE TITS Xdd, I want to feel close to someone I can trust my body with. Knowing I haven't, and probably never will, have that emotional connection fucks my shit up.
>>28879649
not just that but its bad enough.
>>28879686
THIS, this most of all.
>>28879679
reeee
The fact that there isn't a single person who's comfortable enough with you to the point of wanting your dick inside of them.
It's the lack of validation. It means you're not accepted in this society.
>>28879717
Thanks for the (You), it made my day :)
>>28879758
You're also right. Makes me feel like crap that not one of the people I know/will know find me attractive. Why am I even here otherwise.
The fact that people who you have been told are terrible people and have done things that have been drilled into your head as wrong have done all kinds of things with women you can only imagine
And you have not done anything socially wrong besides be born ugly or develop a little bit late socially and sex is beyond your reach
That in terms of women's view and society's view, being socially retarded is a worse crime than beating your wife or killing someone
My brother in law just got out of prison for beating the shot out of his gf and contacting her
And as soon as he got home his gf proposed to him and wanted to buy a house
And I can't even get ugly girls numbers on tinder
>>28879275
It's soul crushing but thankfully, I have something else going on like above anon said.
>>28879844
>That in terms of women's view and society's view, being socially retarded is a worse crime than beating your wife or killing someone
This, and its hard to digest that there is no prize for being morally superior as long as you're socially inferior.
Pack mentality rules.
>>28879823
Have another one friendorino. (last one so enjoy it! mustn't devalue the (You).
I've thought about it a lot and I have to say they worst part about it is the feeling of defectiveness it gives you. Like you're not whole or were born with something scrambled inside.
I mean sure there's the biological desire to fuck something. There's also the envy of missing out on something everyone else is doing and there's also the feeling of rejection knowing that because of your looks, personality, upbringing, or a combination all three; that you've been found wanting.
But what really gets me, and I imagine a lot of other people here, is the knowledge that you lack the ability to do something that everybody else is able to do. It's not being angry that everyone else is fucking, it's knowing that you can't and asking why.
It really wears at your self worth knowing this. It's within the biological imperative of every organism to want sex; alongside food, water, friendship etc, but you can barely manage the latter three. You are literally a failure on a biological level. Or that's how it feels anyway
This is further compounded by the complete inability of non virgins to empathize. Everyone who says it doesn't matter always turns out to have been someone who lost their virginity whilst a teenager; like everyone else. Most of them aren't being intentionally obtuse but it gets incredibly frustrating hearing someone try to comfort you over something they literally cannot comprehend.
It just leaves one bitter and self loathing
>t. 21 year old virgin
it just says everything about you. you're dysfunctional and unfit for any group in society.
>>28879686
>>28879844
fuck this gay earth i'm gonna be a wizard
that feel when you think you dont care any more. when you think youre over the fact that youll never be with someone and will just live your life. but then after some time you see a display of affection IRL or online, and you instantly feel like there's a pit in your stomach and just wish you didnt exist.
>>28880060
pretty much this, honestly
FUCK OFF ROBOT I HATE YOU SO MUCH STOP MUTING ME
>>28879275
20 year old kissless handholdless virgin here.
It's incredibly isolating. Knowing that basically every human can achieve with ease what is unreachable to you is absolutely gut wrenching.
It's painful knowing you can't experience the most simple intimacy with a woman. I hate myself for being so shy, anxious, introverted and weak. Knowing women won't ever find you attractive and you are destined to be alone for the rest of your long, miserable life. Women find me repulsive (and virgins in general) and there's only so much a man can take. Nobody has any care for male virgins. Seeing couples in public makes my stomach churn and often my eyes well up when I'm out walking. Pathetic, I know.
I have no interest in paying an escort. I would hate myself and I'd be disgusted. At this point I've basically given up. I feel like a complete failure of a man and an organism, failing the sole purpose of a mammal, to pass on one's genes. Doesn't help that I have no friends any more either, and those that I did like pretty much all have GFs by now, and yet I'm still totally inexperienced and growing ever more disconnected from everyone. I have no motivation to do anything.
>>28880060
I know those feels
>>28880060
Very right, though I gotta say I was too in the self-condemning phase in my early twenties.
15-20 - pure sexual frustration, still many ppl are virgins, you just want to fuck someone you're comfortable with. In the latter part it starts to be scary and worrying.
20-24 - slowly lose hope, depression hit me in this time, libido falls, getting out of puberty and brain is close to finishing its maturing. Self hate - what is wrong with me? Virginity shame acts as a toxic influence on socialization with ppl, further increasing the wizard potential.
25-26 (Im 26) - brain matured, you begin to accept it as ppl around you are getting married, having kids, moving in together, you still didnt even hold a girls hand and walked the city square, it's almost surreal realization, how did it happen?
At this point you've experienced the pure sexual frustration, the pure lack of love frustration, went trough depression, brain matured and stabilized, and most of all you understand self loathing is bad and can literally kill you.
If you have things going for you except sex/love then you try to focus on those. You try to live as best as you can and you water your hope with 2D love.
Its the acceptance phase. And its a good phase to finally do it.
>>28880280
To finally do what? Shed this mortal coil?
>>28880510
buy an escort, take a year of pua school, do a flip.
21 y/o virgin here. Really don't care since I have bigger concerns like finding out what I want to do with my life and my hobbies. I could have lost mine back when I was 16 but at the time I was too shy and now, I just don't give a fuck.
It might have something to do with not having any friends for nearly 4 years so I don't go out much or hear about people casually talking about having sex or whatever. Don't get hit with >tfwnogf ever but it would be nice to be with someone who can stand me and my bullshit.
Knowing you're enough of a failure socially to not get something that the majority of people get often.
Also this: >>28879686
>>28880695
It never used to bother me but I get tfwnogf feels most days now. Honestly don't know how I'll get through life for the next 50 years.
Even if I ever managed to get a gf she'd run a mile if I told her I'm a kissless virgin. So I'm fucked either way.
>>28880800
>Even if I ever managed to get a gf she'd run a mile if I told her I'm a kissless virgin.
Im 26 and Im afraid of this too.
Women cannot fathom how we do it. I am by choice, I had opportunities but mostly with girls that even though pretty, I didnt have feelings for.
>>28879275
Knowing that nobody wants you and never will. That there are other guys who literally have to reject women wanting to suck their dick, only because they promised to stay faithful to some other girl who in turn lets them do literally every sexual thing imaginable. And then the very same woman will hug them and cuddle. And will always want to be with the guy. Even then, there are other women who would kill to even have a conversation with that guy.
You're not that guy and never will be.
Just that feeling that you're constantly missing out is the worst for me. I'm 25 and was listening to a podcast where this 20 year old guy called in and the two much older hosts were telling him that if you're between 20-25 you should be having sex as much as possible and that if you don't then you'll be missing out. I just don't even understand how that culture even works. I don't get how people meet and casually have sex. I don't even understand how to get girls to see me as sexually attractive.
It just makes me feel inferior, even though I know I'm more intelligent than the majority of people in relationships, I make a good amount of money and I've in general got my life sorted out but because of this one aspect of my life I can't help but feel like a fucking loser.
>>28880944
I worried about this a lot too.
I lost virginity age 20 at university. didn't have Sex again until age 22 and even then it was only 3 or 4 more times with the same person and then I never saw her again.
at that point I was single and unemployed and had no hope of a gf and all I wanted was a partner and a job. then at a uni thing I met a girl and we been together 9 years now and live together.
I guess what I'm saying is that good things can happen but the main catalyst is social interaction. I'm sorry but to get a gf you have to meet her. to meet her you have to meet people. to meet people you have to go outside.
I don't know if lots of robots struggle because they try to get laid in high school. ... and teenage girls are the worst. I had no interest in them at school because they were so vapid. I think if you try dating women in your and their mid 20s they are much more mature and less bitchy or cliquey.
but the bottom line is I only met my gf because of a uni meet up. and the other 2 were uni and work related. so you have to expand your social circle as painful as it it. forcibly sometimes. get a job. get a more social hobby. get different acquaintances or new friends. basically anything which exposes you to more situations and it increases your chance of meeting someone you like. it's the only way really.
putting yourself in those situations is like training. eventually you get better at it like any skill. it's just most people take that skill for granted whereas robots have to work and work at it.
but hey. western civ takes a lot for granted too, like clean water. so everyone is jaded in their own way so don't get all mad about something that some people are able to do naturally.
>>28881294
>>28881294
im britcuck btw and assume most robots here are American and so have to deal with that USA high school bs drama. it's a little different in the UK and I sympathise with yankeebots
>>28879275
i think it's the not having sex part
>>28879275
no pain. it's a gift.
>>28881366
I'm a Britbong, KHV in my 20s. I still feel fucking pathetic. I'd feel useless no matter which country I was in. No idea how to interact with people, no friends, so nervous and anxiety ridden I rarely go outside. I've never been mocked for being a virgin (mostly because I just avoid society, women and relationships in general) but I still hate myself. I seriously doubt I'll ever kiss, never mind getting a gf.
>>28879275
Instead of cheering me up and boosting my confidence, my first kiss at 17 just made it a lot harder to digest how I've spent my whole life doing nothing
At 23, it's knowing that even if I did mange to get laid, I would be so shit and nervous that it would be pointless anyway.
Honestly, it never even bothered me a little bit until this week.
I've been talking to a girl for like the past month, and I've got super fucking close. Like it became not a matter of if I'll lose it soon, it became a matter of when I'll lose it.
But she broke it off the other day. And now I just feel like shit because I was so close to losing it. I feel like literal fucking trash for letting a qt who I got along with so well slip away so quickly.
It genuinely hurts so fucking much. I think I've let myself become more emotionally attached to her than I originally expected too because I've just felt like shit since it happened. I saw her the other day and it just felt so wrong.
>>28881472
why did she break it off? Did you show your power level?
everyone assumes you aren't
and I just have to go along with it.
It's a constant reminder that you're not good enough for literally anyone.
Think of Chads and Stacies with entire queues of lovers and partners, they must be feel confident and validated from the constant approval they get.
Whereas being a virgin, you can't even get one person to be intimate with you, because you're not good enough for anyone.
>>28881506
No idea. As far as I knew everything was going really well.
I mean we weren't able to see each other the previous weekend as we've both been really busy, but we saw each other just before then and it went really well. We got along really well and she seemed really into me.
She just kinda broke it off mid-conversation. Nothing led up to it or anything. It just happened.
>>28880203
>shy, anxious, introverted and weak
I'm none of these things, except maybe weak, and I'm a virgin too
I'll tell you why
People find me funny and talkative, girls sometimes get touchy
But I'll never seal the deal, you know why?
Because when I was in junior HS normies cursed me
They nicknamed something so brutal and hard to look upon that it cockblocks me from getting any intimacy to this day
I can only hope to find the mf who did this to me and fuck his shit up like no one ever did
>>28881585
She met someone else
>oh I've been seeing this guy for a few while, but we haven't had sex I think he's gay
>let's fuck
So she did.
I'm graduating college in 3 weeks. I'm 22. I never kissed a girl. This was the easiest it was ever going to be, and I couldn't do it.
>>28881633
It's a very likely thing, but I know her friends and as far as I know she isn't seeing or planning on seeing anyone else at all.
She's a virgin too, she was nervous about it. But it became pretty much established that we were gonna fuck next time we met up.
That time never happened though. Like I said, it came completely out of nowhere, there really wasn't any warning.
I just want to focus on being rich and making it
fuck these bitches
>>28879275
Thinking that you have to constantly worry about still being a virgin
>>28881706
It's what women do. They'll fuck strangers before they fuck someone they "love".
>knowing that you are a biological failure
>knowing that you are incapable of doing something that comes effortlessly to most mammals including humans
>knowing that as far as society is concerned, you never became an "adult"
>seeing relationship and sex propaganda on television, movies, books, even anime and knowing that you have a huge blank chapter in your life where "intimacy" is supposed to go
>having to see couples outside
>feeling that empty ache in your chest sometimes at night when you're lying in your bed alone
>knowing that you are going to die completely unloved and there is nothing you can do about it
Each year feels like you lose more and more of your humanity
>>28881763
Well it wasn't even supposed to be love though.
It was just a casual thing. A bit of fun more than anything. We weren't in a relationship and we didn't plan on getting in one. We got along really well and just decided to start seeing each other.
Yeah I've ended up getting overly emotionally attached to her, but I didn't realise that until after she broke it off.
>>28881561
you are good enough, we are just different and refuse to play by the rules society made, most of us hate drugs, drink, big social gatherings and social media.
self cucked.
>virgins in their early 20s
That's literally nothing, you retards. You're barely out of high-school.
>>28879275
Nothing. I'd still be a fucking retard even if i got laid. I'd just be a retard that got laid. and there are plenty of those.
>>28880060
Lost my virginity at 21 and have had sex once since.
Losing it won't make things better unless it's with a girlfriend. It made me realize that I wanted was love. Or just to be normal and have sex regularly, shit I'd even take once every couple of months
It made me think those two times were alcohol-induced aberrations, and I still live with the fact that I'm 24 and completely alone. It doesn't help that I live at home and work for minimum wage either, because that pretty much guarantees my life won't change.
You're better off finding some other way to gain purpose. Purpose is what all men really want, loving someone is having purpose. It takes finding some other reason to be alive
>>28880828
It's definitely better to do it by choice because it implies you have discipline and standards. Virginity is acceptable in men who intentionally wait
It's only bad if you're incel, which is the case for most male virgins older than 20, especially on this board
>>28879275
Those moments when people talk about relationships and sex and you realize that they aren't mystical distant things from a legend, they're something normal that people do every day, just, not you, because you're apparently less than human.
>>28882693
>go to visit my aunt
>asks about my girlfriend
>"I don't have one"
>"but don't you live downtown anon?"
>"yup"
>"I used to live down there and I was in and out of relationships all the time. I don't think I ever remember not being in a relationship in my 20s"
>....
>"why don't you put yourself out there anon?"
>....
>>28879275
Nothing. It's a good thing. Sex is meant to be saved for marriage, and meant to be between two people that truly love each other, and only with a single other person.
>>28882735
well she's female, she wouldn't understand how dating and courtship is different between men and women
>>28882735
Normies, especially women, just can't understand our plight. To them, relationships are the most normal thing in the world. It eats away at you, knowing you're completely incapable of ever getting one.
