Asexuality thread?
Asexuality tread!
>Questions
When did you realize that you're asexual?
How did your parents react when they found out?
Is it difficult for you to find romantic partners?
Are you aromantic as well?
What do you think about Gray-As?
>>5216582
>When did you realize that you're asexual?
When I was around 16
>How did your parents react when they found out?
Why should I tell them?
There's no conflict potential, so I'll just stay silent, it's much more convenient
>Is it difficult for you to find romantic partners?
I'm aromantic, so I don't need romantic partners
>Are you aromantic as well?
Yes, sir
>What do you think about Gray-As?
Well, sometimes masturbation is a good way to beat off some stress
Ace isn't real
>>5216868
Fuck you
Just because gays and lesbians are degenerated perverts who define themselves purely based on their sexuality, it doesn't mean that others need to be such animals
>>5216582
1. early enough fortunately
2. they keep ignoring it
3. nah i hold no interest
4. yup
5. they cool
>>5216582
>When did you realize that you're asexual?
I knew my sexuality was off earlier than that, I was never interested in having sex with someone else, pretty much only specific fetishes and I was always more into fantasizing than acting on them. Then I realized most people with fetishes actually wanted sex, unlike me.
>How did your parents react when they found out?
You pretty much can't "find out" someone is asexual unless they tell you, which I haven't told to anyone in my family. You can't catch someone not having sex.
Is it difficult for you to find romantic partners?
It's impossible. I don't want to have sex, but I do want to experience intimacy. The problem is that everytime it's close to happening I feel extremely anxious and back away immediately. I have terrible self-esteem and gender issues that I haven't really explored yet. I have never been sexually assaulted though, as far as I can remember.
Are you aromantic as well?
Probably not. I'm chronically depressed and I know it's because something else than just friends is missing.
>What do you think about Gray-As?
As something to label yourself as, it's silly and useless, like pansexuality. As a way to connect with other people that may share a similar experience, it's great.
>When did you realize that you're asexual?
I'm starting to think that I fall into this category, in one way or another
>How did your parents react when they found out?
Its an ongoing dialogue I have with my parents - no bombshells dropped since I told them I was more interested in men than women.
>Is it difficult for you to find romantic partners?
Fuck yes.
>Are you aromantic as well?
Fuck no.
>What do you think about Gray-As?
Tumblr pls go
>>5216582
>When did you realize that you're asexual?
Maybe halfway through high school. Before that I thought I was just a weird straight person. My friends were all like me and didn't seem to be too interested in sex, which both helped and didn't help. It helped in that I wasn't made to feel broken or anything, but didn't help because it prevented me from figuring myself out. Turns out at least one of them was asexual as well, but I only discovered that after I left for college. Not sure who discovered themselves to be that first, though. Probably could have helped the other out. Turns out he actually thought I was asexual but never bothered to ask, and apparently he noticed that something was different about me far earlier than I myself did.
>How did your parents react when they found out?
I've told one, not the other. She just kind of accepted it but seems to disbelieve it. Don't quite know what's going on there.
Other is blissfully unaware that he won't get grandchildren.
>Is it difficult for you to find romantic partners?
Far too difficult. I just want intimacy, dammit.
>Are you aromantic as well?
Not sure, don't think so?
>What do you think about Gray-As?
I don't know. My opinion on that is quite fuzzy. I haven't thought much about it.
>>5216582
>When did you realize that you're asexual?
A couple years ago...I hit 29 and realized I never really got around to dating. Time flies between life and grad school I guess.
>How did your parents react when they found out?
Well I came out as les in college so that ship has technically sailed.
>Is it difficult for you to find romantic partners?
Is the space pope reptillian?
>Are you aromantic as well?
I'm not quite aro, but crushes are very rare for me. I'm currently in hell because somehow I've developed the hots for one of my classmates and it's pretty awkward and terrible.
>What do you think about Gray-As?
No opinion since I have no idea what that means.
>>5216582
>asexual
i think you mean “virgin”
>>5220908
They're not quite the same thing. Many asexuals are virgins, but there's a difference between not having sex and not wanting it.
>>5220908
projecting lol
Asexuality does not exist.
It is merely hetereosexuals who have little or no sex drive, often due to biochemical imbalance or psychological conditions.
This need to define every sexual element as a "sexuality" is disingenuous. It stems, i believe, from a need to feel apart of a group or identity, and is motivated by insecurity and fear.
>when did you realize you were asexual?
It's still an ongoing process I'm not completely sure ig I'd qualify as gray ace, but I definitely am not interested in sex unless it's under very very specific circumstances
>how did your parents react when they found out?
Parents lol I don't talk to them
>is it difficult for you to find romantic partners?
Fuck yeah i get a lot of interest but not a lot that i want
>are you aromantic as well?
Pretty much. I want someone to be with but I don't want normal relationship shit, just a partnership of sorts
>what do you think of gray-As?
I think that's me.
>>5220967
Some of us aren't hetero but I get your point
>>5220967
Some of us have normal "sex drive" but it still doesn't make us sexually attracted to anyone.
>>5221001
You literally cannot have a sex drive without being sexually attracted to something, its like saying you're a pilot but have never flown a plane.
You may be thinking of social dysfunctions, like if a person is maladjusted and unable to form real life relationships but still has sexual desires.
>>5221030
>You literally cannot have a sex drive without being sexually attracted to something
Okay stuff turns me on, and I get aroused, but only to some weird obscure fetish stuff (and no, it's not from watching porn, I don't even watch porn). The act of sex itself, nudity and genitals, does nothing for me. In fact, thinking about such things is a very effective way of PREVENTING myself from being aroused.
>its like saying you're a pilot but have never flown a plane.
There are many pilots who have never flown a plane. Ever heard of a helicopter or a blimp?
>You may be thinking of social dysfunctions, like if a person is maladjusted and unable to form real life relationships but still has sexual desires.
Not really, I'm capable of forming relationships but I still wouldn't have any desire for any kind of sex acts.
>>5221084
First off I had to laugh at how you took the pilot analogy so literally that you mention helicopter and blimp, not understanding the meaning of the analogy in the first place.
Simply put you have a sexual dysfunction. Sounds like a cognitive disorder that prevented a normal and healthy adaption to sexual arousal. During early developmental stages we form outlets for our sexual desires, assuming such desires are present. You may have never formed those normal outlets and instead directed your sexual inclinations toward abnormal fetishes. A simple case of maladjustment.
>>5221291
>First off I had to laugh at how you took the pilot analogy so literally that you mention helicopter and blimp, not understanding the meaning of the analogy in the first place.
I know exactly what the analogy meant, but it was a pretty bad analogy in the first place if it had holes in it like that?
>Simply put you have a sexual dysfunction. Sounds like a cognitive disorder that prevented a normal and healthy adaption to sexual arousal. During early developmental stages we form outlets for our sexual desires, assuming such desires are present. You may have never formed those normal outlets and instead directed your sexual inclinations toward abnormal fetishes. A simple case of maladjustment.
Okay, but what are these "normal outlets?" I mean I've been like this since the beginning of puberty, and it's certainly not normal for 12 year olds to have sexual relationships as an outlet for their sexuality. So what did most people have that I missed?
>>5221322
Most people have a distinct and clear representation of hetereosexual expectations and relationships prior to sex. This includes examples from their own family, other familys, peer influence, etc. Some people however do not absorb these social constructs as strongly as others, which may retard sexual development. If a young person begins feeling disassociated with their social expectations, then insecurity and doubt may prevent normal sexual attraction.
Almost always there is some environmental influence that prevents a healthy acceptance of sexual norms. These are why cognitive and behavioral sciences seek to identify and remedy such dysfunctions.
When a person develops to far along, the mind becomes more "hardwired" and it becomes more difficult to "undo" any damage or dysfunction.
Ultimately you should not place your worth on "sexuality" even if society tries to push it.
>>5217455
The cake is a lie
How many people here are not LGBT but like hanging out on these threads anyway?
>>5216589
>Why should I tell them?
Because they'll think you're a closet fag or pedophile otherwise.
>>5221322
Apparently we had a lot of shit you missed...
I mean you intentionally took an analogy out of context, and then when you proved to be out of line and stupid for doing that...you said it was a bad analogy...
When I grew up I learned not to pretend I know better just because I'm part of a statistic of people who have problems with sexual attraction...i'm not pansexual(which I still believe is bs) im asexual...
It's the same as being gay...you don't really get to choose, especially when the choice is to be missing something...
>>5222264
>When I grew up I learned not to pretend I know better just because I'm part of a statistic of people who have problems with sexual attraction...i'm not pansexual(which I still believe is bs) im asexual...
Where did I "pretend to know better"? What is this referring to?
>It's the same as being gay...you don't really get to choose, especially when the choice is to be missing something...
I know asexuality isn't a choice, I wasn't aware I sounded like I was implying otherwise.
>>5221291
all this armchair psychology lmao
>>5221291
>Simply put you have a sexual dysfunction. Sounds like a cognitive disorder that prevented a normal and healthy adaption to sexual arousal. During early developmental stages we form outlets for our sexual desires, assuming such desires are present. You may have never formed those normal outlets and instead directed your sexual inclinations toward abnormal fetishes. A simple case of maladjustment.
How the fuck is that more abnormal than homosexuality then?
Sexual orientations are social constructs we use to simplify reality. If someone isn't sexually atracted to any gender, they're asexual, whether it is normal or not is completely irrelevant.
>>5216582
>When did you realize that you're asexual?
7 years ago or so. When I was 15.
>How did your parents react when they found out?
When I first told my family they were like "yeah, ok, whatever, keep telling yourself that sweety". Now they're a little bit more worried because this "phase" is lasting way longer than they anticipated.
>Is it difficult for you to find romantic partners?
I'm aromantic so I don't really mind...
>Are you aromantic as well?
Yup.
>What do you think about Gray-As?
I don't really have an opinion about it.
>When did you realize that you're asexual?
One time in 8th grade a girl asked me who I thought was the cutest boy in the class. I said that I wasn't interested in men, not realizing the implications of that statement. He asked if I was gay and I reactively said I was asexual. (In my mind, I wasn't really an asexual, I just hadn't taken the time to rank the boys yet, that's all. I had better things to do.)
I don't think I really realized until 10th grade when I fucked a boy to see what all the hype was about. 2/10 it could've been worse, would not do again.
>How did your parents react when they found out?
I haven't told them. They know I'm not really interested in dating and men especially, but I'm pretty sure they think I'm a lesbian.
>Is it difficult for you to find romantic partners?
I haven't tried but I honestly can't imagine myself being happy with anyone.
>Are you aromantic as well?
Probably
>What do you think about Gray-As?
They're not asexual, really. They just have low sex drives or specific standards regarding who they're attracted to.
