Bump. Im soaring on MDMA right now and would love to discuss this shit

Being single is great until you wish you could hook up with someone who means a lot to you and stay with that person forever. The grass is always greener on the other side, friend. If you really want to explore your sexuality with others, first you must have a strong, open and honest relationship with your girl, and then try introducing the idea of an open relationship. You must lay down ground rules and have no double standards, aside from your preference, of course. For example, she may not want to know about your sexual exploits, but you may want to know hers.

>>687461407
Yeah thats what i figured - the grass always looks greener on the other side.
Its just weird man because on one hand shes the best thing thats ever happened to me and i never want to leave her side.
But on the other hand i feel like she is a chain around my neck. I cant go out clubbing like i ised to and have guilt free fun trying to get laid, i cant talk to cute girls in public, etc etc.
Theres so much shit i want to try, in bed and out of bed, which i feel like i cant do bevause of her.
Is it selfish to put my desires before hers?
I love her so much and couldnt bear to hurt her.
I think the main problem is that lobe and lust for me are 2 totally seperate things.
I love her and lust after her. But i also lust after other girls and new sexual experiences.
She woul never understand that.

>>687462127
I dunno, I think maybe she might. My girlfriend and my last girlfriend both understood where I was coming from. Actually, the opposite situation happened with my current girlfriend, so I guess I got a taste of my own medicine. But I can still fuck whoever I want, guilt free.

Lurkin'

I pretty much everything that was said so far, hope some old(er)fags put in some insights

>>687459857
thats going to fuck up that carpet.

>>687462127
You aren't putting your desires before hers until you know what her desires actually are. Find out if she truly desires monogamy like it is a sacred thing. She should not be afraid to lose you to anyone, and if not for that, she should have no real reason to be jealous. Feelings of jealousy will still happen, but she can rationalize her way out of it, as can you. You should tell her she would have permission to forbid you from seeing any person in particular if she doesn't trust that person.

>>687459857
>>687459857
Op just remember to consider the fact she would fuck other guys if you arent with her and she might find someone she likes better

>>687462897
I feel like im wielding a double edged blade though, and if i ise it then i get cut aswell. -sorry that was gay but im in a cloud right now and i dont care, also it wouldnt really be a thread without at least 1 sword reference right?

But the thing is - i would have no problem going out right now, finding a cutie in a bar, brining her home and fucking her brains out then fucking her off in the morning and never seeing her again. Shes just a sexual release for me.
Id still love my gf more than anything else on earth and i wish she would understand that. But at the same time, when i switch perspective and try to imagine her fucking a dude just for a "sexual release" i get sad. I dont want anyone else to have her and i would be broken if she did fuck someone else behind my back, even if it was just for fun.
So you see my problem.
I want lots of pussy but i dont want anything to change between us. And i also dont like the idea of her having lots of dick :(
I think it would be easier if i never met her. But then again if i didnt id probably just as shit and lonely and depressed. But i wouldnt have someone to hold me when im down.

>>687463567
The point better not be "tread lightly"
That's beta talk

Old Married Fag here.

Don't fuck up a good thing. Pussy is easy. Meaningful relationships with trust? Not easy.

Want to try something freaky with your girl? Introduce it slowly. I.E. Her: "Anal hurts" - You: "Let's use numbing lube and take it slow, I want to experience this with you." Her: "(sexual position) makes me feel dirty/whorish" - You: "I want to erase that stigma from your mind, so that you and I can share everything freely."

She's not likely to be okay with you fucking someone else, but if you're gonna approach the subject, don't be stupid about it. Be open, honest, and direct. I.E. "I love you, you and I are spending the rest of our lives together. There are a lot of things I never got to experience, and I feel that I need to get them out of my system, or at least address them in some way that makes me no longer feel the need."

That last part, if worded and delivered correctly, will turn your girl into a slaving fuckbot, in order to keep you happy.

Enjoy anon. Don't fuck it up, faggot.

>>687463675
Go into it together, then. Encourage any and all thoughts she has about extramarital affairs. If she's not okay with herself doing it, she won't be with you. Trust me. So anytime she notices eye candy, show her that you're excited that she's turned on. Soon she'll get used to the idea of other people being your toys or pets, so to speak. You should hold each other in higher status than you hold your playthings, always. Respect comes first in a healthy open relationship.

>>687463567
She would never cheat on me. I genuinely believe that she would rather die than cheat on me. She hates cheaters.
Plus i was her 2nd sexual partner, she only had 'sex' once before she met me and she/ all her friends told me he was small and he couldnt stay hard.
I dont have any concerns about her wanting other dudes.
My penis is big and she loves it.
Plus my sexdrive is at least 3x higher than hers so im always keen to fuck when shes horny.
I feel like that might be the problem.
Im not satisfied with the amount of sex that im gettin even though we do it a couple fo times a week ahah

>>687463934
Feeling dirty/whorish is a kink that sexually healthy people can enjoy. You don't have to make anal into some pure experience just like fucking pussy.

>>687463675
just get some prostitutes while being in a relatonship

>>687459857
in relationship
pros
>unprotected sex
>it's nice to have someone
cons
>she's overatached
>takes up lots of my time
>she is really insecure and constantly needs affirmation
>hate spending the night with her because she can't sleep calmly, constantly wakes up crying with nightmares

>>687459857
>Is being single really that great?

Grass is always greener mothefucker.

everyone with no gf = "life would be great if I had a qt 3.14 to cuddle"

everyone with a gf = "im bored and wanna fugg other hoes"

>>687464167
118 here. That's good that you don't have any concerns like that. She'll be pleasantly surprised to know she can be honest about her attractions with you, so do let her know that!

In a relationship I don't want to be in anymore. I just want to be alone.

>>687463934
>That last part, if worded and delivered correctly, will turn your girl into a slaving fuckbot, in order to keep you happy.
This>>687463757

>>687463675
This sums up my feeling for my current gf although I definitely care for her less than you do

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>>687459857
saved.
can't wait to do this with the misses.

>pic unrelated

>>687464544
Why dont you want to be in it anymore anon?
Wanna talk it out /b/ro?
Im not going anywhere, its 1am here and everyone is asleep, im about 2 hours into my trip and im about to peak. I want to talk to anyone about anything

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Men aren't designed to be monogmous. You will AWAYS want to fuck other women, no matter hoe serious or long term the relationship.

What you have to do is weight the pros and cons about giving up that lifestyle for the person you care about.

Is it really worth it? That's up to you.

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>>687465151
Ah you like the gif anon?
Good news and bad news.
The good news is i have this other gif.
The bad news is i dont have sauce

>>687459857
In relationship for 5 months.

We discussed from the beginning and agreed that we are both creatures of polygamy but it turned out that we also both enjoy having this special connection between us.

So I proposed the "X" (it has a much more fitting name, but I am not going to give b/tards the tools of men) project where we can both enjoy sex with other people but do it like companions, together. So now, she is looking for other girls we can play with, and if someone comes up that we both like, all I have to do is suggest "we" date her.

>I get there are many in here who don't get this, but truth is if you don't you are an egocentric bastard, probably with a bunch of insecurities you don't want to work out because you have the childish fear. And it's ok. I like losers because whether they like it or not, they exist with the purpose of helping the average person weigh their choices.

Funny, I feel almost exactly the same way you do OP. Love my girl and dont want to lose her but at the same time I do yearn for a fresh bitch to fuck.

Im thinking prostitute might be one solution, but I have never cheated anyone and have my doubts. Will doing so fuck me up somehow, because thats what Im afraid.. because once you go there you cant undo it. Ya gotta live with it.

>>687465195
I think in my head it would be worth it, going out every weekend with my mates, doing all sorts of drugs, getting up to all sorts of trouble - not having to worry about anyones safety besides my own, having sex with a different slut every week. That would be the life.
But in reality i feel like i wouldnt fo out that often, id get less sex than i get atm and id be more lonely and sad that shes gone

>>687465517
>polygamy
I think you mean polyamory.

>>687465160
It's been 9 months. I never really loved her. but i care about her and dont want to hurt her cause shes suuuper in love with me somehow. it feels pretty fucked up

>>687465690
It would be lonely at first. But you'd have a whole lot more money and time to focus on yourself and being successful.

When it comes down to it, most women are a drain on your time and your wallet and hold you back from achieving your goals.

I've been in long term relationships before and I'm currently single.
My last girlfriend I was with for three years. I have to say I much prefer being in a relationship but hey, different strokes for different folks. When I was in Uni I had a dozen or so one night stands and they were alright, but overall pretty boring for me. When I was in a relationship my girl knew what I liked and satisfied my desires and fetishes, which a random could not do for me.
As for the lifestyle of being in a relationship it never bothered me. If I wanted time alone to do my own thing I would simply say and my girlfriend was always fine with it.
I can totally see why some people don't enjoy monogamy though, and that's fine too.

>>687459857
>feel like she is my only real friend anymore
That's the only real problem you've presented.

You need to have male friends and do things alone. Aside from being better for your relationship to have a life outside of it, it leaves you with a support network and a strong identity if the relationship sours.

The urge to fuck other women never goes away. You choose to be monogamous, or you don't. You can try to be loyal, be an unrepentant cad, sneak around with pros

And let's be real, it's a minority of men who can get more sex out of a relationship than in it.

>>687465548
It depends on your personal values and identity.

>>687465517
>People who don't like and live their life like I do are fucking losers
Calm down dude

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>>687459857
I am single.
I don't think my scenario is in any way relevant to you, OP.
I have no interest in forming any kind of relationship with anyone.
I find talking to people on this site to be as much as I can handle in terms of socialising.
I don't understand the appeal of having someone be close to you all the time.
Wouldn't it just be draining?
I think about trying out a relationship. To see if I just talking shit, and I am just a pussy too scared to be rejected or some shit.
But any time I think about it, I realise I will have to talk to them. And that is just so fucking boring.

>>687465829
Dude thats harsh, i think you should talk to her about it, maybe end the relationship but stay friends if she could handle that?
If she really loves you but you dont love her back, its just going to get harder and harder when the end inevitably comes man

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>>687465380
no worries

>>687465712
No, not really. If you go strict on terminology, yeah it's not polygamy, but then again we use the word in the broader sense as well. Much like when you speak of monogamy you don't mean you married your girlfriend, but rather being in a relationship that involves only the two of you.

have a girlfriend of 2 years. i have a job and a college degree but she's been unhappy because i'm too chill and laid back, or lazy according to her, and have a passive personality. we'll probably break up.

>>687459857
Single for 2 years
>pros
I can do whatever I want
Can flirt with whomever
Never have to spend money on my gf
>cons
Lonely
Jerking off gets boring, fast
Not attractive enough to bang sluts, so haven't had sex in forever
Becoming slob like with no woman around

All n all: eh.

>>687466238
>You're too chill and laid back
Aren't they positive qualities?

TIL everyone has the same problem as me

>mfw my girlfriend wants me to cuck her with her best friend
>mfw I think it's a trap and would end horribly
What do? I mean I've been with her four years, I'd rather not ruin things

>>687465829
Women fall in and out of love more easily than men, at least in my experience.

>>687466136
someone's a bit salty. have you washed your vagina lately?!

Why are you pretending that this is what I "implied"? Could it be that you don't know what the phrase "get it" means, or are you simply on your period and need to create arguments?!

>>687466019
I do have friends, i have a group of about 5 guys that i hang out with at parties n shit and we get along swimmingly, we often hang out and smoke bongs together, go drinking together etc etc.
I also have no problem socializing and making new friends
But like they arent really friends like her.
They are just 'the boys'
We just hang out and do shit, they dont know me like she does, i dont know them that personally either.
Anyone know where im coming from?

>>687466616
Well "no", is where I would start.
If it goes horribly wrong, then tough shit.

>>687466670
I'm not salty at all. I just misunderstood your post, my bad.
No need to get so defensive and use exclamation points fam

>>687466616
tbh I'd just do it. If she's trying to trap you, she's crazy and you're better off without her. If she actually gets off on you fucking her friends and can process that emotionally, you could unlock a whole new world.

Just make sure to give her a ton of love and attention afterwards to calm down the hamster.

She could also be preparing to cuck you back, so be ready for that eventuality.

>>687466165
ah, i see what you're saying.

>>687466983
I didn't mean like she wants to trap me, I just think that its something that she thinks is a good idea but she would regret it.
She has a huge fetish of getting cucked and always talks about how she wants me to fuck her friends, it's bizarre.

>>687466616
Make sure it isnt a trap, talk to her very seriously and get her consent, if its legit then make sure your gf is the centre of attention and that she never feels excluded/ uncomfortable.

If it is a trap then wtf, you talked it out and had her permission, thats not a trap thats just an evil bitch who is looking for an excuse to break it off

>>687466953
Those exclamation points, are hard-core..!

>>687466417
It seems like in the long run, having a loving happy relationship is the best way to go, however just looking short term, its best to be single.
This doesnt help me at all ahahah

>>687467174
You may be right. I was in a somewhat similar situation, and ended the relationship for other reasons (she couldn't figure out what she wanted and was an overall emotional trainwreck).

I'm all for building strong relationships and being loyal but relationships come and go... I'm just speaking for myself, but if I had the opportunity to groom a real cuckqueen to arrange casual sex for me while maintaining a happy relationship, I'm not sure I could resist, even if the odds of success were 50/50 or worse.

>>687466616
Remember what im about to tell you anon, it will come in handy when you need it most.
She really is into cucking and wants you to fuch her friends, its going to be amazing and you will both fucking love it. However sexual fantasies never go away or get smaller, especially when you act on them, they only get bigger.
She will one day want to try cucking you. She will want you to watch her fuck another guy. If you are okay with that then thats awesome. If not be prepared for a shit storm because she wont forget everytine you fucked her friends. And she wont hesitate to mention it when you tell her you arent comfortable watching her get fucked

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>>687465380
here ya go

http://www.redtube.com/37307