So this is sort of a follow-up of a post I started a couple of months ago. Again, I’ll appreciate your advice on this one.
>Been dating GF for a year.
>Best friends. Known each other since junior high (9 years ago).
>In a long-distance relationship because of college.
>Not much time to hang out and of course, to have intimacy.
>Both virgin.
>Different experiences in terms of sexual exploration and relationships.
>Her: Kind of sleazy in high school, liked to tease guys just for her own pleasure, only details I know is that she’s done titjobs. Reached third base a couple of times. Had the chance but never had sex because she wanted “feelings to be involved”. Never had an actual boyfriend until she started dating me.
>Me: Only had one GF for two years in high school. Got along really well and had a very nice relationship. She found the idea of having sex terrifying and since my sex drive was not really high, we never did it. She knew we couldn’t be intimate in a physical way so she tried to compensate it by doing things like porn movies marathons in her house and so.
>Intimacy is complicated with current GF because it is all under her own terms. We make out and reached second or even third base just when she’s in the mood or in that stage of her period.
>Always stops me when I try to go further. Teases me but never do anything except let herself to be pleased.
>She starts avoiding intimacy with me. Says I’m pushing her to do something she’s not ready to do and that doesn’t know when she will be. Do my best to calm down. The same dynamic persists.
>Two months ago we started preparing for our semester abroad. She’s going to Spain, I’m going to Sweden. [Continues]
>We talked about our relationship. I had thought in continuing with it but she talks first and proposes that we take a time out so “we won’t be worried about what the other is doing, because we’ll live different experiences”. Although she want us to promise ourselves to go back together or discuss it right away when come home.
>*remembers how she was like in high school or that even in college she once went to male friend’s house to “hang out” and got so drunk that she woke up naked (supposedly didn’t have sex)*
>For her surprise, I calmly say that I agree to her proposal but that I couldn’t promise to go back with her or even be willing to discuss it right away, because I don’t know what the conditions will be by then.
>Doesn’t seem to like my response and says we should better talk about it later.
>Went to her place last weekend. Her roomies are not home. She’s really horny and we start making out. Again, when I try to go for third base she stops me. Says we need to talk.
>Says she’s ready to be intimate and that I should arrange it in a way that it will be special, then brings the next semester situation. I reaffirm my position, she still doesn’t seem to like it.
>Get happy at first but then I become suspicious. Why did she changed her mind in just a few weeks? Is she trying to use sex as a way to prolong the relationship?
>Considering what I know form her I have three theories:
>She just wants to lose her virginity with me so it means something as she always wanted. Then she can go fuck some Spanish boys while we’re on this break and then try to go back with me without any guilt;
>She’ll use this new level of intimacy as a way to exert pressure and keep me controlled while I’m abroad or;
>She’ll step up her teasing game to the point where I’ll compromise and promise to go back together when we’re home.
What do you think? Am I overthinking the situation? What should my course of action be?
So what are your actual concerns, OP? If you're thinking that first thing she'll do when she's abroad is get some nice Spanish dick, then I would recommend to end your relationship already. You deserve something better and besides, Swedish girls are so fucking hot.
It's not that I don't trust her or anything. It is the fact that even though she's with me she doesn't seem to care about my own satisfaction.
>>17115981
>>We talked about our relationship. I had thought in continuing with it but she talks first and proposes that we take a time out so “we won’t be worried about what the other is doing, because we’ll live different experiences”.
>We talked about our relationship. I had thought in continuing with it but she talks first and proposes that we take a time out so “we won’t be worried about what the other is doing, because we’ll live different experiences”.
thats all i need to read
translation:
>take a break so its okay if i suck other dicks / give titjobs / fuck someone
sorry mate. heard it all before.
>>17116377
just read on, and your paranoid assumptions dont fill me with confidence either.
just call it off.
1. You don't trust her.
2. You have concerns about her manipulating you.
3. You're unhappy in your relationship mainly because she's not intimate.
4. Only time she was intimate in entire yr with you was just so she could manipulate you into getting back together with her later just in case Spain boy toys don't work out.
5. You
6. Don't
7. Trust
8. Her
You wasted a whole yr with this girl and you're in your fuckin prime. Don't get back together. A relationship is about compromise and having similar interests and beliefs. You two dont make a good match. You're young and about to go abroad. Go have fun with no strings attached, wear a rubber, and be careful with those crazy feminist Swedish girls.
>>17116377
The why will she even put sex on the table?
>>17116383
I do trust her, but the manipulation part is kind of true.
>>17116521
You're her bitch
