id like to know this too im in the same exact situation

>>16975040

>how do i move on

by moving on. whatever your life was before, just do that, but without her.

>i completely cut her out of my life
>Except all her social media
>i fall to pieces

cut her out of your life. you know... block her.

>im depressed cuz a girl rejected me

life is full of relationship turmoil. if you arent mature enough to handle it when you were never actually 'with' that person then you are not emotionally mature enough to date. put in extra effort and catch up.

>what i did wrong

not maching does not mean someone did something wrong. i hate lasagna. my mom cooked the best lasagna according to everyone else in the world. she iddnt do something wrong. i just dont like lasagna.

you are lasagna. probably delicious to other people. but not to her (or me).

go be the best lasagna you can be.

I am bad at motivating depressed individuals but here is what I would do :
1. Go and tell her exactly what you're feeling and why you feel like you fucked up, it doesn't matter if she forgives you it's just to get it off your chest.
2. Get a premium pornhub pass and fap the day away.
3. Get some friends and do something that might take your mind off it or something man idunno.
If all else fails, when you kill yourself make sure you leave a note saying it was her fault. Revenge from beyond the grave...

>go be the best lasagna you can be
I want this on my tombstone

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>>16975049
>go be the best lasagna you can be

i felt the same way but with drugs, love is like a drug i think

>>16975055
>>16975049

Actually I did remove her on social media, when I say I cut her out of my life I meant it :/. The problem is our mutual acquaintances still like her pictures or are in them etc.

I do have a lot of stuff I'd like to say to her, like sorry for ruining our friendship etc. Is it totally weird to just message her over facebook? It feels like it will be.

>go be the best lasagna you can be.

Thanks, actually that is really good advice. It's just so hard, this depression is destroying my motivation and I just can't seem to break out of it.

I can't even remember what my life was like before her, all my old hobbies seem so hollow. I don't enjoy anything any more.

>>16975094

>other friends

then do a social media blackout. its facebook, you dont need to be there. at best, just change your settings so you dont see the friends who are notorious for posting stuff about her. you can adjsut your settings for how much of whoevers life you see and all that jazz.

>thanks actually that is a really good advice

its true though. i usually use oranges and plums as an example, but i just had spaghetti so yeah. never think of a rejection, a turn down, or anything like that as you doing something wrong. the normal state of things is not being taken in by every single person you approach, or any person you approach.

life is about finding who your matches are, who likes your taste. you are lasagna, you wont ever not be lasagna. you can adjust your flavor a little bit, but you will still be lasagna. so just look for someone who likes lasagna.

all the other stuff sucks, but thats life. the more you face the easier it gets, so there is that, but for now you are goign to ride out the sadness and just do your best not to let it effect your work.

>>16975112
You seem like you know a lot guy, you've definitely been through the system. I know it's hard since everyone's different, but can you tell me how long these feelings take to disappear? I can't stomach feeling this way for much longer.

Thanks for your help so far pal, I appreciate it. This was my first real heavy crush, my real heartbreak. I'm a young guy, just 19 years old.

>>16975126

its your first so probably the hardest you will ever feel. there is no 'general'ness to it. there are so many factors. the two biggest are

>experience
>willpower

the more you experience this the less it hurts. break ups can be amicable and simple if you've had 40 of them. its why people become less passionate and more casual as they get older in this day and age.

then comes willpower. do you want to be defined by a woman you knew for 3 months? do you want to be defined by a woman at all? those who want to define themselves tend to not hurt when someone doesn't love them. they live for themselves and enjoy what they do. having a partner only enhances an already good experience.

>>16975045
oh btw want to exchange emails and get through these shitty feelings together?

>>16975040
Hey OP. You can't really beat "be the best lasagna you can be". It's so true. I would use this time to masturbate without restraint, work out and get in better shape, eat healthier, find new art you like (movies, music, books, etc.) and seek out a variety of new friends, especially female ones

>>16975139
This all makes perfect sense, this is top dollar advice you're giving here friend thanks a lot.

>o you want to be defined by a woman at all? those who want to define themselves tend to not hurt when someone doesn't love them. they live for themselves and enjoy what they do. having a partner only enhances an already good experience.

This bit is completely true, I really get it. I know that I have to find a way to be happy on my own again. This unrequited infatuation feels like a cancer on my brain though, it steals my motivation, keeps me chained to the boring person I've now become.

The problem is this also struck at a time where I'm having something of an identity crisis. I left a lot of my friends behind when I came to uni, I left my home behind and I left a lot of my hobbies behind. Right now I eat, sleep, very rarely do work if I can find the motivation / fear of failure, and pretty much just browse the same boards / subreddits all day. I can't even do anything active like download a movie or play a game, it's horrible. I stalk her over the internet too :/ It's really, really scary, I'm not a malicious person I respect her right to refuse me, it's just that I'm obsessed.

>>16975198

>identity crisis at a new uni

I'm biased because i went to five highschools. i moved a LOT. before that i had been to who knows how many primary schools, and after that i still moved around a bit.

as such moving and changing were often interlocked. i learned form my mistakes as a person and started fresh somewhere new.

i never once saw my issues with identity as a 'crisis' but rather, as a chance to define myself. or redefine. or learn what hte new me is. even just a few months ago i realized that id changed some of the people and things that i thoguht brought me joy no longer do, and it stime to discover who i am now.

but its not a crisis. exploring new things is fun. it slike starting a new video game. you love that game a lot mor eat first than when you are the end (Though at the end, you certainly have a better appreciation for that journey).

this is your chance to reinvent. if you have any acquaintance, friend, or person you studied with at your new university, anyone who happened to give you their number, call them, right now. ask them to go do something. anything. something you are used to, or something new. say you got a case of the 'feels' from a girl, but dont wanna sit around and whien, and instead want to go do something.

my advice? laser tag if you can. its more fun than anyone gives it credit for. epic music playing, lasers flying, people swearing. its great.

>>16975168
Yeah it's really good advice. I went on a downward spiral right after I got rejected, starting eating shit food, smoking cigarettes etc. Luckily that has passed now, and I feel a bit stronger.

Just today I started buying vegetables and all the ingredients for the stuff I used to find delicious and I'm going to cook it again.

I had so much in common with that girl though, we liked the same books, movies, games etc. All of those things just feel like shit now since they just remind me of her. You're right that I need to find something new, something that doesn't remind me of her.

>>16975213
Alright I met a girl 2 years above me at a uni society, she plays LoL and I used to play it 3 years ago. I told her as much and she said she'd add me. I'm going to message her on facebook tomorrow morning and get her username and play LoL with her.

Thanks man, all of this is great and I really appreciate it a lot, you're great.

Another thing I really worry about is that I won't have any more chances to make new friends at uni. I didn't get into any friendship groups early on, the girl who rejected me was the only friend I had on my course sadly enough and she has a wonderful friendship group.

Do people still get close groups of friends after their first year of uni? I feel like I've missed the boat to ever be close to a woman or a girl at uni, or to just have good friends.

>>16975243

you will be fine as long as you pursue. while freshman groups are strong, that is who they are at the beginning of college, and way different at the end. first two years are more general ed, and from there they deivate into their own courses, learn to change who they were from highschool to who they were going to be.

its easy to make friends in college, you just gotta invite people. yo uare also not going to be the only person in your place. dont be afraid to reach out to strangers and ask wahtsup.

i made a friend just by saying 'hows it going, where you headed?' one morning. now were ihking buddies.

as long as you put yourself out there you will make friends. the start of each year will make it a little easier.

good luck anon. and thanks for the appreciation. we often dont get that on this board