Can't cum with my gf
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For some reason no matter what I can't bring myself to climax. I'm 24 and reasonably healthy not overweight, rather slim. Even though I can get hard, I last a long time but it's so difficult to finish. It's ends up being a chore, tiring and time wasting. She also looks visibly upset (she doesn't tell me) because it's like she thinks she is a problem.
I have to finish myself which is also a challenge, but I've managed to do it most times. I'm not sure if we're just having sex too much, a combination of nerves and my past masturbation habits..
I dunno I just want to be able to climax on command. I could do it when I fapped, but not anymore.
you might be gripping too hard. Sex is a pretty gentle sensation and you can apply a lot more force when masturbating. If you've gotten used to this rougher sensation, regular penetration won't be enough for you.
If this is your problem, it's fixable. You just have to deliberately avoid masturbating or gripping too tight and re-acclimate yourself to gentler sensation.
It could also be nervousness and performance anxiety. Try to get intimate without having proper sex. Pleasure each other for the sake of it, not for the sake of orgasms. Make it about feeling good, not ejaculating, so there's less pressure to do it.
You might be gay.
Put it in her butt
>>16950999
thanks yeah it's probably the deathgrip and anxiety coupled together. I have been feeling like it's so important that I finish, obviously I want to, but I do just like having sex and being intimate.
I haven't watched porn or masturbated since I've met her actually. I'm hoping it's just a matter of adjusting.
>>16951026
Or ask her to put something in your butt
