Help a betafag out
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I'm the stereotypical betafag, never got a girlfriend, failed attempts, kissless virgin, highschool was shit, not a bunch of friends, I won't waste time giving unneccessary details.
Straight to the subject, there is a particular girl I like. We were classmates in highschool. Not long ago, I started taking advanced english courses for my Cambridge language level and she attends those lessons too. Well, we just socialise, tell what we were up lately and just chit-chat after classes on our way to the bus station.
Now here comes the fun part. I wanted to ask her out before, but I cowered out because none of my attempts were successful. After no longer being classmates, I just assumed the interest died, but after meeting her during those english courses prooved to me that it didn't. And frankly I'd assume this gave me an opportunity to find common interest.
Anyway I avoided days like 14th of February and 8th of March simply because there would be way too many people dating during this time and I just want a little bit more...private if that's the right word. So now straight to the question, do you know any possible way of seriously not fucking this shit up? Never been on a date before and everytime I try to approach this issue, my heartbeat rate increases so hard it feels like exploding and I usually coward out.
Any of you know tips, tricks and lines that could be handy? Or any general advice?
>i avoided days like 14th of february simply because there would be way too many people dating during this time and i just want a littl bit more.. private
its not the right word. its not even a right thought process. dont try and act like you were making it special when you admit to being all about the anxiety?
>i wont waste time tgiving unnecessary details
>follows up wtih 3 paragraphs of unnecessary details
>so now straight to the question (after 3 paragraphs of unnuecessary details)
lol
>do you know any possible way of seriously not fucking this shit up
depends on your definition of fucking shit up. if ur asking about a guarantee she will say yes, there isn't. if there were cheatcodes for girls everyone would know them. all this being said, id recommend just going up and asking her during the next time you see her. say
>you wanna go to XX with me?
>sure anon
>great, its a date
obviously the conversation will be a bit more... complex than that, but make sure you make it known its a date. dont ask if its a date.
if you think she actually wants to talk to you, or likes being around you (even better) try to delve into your friendship- find ways to spend time with her like if you're walking past a coffee shop you can ask her if she wants a coffee. Or you can invite her to the library or, if you think the time is right, hers or your house, then you might be on the right track for a date lol why am i talking ive had like one kiss in my life
>>16891987
>dont try and act like you were making it special when you admit to being all about the anxiety?
You're correct. It wasn't about making it special, it was about the anxiety. More specifically, I would feel uncomfortable with more people dating around, because I'd end up thinking "he did it better than me, I suck".
>[...]lol
Depends on your definition of unnecessary details. I think giving info about previous attempts, HS & social life wouldn't really matter. I just provided a little bit of background in "today's" issue rather than trying to look back. (If you do want past experiences, summarised would be me stuttering and being plainly rejected).
>you wanna go to XX with me?
Yeah, well biggest problem is that I don't know how to approach this point of the conversation, and fear of being way too direct and possibly creepy.
>>16892021
good luck with that matey.
>>16891964
>8th of March
Why
