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Hi /adv/isors.
>so this girl, let's call her X, we've been buds for 6 years now
>I kinda liked her but I was young at the time so I didn't try anything funny, there were other girls at play
>years pass, it's a year ago from now
>by this time I'm falling hard for her, listening to romantic songs on my balcony, the works
>getting really riled up about outing myself to her
>decide it's been too long past my chance to come clean, hide my feelings
>3 months pass
>talk her best friend up (also friends for quite a while, although not as close as X), go out, have a friendly chat
>let's call her Y
>snap, delude myself into thinking that she's the best woman in the world
>crush hard, go out on a few occasions
>X and I talk about stuff so this comes up, she's genuinely surprised
>tell Y I like her a lot and I'm sorta obsessed with her
>chat with Y on skype, tells me we have a big past together and it's wierd
>blabla go out one more time, blabla tells me it's not that we had a past, it's that she straight up doesn't like me (I already picked up the hint, just tried a few tricks, was just me grasping at straws)
>really depressed at this point
>already going through tough shit
>my best friend trying to talk me into convincing myself that X is who I wanted in the first place, and Y was just a distraction
>I kinda thought so as well 6 months ago but I've tried to put my mind off of it
>not even sure if I want her any more
I definitely love her in the familiarity sense of the word.
I'm not sure if I should sacrifice that love to the shrine of awkwardness.
>also X and Y are estranged now because of reasons, Y feels betrayed by X and X is trying to make up, nothing to do with my person
Any help is more than welcome.
And, femanons, if you were X how would you react?
Not a femanon. You said it yourself. You two have been buds for 6 years now. Not lovers, not dating, buds. There is no relationship, never was a relationship, never will be. Just because you failed at being "just a friend" doesn't mean the feeling is mutual all of a sudden.
And judging from your "I already picked up the hint, just tried a few tricks, was just me grasping at straws" comment, I'll preemptively tell you that no, you can't convince someone to fall for you.
>>17274159
You missed the point.
>I already picked up the hint, just tried a few tricks, was just me grasping at straws
That was with Y, not X.
>never was a relationship
never claimed there was
>>17274159
>>17274141
Oh, fuck, I just realised.
Made an oopsie with the wording.
>snap, delude myself into thinking Y is the best woman in the world
Better, that might clear things up.
>>17274177
Nope. Generally if you get the hint that someone isn't into you, you don't try to convince them to date you anyway. If you tried that mindset with Y, I fear you'd try it with X
It sounded like you were hoping to get together with X. I doubt X cares about what Y does anymore.
>>17274200
I don't want to "convince" X to go out with me, I just want to get it off my fucking chest already.
It's been way too long.
But I don't want to lose that friendship either.
On the other hand, maybe if we cut ties it'll be good for me.
She has no idea what's going on with me, I just want to tell her how I feel.
Obviously I hope we do get together, but I'm not going to try and force it.
It's just that I'm a weak fucking sister that should've never created a friendship with a girl I liked.
bumpu
please what do
