What does it mean if a guy texts you quality up from 9pm to 4am at night and doesn't text through the day? If he doesn't study or work?

>>17190495
He sleeps during the day?
I cant sleep at night ita 3:50 in the morning here

But idunno it means nothing people think too much about texting

>>17190501
German fag

>>17190501
>>17190513
Thanks, anons, he is from the same city, probably just sleeps to 3pm yeah.

>>17190513
Nope
Close but nope

A tiny shithole you probably dont know about

>>17190513
Well i do that so yeah

Dont stress it

>>17190526
Damn i ment it for
>>17190523

2 of my femanon friends are on-off besties, I'm friends with them both but I don't want to pick sides, what do?

>>17190537
You dont pick sides
Play it neutral

>housemate has a cute friend, but the housemate graduated this past month and is moving out soon
>said hey to her friend while passing on the stairs once and she said hi, but we haven't talked beyond that (it's a big house with a lot of people living in it)
>haven't been introduced to her or introduced myself
>got a friend request on Facebook from her earlier today

So, officially speaking, she shouldn't know my name because we haven't "met." I'm kind of reclusive, so it seems like friending me was the best way for her to show interest. Plus, her friending me seems to imply that she's worried about not getting to know me (since her friend is moving out).

TL;DR: Girl friended me when we haven't technically "met" or been introduced yet. I don't see her consistently so I now need to figure how to ask her out (via Facebook, talk to her friend (my housemate), or hope that I run into around the house at some point).

>>17190616
Hey wanna go get ice cream?

>>17190275
>but completely destroying simple gender roles will have a very large negative impact on society.
Too true, just look at the modern Western world.

>parents went to the beach
>have the house for myself for 24 hours or so
>tfw no friends
>tfw no gf ;_;
What do you suggest? Should I invite my favorite prostitute?

>>17190675
Just masturbate to some porn and then lie on the bed wanting to kill yourself when you realise you'll never have a girlfriend. That's what I do.

>>17190477
My bf (LDR) is super needy. He gets sad if I tell him I cant talk to him, for even just 3 hours. It's starting to get really annoying.
I want to go on student exchange next year, but he plans to move to where I am next year to be closer to me. What do?
Also can I make him like me a little bit less and not obsess over me so much? Help?

>>17190691
No, he's insecure and you will never fix him.

>>17190691
>My bf (LDR)
Strike 1
>is super needy
Strike 2
>He gets sad if I tell him I cant talk to him, for even just 3 hours
Strike 3.
>I want to go on student exchange next year, but he plans to move to where I am next year to be closer to me.
Strike 4

He's out, and somehow you're still lobbing balls at him. Wake up pitcher.

This shit ain't ever going to go away. Even if he moves closer to you, he'll be equally needy--if note more. Don't put your life on hold for him.

I like this girl.
We talk about video games all the time, to the point where we write to each other ESSAYS worth of content.
But that's the thing. We share so much that we have in common and it means so much to me that we have that connection. How would she feel? Wouldn't she feel neutral as she probably gets that a lot? There is no romantic theme to our convos. How do I approach a hangout together?

>>17190744
Cherish that connections, dude.
It must be okay if you leave relatively close.
I didn't get do you like her romantically or not.

>>17190762
We live literally a block away. I'm not sure where she lives, but I know she lives by "that one store" we both go to.

I do like her romantically but I am unsure if she feels the same. I did NOT show any signs of me being interested in fear of rejection. But, I mean, I wonder if she's doing the same? She's a huge introvert, like me.

I've never had sex sober before and I've been avoiding it all day but I just went out and bought rubbers, lube (water based ofc) and baby wipes. I've pretty much committed, I even tidied up my room. She's a long time friend and our parents are super close, I know her parents and don't have an interest in dating her. She's out now but she is staying with us and she's been all over me today. I've never done casual sex before and I'm terrified, please help. She said she wants to sleep in my bed tonight because the couch is uncomfortable- so I'm not just imaging signs haha. Sex jokes with responded with flattery instead of laugher. GUYS IM FREAKIN OUT

>>17190774
Lol, I would ask almost the same (with online messaging irl friend) about a guy two years ago. We both were too afraid of rejection to make a move (he v e r y subtly tried to flirt, and i failed to reply properly) fucked up there.
Anon, you must hang out and find out. Idk, introverted girls differ from each other, she may be flirty touchy one. Hard to tell how she feels in that case. When you'll be together alone, you may see her in a different light.

But if she acts like an autist or looks at floor or is shy or awkward it's a dead giveaway, i tell you.
Rejection is not as bad as it seems, make mistakes while young.

>>17190774
If you aren't rude about it and tell her how you feel I don't think she would think poorly of you. Just tell her how much you enjoy time together and ask is she wants to go get tea/coffee together. That will provide a more adult setting while still being fairly benign. Don't talk about video games while you're there, find other things in common even if it is stupid generic stuff, ask about family or pets. Ask about her drink and hope she is into whatever it is- if so she'll probably try to get you into it to.

I've been in a few relationships and that's a great start but I can't help after that as it would be the blind leading the blind.

>>17190817
That's pretty funny, how you were both afraid of rejection. Those cases are the worst, as you're unable to tell the feelings of the other person.
I'm honestly not sure how to go on about hanging out. How should I introduce that to her? Hey, let's hang out sometime.
I may be overthinking, but that's pretty basic. And again, I'm afraid of the rejection. Ah, fuck it. I'll ask her when she replies to my latest message.

>>17190821
How do I even go on about telling her how I feel? I'm so unsure about her feelings, and this may turn things really awkward. I enjoy her company when we talk online. We rarely see each other irl due to conflicting school schedules. However, we are on break now, so I can ask her to hangout. But how do I approach that?
Also, why shouldn't I talk about video games? What about it makes it a no no? Of course I want to bring up other interests and have her talk more about herself (we enjoy talking about ourselves after all).
But again, why no video games?

>>17190805
Just relax dude.

how much weight do people put into their likes on social media?

a girl that i talk to frequently has been liking this guys picture (an "amateur model" from her hometown, doesnt go to our university) for a few weeks now. some of them are shirtless, etc. not sure if i should just assume she's crushing on him or if she's just one of those people that likes every picture her friends post (she only has 200 friends on FB so its entirely possible i guess)

>>17190836
The dumb girl anon cont. I agree that you should cut video games, if you do want to pursue her romantically. Don't talk about video games entire time. Learn her better from personal side. Ask her some open-ended questions. About family, pets, irl stuff. If you don't want to do that, then keep being friends, please.
To think of it, that guy I knew bought identical neutral t-shirts and invited me, it was kinda straightforward. Yeah, i'm that dumb, i mumbled some video game shit and quit.
I have no idea how you do it the right way.
Probably one of you should have the courage to confess affection. Maybe compliment her looks sincerely, something small, but solid.

Do you mean school as school or college btw?

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This is going to be long.
But, females can you bare with me?

>You like Guy 1. Guy 2 shows up.
>Guy 1 doesn't like you back/gives mixed signals.
>Guy 2 becomes awesome friend
>Guy 2 does lots for you.
>Guy 1 seldom texts or talks to you.
>Guy 2 always willing to talk and do stuff.
>Guy 1 doesn't seem to show much interest in but, then doesn't really do anything to drive you away.
>Guy 2 gets you Christmas present.
>Guy 2 goes out of his way for you.
>Guy 2 does is the only one to show up at your plans for friday nights.
>Guy 2 makes it clear he has feelings to you
>You fool around with guy 2
>You cuddle with guy 2
>You make out, french kiss,
>Guy 2 asks you out, Gave him a vague answer "I don't know"
>All of the sudden guy 1 likes you.
>Guy 1 asks you out.

Well this girl said yes to Guy 1. I'm guy 2.

If you say yes to Guy 1, Do you feel bad? How would you feel is Guy 2 didn't want to be friends with you anymore?

I was guy 2. Yes I realize she didn't owe me a relationship but, am I as horrible as some people say for not wanting to be her friend anymore?

>>17190865
Hmm. You have a great point. I'll try to find a way to ask her some irl shit, or music, within our conversation. Because all it has been is video games and it has been such a pleasure since it's our absolute favorite pastime. Seriously, we write ESSAYS worth of content about it.
Yeah, I'll figure a way to confess affection someday.

College. We met through a Computer Science course in the beginning of the school year. Both same major (CS) and that really got me interested.

>>17190836

Tell her how you like spending time together and should try a grown up setting, there has got to be a coffee shop around. Chances are she is just as nervous as you and you just need to take baby steps, but don't take forever.

>>17190836
Don't confess love online. flirt, ask out, but nothing too emotional, anon

>>17190841

I'm just stressed because I'm writing a certification exam on the third and only have a couple of days off to study. I've already used more sick days than I'm comfortable with to study. I feel like taking the day off to have sex is kind of a fucked up reason. I don't think I have the time to do anything but I also don't want to miss the opportunity as she lives out of town and is just here for a while.

If she was hotter I'd offer her to stay here and break up with her mooch boyfriend but I dunno at this point.

Guess I left some important details out the first time, I was a little too excited.

>>17190882
if that's the whole story then ya it's kind of gross for her to lead you on like that, but its unlikely that's the whole story...and youre biased so we cant really take what you say at face value

its totally acceptable to not want to be her friend, but realize that it probably wont affect her at all. she wont dwell on it like you might think she will.

i had a similar situation, a girl that i was "close" with for almost a year declined me when i asked her out so i just deleted her number because i still had feelings and didn't want to fall for her again.

>>17190883
*sigh, remembering* used to write long comments about video games to that guy in middle school.
Oh, good that you meet at college, it solves many problems. You can go through college together, great bonding experience. I wish you luck with her, anon, be happy!

>>17190888
Online confession is beta as fuck. I've fucked up there plenty of times, thank you for confirming that it is a fuck up.
How do you flirt? I never understood the idea of flirting. I grew up with the lack of a father figure, so I never learned how to do it.

>>17190908
Why is writing long comments about video games such a negative thing for you?

Yeah, college setting is different. But how does it solve many issues?

>>17190914
No, it's totally the opposite! I'm reminiscing the best times of my life.
Yeah...

Lol, at least you go to the same(?) or close college. Also couples can live together in some dorms. You can teach each other, work on one project, have kinda similar circle of people around (may be a minus).

I'm worried that I may be controlling here.

>gf has known from day 1 I hate piercings, not even just hate, absolutely loathe them
>tonight we were joking around and she sarcastically asked if she could get a piercing
>she doesn't actually want one, but it started a discussion
>I told her I wouldn't stop her from getting one, but I would have a serious objection to it
>she says she feels "enslaved" because of it
>she told me she doesn't want one but who knows in the future

So basically I'm worried about two things here

>What if she thinks I am being controlling by telling her I really really would not like her to get a piercing. She has known this from day one that I despise piercings, I also didn't tell her I would specifically forbay her from it. I feel really irked by how she said she felt enslaved because I'm not forcing anything. She knows I hate piercings, I told her I would object to her having one.

and

>What if down the line she does get a piercing? I'd be able to look past it because I love this woman and want to have a future with her, but I'd still be really hurt that she would get one knowing how much I absolutely hate them. I wouldn't get a piercing or tattoo or anything of the like if she had a serious objection to it. And eventually the piercing would either just simply not be used that often (from her knowing I dislike it, probably would stop wearing it around me eventually) or be a regular annoyance. Is it wrong to feel this way? I don't think she would get a piercing because she knows how much I hate them, but still.

Part of me is afraid of her thinking I'm trying to control me, but another part of me feels like I AM being controlling because I want her to refrain from getting a piercing if she should want one in the future simply because it's something I despise, and because I'd be really hurt if she did knowing from day one i hate them. I know this isn't a big deal because I'll love her and cherish her either way, but I'd like some advice.

Girls, age? How often do you masturbate? What's your preferred method of doing it? Remember the first time you did it? How old were you? How did it go?
These are important questions for science.

>>17190991
22. Back in my college dorm, it was at least 2-3 times a day. I had this amazing showerhead where you could change how quickly the water came out, so I could make the water streams the perfect strength. Now that I'm back home, the shower water sprays out so aggressively that it hurts, so I'm down to like once a week.

Don't remember how old I was when I first masturbated, but the first time I had an orgasm, it was 7th or 8th grade via humping a pet cat

>>17190954
most of the time people don't dislike the actual piercing itself but the way people will perceive someone they care about for having it. you're afraid she's going to get looked down on for it and in turn it's going to say something about you.

so yes, it's controlling and pretty fucked up. learn to stop caring about society and what they want and start accepting what you think will make her happy.

it sounds like, if she brought it up despite knowing you hate them, that she probably wants one. chances are if you don't let her and come to terms with it it's going to make her think of how controlling you'll be in the future.

i've had so many female friends of mine leave guys over shit like this after getting tired of it. it's NOT a big deal, but you're making it one and that says something about you.

>>17191016
It's not anything about society, it's just that it's ugly as hell to me.

She doesn't want one right now, that's for sure.

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Ladies, I have reached a pretty hilarious impasse and I honest to god need help. This is not a joke.

I keep meeting awesome girls that want me to dominate them, and it is just not in the fiber of my being to 'dominate' others. I think I need to adjust my perspective because I feel like I'm really fucking it up here.

I can act with the best of them. I'm not shy or timid or even uninterested in domination. But for the fucking life of me, I'm not good at being mean to people. These girls keep wanting me to be mean to be their master and I just feel so incredibly fucking inadequate.

>>17190954
You aren't. She knew you hate them, she should either learn to live without them or live without you. Its disrespectful to do something that will make your partner unattracted when you KNOW it will. What would she say if you told her you WANTED to gain 200lbs and get fat?

It's not really controlling unless you're threatening her with something.

>>17190991
i was probably 12 or 13 when i did it for the first time, i was playing with my dog and accidentally rubbed up against a pillow, almost had an orgasm on the spot. ended up making my dog leave the room, locking the door, and humping against a pillow and having my first orgasm, which i did for years afterwards. i went through a lot of neck and vibrating pillows.

after that i started using something soft (usually bundling up a shirt or pair of underwear) to put inside my actual underwear, which i'd press against the ground and hump against. nowadays i use a dildo and prop it up against something so it's softer and easier to ride on then go to town. vibration is usually too much stimulation but i've found crossing my legs/feet behind my butt helps achieve a better orgasm. i'm usually able to orgasm in about two minutes of doing that, and normally orgasm about 4-5 times in a session. sometimes i'll have 2-3 sessions a day, orgasming up to 15-20 times a day if i'm really fucking bored.

still experimenting and want to buy my first actual machine soon.

>>17191039
>She knew you hate them, she should either learn to live without them or live without you

It's not that drastic. A fucking piercing isn't important enough either way to hurt our relationship.

>>17191031
Well okay, domination is a broad topic. Some chicks like to be dominated in certain ways but not others. I like certain types of domination, but I don't like anything humiliating or degrading.

When you dominate a chick, it doesn't have to be mean. For me, it's more about the dude taking charge and controlling the chick, or being so overcome with lust that he gets a little rough, some manhandling, some pinning down. So don't view it as you being mean to the chicks

>>17191048
not the same anon but if it's not that drastic then why the hell are you worrying so much about it?

the fact that it'd make you upset for her to do something she hypothetically wanted?

>>17191059
It'd be upsetting because she knows how much I loathe them yet got one. If the shoe was on the other foot - she didn't want me to do something to my appearance - I wouldn't do it.

>>17191053
I can work my way through the physical stuff, I'm sure, I enjoy being rough and I know my knots. But verbal abuse and humiliation are seriously ??????????????????????????

>>17191072
That's how it should be. Anything else is a deviation from the norm. If your boyfriend hates piercings why in the world would you get them if you knew this? It'll only cause conflict and honestly shows no regard for the other person.

>>17190477
Guys
If a girl you were not attracted to changes everything about herself to be significantly more confident, fit and attractive, do you think you could be attracted to her if you suddenly see her this way after not having seen her for months? Or would you still see her the same way

Being transferred back to my old office and I've made some changes. It occurred to me I might now have a shot with my old coworker. What are my odds

Dudes, he said i look like his sister? i'm also pretty sure he's into me because he touches me a lot. . i feel the sis thing might be a bit weird as i have a sis but I don't have a brother so I can't really say?

>>17191081
Yeah, humiliation is a severe turn off for me, so I'm not sure why anyone would find it appealing. As far as verbal abuse, I like a little of that, but it's a fine line between "We're just playing, he doesn't actually feel that way about me" and "You're an asshole". Things can get as specific as bitch being an okay word while whore would be too much. But even when my guy does call me a dirty bitch, I know he doesn't actually feel that way and is just being playful, and his tone is where he's saying it in like "you're a freaky chick" and not an actual insult. I guess it's just all about how you look at it. But have faith in yourself, my guy felt unnatural dominating me, but he's gotten better with practice

posting this again as I posted late in the other thread:

id like to know if there are any women here or indeed any girls that know other girls that are into mens feet?

see I used to have an older woman when i was a teenager you liked sucking/licking my feet. it felt weird/too peverted at the time but now im older im a bit more sadistic and kinda miss the humilation aspect.


Question is: is this a fetish girls can have as soon as they develop sexual kinks or is it only found in older women, when there more experinced and want to expand on there dirtiness?

feels like this might be niche with women especially.

>>17191072
have you discussed it with her then? if you both can come to a mutual agreement then i don't see anything wrong with it. the only reason it would even be in issue is if you were holding each other back from something you actually wanted but at this point from what you say it's most likely conjecture.

you're entitled to your opinion and just have to be honest with her, and hopefully you'll be willing to not be a hypocrite in the future if she dislikes something you do and listen to her, too.

if you do that then i think you'll be fine, shouldn't worry too much about it.

>>17191097
if the guy had really nice feet and took care of them i would be down, but most guys i know have shit hygiene when it comes to their feet. maybe after a shower or something

>>17191083
I say low and don't dip your pen in company ink.
Meaning, Don't flirt where you work. Keep your work life and sex life separate.

>>17191083
This actually happened to me. In general probably yeah. in the beginning i was not bad looking but had self esteem issues. I took a year off to go straighten my shit out and came back fit, 15 pounds lighter, and confident. The same people who showed zero interest before (I mean, they asked me for ex gf advice) are now trying to get into my pants.

How do girls react to random people on the street asking them for a date? I work graveyard so I have no opportunity otherwise to seek girls other than the rare times where I'm awake in the day.

>>17191083
Yeah, theres only three reasons why a guy would not go out with you.

1) You're ugly
2) You're fat
3) You're insufferably liberal/stupid

>>17191083
Depends on why he had no interest, maybe he didn't want to get involved with someone at work. Maybe it was something you changed or maybe it wasn't, you won't know until you ask.

>>17191235
You over-complicate men

I don't think I'm ugly, but I'm asian in a town which is 90% caucasian. It's not totally exotic, there are some foreign students and asian girls date just fine.
Does being asian drop my looks by some points? Like i'm 6/10 and am perceived as 4/10?
Also people look at me, and i can't say if it's because i'm asian with red hair, have some toothpaste on my lips, or look attractive.
All asian girls with boyfriends, who i know are outgoing by nature.

Girls

How long do you have a crush on a guy for? This assuming you don't know if he likes you or not. Also mention if you are shy or outgoing.

>>17191244
No, being non-white does. White people don't race mix with anybody in general unless they want to piss off their parents, and on the degeneracy scale asians are at the bottom in terms of race mixing. You guys usually make ugly blended kids but otherwise they're healthy.

>>17191251
I am shy and have a crush for 10 years. He liked me, but doesn't care now. Never dated. Does it count?
Retarded.

>>17191251
I'm shy. The longest crush I've ever had was two years on a best friend. I either tell the guy I like him, or I get over it rather quickly.

>>17191300
My ethnicity is literally stated multiple times having exceptionally attractive offspring with white people, but it doesn't matter in dating.
Seriously, they always win at beauty contests.
Shit, willl try to find out if i'mm attractive when i get to homeland.

>>17191305
Yeah.
>>17191318
Alright

I just heard shy girls have really long crushes.

>>17191300
True, but Blacks are at the bottom of the race mixing tier list.

>>17191244
>asian with red hair
I don't care for asian women but I'd definitely take a glance now out of curiosity probably. Some guys prefer yellow, some dislike, some are indifferent. It closes some doors but others open even wider.

>>17191321
>My ethnicity is literally stated multiple times having exceptionally attractive offspring with white people
Buzzfeed is garbage and has said something like that for pretty much ever race mixed combination. Totally pointless.

>>17191083
Probably but dating coworkers is a terrible idea.

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>>17190710
>>17190741
You dumb fucks shouldn't be in a relationship until you grow the fuck up.

There are considerably worse attributes your partner can have. Loving you, wanting to talk to you, and wanting to be close to you aren't.

You're in an LDR but don't plan on being together for over a year or from what you implied even more than a year? What's the fucking point? He's willing to completely change his life to be with you and you bitch about it like a spoiled cunt. If you already planned on not ever being with him for god knows how long and you agreed to be in a LDR, one which he's actually trying to make work, the you're a massive, selfish bitch.

People aren't puppies you play with for a bit and return them to the shelter when you get bored. LDR only work when there is an achievable end goal where the two people will be able to be with each other long term. You can't just see each other a month out of the year with no plan to settle in to a specific location.

Of course you would know that if you weren't a spoiled child. How old are you? 18?19?

Just break up with him like you want to instead of going online and make shit up so strangers on 4chan will tell you HES the bad person in this just so you can do it guilt free. You're just going to whore around whatever country you go to anyways.

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so, i'm pretty shy, but lately, the bf and i have started to finally communicate a bit more openly about sex. he has some specific things that turn him on and that he would like to try. but i don't have that. there's nothing i think would make me hornier than other stuff. i just love to have sex with him and i'm down to give (almost) everything a try. but i'd like to contribute to it, too. how do i discover my "fetishes"?

What do you women think about black guys

>>17191523
You just gotta try watching different kinds of porn and see what turns you on.

>>17191533
i have always watched porn and do so quiet a bit. but it's so random. there's nothing that REALLY sticks out. atleast nothing i would actually like to try out irl

>>17191537
Not just any kind of porn. Porn that does things you don't usually see.

>>17191251
Fairly outgoing. If we are talking about crush without dating or anything, 9 months and then I decided to make a move.

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>>17191122
Thats a good point actully. I suppose when i was younger mine must have looked ok to her?

No to hair on them and well trimmed nails then is the way to go huh.

So far ive got my girlfrind to lick on my (clean) jackboots whilst i was wearing them. Im quite pleased with just that right now but it got me wondering about this.
Its just men seem to only be into this and ive never seen a woman here or anywhere go like: "God hunky actor X i want to lick his sexy feet UNF" lol

>>17191541
as in?

Girls: Are there any among you that don't suddenly lose all libido when you're frustrated, stressed, depressed, or sick? Even among girls I've met who have really high libidos, they have greatly reduced or zero interest in sexual stuff if they're feeling bad or down.

Meanwhile, in my case, if I'm stressed or frustrated, what better way to take my mind off things and clear my head than sexual activity? When I've been depressed and felt like everything I've ever enjoyed is boring or too troublesome to bother with, I could still get sexually excited without issue. If anything, I was even hornier, as sex was the only thing that would still bring me joy. If I'm sick, sexual pleasure is still pleasure and makes me feel better. I was once cooped up in a hotel room on a trip and couldn't go out with everyone because I was sick, so I ended up masturbating several times a day.

The only things that kill my libido are nausea or pain (like a headache), as sexual activity exacerbates those negative feelings.

I've NEVER met or even heard of a girl who feels the same way, who could use sex to cheer up or feel better instead of only being up for it when they were already feeling good.

So girls, are there any among you who are aroused as consistently as I am?

>>17191244
>but I'm asian in a town which is 90% caucasian.
reeeeeeeeeeeeeee go back to whichever asian country you came from

>>17191523
>how do i discover my "fetishes"?
Who the fuck wants a fetish? I would do anything to get rid of mine, but once you've got them you're stuck with them and hate yourself.

>>17191564
so, if i don't have any fetishes, what do i do in bed then? just PiV sex all the time?

>>17191554
Well this depends on what you usually watch. Watch some bondage, some group sex, people cutting themselves, age differences, diapers, exhibitionism, voyeurism, etc., and see what turns you on.

>>17191565
I can't help you there because I'm a khv. Only ever being able to have sex in the missionary position for the rest of my life would already be a step up from where I am.

>>17191572
why would i want to achieve such a a fetish in the first place? is there stuff you can do that doesn't involve degenerated shit?

>>17191574
well, after 10 years with the same person, i suspect that would get boring too

>>17191555
I never lose my sex drive, even when I'm in sad, frustrated or stressed. I lost it when I was severely depressed (but I couldn't find the will to shower so I was fairly unfuckable anyway) and it was for, maybe, a week.
On the other hand I'm not a person who is incredibly horny and needs to masturbate all the time or the world ends. I don't even think about it most of the time. I just genuinely like sex and pleasing.

>>17191578
You don't acheive a fetish. You generally just discover that you have one. There's a lot that are not degenerated shit. Here's a pretty extensive list of fetishes to get your train of thought going.

http://fetishfuel.wikia.com/wiki/Examples_of_Common_Kinks,_Tropes,_Clich%C3%A9s,_and_Fetishes

>>17191588
alright, thanks! 'll look into it

>>17190836
>both afraid of rejection. Those cases are the worst
Feeling this feel. Neither of us make a lot of connections with people and we're part of a small group here, so rejection would be quite bad.
The funny part: this is the surest i've ever been that she feels the same (60%?).
I wonder how long it'll take until we just lay our cards on the table.

>>17190910
>I never understood the idea of flirting. I grew up with the lack of a father figure, so I never learned how to do it.
fucking kek, just imagined my old man trying to teach me how to flirt
>now you grab de ass

>>17191582

I've never really thought of myself as super horny; I only masturbate once every several days if left to myself. Sometimes I go without doing it for a week or so I think, but I don't keep close track.

I've always just been very easily aroused. I don't get off much on my own, but I'd eagerly and happily fuck once or more every day. I'm always horny about other people, I've just never gotten to talk to someone who was as consistently up for things as I am.

>>17191606
I'm like that too.
I really enjoy thinking that I make my boyfriend happy and satisfied. I love knowing I made him feel good, it's one of the most rewarding feelings ever and the idea of getting him off turns me on insanely.
Even when I'm tired or stressed, having sex with him feels like there's one good thing in my day.

Girls,
Why are you so incapable of friendly, small dialogue? Or rather why are you so against being approached by it? Dudes shouldn't have to distinguish themselves or put a huge amount of effort into being interesting just to ask about your pets/family/school and get genuine, happy response.

>>17191642

>boyfriend

Well dang, he's a lucky guy.

>>17191665
>Why are you so incapable of friendly, small dialogue? Or rather why are you so against being approached by it?
I have zero problems with small talk or being approached by it. But
>I don't always want to be approached. Sometimes I just want to mind my own business and do my things.
>If I'm in a situation when I get approached a lot (online, in a club) you either have to be extemely attractive or extrmely funny and interesting to get my attention.

>>17191244
>Does being asian drop my looks by some points?
Only if you're a guy (and not by much).

>>17191665
Basically what >>17191681 said. Sometimes I'm just not in a mood to talk.

>>17191681

What you said is pretty silly because it implies the situations you will actively engage and contribute to small talk are limited to areas where you're not constantly approached by male attention and in the right place mentally to be receptive

So basically work.

>>17191701
Work, school, or if I am not busy (waiting at the airport, station, in line at doctor/offices/whatever). It is fine at small events, when we are out in a large group of friends, or in many other occasions.

My life doesn't really revolve around being approached by guys, I have other things to do and I don't want to be interrupted. If I am socialising, there are probably other guys approaching me and if you want to get attention you have to stand out.
I don't understand how it is silly.

>>17191718

I wasn't necessarily talking about completely random strangers, but at the same time it still applies somewhat.

I'm trying to understand why girls can't casually shoot the shit, and exactly what the deficiency is. I understand that sometimes you need to talk about girl shit with other girls, but I have never had a legitimately pleasant conversation with a woman about simple, mundane things.

Stfu about Mary and Lucy and Greg in the office or on Instachat, grab a beer, and muse about simple shit with me.

I guess I could ask a guy or a girl this question.

Had a lot of sex. Never had sex without condom.
Takes me a LONG time to come when I'm, even if enjoying myself a lot.

If you don't have a condom, I have heard that you come very quickly, is this true?

>>17191742
>when I'm "having sex", even if enjoying myself a lot
typo sry.

>>17191742

I'm a guy, and have only used a condom MAYBE 5 times total, so not really sure I can give both perspectives. That said, the physical and mental pleasure takes a while to really manage. It feels way better for everyone involved. And it feels even better if you know you don't have to hold back/finish inside

At first yes, you will cum very fast. Easiest way for me to mitigate this is by slowing down. Even if she's begging you to go harder, change it up.

>>17191741
Who do you want to talk to? What do you want to talk about? What's the "simple shit"?

I get that a lot of girls gossip a lot and it's annoying, it honestly kind of annoys me too, but I feel like you're exaggerating or I'm not getting your point.
I always managed to talk about a lot of different things with different people and I enjoy myself with both guys and girls.

Girls, what does it mean if you dream of having sex with other guys while in a relationship?

>>17191954
Nothing.
I dreamed about having sex with a female friend of mine and I'm totally straight.

>>17191741
Some girls can, of course. Just don't talk to the rest. Life is too short for that.

>>17191952
Girls who browse 4chan are not representative. Contrary to the trend for guys, i find that femanons are better conversationalists than the average girl.

To women:

I had a crush for a female in my circle of friends, she wasn't feeling the same for me and so we staid friends (and of course I liked her more, respectively there are things about her which I like about a person). After a while I somehow felt connected to most of the friends in this circle of friends.

That was the background, happened nearly two years ago and I still think from time to time about her.

What I want to ask or know is: After a while she notices I wasn't that much meeting those friends and she messaged me and asked why. We messaged and there she wrote, she wants to see me and I shouldn't act like a friend, who got out of the circle before me. I told I will not see her often, because the only moments I met her were in this group. And that's is, she didn't responded to this point of this topic. I'm asking why not and what might this mean?

Another question is and relevant to the point above/before: After almost a year she messaged a friend to meet him and me again. There's my second question: Why did she took almost a year? Why writing to a friend and not even messaging me but letting my friend ask me, if I'm okay with it and down to meet? Even she trusted me before and even my friend told me, she trusted me because he noticed.

>>17191975
Continue:

Third question: At the meetup I acted somehow rude, not directly or with the attempt to make her sad or let her feel terrible. For example: She showed me a photo on her phone and I started to view more photos than this one. In this photos she was somehow sexy dressed and she noticed I was looking those photos. Said I don't need to see them, ask for her phone but I denied and she let me continue (this was still in a funny way). But a friend asked what I looked, I shows him and that was crossing the line, because then she stood up and took the phone out of my hands.
I regret for this and some other *bad behavior* on that day, but I didn't told it her. Is this as bad as I think it is? I think this isn't a fine behavior but was this too much (maybe for a friendship)? Consider also that a few days after that I wished her a happy new year and wished me the same back.

What are you thinking about this? Or am I overthinking this? And how should I think about the fact that I didn't heard/read about her for almost a year?

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So girls,

I think it's safe to assume that we all pretty much acknowledge by now that you like sex as much as we do, or maybe even more.

I know many girls that love it and talk about it openly, girls that could put down any men I know in levels of rudeness. I personally like that. I've been many times in those situations in wich I'm surrounded by flatmates/work colleagues and they start talking about the girls they banged and brag about it etc/etc and It bores me, I find it vulgar, specially coming from the bragging part. But with girls, it's the opposite. I don't mind it, I feel comfortable about it and I feel comfortable talking about it with them. More than with dudes, wich often come to me as people with insecurities hidden behind that bragging attitude


My question is: Do you girls, the ones I'm talking about, the ones that discuss their sex life and joke about big dicks and all those things we boys are supposed to do, like sensible guys?

I feel i'm a sensible guy, although my friends always tell me I'm not. But I feel I'm a ""good guy"" Most of my friends tell me this, that i'm a good fella. Good or bad, that's what I am so really no intention to change it. But sometimes I feel this kind of girls I like a lot don't like guys like me.


What do you think, girls? I'll like to hear your feedback about this kind of things

Guys, did your mother coddle you too much?

When I was 14 my mother told me to start cooking for myself and do things for myself because I wasn't a child anymore and she wanted her own time for herself to live her own life, she was tired of me. I became independent as in everything I had to do in the house I would do it myself and I would also help around the house and she was pleased with me. If I didn't become independent she would have forced me with violence and kicking me out at 18.
I plan to do the same with my kids, I see you people acting like you're literal babies into your 20s and that shit is unacceptable to me. I'd rather beat my kid into a hospital than let him rot on 4chan.

>>17191992
I like sensible people if they're not the classic politically correct Nice Guy™ that can't take or make a joke.
My boyfriend is a good guy. He's sensitive and I love how he cares about me and he's interested in the way I feel.
We are also pretty mean to each other and I don't have to fear I'm offending him in some way.
I never feel like I'm walking on eggs.
The second I have to watch my mouth around someone, I know I will never date them.

>>17192009
Learned to cook at around7 or 8
Learned to bake even before
So i can take care of myself and my sister when my parents were working or out of state

Im 21 and i live with my parents and ill stay like that for 4 more years for sure
But here people cant move out at 18 if you're not rich as fuck

I can take care of myself but i cant earn enough money to do so
Cant work during college
Pay is shit on summer
No car or licence

Hoping to get my degree and bail this shit

>>17192018
Yeah, when I say "sensible" I'm not talkin' about that kind of sensibility. I really don't get the people that stand for Political Correctness, that think there can be Humour with PC

I don't know, maybe when I say "sensible guy" it's because I feel sensible around most of other guys? Who hasn't gone to class with the typical frat-brat-bro with confidence issues that needed to project this image of over-masculine-jockyness?

I do feel I'm sensible when it comes to perceive the moods of people. If someone is feeling bad, no matter how much he tries to hide it, I will know it. You just feel those things, you know?

I've been called a "good guy" by a lot of friends of mine (I'm the kind of guy that has more girl friends than guy friends). Most of them are fairly older than me, and they are all like "You're a good men, anon"

But shit, it's like we grow up being questioned about if that's a good thing or not

>>17191992
>joke about big dicks
yeah, i would never do that. i don't know if the guy i'm joking with has a serious micropenis and i don't want to crush his soul.

however, you seem to like outgoing and bold girls. be aware that girls who are openly sexual might also not be very "old fashioned" with sex in general. iow, don't expect them to be demure virgins.
it also strikes me as odd that you give so much weight on being "sensible and a good guy". everyone is sensitive. some just don't show it. everybody thinks of themselfe as being a "good/nice guy". it doesn't hold true for all of them...

but to answer your question. i'm one of those girls. i have always been and will always be. my faince is rather shy and the definition of a "nice guy". i love him deeply. i don't know how that info might be helpfull for you, but you asked for it.

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>>17192009
>Guys, did your mother coddle you too much?
If I had an issue, it was more that my father taught me relatively little and I had to learn everything from the basics on up on my own.

>I'd rather beat my kid into a hospital than let him rot on 4chan.
You're retarded if you think abuse is a valid response. Ignoring the fact the whole unethical issue, if the guy is an incompetent neet beating him will just cause him to draw into his shell even more so.

People learn better with a firm role model rather than being threatened with violence and little guidance.

>>17192032
>i don't know if the guy i'm joking with has a serious micropenis and i don't want to crush his soul.
I always thought it was weird when women who say they care about men do that shit. The guy probably has enough intimacy issues because of it, let alone being shamed for something he has no control over.

If a woman fucked me over it would only be appropriate to attack her personality rather than some subpar physical feature.

>>17192032
About your first sentence, I meant girls that talk with their friends about this, you know what I'm saying, like "he was a dick but WHAT A DICK"

>don't expect them to be demure virgins
hahahah what made you think I wanted such thing? I like girls that like sex, I like girls with experience. I don't mind if it's more than me. I like sex, how come I wouldn't want someone who liked sex too and felt comfortable about it?

I does help me to know that you are with a shy fella. You're gonna laugh at me, but i'm really hooked on this girl, taller than me, curvy, full of tattos and piercings, and with this attitude i describe. A girl with character, you know what I'm saying? But, stupid of me, I keep having this feeling of "I'm not up for that, she will not like me, i'm a sensible guy" etc etc

>>17192043
>I always thought it was weird when women who say they care about men do that shit
yeah, if a girl does that she lacks empathy COMPLETELY. do not touch.

>>17192026
Being a good person is always good, and works wonders with girls if you're interesting as well.
I do like masculine traits in general and have a hard time dealing with overly emotional people. But I also love how my boyfriend is empathetic and loving.
There's a middle ground between being an absolute jerk and being a drama queen with a penis, or one of those overly nice guys who clearly do it just to fuck.

>>17192045
>"he was a dick but WHAT A DICK"
well, i don't really talk about dicks with my female friends. mainly because it would be awkward af if i described my faince's cock to them and then they would have to imagine his dick everytime they see him. that's as inapprorpiate as a guy describing how my labias look like to his friends. but i think i get what you mean. we DO talk about sex. but rather how it was and what we did, not physical features.

that was an asusmption, my bad. most guys who call themselfes "a nice guy" want that because they feel entitled to a girl who's pure as fresh snow.

why would she not like you? maybe she's a bold and assertive one searching for a sensitive and more rational counterpart? if you like her, go for it. you won't know unless you tried.

Guys with sisters,

Do a lot of guys have sexual thoughts about their sisters?

>>17192052
>>17192051
Thank you all for your feedback. I feel a lot better now!

>>17192064
No.

Guys:
I'm a grown woman and I can't stop attracting guys who want to bully me like a school kid. I'm not exaggerating, people in two different countries and online friends love ribbing me and get pissed when I rib back. Guys have interrupted me talking to say "HAHAHA SHUT UP ANON xD". I started ribbing an online friend back last night and he outright said "I don't want to do this anymore if you're going to start talking back".

What the fuck is this shit? I don't get what the hell is going on. It's not like this people dislike me or hate me, they wouldn't keep talking to me or being my friend if they hated me or I wronged them somehow.

>>17192064
no

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>>17192259
Sounds like you're just attracting shitty people. Maybe you give off an impression that you'll just take abuse indefinitely or something.

I tease my friend all the time and I don't mind it when she teases back, it's just a back and forth that we laugh about.

Why is lack of confidence in a a guy such a turnoff for women?

>>17192302
Interested

Dunno rly, im a guy and i dont find confidence attractive

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>>17192302
Because people want a partner, not a project. It's not like you have to be a paragon or anything and of course it becomes unattractive if you become cocky, but being insecure and shit is also unattractive.

>>17192009
Actually a lot of the people here had quite abusive childhoods.
Decent parenting produces well-adjusted kids. Shitty parenting does the opposite. This includes overly-strict parenting as well.

>>17192302
It's very hard to explain why a trait is attractive or it is not, but I'll try.

Being confident, ambitious and driven is masculine, and I like masculine guys.
I'm more impressed by people who have an high opinion of themselves. If I don't know you and you just talk shit about yourself, why should I like you?
I don't like passive people, I like people who speak their mind and are not afraid of being assertive.
Low self esteem usually leads to unhealthy relationships. If someone feels bad about himself, he might start thinking that I don't like him that much or he's worse than me. I will have to justify my choice of being with him all the time. He's going to be clingy, insecure, mistrusting and dependent. I don't want to spend my time reassuring people.
Confident people are more outgoing and open. If I don't get the chance to know you, how can I possibly like you?

>>17192302
What i wonder is why such a traditional value has survived the last 5 or so decades relatively unharmed.

>>17192387
You mean why haven't the feminists tried to dismantle the traditional gender stereotypes? Huh, gee, I wonder. It's almost like feminists don't give a shit about gender equality, they just want to be able to do whatever they want without consequences and have all of society back them in their choices. They're fine with any gender stereotypes that negatively affect men because they hate men.

>>17192064
No.

>>17192009
On and off. She flip flopped between wanting to control everything in my life and leaving me to figure out the world by myself.

>>17192064
No, but unfortunately I have had a somewhat sexual dream about her which still scars me to this day.

>>17192259
>why do people online like to troll me?

Maybe the internet is not for you.

>I always have to start the conversation with every girl ever

Why?

>>17192442
Culturally, guys chase and girls are chased. Most girls are not used to start conversation.
I actually talk first only to guys I REALLY like a lot (if I'm feeling super confident) or close friends.

>>17192445
That's sexist and you're oppressing men.

>>17192445
God damn it Disney. THIS is what we get when you allow girls to watch your movies.

>>17192474
I am a penis who liked Disney when young. Now I want to treat girls like princesses. :(
How do I brainwash myself back to reality?

>>17192474
Totally disney movie's fault and girls' princess complex.
It has absolutely nothing to do with how society has been for over 2000 year. Or with our biology, since in most of the animal species the male courts the female.
I'm sure peacock females sit down and watch The sleeping beauty while growing up.

>>17192486
>penis

Does this mean you sexually identify as a penis or is it something else?

>>17192499
What he meant that a lot of girls/women think that a Prince Charming is going to "Save them" or some shit.

>>17192499
>It has absolutely nothing to do with how society has been for over 2000 year
I like how this argument can be used when it suits females.

>>17192501
I am a guy who identifies himself as a silly sausage.

>>17192528
>I like how this argument can be used when it suits females.
I don't think that you can turn society around in 50 years eliminating thousands of years of conditioning and social norms, or that you can eliminate biological differences between males and females, whoever benefits more of the situation.
I'm not saying it is optimal or it should necessarily stay that way, I'm saying it is understandable and, on some level, justifiable.

>>17192064
Yep

>best friend is female
>becomes a whore
>tries to use me as an emotional sponge for her whore problems
>tell her to fuck off
>she doesnt understand why Im mad
How do I get her to understand.

Is it normal to act completely unlike yourself if you're "in love"? Like I've been doing stuff that I have no logical reason for doing now that I think back to it. It's just fucking weird.

>>17192765
You cant
Maybe one day she will realize whats wrong but most likely she will blame you and hate you becayse you in her eyes were an asshole

Maybe if she's such a good friend you can try some communication? But again she will deny it or get mad

>>17192802
From everything i've heard, yes.

And from personal experience as well (though i've barely met this girl and can't say im "in love" of course): despite spending most of my life (including years at a time) not talking to anyone, i actually want to talk to this girl. About anything, even the most inane bullshit, doesn't matter. And I actually care a lot about what she thinks of me. Etc.

>>17192396
wew

>>17192765
Tell her you want to be one of the dicks of her dick carousel.

>>17192528
>I like how this argument can be used when it suits females.
People use them when it suits men too.

>>17192357
>Being confident, ambitious and driven is masculine
I disagree with this. Confidence and drive is attractive in general, and you should have both even if you're just a domestic house wife. Otherwise lethargy settles in and everything falls apart.

>>17192765
Tell her straight up, you don't respect her new behavior and you don't want to be a participant. If she doesn't get it still, there's not much you can do.

>>17192499
Disney has certainly made it worse. Men have always initiated, but women understood they weren't princesses. I think it's kind of funny that Shrek has had the most realistic relationship though.

Bumping my question: >>17192486
>How do I brainwash myself back to reality?

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>>17192865
>Confidence and drive is attractive in general,
Drive is, confidence not so much. I guess for me it's that intelligence is the #1 thing i'm attracted to, and confidence is generally inversely correlated with intelligence.

Guys,
is it possible to have a wide sexual history with girls(e.g multiple positions, locations) in the past and still feel inexperienced at sex when you meet the one?

>>17192892
>the one
lol

>>17192880
>Drive is, confidence not so much.
In extreme measures, sure.

>confidence is generally inversely correlated with intelligence.
Some of the greatest scientists have been cocky assholes. Moreover, that picture is a piss poor interpretation of confidence. Knowing you're competent at some task is different from pretending you know everything.

This is probably a stupid question but it's been fucking me up all week to levels that I did not ever expect.

I was seeing a girl for a little bit. Couldn't tell you how long but I'm gonna go with a little over a month or 2. Not dating, just talking and seeing each other. Neither of us were looking for anything serious, we were just having fun. We really hit it off desu, she's great. We were hanging out practically every weekend and we always had a fucking great time, and she was enjoying it too. Apparently she was raving to her friends about me and she was always talking about how excited she was to see me again. It was pretty established that we were gonna fuck next time we met up and got alone.

One weekend we were busy and weren't able to see each other. Dunno if that has anything to do with it but she broke it off earlier this week. In the evening, mid-conversation, completely out of the blue. It's hurt me a lot more than I thought it ever would. I've lost my appetite and shit. Originally I just thought it was bothering me because I missed out on a golden opportunity to finally lose my virginity, but I think it's an emotional thing now too. I saw her the other day and it just felt weird and I felt like shit afterwards. I wasn't expecting it at all.

I really don't know what to do in this situation, I really should be over it now but I'm not at all.

>>17192911

ive been going to several 'meetup' events recently (ive been to about 9) and each one ive met a girl and got along quite well with her. afterwards i send her a message, either text or on the website itself or whatever, casual stuff in this vein, ill give you some examples

'hey dude, we met at the ___ thing a while ago, i bumped into your friend ___ the other day which reminded me I haven't seen you at any meetups since. you not into them so much then?'

'hey dude, we met at the thing last wednesday, i liked your friend ___. anyway, im going to that ___ you told us about this wednesday with another group, you should join us <link to the event>'

btw, in both these cases the friends were guys if thats important

the girls never even reply. what am i doing wrong? please note i am thin but quite ugly

>>17190991
20
I used to do it about every day, but now I wait until the days I can see my boyfriend.
I'll usually do it when I'm laying in bed and rub my clit. I also have a vibrator now which is nice when I'm lazy. When I was little and took bathes every day, I'd lay down and put my legs up on either side of the tub while it was filling up so the warm water would pour down on me.

I've been doing it since before I can remember. I can positively say I've done it since I was 4. It was great, I did it every night and it helped me fall asleep. I'd rub myself over my panties because direct touch was too sensitive then, and I created elaborate fantasies in my head (about weird stuff, I had no idea what sex or masturbation were). It was fun, private, imagination time every night.

>>17191097
>>17191550
I'd say it's probably very rare in girls. I've seen more girls comment on a guy having nice, sexy hands than I have heard them say anything about feet being attractive.

>>17192865
>Confidence and drive is attractive in general
I do agree that it is attractive in general, but it is more a stereotypically masculine trait: ambitious, confident, driven guys are generally perceived as manly.

>Men have always initiated, but women understood they weren't princesses.
I think girls always wanted to be princesses. Part of the problem is that that we don't want to fit the stereotype of the feminine girl anymore (weak, submissive, kind, nurturing, etc) but we want guys to fit the stereotype of the masculine guy that pursues us, takes care of us, makes good money, etc. And a lot of girls end up acting like spoiled barbies.

>>17192992
Focus on other things, it'll get better in time.

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guys:
>bf recently told me about his panties fetish
>he loves smelling on panties i have worn
>uses them to jack off and cum inside
>he's going away for two weeks, tomorrow
>thought about wearing some cute panties to sleep and slip them into his pockets when he leaves

is this too weird? on one side i think he would really like that, but then again it's kind of slutty..

pic related, i'd use similar panties

>>17193118
Not my fetish and even I could dig that. It's OK to be slutty in private.
Makes you wonder about the logistics of carrying worn panties around though.

>>17193118
It's not too weird. I'd put them somewhere in his luggage though. Don't want him accidentally pulling them out in public when reaching into his pockets.

>>17193118
>kind of slutty

Wut. He's your exclusive partner. Usually what guys mean by "slutty" is has uncommitted sex with multiple guys, and they usually dislike it because it gives off an air of possible risk of disloyalty. You giving him your panties won't make him feel that.

>>17193118
Leave a note at least.

The note might also get smelly but still he might actually like that little surprise.

Question for the girls, or guys I guess.

My gf and I both decided that we needed a "break" two weeks ago.

I know we basically broke up, but I think a "break" can sometimes mean "I need to clear my head before I decide if this is right."

So I cut contact with my gf and I messaged her today asking if she wants to meet up and do something fun this weekend. She said she does, but she's really busy and isn't sure when. She said maybe tomorrow morning or Monday night.

I told her to give me a heads up on what time she'll be free. Did I fuck up? Should I have told her I'll text her tomorrow?

So many thoughts are running through my head. If I did fuck up by throwing the ball in her court, should I fix it by texting her tomorrow?

No fucking clue what to do. Help.

>>17193136
>>17193137
kek, i've thought about that and i have a tiny silk bag i would put them into

>>17193143
yeah, i know. but it's still a bit daring for me. i'm pretty shy


so, the overall opinion is to do it? alright then...

>>17193159
>So I cut contact with my gf
Looks like you have things under control...
>and I messaged her today asking if she wants to meet up
Ah well. Game over.

>>17193098
I dunno, I've never got like this before and I'm cool with her friends so I'm gonna see her relatively regularly which will constantly serve as a reminder. Will definitely see her in a few times in the next month, and alcohol will definitely be involved which will just make me feel like I have more of a chance.

>>17193171

I cut contact for a long time and she was recently messaging me saying she missed me. That's when it's okay to break the no contact rule, when your ex shows signs that she wants to see you.

She said yes to meeting up, I'm just wondering if I should message her tomorrow or go back to no contact and wait for her to let me know when she wants to see me.

>>17193151
>smelly
hey, i'm not smelly!

however, putting a note into the bag too is a good idea. thanks anon

>>17193184
Right now I'm thinking I should go back to no contact. Am I right?

>receive a few Likes on OKC
>not sure if miracle, accident or I am someone's fetish
What is it?

>>17191227
FRom a guy's perspective, for the most part, is this true?

>>17193354
Those are the three factors that go into whether a guy would have sex with you, not go into a relationship.

For a long term relationship your personality plays a much bigger factor, ex. similar hobbies, if you're a nice person, honest, ect.

>>17193184
Those are important details. You did good then. Stick to what you said, sit back and let her contact you again.

ive been going to several 'meetup' events recently (ive been to about 9) and each one ive met a girl and got along quite well with her. afterwards i send her a message, either text or on the website itself or whatever, casual stuff in this vein, ill give you some examples

'hey dude, we met at the ___ thing a while ago, i bumped into your friend ___ the other day which reminded me I haven't seen you at any meetups since. you not into them so much then?'

'hey dude, we met at the thing last wednesday, i liked your friend ___. anyway, im going to that ___ you told us about this wednesday with another group, you should join us <link to the event>'

btw, in both these cases the friends were guys if thats important

the girls never even reply. what am i doing wrong? please note i am thin but quite ugly

>>17193382
Are you calling the girls "dude"?

How do I go about asking out a work qt who's very clearly into me? I have no dating experience but I'm not a dunce when it comes to conversation, and I need ideas for a date. What's a universal activity that doesn't sound too lame or too forward?

>>17193405
First of all, don't date someone you work with. Secondly, read the fucking OP and stop asking repetitive questions.

>>17193407
Even if it's a large department store and we work in different departments? :^(

>>17193387
i live in australia

>>17193433
We say dude in America too, but usually that's a huge friendzone sign. You call your friends "dude".

>no one replies your questions
sadfrog.jpg

>>17193465
do you think that could really be it? its just one word

>>17193591
Maybe. It could be a lot of things, but I don't know. Dude is just so unromantic and friendly it sounds like you just want to hang out in an unromantic and friendly way.

how do you girls deal with the fact that males are slightly more intelligent on average than women and more likely to be extremely intelligent than women?
that is my question

one of the girls im interested is going to give me all of her weed (according to her) while this seems like not a big deal my question is we have only smoked twice in like a year and she is giving me the weed, does that mean that she needs an excuse to see me, i mean why me of all people?

>>17193606
What's there to deal with? Why should averages among genders, which has absolutely nothing to do with me on an individual level, affect my life?

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So lasses, about 3 months ago i had a big ugly fight with me ladyfriends,while i did apologize for my fuck ups, the fallout was bad and they don't talk to me anymore.
is there any hope for me situation,or its all ashes and cinders now?

why are all you girls such shameless whores without any sense of loyalty or common decency?
that is my question

>>17193654
Because men aren't worth being loyal to

>>17193654
nigga you gotta be sutble for the (you)'s

>>17193658
men>women

>>17193703
Then why aren't women loyal to men but men are to women?

>>17193707
men>>>women
deal with it

>>17193712
If that were true, men would be the disloyal ones

>>17193715
no they wouldn't because men have this thing called morals and don't just go by their most basic, lowest instincts like all the w*men

>>17193720
Ah, but who's happier in the end?

>replying to bait
don't do it mang,not worth it

24 year old female here. Didn't think this deserved its own thread.

I keep having dreams of my department manager. I think I am crushing on him. He is married. All of us work at the same place so he sees his wife like daily, even at work.

Why is this happening? I think because we make an excellent team together, we're very similar, and I'm eager to please. However I am in the wrong here and this is very bad and wrong on many levels. Luckily I do not harbor any feelings for my boss. I am a bit alarmed that I keep dreaming of him.

I have a LDR boyfriend who lives in another state, and he isn't present too much because his work schedule and time zone difference work against us.

Thoughts? Advice? How to stop?

>>17193605
but why dont they reply then? even in a non romantic way

>>17193725
well the women are the ones that do the most of the bitching, so i figure it's the men that are happier most of the time
and when they're unhappy, they at least have the decency to go and hang themselves while the women, being too guttless to do the same, just continue bitching and crying and taking pills and crying even more

>hit up a girl you've been close with for a long time
>no response for some reason
>hit her up again a few days later, wouldn't be the first time she doesn't know what to say
>still nothing
>let a week pass, give it a final chance
>nada
>get the hint and stop contacting her
A few weeks later she hits me up asking me how I'm doing and that I've been quiet lately. Kind of wondering how I should reply. Is it better to play it cool and say sone shit like "I've been busy", or play it straight that I'm annoyed and got the hint?

>>17193727
be a fucking whore, cheat on your boyfriend and ruin this guy's marriage or be a decent human being and control yourself for once in your life. jesus christ what a big dilemma i don't know how one could ever decide

>>17193748
This here is unnacceptable from someone nowadays because we all have our phones within 12 inches of our faces. I'd be pissed if I were you anon. There's no way someone can be that busy that they don't check their messages at least once a day
Idk no advice just sympathy

>>17193758
I already know the solution but I just wanted to talk about it

>>17193765
Fuck you

>>17193765
don't reply to him, he's shitposting hard

>>17193748
well what do you know, she's a fucking whore. big fucking surprise

>>17193727
Remain rational and don't get yourself fired dummy, you do nothing. This is why LDRs are fucking stupid because you channel your sexual energy locally.

>>17193727
>I keep having dreams of my department manager.
>I have a LDR boyfriend who lives in another state, and he isn't present too much because his work schedule and time zone difference work against us.

It's a dream. Don't freak out about it too much.

You're lonely, and your SO is inaccessible, so you're dreamt about someone who you get along well with, and who you respect/admire. That's about as much meaning as this has.

The more you freak out about it, feel guilty, and try to NOT have it happen, the more it's going to happen, because he'll just actively be on your mind more.

>>17193778
You sound right. I only wanted to post about this because I'm really on the fence. I don't actually have anyone to talk to about it. My friends are my boyfriend's friends and I haven't talked to any of them in a while

>>17192765
>best friend is female
>becomes a whore
>tries to use me as an emotional sponge for her whore problems
>tell her to fuck off
>she doesnt understand why Im mad


Do YOU understand why you're mad? Because it really sounds like you're just pissed off that YOU aren't the one who's getting his deck wet.

If she really was your best friend (and not just some girl you were thirsting/orbiting around), your anger, pettiness,are completely unwarranted and make you one of the most fickle human beings on the planet.

Best friend my ass <.<.

>>17193797
><.<.

In the past month, contact with a close friend of mine has been shit. I'd shoot her a text and be lucky to get a zero-effort response (not 'k'-tier though). Halfway through the month, she stopped responding at all.
The only texting she initiated all month was asking me how a job interview went, shortly after she started ghosting me. And even my response to that went ignored.
Since then I've tried contacting her three more times in two weeks, acting like nothing's wrong with smalltalk and links to stuff we both like. Took the hint after she still ignored it, and stopped trying.

She had finals during this month, and I have half a mind to give contacting her one last try now that that load is off her mind. I don't get it. We were close before, hung out together, even went on a trip together with some girl friends of hers. She used to text me daily (or close to it), even the most mundane stuff like what she overheard that day or some shitty tumblr gif she liked. But all month? Nothing. Even though I've got a life and plenty of distractions, it bothers me.

With the past month and its lack of contact in mind, should I try talking to her once more? What should I say? Would it be weird if I ask if something's up?

>>17193832
either she got a man or its on the wrong mood
give it 2 weeks, if she doesn't get better, contact her

>>17193848
>its on the wrong mood
What, like bad timing a few times in a row?

And fine, I'll wait.

>>17193859
bad timing, period, anything really

>>17193832
Maybe she has a boyfriend/started seeing a new guy? Maybe she's busy with school?

Shit happens. How good a friend was she? Was she just someone you were orbiting? (I has to be asked) if so, move on.

I she was a legit friend (that you can only say you have absolutely no intention/motivation to bang) should you go ahead and send a what's up and ask to hang out. Otherwise, fuck off for your own sake and find someone else who's willing to reciprocate.

>>17192018
Can you expand on how you are mean to each other? That part kinda piqued my interest. Do you mean "brutally honest with each other," or something else entirely?

>>17192996
!

>>17193118
Not my fetish, but that's a great idea. Sneak it into his luggage with a note.

>>17193311
It's a miracle, accident, or someones fetish. Or they might simply find you attractive.

>>17190859
From my experience (I'm male here so kinda breaking the rules, but eh,) it can go several ways.

>Sporadic likers, meaning that they only go on social media or look at someone's page sometimes and like whatever is most recent when they do.
>Everything-likers, these people will like every photo you post, some without even looking at it. You can't judge this.
>Affectionate likes, these people use likes as intended, only liking photos that they actually like.
How many of your photos do you like?

>>17190882
As a guy, mind you:
I've been in a sorta similar situation, or I thought I was anyways. There's always something more to it, and I got really attached to her. Turns out I had completely messed with her feelings about guy 1 without realizing, and guy 1 had backed off because he thought her and I were a thing. Does she have any sort of condition, like depression or something? That can also affect things.

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>>17190477
This is more curiosity than actual advice inquiry.

Girls, how many times have you actually went up and asked a guy out?
How many times have you wanted to?
Any specific reason why/why not?
If you're one to wait for him to make a move, why?

>>17193979
Is this possible?

>>17193073
>I think girls always wanted to be princesses.
And I want a proper mech warrior game, but I understand that's not realistic. We all have dreams but they're supposed to be tempered by the realities of the world.

>Part of the problem is that that we don't want to fit the stereotype of the feminine girl anymore (weak, submissive, kind, nurturing, etc) but we want guys to fit the stereotype of the masculine guy that pursues us, takes care of us, makes good money, etc.
I've found it incredibly disturbing how many women in college seem to pride themselves on being slobs and unfeminine.

>>17191016
This

>>17190954
>I told her I wouldn't stop her from getting one
>she says she feels "enslaved"
All aboard the retard train.

>>17190954
>>17191025
An "opinion" doesn't come with being hurt by someone else's decisions. Also if you've said to her that you find them "ugly as hell" and that they are something you "despise" that's practically implying you will no longer be attracted to her and there will be relationship problems.

If you know this isn't a big deal, why would you be hurt? Grow the fuck up, anon. Maybe you're not ready for a relationship.

Anybody got any advice for talking to girls while i'm at work? I work at a bagel shop and some fucking CUTE girls come in, sometimes frequently, and talk to me directly about what they want and stuff and then I ring them out. It would be awful to write my number on their receipt, right?

should i get a 5 dollar fill p from kfc or just a sprite from 7/11? i think i have bought of acid reflux coming on too. maybe i could get the kfc and buy some milk from 7/11 later?

>>17191016
>most of the time people don't dislike the actual piercing itself but the way people will perceive someone they care about for having it. you're afraid she's going to get looked down on for it and in turn it's going to say something about you.
yeah ok freud
even if it was true, simply not liking it doesnt make him controlling

>>17193748
Be honest, but not aggressive. Something like, "You didn't seem interested in talking before."

>>17194367
Don't put any of that shit in your body. Browse >>>/ck/ and learn how to cook like an adult

>>17194399
im at work though and i got a week of blue apron meals coming in the mail next week

Girls, how does acne factor into how attractive a guy is? I've had acne on my face for a while and it really doesn't want to go away so I'm wondering how much it's crippling my attractiveness.

>>17194416
Consider seeing a Dermatologist. Most of the time acne is cause by a slight hormone imbalance, and a Dermatologist can prescribe a medication like Accutane that will address that imbalance and eliminate the acne for good.

I don't understand party culture, and I (M) don't know how hook ups work. I'll be going to a VERY well-known party uni (turned 18 a few months ago) in the fall, and since I'm on break rn, I'd like to use this time to improve my appeal.

Also, kinda related, while I do want to have sex, I just can't imagine myself doing it. Idk, I guess it makes me feel kind of queasy, even though nothing has happened.

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I'll be up front with my two questions:
1. would you (women) find it pathetic for a man to live with his parents at age 19 while attending college if he has no job?

2. I'd say I'm about a 7.5/10. Quite thin and very lean muscle, working on ottermode atm. I'm about 6'0". I have a small penis (4.5 inches on a good day, 4 on average). Am I doomed?

>>17194504
1) No, thought I'd expect him to be looking for part time work.
2) No, if you can please a woman otherwise. You're a little tall for my tastes though

I know you didn't ask about this, but you're obviously very insecure, and that's probably more of a problem than anything.

>>17194513
I'm actually not particularly insecure. I'm not too bothered by my penis size, just a little bit confused by where I stand because of it. Seems like size matters so much these days and I don't quite measure up.

And I am currently looking for work.

>>17194106
Avoidant personality disorder and probably depression yeah.