I had a huge fight with my boyfriend cause he wants to talk to this chick he used to like years ago, he has never met her in real life, he liked her but she rejected him when he was around 22. He's 27 now. A few months ago he ended the friendship because i asked him to but now he wants to talk to her again.
Around the time this girl was engaged he sent my boyfriend a text saying "i have sexual feelings for you" to which my bf replied with "shut up brat" and that was the end of the conversation. My boyfriend said she was just joking, that it wasn't a big deal. This girl cheated on one of her boyfriends with one of her friends. I told my boyfriend i didn't want him to be friends with her, but he still wants to talk to her, i asked him if he misses her, he said yeah and that he felt bad for having to end the friendship because of me.
I told him if he wants to be friends with her, he can do it, but he can't have me as well. I'm tired of this, I can't understand how someone he has never met in real life can play such an important part in his life.
You're in the right
You did the right thing, if he thinks its worth fighting for her, you should consider dumping him. He is clearly attached to the romance
>>16999730
ur not wrong. she crossed a line. you didnt give an ultimatum in my opinion you just said what you can and cannot deal with and left it up to him
You're right. Tell him not to act like a fuck-boy. If he chooses her then you deserve way better and let him get cheated on by his e-girlfriend. Just make sure he doesn't sneak around behind your back talking to her.
Hey it's the boyfriend here. I have been talking to my online friend for longer than I knew my girlfriend and I enjoyed talking to her. I don't care that much about it anymore but the actual rules I agreed to were I couldn't have female friends anymore. She also accuses me of staring at other women all the time even though I'm not. Because I tried to talk to her that I felt restricted she walked out of the apartment on me and took the key so I can't leave now. I'm also with another country to be with my girlfriend right now.
>>16999802
To be clear the relationship I have with my friend is purely platonic. We tend to just talk about our lives and I don't think of her as a prospective relationship partner by any means.
>>16999802
i took the keys in case i needed to come back to the apartment, not to stop you from leaving. Also i understood you weren't looking at other girls with bad intentions. Wanna tell people about how told me you were a virgin when you lost you virginity to a prostitute?
>>16999812
I've explained this multiple times to my girlfriend who doesn't seem to care. No friendships with the opposite sex are allowed at all. I can't look around when I'm with her without being questioned. The fact she would walk out on me and leave me here pisses me off.
>>16999821
That's a separate issue entirely and happened before we met. I explained that to you and we have been through that and how I really believed because of the details of the escapade I was still a virgin.
>>16999836
stop playing the victim Richard. You lied in the past. You said you were a virgin and hid the fact that you lost your virginity to a prostitute for years. Also you wanna talk about staring at girls? what about the time you told me you would think about kissing other girls? what about the time you told me you saw this one girl and thought "damn her legs are sexy". And now you want me to be okay with you being friends with this chick who cheated on her BF and sends you a msg that says "i wanna have sexual feelings for you"? how can you not see how wrong that is?
I'm not gonna argue over the internet like a coward, be a man and say what you wanna say to my face.
>>16999854
I'm not about to keep feeling guilty about the past. I feel like I was pressured to say those things because I felt like you were pressuring me into admitting guilt. I don't feel guilty. I exaggerated things due to pressure.
>>16999863
16999863
Come back here then. You are the one that left me here without the keys. I'm not about to get to your parents house to argue with you
the whole not talking to other girls thing is kind of to much depending how you act. Girls are usually generally worried about their s.o. however and telling your girlfriend you think about kissing other girls and doing things to them? Seriously? Keep that shit to yourself. You're not helping your girlfriend feel better by talking about other women. Also your online friend and you clearly have something else going on if you asked her out before. She took it a step to far by talking sexually to you.
>>16999911
stop playing the victim, you have 4000 dolars in the apartment, plus credit cards, all your stuff is in the apartment, if you want to leave you are free to do it. You don't need me to go back, the keys don't make any difference.
>>16999917
I don't candidly talk about other women. My girlfriend was feeling insecure and asked me if I looked at other women. I felt guilty because I thought this Mexican cashier was cute and stupidly exaggerated things. I hate being interrogated. The sexual stuff was a joke. You are an outsider. Don't talk about things like you know what is going on.
>he said yeah and that he felt bad for having to end the friendship because of me. I told him if he wants to be friends with her, he can do it, but he can't have me as well.
If the boyfriend is really in this thread, listen up: dump the bitch. Now.
OP is immature, insecure trash and she's incapable of trust, which means she's incapable of a relationship because ultimately it's 100% impossible to make her happy. The problem here is not that OP is concerned about healthy boundaries in a relationship, the problem here is that she is trying to do the impossible - eliminate ALL risk, no matter how slight, that you'll leave her. It's fear-based and irrational, and it's toxic as fuck. Ultimately she will attempt to isolate you from all contact with women, and she's willing to destroy your friendships, family relationships, your work circumstances, your living situation - you won't be able to go out in public without keeping your eyes at your feet, for fear of accidentally looking at a girl, sending her into a spiraling rage.
Women like this - everything that happens gets pushed through a filter in their head which makes everything look like you're a cheater/trying to fuck someone else. There's no happy relationship possible with them, so cut your losses and move on, you'll be so much happier in the end.
Dump, dump, dump. And don't be surprised if she begs to get you back, but don't give in to that shit either. She won't change.
I'm talking from what's posted here, you didn't deny you had feelings for her before and asked her out and you were denied. So..?
>>16999937
I'm not playing victim. I'm saying you left me I'm not about to chase you over there. Don't call me a coward when you are running out and posting online for advice instead of talking to me.
>>16999946
i'm not gonna beg him, he can leave if it's what he truly wants. I'm not trying to control anybody. I told him i understood he wasn't looking at women with bad intentions but at first it was hard because he's lied in the past about other stuff and said inappropiate things concerning women.
Also just because you giving him advice doesn't give you the right to call me names, i haven't insulted you. There's no need to call anyone a bitch.
>>16999962
"bitch" is just a description of you based on your actions as you've explained them (i.e. "difficult or unpleasant"). You don't have the right to protest an accurate description of your behavior, sorry it hurts your feelings, but maybe you shouldn't act the way you do if you don't like being accurately described.
OP, you know girls can be bitches sometimes.
Your boy was orbiting her, and she doesn't want to let that go, even if she got married. It's hard to let go after getting his attention for so long.
Be that as it may, this isn't her fault. Your manlet needs to choose. Be with you, or go be with her.
It's never easy giving ultimatums, but that's what you need to do. If he chooses to be her cuck, it wasn't a real loss for you. If he chooses to respect you, there could still be trust issues. once a cuck always a cuck.
get yourself a real man and let that boy watch
You're both too emotionally immature to be in a relationship right now. Your relationship is irreparably damaged and you need to put it out of its misery.
>>16999971
read the whole thread bro, the girl isn't being reasonable here
>>16999981
We are in our first relationship together. We figured we would have a lot of learning to do.
>>16999987
richard i don't want to sit here and read this, it hurts me too much, if you think ending the relationship is the right thing to do, that is your decision, it's your life and you know what's best for you but i don't want to stay here reading all this. It's too painful after all we've been through.
>>16999999
Come talk to me then. I'm tired of posting here and I never implied I'd end it. You promised me before you wouldn't leave me here and run to your parents. Keep your promise. I kept mine.
>>16999999
>its painful to read "we are in our first relationship and have learning to do"
kek
Dick still has feeling for that skank. Tell him to fuck off.
>>16999999
>>16999987
>>17000013
Wait, is this happening, or some kind of elaborate parody?
Your boyfriend is retarded, OP. Find a new one. He's going to cheat on you, it's just a matter of time.
>>17000058
The "richard" makes it feel like an English soap Opera for sure
most first relationships are shit, but you don't realize it until you've had a few.
first time around you have nothing to compare it to. some people compare their relationship to fantasy. why is my relationship not like the story books? others compare their relationship to a horror story, and say it's not so bad.
girls are emotional, and guys are logical. most guy can't grasp the emotional side.
if it hurts your girlfriend don't fucking do it, or you are a piece of shit.
guys use logic, like "I love her but i can't be with her, so i'm with you." hardcore truth, to be honest like that, but you're fucked in the head if you think that will fly with the ladies.
a girl needs to feel special. she's the only one for you. you don't even want to look at other girls.
not, the i'm not cheating because of lack of opportunity attitude here in this thread.
"you should be happy that i settled for you, and let me be friends with the woman i love, even tho i can't be with her, there may be hope of cheating one day.
>>17000111
I call my Boss Richard, because HR says they'll fire me if I keep calling him Dick. His name is Robert.
>>17000166
What the fuck are you even saying dumb ass?
>>17000201
She's saying go be with your whore, you cheating shit bag.
>>17000215
you sound like my ex. I had tons of female friends online because they all were great at their carrers and we were all peers. One of those girls I had a crush on but then we couldn't be any more than friends so we just talked a lot because again, she was my peer. My GF at the time go insanely jealous over her and every other of my female friends to the point where she forced me to not talk to any of them. It was a huge downer because they were all great friends of mine and I miss them to this day.
Meanwhile my ex had this guy that wrote her love letters and sent her things in the mail. But it was ok because she only saw him as a friend. Which was insanely hypocritical but whatever.
Basically you're a dumb bitch that get's jealous over nothing and you're ruining your BFs life in the process.
>>16999730
This is weird, and you're right to set up those boundaries
>>17000272
so you understand that girls don't like it when you want to be friends with someone that you (have been intimate with, want to fuck, wish you could be with) and you just don't care about her feelings? No male role model in your life? Mom and Dad divorced, because he couldn't stop fucking his ex?
This isn't "just being friends with girls" that's perfectly normal. This is a wannabe affair waiting for the right moment. OP is perfectly normal to say, GTFO loser.
Boys can't understand this, not til they're older.
Girls fantasize about men they can't be with literally. When I stick my cock in my gf from behind, she says "Oh Brad"
a boy, would cry about this, "Who the fuck is Brad?" but I know she means Brad Pitt, her crush.
Boy's don't fantasize about porn stars, or hollywood sluts with herpes. Boys fantasize about real girls that they see every day, like the girl next door.
This is a problem for their girlfriend, because unlike my gf's chances of fucking Brad Pitt, the danger of you fucking some skank next door, is a possibility.
so when my gf calls me Brad, I put it deep in her ass, so she knows this aint a dream.
She loves it and licks me clean afterwards.
>>17000333
Did you even read my post?
She did the same exact shit and it didn't bother me because I trusted her and she was with me and not that other guy. I was with her and not with my female friends but she didn't respect my trust and was overly insecure for no reason.
Are you fucking retarded?
>>17000466
Counter example:
Emma Watson
I like Boxxy, myself. Now please stop generalizing.
>>17000524
your friend told you she had sexual feelings for you, i would think that's a pretty good reason to get mad
Pettiness in this thread
>>17000528
Isn't boxxy a lesbian?
What it all boils down to is insecurity. If I wasn't man enough to make her forget Brad, we couldn't have a great relationship.
OP needs a real man, who isn't a little pussy that's afraid of losing a girl.
It's bad enough she has to deal with knowing I could have any woman I want. I don't need to upset her by flirting with other girls. My ego is healthy enough I don't need attention.
My gf goes out of her way to show me that she appreciates me.
I'm a photographer, around hot girls all day long, and she trusts me. Because I don't give her a reason not to. i'm friends with lots of girls., but I have nothing to do with my exes, and she knows it. the last thing in the world she wants is to be my ex.
>>17000600
again, are you even reading my posts?
The friend I liked said nothing about being sexual with me but did like talking to me a lot. I told her I liked her and she said no and we stayed just friends. She was with someone and still is.
Because of what I do as a career I get a lot of attention from girls around the world that look up to me. I get messages daily from people and my ex would constantly get jealous and say I wanted to fuck them all.
Meanwhile she had a guy that was sending her love letters she talked to all the time and told me it was ok because she didn't feel the same way towards him. I didn't see that as a problem because I trusted her. I told her that he needed to stop sending her shit though.
You realize people can still talk to people they find sexually attractive right? Here's a hint, every guy would fuck any of your friends if he wasn't with you. But he's with YOU for a reason and not them. That works both ways.
A shit ton of people still talk to their ex's as friends or past crushes as friends. Stopping them from being friends with people makes you a fucking cunt and a crazy person. All that means is you don't trust your partner and nothing will ever please you because you're a bitch that doesn't even know how to read.
>>17000668
I highly doubt anything you've said is true.
>>17000668
such a cute couple
>>16999836
Dump that bitch!
>>16999812
purely platonic my ass. bitch says she want your penis in her vajay, that's not platonic.
>i don't want to hurt her feelings telling her i don't feel the same. she would get upset.
i care about her friendship more than the girl who is currently sucking my little penis. she already had my penis why is she upset?
