here's a summary of my situation
>18 going on 19,, ausfag
>when I was 11 I started fapping to misc sexy imagery I could find in books/mags
>started doing it to online porn at 13,
>so I've been using porn for 5ish years, my interests are pretty varied but mostly standard
(everything from amateur/creampies to vanilla hentai and light bondage)
>with 2nd girlfriend, she's really tight so I always have to be really careful when entering her
(this means I have to go really slowly, and its stressful cus I don't want to hurt her but I also don't want to lose my wood)
so, with my last 2 girlfriends and one casual hookup:
>I've only managed to cum during sex once (HJs and BJs never work for me either)
(when I was semi drunk with the casual, she's less attractive than my current gf)
>I generally find it hard to keep an erection
I find my current girlfriend quite attractive. I can cum really easily to the photos/videos I have of her,
and I also get REALLY hard during foreplay so I don't think it's an issue of attraction
I've done some research, and sites generally say
>the constant switching between tabs of internet porn affect the brain's arousal
>porn causes your sexual expectations to change
>you'll get used to the grip of your hand, so it'll be hard to cum with anything else
These all sound reasonable,
but I'm able to masturbate to a single video quite easily
my girlfriend is basically "petite" and I can get off to those sorts of videos quite easily
and not too recently I came through sex, and I can cum with my hand even if my grip is quite soft/gentle
What helpful / interesting / inspiring advice or experiences can you all share with me?
ITT: Deathgrip, Erectile Dysfunction or general sex difficulties/issues discussion
>>16991061
OP here
forgot to mention, some sites say a sedentary lifestyle could affect erections
I'm fairly sedentary these days, but I was doing cross country twice weekly with my last girlfriend
and my experience hasn't really changed
also, considering how young I am (I'm also underweight) that shouldn't be the issue right?
I am planning to get a rowing machine though, so the exercise factor should be taken care of soon
shameless flacid self bump
Are you cut? That can have an impact on sexual sensitivity
>>16991119
no actually, thats the weird thing
my dad is, we were discussing it
and he seemed to think circumcision meant better sex
(probs in denial)
Do you smoke cigarettes?
>>16991130
This has all the hallmarks of deathgrip. Honestly just lay off the porn, and have sex with your GF. Your body should adapt with time, especially if you aren't cumming from any other way.
Also yes your dad is wrong, circ doesn't make sex better, removing pleasurable nerve endings and keratinisation of the head isn't going to make sex more enjoyable. Many guys who have restored have all described an increase in pleasure.
>>16991119
I'm of the mindset that psychology has much more of an effect on erectile condition and getting to orgasm than whether one is cut or uncut.
If there is a strong association with porn and your orgasms then it will get in the way of sexual performance.
>Be me.
>Cut and have been wanking for 20 years to ever changing types of porn.
>Thought porn (and coming out of a divorce) was preventing me from getting it up.
>Was with a chick a couple years ago.
>Dick was semi limp and I had almost given up on having an orgasm.
>Out of no where she asks me to choke her during intercourse.
>Boom. Rock hard erection.
>Choking her with one hand. Ask if I should do it harder. She gestures yes.
>Start choking her with two hands.
>Instant orgasm.
Of course, it might affect others differently.
>>16991155
I smoked once, hated it and will never touch it again
I drink rarely, but have gotten drunk about 3 times
any other things I should avoid doing?
>>16991160
yeah ok I'll try my best but it'll be hard as fuck to keep myself, esp with uni stress
I was thinking since I usually come quite close to orgasm, and came one time when drunk
it might be due to some sort of anxiety?
>>16991161
yeah 1st girlfriend was kinky af so it was a bit easier to stay hard
cus I just had to choke her every now and then to get him back up
if you don't mind me asking, how extreme are your porn tastes?
>>16991161
finish the story:
>instant orgasm
>girl stops breathing
>calls 911
>hilarity ensues
Nah but anyway, I agree with this
>psychology has much more of an effect on erectile condition
>>16991168
>psychology has much more of an effect on erectile condition
if so, how can i improve my psychological state to keep mah dick hard?
>>16991168
also will mention when I have sex, I just tend to completely relax and I have no problem with erections. When I worry about if im gonna perform or not, then you tend to not get erections or not.
>>16991174
any tips for how I can relax?
current gf is fairly new to penetration and she cries when it hurts
(the dream of being with a virgin is so overrated)
>>16991165
>if you don't mind me asking, how extreme are your porn tastes?
Pregnant chicks. Slut wives. Cuckolding. Dogging. Bukkake. Analingus. Rough sex. Bestiality. Cum swapping. Piss. Spit play. Incest.. .. I'm sure there are more but can't think of me now..
>if so, how can i improve my psychological state to keep mah dick hard?
Reduce wanking and concentrate on foreplay and intimacy rather than sex. The anticipation alone ends up getting me horny.
That's what works for me anyway.
>>16991191
yeah I'm into a fair few of those, but I tend to watch vanilla
thx for your help anon will try to put it to good use
>>16991186
I'm 100% sure the girls I've fucked aren't virgins, so I can't talk from experience with virgins, but I can talk about relaxing in general.
Well, the best way I can describe it is - to just enjoy how things feel.
For now, just forget about yourself and focus on how beautiful she is and how much you love being with her.
>>16991200
>to just enjoy how things feel
>just forget about yourself and focus on how beautiful she is and how much you love being with her
yeah I'm pretty sure I've tried this in the past, but I generally do it once I start losing my erection
so I'll try doing it from the start, thanks
>>16991204
>The anticipation alone ends up getting me horny.
Also this
>>16991200 (Me)
Sorry I'm not good at describing exactly what I mean, but that's the best way I could put it.
>>16991206
no worries,
now that I know the basics of what I need to do
I can put time into researching it more in depth
>>16991213
Also OP, don't put such a heavy emphasis on having an erection. I know we as males have our virility at stake by keeping it up, but it's not like a light switch that is either on or off whenever it's appropriate.
I've started sexual life recently and have the same problem. The good side of it is that you are very endurant in sex, even though it's hard to cum. I was concerned before the first sex that I would cum in 2 minutes, as I do masturbating to porn, but,fortunately, it didn't meet my expectations and I did fine.
>>16991306
Unless you know good techinques, I think you cum easier if you haven't had sex in a while (used to have sex frequently and last for a long while, but after about a month of no sex, I came in like 3 or 4 mins.
I have a similar issue, can fuck and last long but i don't cum. I am cut but i cum just as easy watching porn etc.
I feel you bro, i would defo advise a break from porn to reprogram.
>>16991061
I had the same issue.
Just slow down on the porn and you should be fine.
>>16991324
As for me, it doesn't matter how long I haven't had sex since I jerk off and Masutrbation and sex affect the body in the same way. I even had to conjure up some porn pictures while having sex as I couldn't cum naturally.Definitely should stop watching porn
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>>16991409
how old are you guys?
(accidentally posted >>16991426 too quickly just then)
>>16991427
25 bossman>>16991327
