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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Shaven, trimmed or full jungle?
Trimmed. Shaven is for fags, pornstars and faggy pornstars. Full jungle is for gorillas and 80s pornstars. When the shaver hits the hairs just right, the balls sing.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>>16894566
Women, Of the men you interact with, how many do you consider attractive and would go on a date with if you were available.
>>16894566
What sort of stupid picture is that? No one's going to notice there's an Ask The Opposite Gender thread and someone else will going to make another one and then we'll get people whining like in the last thread.
>>16894658
I have faith people can use a catalog
>>16894668
You're either very new or very naive. These threads have attracted the most butthurt of people lately, it's best for everyone if you delete it and make it again with a proper picture
>>16894671
You just lack faith. Im certain Ive been here longer than you.
>>16894677
So you're very naive. Unfortunately, naivety is not a useful trait around here
>>16894566
This picture is godawful. I actually wanted to use this thread, but shit anime like SAO just make me mad. I'll be back in the next one.
>>16894680
Insult me all you want. I dont have time for kids.
>>16894682
SOA IS AMAZING
>>16894688
IKR? KIRITO IS SUCH A COOL CHARACTER AND ITS GREAT THAT A GAMER BECOMES A HERO!
>>16894696
Dont forget he got laid. Real hero there.
>>16894685
I love it when people insist that they're not new and call other people children. I bet you're underage.
>>16894702
Yeah, because through throwing insults isnt clearly a sign of a child. Keep it up lol.
>>16894699
And got a DLC kid. That shit's making me cringe so hard. Anime was a mistake.
>>16894705
Great thread you've got going here.
>>16894642
Attractive? Maybe 25%. Attractive enough? About 75%, including the first 25%. That leaves about 25% that I'm not really attracted to. They're the fat ones and genuinely ugly. I don't have too much of a problem with chubby guys, but actually fat guys are a no-go zone.
This is assuming we're only talking physical attraction, btw.
>>16894642
I have a boyfriend.
I talk often to maybe 7. Would consider dating two of them. Another one is my type physically, but not personality-wise.
I don't find any of them completely repulsive or anything, probably if their personality
>>16894566
OP, delete this thread and put one with one of those standard boring pictures.
Ladies, how do I make my dick less intimidating? Last measurement was 8.5x almost 7 inches, and I've gotten as far as when I take my pants off until women get scared and leave me high and dry.
Lol atheists are dumb, *tips fedora* fkn atheists, agnostic people are better becauae u cant truly know anything
>>16894779
Are you sure you're in the right place?
>>16894772
Put giggly eyes on it.
I don't know, take you time.My boyfriend is 8 inches too and I was really scared when we started, especially because I am tight. Be sweet. Put effort in foreplay, make her dripping wet. Don't force her to do something she doesn't want to do (took me a while to give him head).
It took me a while to have sex with him, and it still hurts a bit every time we start, but he's great in bed and he's really loving and patient.
>>16894772
bro at 7 inches girth you arent going to get laid. Even pornstars dont get laid with this girth. Enjoy never actually thrusting into a woman lol
>>16894786
I doubt length is his issue. You can always just not put a few inches in. Nothing you can do about girth.
>>16894871
He's also pretty girthy, but I never asked him his measurements so I can't say exactly.Really, he is just patient an puts a lot of effort in foreplay. Hurts a bit sometimes, but at the end it's pleasurable for both of us.
>>16894889
I dont think you understand. Were talking soda can girth here. At most you guy is probably 5.5. Im assuming you cant wrap your hands around it.
>>16894899
No, no, I can't. He's surely over 6, maybe 6.5? I don't know. I never measured him, girth is not really intuitive.
But vaginas are pretty elastic, you can fit a big dick inside if you make her really aroused.
>>16894910
I dont think you realize just how big 6 is. A toilet roll is like 5.5 depending on where you are. I highly doubt you bf is soda can large.
Pornstars dont even take dicks at that size well.
>Men:
Is there something fascinating about women putting on make-up?
Every morning when I start putting my make-up, my BF just sit a cross me watching me putting make-up.
I asked him about it he just said it's nothing.
>>16894935
No its actually really unappealing. Men like natural beauty more often than not but dont care enough to say anything.
>>16894938
>natural beauty
>>16894935
>Is there something fascinating about women putting on make-up?
Sounds just like idle curiosity/he just likes watching you.
Same way I sometimes watch my girlfriend do the same, or sometimes she watches me shave, or concentrate while doing work, or read, or whatever else.
There is something kind of appealing about watching your S.O. while they're intensely focused some times.
>>16894935
I don't know if it's the same thing, but I love watching my boyfriend while he's shaving. He looks so focused and he's handsome, there's something really appealing about it.
>>16894938
bullshit dude. You just don't realize what makeup actually is. When used perfectly, it's basically not supposed to be noticed at all and just add small touches to ADD to (not replace) appeal.
That pic in the reply has at least eye shadow/mascara/foundation/no fucking idea whatever because I'm an ignorant guy too--but not deluded enough to think she's got nothing on.
>>16894942
Doesnt look natural to me. Or really beautiful but thats just my preference. But I dont trust images anyways since filters and camera tricks are so prevalent now.
The no make make up is really popular amongst men since we cant really tell the difference anyways.
>>16894952
Show me a pic of this makeup you are talking about. Guys like natural beauty. If your makeup simulates natural beauty than its fine since we'll just assume its natural beauty.
>>16894772
A shit load of foreplay. Don't bother trying with virgins or girls who are nervous about sex, you'll likely get nowhere.
>>16894966
Even hooker are probably going to turn him down.
You gotta let a woman know these things ahead of time.
>btw my dick is too big to fit into a vagina
Find girls into putting large objects in their vaginas like cucumbers and fisting and shit.
>>16894966
Well that might be the problem, since all of the girls I tried with were virgins but one.
>>16894786
I don't even get that far. It's foreplay on my end (mostly eating out) then I drop my pants and suddenly they look kind of terrified and make a hasty escape.
>>16894889
It is almost as thickas as a can of coke. Can't fit it into a toilet paper roll when it's soft either.
>>16894935
I can't stand makeup beyond a little foundation. Lipstick also makes me gag. Just my two cents.
I want to be the only person in the world to complain about my shitty life.
Am I the only one who thinks like this?
>>16895034
I can't being to imagine a dick that big. Tough luck buddy.
My fwb lately has said she thinks I'm funny and she likes my personality
Is now the time to ask about a relationship? Because I'd be interested in that. She also bought me a toothbrush to leave at her place
>>16895112
Go for it, but be prepared to potentially get shut down and for your current relations to end.
Honestly, at this point she probably has a pretty good idea whether she wants a relationship with you or not. If you want more than just sex, you may as well test the waters.
>>16895115
Like 2 months ago I brought it up and she said no, maybe not yet idk, then things were awkward for a couple weeks, then back to normal. Now she comes out with the I like your personality and a toothbrush which maybe I have bad breath but I took it as "you're welcome to stay over whenever"
>>16895034
>coke can is 8"
>toiler paper roll is 5"
Were you trying to make a point with that. I dont fit in one flaccid either and Im 6"
Men...
My BF have this weird habit of disappearing for few days and then comes back.
He doesn't respond to any messages I send him even though I know he saw it.
When I call him he answers very briefly and end the call.
I've asked him about the subject he responded with being busy/tired/something came up/forgot to.
We've been together for 10 months now, Why is he doing this?
Is it a guy thing playing hard to catch?
>>16895141
Hes just fucking other girls on the side.
>>16895141
>Is it a guy thing playing hard to catch?
You're already dating so no
Unless your relationship has been lame and sex has been lame he might be trying to win your affection further
More likely he has other things to do and you're not a priority
>>16895034
Yeah there's no way a virgin is gonna want that.
What >>16895008 said, find the freaky ones.
>>16895130
Nah man don't put yourself out there if you already did. You're going to have let it be her idea to start a relationship.
>>16895141
>Is it a guy thing playing hard to catch?
Sounds more like that's just how he is. He's probably hyper introverted and needs time by himself doing his own things to unwind and recharge.
That or he's a secret hitman/druglord/foreign spy/has a hidden family.
Choose to believe whichever you want.
>>16895158
>That or he's a secret hitman
This is probably it
His habits sound exactly like those of a secret hitman
T. Secret hitman
>>16895143
I doubt, he's way too shy, and very honest to a fault.
>>16895148
He's a resident doctor, I'd understand if it was work, he disappears on his off days.
>>16895158
>He's probably hyper introverted
He's very introverted,have all these weird quirks like how certain things go certain ways.
Isn't time to let me in?
Also I'm kinda frustrated.
>>16894935
It's kind of like why some men enjoy watching make up tutorials on YouTube. It's interesting and relaxing.
>>16895184
>Isn't time to let me in?
No, you selfish bitch. Everybody needs some time on their own.
Women, here's a question.
How quickly is too quick when a guy asks you out? Like, I meet girls all the time and have these short five minute conversations and I know if I'm at least a little interested or not, but I feel weird asking them out after just a few minutes.
Do yall think most girls are turned off by that?
>>16895184
>Isn't time to let me in?
You seem have a fundamental misunderstanding as to what introversion is.
Introverted doesn't at all mean closed off or that he's OCD or whatever. It just means he needs his own private time to recharge.
That is a part of his nature as a human being. It is literally a part of his biology. He is brain is programmed to need certain types of stimulation at certain times, the same way yours is programmed to need certain other ones at other times.
This will not change if you're together for 1 month, 10 months, or 10 years.
>>16895201
I prefer if people ask my number. So we can text a bit, see if we have something in common, and then eventually go out.
>>16895201
From a guy
Get a girls number and text her 2 days later
It works
>>16895184
I'm a girl. I'm introverted.
My boyfriend hates it, but sometimes I just really need to ignore him (and everyone). I read a book, I take my car and go for a ride, I listen to music, I plan a trip, I focus on my hobbies, I study.
While I have some people I truly love and they know everything about me and I'd do everything for them, human interaction to me is tiring and some days I just can't do it.
I try to text them (morning and evening usually, just to let them know I'm alive) but I mostly want to stay alone.
>>16895215
>>16895225
Thanks. I guess I need practice with that sort of thing. Most girls I've been out with are in my life prior due to school or work or something. When meeting new girls, I am learning how to get a number without seeming weird.
>>16895201
Yep, unless if the woman is clearly looking for one night stand.
Get her number, text a little, go out on "NOT A DATE" date.
Then see how things works out.
>>16895232
"We should grab coffee sometime, can I get your number?"
"Sure anon"
She'll be wet waiting for your text. Text her 2 days later, tell her when you're free, don't ask when she's free. Go for coffee, gauge how things go, then maybe text a bit more frequently but still play hard to get, then take her out for dinner a week later. Don't text her for a few more days and if she texts you first wait 30min to text back or longer without explanation
Get a movie date at yours or her place. Make a move and get laid.
I had this down pat when I was in school. Girl after girl, I felt like a vampire.
So I took the redpill and now I'm getting laid. Why did you people told me this didn't work? Wanted to keep it all for yourselves or what?
>>16895243
Women will tell you it doesnt work because it highlights how ugly their nature is. You arent supposed to tell a shallow person they are shallow.
>>16895086
The girls crave BBC thing is a meme.
>>16895139
I dunno man , I thought it was the standard measurement or something. I don't usually measure my dick.
>>16895150
How do I identify them?
>>16895243
Because it maybe helps you get laid, but it also kills your ability to have healthy relationships and locks you in to an immature mindset that will hurt you in the long run.
>>16895262
Yeah because the average size is like 4.75 erect girth. So a toilet roll just means you are above average, not a monster.
>The girls crave BBC thing is a meme.
I dont think you understand the difference between a BBC and what you have. Even in porn the dicks that are 'BBC' are 8.5-9x5.5-6. Which is way larger than the average of 5.5x4.75. Do the math. Volume wise you are like 100 times larger than average. A monster if you will.
>>16895264
Bluepill was the one hurting me in the long run. Spending my money, putting them on a pedestal, wondering why was it that even though I gave it my all I always ended up alone or cheated on. No, my friend, I don't think this hurts me. For the first time in years I feel confident and happy. Sure, I no longer want a relationship with them after what I know now, why would I?
Guys (or girls)
What are you willing to do for someone you love?
I'm asking cuz my bf claims to love me... but he doesn't put much effort into making me feel special. Like at all....
>>16895243
Don't listen to people like this
>>16895264
>>16895281
No, man. Never ever. I guarantee I won't be cucked ever again.
>>16895277
>he doesn't put much effort into making me feel special
Define special
>>16895276
>Bluepill was the one hurting me in the long run. Spending my money, putting them on a pedestal, wondering why was it that even though I gave it my all I always ended up alone or cheated
Yeah, that's not bluepill. That's just being a retarded Nice Guyâ„¢/Doormat.
You basically went from one polar opposite to the other. There's a middle ground dip shit.
>>16895277
>Guys (or girls)
>What are you willing to do for someone you love?
>I'm asking cuz my bf claims to love me... but he doesn't put much effort into making me feel special. Like at all...
I'm going to be blunt.
Young kinds take love for granted and confuse it with infatuation a lot of times. On top of that some people don't emote as much as other, and some people are needy as fuck and feel like they need constant attention.
Ask yourself how much of any/all of that applies to your situation.
From your tone, I'm guessing you're being melodramatic here, but your boyfriend is equally young and just is being kind of a shitty boyfriend.
Instead of posting here and looking for pityparty examples to get mad at him over, talk to him about it. Don't whine, don't accuse him anything, don't bitch at him, just sit him down and tell him how your feeling right now.
Communication is the backbone of a healthy relationship, even if it's over shit you don't want to talk about.
>>16895274
>a monster
Funny, that's exactly what they called it. I'd hope to get another girl, but I've become noticeably more self conscious, and my confidence is pretty much shot. I can't spend all day fapping anymore, but I can't go on with the girls at work giving me looks because I popped a massive and obvious boner.
I wonder if there's dick reduction surgery?
>>16895303
Yeah, faglord? Why am I getting laid now, though?
>>16895308
>What is confirmation bias
Why did the OP put up such a gay picture?
>>16894566
I'm a (conventionally attractive) 28 year old woman attracted almost exclusively to 48-58 year old men. I get approached all the time by men my own age but almost never by the men I find attractive, despite seeing them check me out not infrequently.
My male friends say they probably just assume they don't have a chance and I'll just have to make the first move. Agree or disagree? If so, tips?
You hear so much about how you have to ask women out just the right way to avoid offending them. Personally this is alien to me as I am never offended unless a man is being intentionally rude or crass. But this scares me a bit since I am not used to making the first move. How does this sort of thing tend to shake out when the genders involved are reversed? Is it fine to try politely if he isnt obviously busy, isnt wearing a wedding ring, and smiled or checked me out, or can that still be perceived as rude?
(I am discussing asking people out in random daily situations like the library or the supermarket.)
>>16895305
there is. Some kid have a football dick and they reduced it.
>>16895303
>Instead of posting here and looking for pityparty examples to get mad at him over, talk to him about it. Don't whine, don't accuse him anything, don't bitch at him, just sit him down and tell him how your feeling right now.
You give good advice thanks.
He is being kind of shitty... but he's done good things for me too. I guess I'm just hurt because he forgets about me a lot. But bitching doesn't help...
>>16895370
Whats gay about SOA
>>16895301
Like I'm not on his mind much. We were supposed to hang out with all our friends in a studio this weekend. He told me he would call me when its time to go over there. When he got to the studio, he hung out with everyone and never called or texted me. So I waited and finally decided to text him, and he said they were hanging out alone and he was going home. Told me he got too "into it" and forgot about me.
He told me "sorry but shit happens". So I decided whatever, people make mistakes, I'll just forgive him.
Then the next day his friends were supposed to hang out but they weren't calling him back. So he decides to text me ranting about how his friends were "wasting his time" and how upset he was that they would blow him off. I felt upset because when he blew me off it was just "oh shit happens sry" but when it happens to HIM its a big deal... I don't feel like I matter as much to him.
>>16895408
How old both of you?
>>16895414
We are both 23.
>>16895416
Then you're both young, and immature at this stuff, and no experience in life.
And honestly both of you are being selfish.
>>16895425
Can you give me some perspective on how I'm being selfish?
>>16894671
>>16894677
>>16894680
>>16894685
Mainly this one
>>16894702
>>16894705
>>16895398
One useful technique to employ when trying to have an honest to goodness conversation that actually deals with shit among equals/partners is to keep negative, attacking remarks to a minimum (which, I obviously didn't at all employ with you or the poster I replied to, but I'm not trying to have a convo). And if you DO need to bring up something minimum, use the feedback sandwich method to try and blunt the impact, and prevent someone from becoming defensive.
The sandwhich method is simple. Give a positive remark/compliment (Honey, I love you and your an awesome guy) followed by a negative criticism (but when you blow me off for your frends and just say "shit happens" it makes me feel like you take me for granted and care about them more,), followed by a positive compliment and proposed solution or compromise/request, (I know you care and you're a nice guy. please just be more mindful).
This is not a universally applicable technique and hurts your credibility in some types of encounters, but it is useful for relationships where people are not quite as in tune with their ability to handle criticism and need to be eased in to it.
It also isn't a magic bullet to fix things. You will need to TALK--as in back and forth--about it. He will need to put in his bit, and you will BOTH eventually need to find a compromise. This will just help frame the convo so you hopefully don't get off to a hostile start.
Best of luck.
>>16895262
They waddle.
>>16895428
From the story you posted.
You sound very possessive, you have to let him have his space.
And he shouldn't left you neither since you went as a couple.
As I said you're young, you will make mistakes, and you will gain experience.
What do you do for living?
>>16895460
Thank you.
Girls, what is the male equivalent of a great pair of boobs?
For context - if I'm talking to a girl with nice breasts who's wearing a tight top or something that reveals cleavage, I can't help but be very aware of them. Don't get me wrong, I'm not some creep/misogynist who deliberately objectifies women - but as someone who is attracted to breasts, I can't pretend they don't exist. Usually I get flustered and find it hard to focus in these situations. Does any male body part have the same effect on you?
Dear women, why do you wear makeup?
>>16895382
>You hear so much about how you have to ask women out just the right way to avoid offending them.
That's also mostly from guys who tend to have no social aptitude to begin with, or don't know how to respect peoples space.
Real life example,
>Can I buy you a drink?
>No thanks. I'm gay by the way
>Oh really? Are you sure you just haven't met the right guy?
That's happens enough regularity to a friend that I started pretending I'm her boyfriend on a few occasions.
I'm your age, so I don't really know how someone twenty years older thinks, but I'm going to guess that it's not so much that they don't think they have a chance, it's more that they either just aren't attracted to someone that much younger, or that being as young as you are, you're just not at all in their consciousness as a potential partner (I know I sure as hell don't see girls that are 16-21~ as potential partners anymore. It's like my brain just mentally dismisses them as babies).
Since you are the outlier, it probably means it's on you to have the initiative.
My experience with women approaching me is, just don't come off as desperate, and your good. Go ahead and come off as playful and even aggressive if you want, just don't be desperate. If nothing else he'll just be flattered.
Fun fact for guys: this is true 75% of the time with women too--as long as you're not asking like a desperate sperg.
>>16895502
Women are just an ugly as men. Make just helps them out by creating an illusion.
>>16895497
>Usually I get flustered and find it hard to focus in these situations. Does any male body part have the same effect on you?
I think that's just you dude...
Though on second thought... maybe not... I distinctly remember back in highschool waiting in line at an amusement park when a friend just burst out, "Duuuuuuuuude. OMIGOD OMIGOD.... her boobs are huuuuge.... she's sooo cuuuute! oh gawwwd... I can't take iiit"
We all just face palmed because he was spazzing out and she was within earshot, and clearly heard him.
In my head, you're now that guy :/.
Chill out bro, they're just tits. Literally half the world has them.
>>16895502
I like eyeliner because it emphasizes my eyes. Which is pretty much the only part of my face that isn't ugly as fuck. Other than that I don't wear much, occasionally I'll use it to cover up acne when I break out
>>16895502
Wife wears makeup because she legitinately enjoys the process of putting it on, and she feels prettier with it on.
>>16895565
Good job, you married a clown that does it for free
>>16895573
Retarded trip
Fuck off, nobody wants advice from a virgin
>>16895579
>he married someone else's used goods
I'm not a virgin, have fun dividing your shit in half when you turn 40 while she fucks Jamal on the side
>>16895543
I don't say things like that aloud, but it'd be a lie to say I'm completely indifferent to or didn't notice a girl with wonderful boobs, and I think most men would agree (as long as you asked them on an anonymous place like 4chan, and not in the real world where they'd be negatively judged for making those sorts of statements).
>>16895586
Here's your (you)
>>16895586
>Being this insecure
>>16895603
>received
To any gender,
Is a girl only truly a girl until shes loses that 1D?
>>16895604
>>16895604
1
>>16895604
2
>>16895636
Your point?
>>16895641
Autism
>>16895641
>>16895642
Yeah you do have autism, I don't even screenshot my own posts
>>16895647
Do you live in a group home?
>>16895599
Why are you giving him fap material?
>>16894566
Girls what makes you consider someone as a potential boyfriend if they're not the most psychically attractive?
>>16894642
Like 5%
>>16894772
You can only fuck with those gaping whores. Go for girls into fisting and shit.
>>16895497
Butt. Yessss, Butt.
Man Butt is best Butt.
>>16895653
Level of submissiveness, I could take a slave that I was only moderately attracted to. I can't touch somebody I'm not attracted to at all.
Ladies, if someone is overweight but otherwise makes you laugh alot and feel good about yourself, would you consider them as a partner
IF you normally wouldn't consider fatties?
>>16895653
Intelligence. Kindness. Sensd of humour. Charme.
>>16895656
>>16895647
>Using two trips to troll
Terrible case of autism
>>16895497
butts
and big forearms, i have a huge thing for huge forearms
>>16895664
No, I already feel better about myself just standing in the same vicinity as one.
>>16895652
they never learn
>>16895667
>>16895669
Why do people keep thinking we're the same person?
>>16895667
Ew, I'm not like that ugly onahole.
Take that back.
>>16895678
My onahole is superior to your genetic meat void you call a vagina
>>16895676
>>16895671
>He unironically maintains two personalities on an anonymous Chinese cartoons image board
>>16895687
Alright then, I'll also claim to be a girl that will break the rules from now on
>>16895702
>Uses secure tripcodes with both of his trips
>>16895467
>>16894566
So I'm going out to lunch with a girl next week. We've been family friends for years, but I'm not 100% certain that she knows I'm interested. I want her to know I'm interested in her without saying it, so I can backpedal and maintain the friendship if I'm wrong about my assumption that she's into me too. What can I say or do, either during or before the date, that could help with this?
Also how do I know when it's the right time to kiss her? I'm fucking autistic, I know.
>>16895776
Look. There isn't a 'safety' area where you can show someone you're interested, but have no fallout if it turns out they're not interested either. Well, there is, but that involves a lot of mixed signs and fucking everyone around and no one knows what's going on. If you want to date her, you make it clear you're interested in her. If she doesn't reciprocate, then whether you can remain friends depends on how mature both of you are.
Going to take a girl out tonight
Problem is what is there to do at night besides eat, go to a movie, and get drunk in one of our cars?
>>16895784
Go for a walk. Go and see a show. Go get drinks. Go dancing.
>>16895783
So I should just send her a message like "Hey, when I said I wanted to have lunch with you, I mean it like a date"? That seems way too forward and that makes me apprehensive. Surely it's more proper for me to just go to lunch with her and gauge her interest based on how she acts and responds at the time?
Can social awkwardness be excused if the other person has it just as badly?
Not asking from experience. Just curious if people like that get creeped out too if they're confronted with their own behaviour.
>>16895803
From what you've said, you've known her long enough to gauge her interest. You're just stalling for time if you take her out to lunch 'to know if she's interested', and perhaps there's a touch of wishful thinking in there too. Ask her out properly, you don't have to use those words you suggested exactly, but something that implies it's a date. Something like "Can I buy you dinner?"
>>16895811
I did ask her to go to lunch with me, and she accepted. My assumption is that if she weren't interested, she wouldn't have said she'd come. We're not that close, we've just known each other a long time.
>>16895881
Your assumption is correct - if we're not talking about romantic interest but interest in general
>>16895887
Well, what's the difference if I had asked her to dinner, instead?
>>16895893
Nothing? My point was that her accepting your invitation doesn't mean that she's romantically interested in you.
>>16895894
Oh, so you're suggesting that she might only be interested in me as a friend? That would be disappointing. I feel like my interactions with her lately have suggested that she might be more interested than that, but I'm terrible at reading people so I'm worried that it's just wishful thinking on my part rather than an accurate assessment of reality.
>>16895905
And this is why I suggested that you ask her out properly instead of trying to find signs that she's interested. If you're terrible at reading signs, going out for lunch is only going to confuse you more.
>go out with girl
>Get drunk and fug in her car
>It was my first time
>We go get something to eat in the place we parked in front of
>Say its my first time in a place like this
>She asks if that's my only first this night
>still drunk and dont get what she is implying so I yes
>too nervous to bring it up again
how do I let her know that I am pretty much a virgin because next time it happens I probably wont be able to blame my confusion during sex on alcohol
>>16895911
Okay, but isn't there a way that I could find out without having to schedule a different event?
dudes, is there a particular smell you like best on a girl?
you don't have to name a certain perfume or anything, but do you like flowery, or beachy, or sugary types of smells? asking for science reasons
>>16895961
Sweet/fruity types
Completely depends on the person though. But maybe if you get enough answers you can figure what the majority likes and hope your man is part of that majority
>>16895961
Fruity...
My GF have this fancy perfume that smells like peach, she wears it when she want to have sex.
>>16895961
My favourite is vanilla, when I smell a girl wearing vanilla, it's like one of those Warner Bro.s cartoons where the smell wafts under your nose and then turns into a hand and indicates toward the source, it's absolutely entrancing.
>>16895915
Don't tell her you were a virgin
>>16895961
My boyfriend loves vanilla. Actual vanilla, not cupcakey vanilla
>>16895961
I like the scent of her vagina.
>>16896006
Your third trip of the thread?
>>16895702
>>16895678
Top autism
Bit of a silly question this but, do girls care if a guy apologies for being a drunken idiot.
I was at a party the other night and I got super wasted and starting acting like a bit of an asshole. Literally no one cared because I'm not the first drunken idiot at a party and I won't be the last but I seemed to piss some girl off to the point where she doesn't even look at me or say 'hi' back when I see her. Should I take that as a sign I should probably apologize to her and if so, how would I go about it.
>>16896012
Lol no, fuck that girl.
>>16895961
Vanilla for sure. I don't mind the beachy or fruity scents, but there's something about vanilla that just gets to me. Like I can't resist.
How about we ask the ladies the same thing? My Cologne just ran out so it's on my mind now.
>want to know my new gf's past relationships to know if she is a slut or has constant breakups
>dont want to know in case it is bad and I start worrying about it
any other way to approach this
Girls
Men with hairy chests, Yay or nay?
Is it strange if I take a genuine interest in the clothing and general style my girlfriend chooses for herself? If I'm with a woman that I've come to know deeply, I even like to get outfits for her myself that I think would bring out her personality. I've been told that this sometimes comes across like I'm trying to change the women that I'm with, because I like to see my girlfriends dressed in very particular styles that they wouldn't have otherwise ever chosen.
>>16896049
Yes it's strange and no I wouldn't be receptive to it. I know how to dress myself, let me dress how I want to.
I like this guy. How do I made it obvious I like him without just blurting it out. I'm almost never alone with him since we only see each other in class but our class is small. No possibility for group work either. I tried to make eye contact across the room but I think I am just coming off as a creep. I'm not ugly or anything so that wouldn't be an immediate thought but I'm not sure it wouldn't be misunderstood.
>>16896073
Most often I'm just trying to help a woman I care about transition out of her adolescent style that she's clinging to and into an adult womans style. I've seen too many women reach their thirties without ever having gone through this transition
>>16896107
Punch him in the arm jokingly, but do it too hard
>>16895141
He's just busy jacking it to anime.
>>16896142
So people are right and you are trying to change the women you're with.
>>16896150
You mean don't right... I'll give that a shot. Any other suggestions would be gladly welcomed.
>>16896107
>I tried to make eye contact across the room but I think I am just coming off as a creep. I'm not ugly or anything so that wouldn't be an immediate thought but I'm not sure it wouldn't be misunderstood.
To this day--almost a decade later--I remember back in college there was this one girl that I had absolutely no fucking idea if she was interested in me or if I was just imagining it. I felt like I kept catching her glancing at me from across the room, and then at some point I started thinking she was just looking at me because maybe I had looked at her (she was admittedly fairly attractive). I thought about asking her what was up half a dozen times, but I always got distracted or just wrote it off as me just seeing things.
That glance stuff, definitely no guarantee of anything.
Just say hey. No ones going to give a shit unless you're in junior high.
So this girl tells me she's been skipping out on school for weeks because she doesn't feel like going. It's the only place we see each other, because we're too busy with it to go out for the moment. Those two details combined makes it safe to say she's not interested, right?
What is the best advice women would like to give to men on how to approach women?
>>16896186
Don't be creepy.
>>16896152
People get overly attached to the aesthetic choices of their youth. I just like to invite my girlfriends to try and present themselves outwardly in a way they never have before.
>>16896186
jus b urself :^)
>>16896188
Dress it up however you want (pun intended), you're trying to change them. If you can't see why people wouldn't want to date someone who does that, you need to go away and think hard about it.
>>16896186
Try being a genuine person instead of some weirdo who has this arbitrary guideline in his head of the steps he's supposed to take when talking to a girl.
>>16896195
I just want my girlfriends to look cool instead of like an idiot who still dresses like they're in high school.
>>16895303
>You basically went from one polar opposite to the other. There's a middle ground dip shit.
So much this.
>>16896217
So date someone who dresses in a way you deem acceptable instead of trying to dictate how someone dresses.
>>16895502
It makes me look better
>>16896219
Nobody ever fits my hyper specific ideals for things. I have to take the initiative to make these things happen myself
>>16896236
Don't be surprised when girls aren't happy dating someone who tries to change them then
>>16896245
Shit, I know. I need to temper my ego a little bit
>When a woman starts talking to you, assume she is interested. Most women aren’t used to initiating conversations with guys. If she didn’t have some interest in you, she wouldn’t start a conversation. It’s as simple as that.
Is this true?
>>16896252
No, it's not, at least not in all circumstances. Surprisingly, sometimes we just want to be friends. If it's a club or bar or other situation where people randomly hit on someone else, you might be safer making the assumption, but not generally.
>>16896045
Yay if it's not excessive.
>>16896236
I'm curious, can you give an example of what you're talking about? Like how do most girls dress, what's wrong with it, and what would you want them to wear instead?
>>16896259
Man, I really wish I had some like minded women as genuine friends, just so I could have conversations about things I only ever get to talk about with other men or occasionally much older married women
>>16896282
I don't really know what that has to do with anything.
>>16896252
Yeah, it's true. Keep in mind that there's "interest" and "interest", though. Most of the time your pOnOs stays in your pantsu
I live in a pretty decent city. I've met a woman who lives about 20 minutes away. We aren't dating but we've hung out a few times, always in my city.
I'd kind of like to see her town (I'm a foreigner). Would it be weird to ask to meet her there next time?
Or, I guess, would it bore you to tears to show some dude your town? And then maybe he asks to date you after?
>>16896275
Essentially everything aimed at teen and young adult people, nothing with brand names or logos on it, nothing that is a novelty or something that one would wear ironically. I like an almost minimalist kind of style.
I suppose in the end, I like women who dress in what one might imagine a librarian would dress like
>>16896298
I enjoy sharing my thoughts as they come to me when I'm here
Dear girls,
I realize that my anger was misplaced on you. I thought you were cheating, vile scum who deserved to die (which you are) but I realized that men are exactly the same.
It's not that women are shitty (no, I mean, they are, seriously), it's that humanity is shitty. If your best friend fucks your girlfriend, you realize that everybody is fucking shitty.
So I'm sorry about the misogyny. I now realize that it was wrong of me to hate on women, I should've been hating humanity as a whole.
Hey, fuck you, at least I'm not a misogynist.
>>16896313
It'd be super funny for me. I'd love doing it.
>>16896352
You expect women to be okay with you trying to get them to dress in bland, boring clothes that a middle-aged woman would wear to a job that is traditionally thought of as dull and uninteresting?
>>16896352
Interesting. I expected maybe something more eclectically "effay".
>>16896390
>You expect women to be okay with you trying to get them to dress in bland, boring clothes that a middle-aged woman would wear to a job that is traditionally thought of as dull and uninteresting?
*snicker* bahahahaha
So much this.
>>16894566
So this girl asked me out and I turned her down the first time. However I just realized that I want to fuck her and since she already likes me, I think it'll be easy. What's the best way to re approach her without looking like an asshole and a beta who doesn't know what he wants? Should I just go for it, or maybe patch things up a bit before I get in there?
>>16896390
The style brings out a womanly authoritarian quality that I'm very attracted to. I think modesty in appearance is a virtue that is neglected in our society, and I feel like it's important in someway to maintain it. I dress in a similar way myself.
>>16896400
I'm drawn to a certain sense of traditional style most of the time. In general, I love it when a woman dresses to express a demeanor of power and authority rather than trying to express a sensual youthfulness
>>16896434
Don't try to use people to get yourself off. You should only have sex with a person if you plan on staying with them for at least some length of time
>>16896450
Oh I plan on showing her a good time and shit. Make sure the interactions is beneficial to us both. I'll say what she wants to hear. She's a chill chick, I just don't have any interest in her besides her physical qualities. She's clearly uncomfortable when around me and sometimes frustrated. How do I break the ice and court her back into my lap?
>>16896443
Do you have mommy issues?
>>16896460
You sound like a spurned boy bitterly trying to impose the same feeling of worthlessness and rejection that you were made to feel by women throughout your life on this woman you've met in a misguided attempt at finding justice or reclaiming your sense of manhood. Don't do this.
Why would you want to be a liar and a manipulator that callously uses women for sex in the first place, honestly?
>>16896469
I might have some kind of complex with female authority stemming from my relationship with my mother, but that's distinctly different from "mommy issues".
>>16894688
Best nip content
>>16896460
>I'll say what she wants to hear
She doesn't want to hear lies, dude
>>16896460
>being this much of a manipulative dick
Just fap man, it's easier and you won't fuck with some girl's feelings.
>>16896484
Different anon, but so basically an Oedipus complex? Or the inverse, making it "mommy issues"?
>>16896475
>Why would you want to be a liar and a manipulator that callously uses women for sex in the first place, honestly?
You're making me out to be some kind of psychopath. I just want to have some fun. I'm a young man. I'm not looking for something serious. I just know that if I let her know this, she definitely won't even bother anymore. It's not like I'm ganna pump her and dump her. I'll stick around until one of us gets bored.
>>16896494
>>16896512
Oh shut up
Men what do you think of this..
>went on two dates with someone
>seemed mutual, guy grabs my hands. would tell me i'm pretty. on the second date we made out for a bit, went to the park and ate some good food.
>tell him i'm gonna meet up with him the weekend after because exams. he says ok.
>never hear from him again
What did i do wrong?
>>16896523
If you don't want her to hear your true motives, wouldn't this mean that you know something might be wrong about your true motives?
>>16896528
Doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. How long has it been?
>>16896533
about two weeks. he texted me one thing and the other times i texted him he didn't respond. i also called and nothing. I don't get it...
>>16896540
That sounds weird as fuck. Are exams over? Anyway, sounds more like a problem with him than you.
>>16896528
Did you try contacting him and he just never responded? If so, there are a lot of potential reasons. An ex reentering his life rises to the top of the list for me, but he could have also had a family emergency and totally forgotten about you too.
>>16896361
You're trying at least I guess. Try to remember that humanity has its good sides too.
>>16896529
No. I'm a male and she's a female that I find attractive. These feelings are absolutely natural.
>>16896180
pls respond
I have been out with a girl 3 times, and each time she was over an hour late.
How do I tell her to stop fucking being late this soon into knowing her
>>16896550
for me yea until late april. but i don't know for him. I just wish he would tell me what's up.
>>16896514
I just have a lofty idealization of womanhood and it's role in leadership and authority. I hold the women I'm with to a high standard, often times much higher than they held for themselves and I do what I can to help them actualize it.
The seeds of this mentality were likely planted by the relationship I had with my mother, who's a very smart woman, but is selfish and lazy and always loved playing the "I'm just a dumb girl" card to get oout of things or get other people to do things for her. It infuriated me deeply watching her do this over and over again.
>>16896528
Nothing necessarily.
Welcome to the world of dating.
Could you guys kissed and had zero chemistry
Could be something bad happened in his life
Could be he just met someone more interesting.
Could be absolutely anything.
Don't worry about it. Just move on to the next one.
>>16896555
Not particularly.
>>16896553
>I have no cognitive ability beyond my base instincts
Find someone else to fuck with, not a girl who likes you that you don't like back.
>>16896561
Tell her to meet you there an hour before you actually want to meet her. Or go and pick her up.
>>16895497
A guy who can smile and wink, and pull it off.
>>16896523
You are trying pretty hard to play off your using her for sex. Are you honestly shocked a thread you know to have women and overly-sensitive betas are mad at you for this?
>>16896551
>Did you try contacting him and he just never responded? If so, there are a lot of potential reasons. An ex reentering his life rises to the top of the list for me, but he could have also had a family emergency and totally forgotten about you too.
yea before the two weeks of totally vanishing, he would respond one time or two times when it came to texts. but he never called me even when i call him first. I do suspect it's an ex thing but i don't want to believe it.
>>16896528
>tell him I'm gonna meet with him
>never hear from him
It sounds like you were going to contact him, though
>>16896568
sigh i guess. I just wanted this one to be the one.
dating can be exhausting sometimes.
>>16896581
i did a few days before the weekend after midterms hit. I wanted to make plans and i was very happy. but he never answered. i texted him and nothing.
>>16896592
Oh, that blows. Ghosting does happen though.
I've been worried that I always initiate conversation with a girl, but as long as she's responding I guess we are good.
>>16896576
>You are trying pretty hard to play off your using her for sex
I'm not. I've made my motivations for interest of pursuing this girl clear. I just thought that as long as I'm not forcing myself on her, we'd both be getting something of value with our interactions, thus not very controversial.
>>16896569
>implying there is anything wrong with that
As long as both parties are consenting, what's the problem?
>>16896585
>>16896565
>The seeds of this mentality were likely planted by the relationship I had with my mother, who's a very smart woman, but is selfish and lazy and always loved playing the "I'm just a dumb girl" card to get oout of things or get other people to do things for her. It infuriated me deeply watching her do this over and over again.
So "mommy issues"
You're projecting your dissatisfaction with your mother and the ideas that gave you about how women function on to the women you're dating and trying to change them to what you want to be.
Mask it with whatever "for their own good" logic you want, but that's not really what healthy normal people do, and doesn't necessarily come from a place of altruism at all.
>>16896585
>sigh i guess. I just wanted this one to be the one.
>dating can be exhausting sometimes.
Yup. I did online dating for about 2 years. Met a couple dozen women (I pretty quickly figured out I couldn't date more than 1 woman about every 3 weeks or i'd just confuse the fuck out of myself with names and events <.<). By the time I met my girlfriend, After a while I'd kind of completely stopped thinking of dates as dates. I just met people at places I wanted to go anyway, and just went to enjoy myself, and if they did too, awesome. If not, no big. It was at about the time where I'd gotten used to that that I met my girlfriend.
My 2c: It makes it easier and less exhuasting, if you don't invest too much right away and just go to have fun,
Best of luck
>>16896597
>I've been worried that I always initiate conversation with a girl, but as long as she's responding I guess we are good.
I don't mind if i initiate if i like someone. really i just want the guy to just like me back and for it to be mutual. during the date i would make jokes and talk about a lot of things. I tried not to be boring because i was very nervous. I don't date much and i'm super shy. maybe one day he will contact me. thanks for listening.
How long should I be with a girl before asking her to move in with me
>>16896615
When you marry her
>>16896611
>Yup. I did online dating for about 2 years. Met a couple dozen women (I pretty quickly figured out I couldn't date more than 1 woman about every 3 weeks or i'd just confuse the fuck out of myself with names and events <.<). By the time I met my girlfriend, After a while I'd kind of completely stopped thinking of dates as dates. I just met people at places I wanted to go anyway, and just went to enjoy myself, and if they did too, awesome. If not, no big. It was at about the time where I'd gotten used to that that I met my girlfriend.
>My 2c: It makes it easier and less exhuasting, if you don't invest too much right away and just go to have fun,
>Best of luck
ok i get you. thanks i'll try just that.
>>16896606
Clear to you, not to her!
You said in >>16896523
>I'm not looking for something serious. I just know that if I let her know this, she definitely won't even bother anymore.
That's the controversial part. You value her for sex, but you believe she wants a relationship with you. You aren't giving her what she wants, you are lying to her to get what you want.
How do I eat a girl out
>>16896615
There's a checklist somewhere. Google it.
Of the top of my head:
You've had several serious fights and not only gotten over them, but resolved them.
You're comfortable with one another, both the good and the gross.
You've got a ballpark idea of each others finances and spending habits
You trust and rely on each other
You have an idea of how they live
You've taken an extended long distance trip with one another and survived with no problems.
Those are all I could remember. Seriously, google is your friend.
How to become friends with an ex (she broke it off) without falling for her again?
>>16896636
>You're comfortable with one another, both the good and the gross.
This one is important. Make sure you both can comfortably poop in the presence of one another. There's a lot of walls you're going to have to break down if you want to live together, like hearing your girlfriend have horrendous hang over diarrhea shits
>>16896655
Only hang out in public places when you both have other friends around. Don't see or contact her very often
>>16896655
Are you over her? Do you love another woman?
If both of those are true, then you won't fall for her again.
If not, keep away for your own good.
>>16896623
>e she wants a relationship with you.You aren't giving her what she wants, you are lying to her to get what you want.
Except I already stated that I would show her a good time with me and tell her what she wants. So she would benefit from it so it doesn't matter whether I have any sort of special feelings towards her. Well both fell good at the end of the day. The only problem here lies within you people. I have no problem with it and she won't know. The universe gives no shits either way
I told this girl she looks cute with glasses, then told her she looks pretty without them too when she asked.
I didn't believe her when she told me she hates taking photos because she doesn't look good.
I jokingly told her once to stop flirting, because we had work to do and little time.
I linger a lot after my work is done and she's still on her break. We spend all that time talking for up to a few hours and sometimes I walk her home at the end.
When she's not in, I hit her up and ask how she's doing.
I text her regularly, with topics ranging from serious business to weird emoji shit I tapped in on the screen.
I show a lot of interest in her interests, remember the things she tells me and share a lot of her quirks and hobbies.
I ran my hand through her hair after she proudly told me she'd had her hair done.
I offer her my hand a lot to let her feel how cold it is outside
I once patted her head for a bit, because we were in an unserious mood and she just seemed so small.
I offered to go to an event together, and suggested it'd be fun to get a drink together sometime.
I'm not talking about whether she's interested or reciprocates. You don't need to read minds.
Girls, at what point would you personally get the hint?
>>16896670
>I have no problem with it and she won't know.
kek.
Completely different anon that's just jumping in,
But the funny thing is I've seen people justify cheating with those exact words on this board.
Femanons, how do I deal with a shy/introverted girl? I recently started dating a girl who has a history of being really skiddish and shy when it comes to dating, but tends to open up a lot around people who she's comfortable. We've gone on a couple dates, just she still seems kinda nervous about something.
>>16896691
just be patient with her. give her a lot of trust and tell her nice things. i'm pretty much the same way and i like for my future bf to be like this. as more time passes on she will slowly open up to you.
>>16896691
She's nervous because of you, dummy
So act like there's nothing the matter.
Smile, be confident, joke, laugh, talk strongly when she's quiet.
I dated a few girls like that.
You can totally make them love you in no time.
All you got to do is act like everything is fucking perfect.
You smile, you joke.
You're feeling faaaaantastic in her presence.
She may be quiet, but she's loving it.
Shy people are used to being ignored or, at best, treated like delicate china.
Instead, treat her quiet moments like nothing the matter.
>>16896684
I won't be cheating though. So there is literally know way she would be hurt by this. Only people who know are me and some anons.
>>16896691
Women are like horses dude. Their meant to be ridden and led. You found yourself a keeper. Most of the women around me are not at all shy. Very hard to control them. Be dominant and she will act accordingly.
I know its kind of a weird thing to ask but how would girls react to a guy who doesn't have testicles? I know reactions are probably going to be different from girl to girl but I'm hoping ANY input on the matter.
Hey, pretty boring question here but whatevs.
I'm a 23 year old man dating a 21 year old womanl. We've been going out for 5 months and are pretty much a couple, but both have busy schedules with work and stuff so we've been going very slowly. Physically we've not gone further than making out, we're both a little awkward so the physical side took some time to really come to shape.
Anyway she's coming over to stay the night this weekend, and predictably I don't know what to do about the fact that I'm a virgin. I know she's been in a few short lived relationships over the past year, very likely with men who were infinitely more alpha than me (she said she liked the fact I haven't rushed into things and that other men got physical too quickly) so chances are she's had a dick in her before.
I'm probably going to end up telling her because I want to be honest, but I don't know when I should do it. I've already come across as this goofy nervous wreck and I feel like this would just be the final piece of my tragic stereotype and I'd just be a fucking joke.
