My fiance likes loli hentai--not strictly, but he definitely goes through phases.
Sometimes this bothers me more some times than others. While I'm unsure why that is, I do know that in my core this will quite possibly remain a sensitive subject for me, as I was sexually abused regularly from age 4-12 by my stepfather.
While I understand thinking of underage girls is against societal norms, I'm sure more men do so (in a sexual sense, of course) than admit IRL.
My fiance is honest with me about this, and we have talked about this fantasy and many more many times, but my reactions to the subject matter are inconsistent.
Sometimes I think leaving him and never dating a man again would be the easiest option. However, this seems ridiculous--I don't want fear to run my life.
Should I just accept that this is a fantasy of his (and will forever be) and share it with him sometimes for him to exercise it? Or should I accept that this is a thing I will never be 100% okay with, and submit to my emotional inconsistencies, choosing to never discuss this with him again (though accepting it)? Or...?
pls advise
just dont have a daughter xD
>>16584827
>dad hits me and yells at me
>gf has s&m fetish
>triggered.jpeg
>even though apparently fine relationship, leave her and never date anyone again
OP the comparison isn't the best but its close enough. You just have to get past it because you really haven't if it's bothering you this much.
>Should I just accept that this is a fantasy of his (and will forever be) and share it with him sometimes for him to exercise it?
That sounds like a great idea. Figure out what he likes most about them and ask them why. An indepth answer might give you hints on how to steer him toward wanting you just as much.
It sounds like you need more time/therapy to process your abuse before tackling this issue because of the iconsistencys. Dont feel like you should/have to do something. If you 'submit' you will just continue to stress yourself without getting at the core problem. Find out if you are really ok with it or not especially before you marry him. Remember that at the base, people are drawn to taboo things like public sex etc and loli hentai and he is not drawn to it to hurt you
I know how you feel being bothered by the hentai. My ex bf used to sneak and look at it. It would only upset me because he wouldn't have sex with me as much because of it. But it could be worse. My next bf looked at all kinds of porn including interracial, and even bought prostitutes behind my back. After that experience I wished hentai was my biggest problem again. Made me realize I didn't have it so bad with the ex.
Op makes sense to me.
>Been abused, fiance has fantasy of abusing child, I dont like this
Im not a psych grad, but its possible the comfort you originally found in your finance stems from that sexual abuse. People have a knack for gravitating to relationships they are familiar with, good and bad.
He's a pedophile. Tell him to get therapy and cut that shit out immediately.
Seriously he is a pedophile! Don't validate his mental illness and perversion by giving it a title called hentai. There is no hentai just nasty fucking perverted pedophiles with serious mental problems. Get away from this scum bag loser. As a victim of child rape you should maintain your power as a woman!!!! This behavior is not ok EVER! Report him to the police for viewing child porn and for damn sake stop glamorizing this disgusting behavior calling it that bullshit name. It's pedophilia & he's a sick fuck. Get yourself help & get rid of his pathetic ass!
>>16584827
Not all men are like this. That is a defense you are creating to accept your abuse and your fiance. Seriously OP, not all men are like this.
Sounds like a normal guy. Just be open and talk to him about it. Dont yell or "force" him to stop. Otherwise he'll just continue in secret. There is a lot more F'd up things than loli. Granted some loli is fucked up. Dont jump to conclusions and judge the content matter for yourself. Getting him to be less awkward about it will probably help him get over the taboo nature of the hentai. Don't be a feminazi, porn happens. Just be happy he only likes loli and not REAL jailbait shit. It could be a lot worse op (drugs, prostitutes, child pron)
>>16584827
Drop him.
As a teen and young adult I loved loli, but hated children.
Sure some lolicons may wanna fug 3d kids but a lot don't.
3D children are loud annoying and sticky and smell awful.
Also I have kids of my own and have no urge to fuck them or anyone else.
Loli are cartoons not real children get over it.
>>16586113
This. You faced traumatic events as a children and he is basically expressing that would be his fantasy.
Maybe another guy with a different fetish or porn preference would be better.
>>16586133
Oh also this is not directed at OP, yeah I'd say just break up with him, it will not work at all with you guys. Stop being retarded and drop him now.
Why the fuck is he your fiancé if this makes you so uncomfortable? Please don't get married and have kids in the future.
This is to the posters saying fapping to 2d loli makes you a pedo. There's a difference between fappin to CP as opposed to loli.
>>16584827
When did you last cheat on him?
If you're planning to have children it is up to you to find the best dad you can for them.
Any sexual abuse that may ensue is on you as well, know that. So if you are unsure, you should probably leave him.
