peace with roommate

Thread replies: 4
Thread images: 1

Anonymous
peace with roommate 2016-07-13 04:13:05 Post No. 17351855
[Report] Image search: [Google]

File: 13124710_535202656651644_2789022291227412614_n.jpg (17 KB, 315x300) Image search: [Google]

peace with roommate Anonymous 2016-07-13 04:13:05 Post No. 17351855 [Report]

I rent a room in a house with many people. Luckily, many of them stay somewhere else.

My roommate got out of a large sexually-charged conflict with a another roommate who had a crush on him. This roommate felt rejected and started bullying him. It must have been some real shit, because it escalated into a fight and the guy with the crush leaving out of fear.

Now he's being stand-offish because I get moods and he's afraid I'm going to start some kind of conflict with him. He started talking about never knowing if you're dealing with a sociopath or a narcissist, which could offend me, but I really sympathize with that concern. Instead of being nice, though, I just "assured" him I wasn't a troublesome person.

I would really rather he was comfortable with me and understood that we're not going to get in any sort of fight. Should I just leave him alone? What kind of gesture would make him trust me more, a gift as a show of good will or something?

>>

Anonymous 2016-07-13 04:25:30 Post No.17351894
[Report]

Anonymous 2016-07-13 04:25:30 Post No.17351894 [Report]

>>17351855
For me, I'd make food. Don't do it like "this is for you, as a gift" but more casually, like "oh I'm made X, got some extra if you want, its good" or "Hey, I got extra X in the fridge if you're hungry, its free to take."
Obviously, don't make it so you're just giving him cold leftovers or something, and you're going to want to time it so you're not cooking for the entire house. Unless you make chili, cos you can make tons of chili for cheap.

That's usually the way I get on good terms with new roommates that I don't know; I make food and get them a beer and usually people appreciate that.

>>

Anonymous 2016-07-13 05:39:17 Post No.17352087
[Report]

Anonymous 2016-07-13 05:39:17 Post No.17352087 [Report]

>>17351855
nothing, for you have already both understood the situation. move on and be more standoffish with him anyways. continue to mind your business.

the more you make a point to make a point of it all, the more you are revealing how you define him. thus the more the situation changes from him, alone. just continue to mind your business from all of your room mates. the best thing you can do is move out as soon as possible.

>>

Anonymous 2016-07-13 10:25:55 Post No.17352579
[Report]

Anonymous 2016-07-13 10:25:55 Post No.17352579 [Report]

Link to video that will get me to quit my job plz?