Man here. 29. Sex...yeah. First time, I came close, but she would just lay there. Only had it one with one partner a few times in my life, probably less than 5 times. Felt good, but she turned into the worst girl I ever met in my life. This was back in 2008-2009 and my relationships with women just aren't there. I don't even talk to them because I feel so unconfident. Is my body okay? Do I make enough money? Am I a good dresser?

Girls suck at sex. Hand jobs are too grippy/tight on the dick, blowjobs suck because of teeth scraping my dick. Okay, maybe it doesn't absolutely suck, but at my age, it gets REALLY hard to find a woman worth my time.

>>23593314
Learn to communicate you fucking egg

I'm a virgin so I guess I can't say for sure but I don't think I'll like it. Penetration sucks, and is just overall unenjoyable and most of the time downright painful. I can't even masturbate that way idk how I'm going to get through actual sex. Its so uncomfortable that even if I'm paying with my clit with a dildo in me I can't cum, or feel good at all really, its so off putting.
I'd rather just stand at 3rd base the rest of my life personally. But I'm willing to grin and bare it for the sake of my lover if he'll go down on me or something before or after so I can get mine.
But who knows, maybe I just don't like toys, maybe I'll like the real thing. But I doubt it.
I have yet to find a guy that can make me cum regardless though, but then again I'm not well experienced either.

I'll try not to generalize since I think everyone is different... but I think being able to enjoy sex and/or masturbation boils down to a few things ...

1. do you feel good about yourself
2. do you feel desired
3. do you feel safe (in the context of- is this something you want, and that turns you on)
4. are you attracted to the person you're having sex with

I've had outrageous orgasms with only two guys. One guy when I was 18, and that was from dry humping.

The second guy I ended up marrying. The first time was not enjoyable - too painful, awkward and nerve wracking. It got a lot better, but because we both felt comfortable being honest about what each other's turn-ons and kinks are. That, and he still makes me feel like the hottest chick on earth (even though I think I'm completely average.)

Initially, I told him I was worried since I didn't think I had a strong sex drive. I have a much stronger sex drive now that I've been able to discover what my and his kinks / preferences are. We are happy obliging to each other's dirty desires, because we love each other and like being able to pleasure each other. i.e., I don't think I'd have an orgasm from fucking a guy I didn't feel wild and crazy with. And I mentally cannot get my brain in the right place to enjoy masturbating.

Frequency varies a lot, week to week. We try not to get into a routine as far as timing, location, position, etc - because then stuff just gets boring.

tl;dr - I wouldn't worry too much about having a low sex drive. You probably just haven't found the person who checks all of your boxes, so to speak (terrible pun)

I like sex but 1-2 times a week is enough for me.
I'm 27 and i've had only one partner (not because i'm ugly or dumb). I broke with him 1 year ago. Also this year without sex is not a big deal for me.

>>23593314
Does anyone actually enjoy sex? Sometimes it seems like guys just pretend to like sex to be 'manly' and girls just pretend to like sex because they think it's what guys want. Realistically why wouldn't we all be mostly asexual like every other animal?

Yes, of course.

When I'm dating someone, I generally see them maybe three days a week (not all day or anything), and we have sex at least once every time.

I prefer sex, but sometimes sex with someone who doesn't share your interests/fetishes is about on par with masturbating.

With the bf I have now, I enjoy sex more than I used to. I've always loved it like most other people but now it's even better, because I realize what things turn me on/what "fetishes" I really get off to.

Maybe you should experiment with some new things, or try a different approach.

>>23594516
If every other animal species were asexual they would never have offspring and get extinct rather quickly.
Humans are the only species which has sex not only for reproductive purposes, that's what allow us to even think about being asexual.

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While my ex was into me sex was amazing, she was always wet and willing and came. She then lost interest and all went downhill. Worst thing, it happened over the years.

It's a complicated matter. I'm off because feel.

I'm bi, I prefer sex with women because they're better in bed than men are, after that I prefer masturbating and then sex with men comes in last. I masturbate often and my sex drive is high, while dating a woman ideally sex would be regular and with a man I wouldn't care to ever have sex with him. It sucks because I'm attracted to men and I think if I could find a guy who is honestly good in bed it would be fine but most men are selfish in bed and learn everything they know from porn and faked orgasms

>>23595190
That's what I mean, every other species just has sex when it needs to, for reproduction. That's why most animals have designated mating seasons. Why are humans so different in that regard? Maybe we're not and just pretending we are?

Have you ever spoken to a single man or woman who actually enjoyed sex?

I'm a 21 year old girl and I live with my boyfriend. I actually have a higher sex drive than he does, we have sex every other day (3-4 times a week) but I would ideally want to have sex daily. I prefer sex to masturbation (ESPECIALLY oral sex, it's the only way I can climax with a partner actually) but I end up masturbating on days that my bf is too tired or whatever. Penetration alone doesn't make me come but it does feel really good, and I enjoy the intimacy. I've only been with one other guy one other time (my ex) and my current bf lost his virginity to me. I'm not a sexpert in terms of experience with various partners but I would say I have had a lot of sex due to having been in a long term relationship with pretty healthy and regular sex habits. I can honestly say that the orgasms my bf gives me with his mouth are a THOUSAND times better and more intense than what I give myself, and I love pleasuring him too, it turns me on to make him feel good. :)

>>23595301
>Have you ever spoken to a single man or woman who actually enjoyed sex?

Here >>23595309
Also me. Sex is good. What are you even talking about

>>23595309
I also want to add that I think it totally depends on who you are doing the act with. Sex with my ex was terrible and I'm glad it only happebed once. Looking back I realize it was because I wasn't turned on at all. I wasn't attracted to him, I wasn't aroused, and I only did it out of a sense of obligation and curiosity. I'm one of those weird people that only really feels sexual attraction to others when I'm emotionally invested I guess because I've also never been able to get into porn either. I am very sexual and I love sex, but only with the right person, if that makes sense. Idk most people aren't like that though, I'm just a little odd.

>>23593241
>Do you enjoy sex
Umm yes absolutely
>How often
Maybe semi-daily as scheduling allows
>Masturbation or sex
Sex is mostly preferable, though sometimes masturbation can be easier

If you're having a bad time with sex it's either in your head or those guys don't know how to get you off. If you're under 25 I wouldn't be concerned, it's probably a combination of not knowing yourself and him being inexperienced. Don't sweat it.

Then again, if you're like well into your 30's it's possible you're just ace. Plenty of people are and it's not that big a deal, just got to find someone who can meet that need, or lack thereof.

how often do woman masturbate?

>>23595779
what is the most cocks use taken in one day?

>>23595784
one? wtf kind of question is that

>>23595301
We're not. You understand it the wrong way.
Animals are just like us, they mate because it feels good. Mating seasons are just like periods for women, it's a hormonal-driven attitude which depends on the biological clock.
Evolution has made mating pleasurable so we (humans and animals) would keep doing it as much as possible to pass on our genes and maintain our species.
If the animals could think like us, they would also consider pleasure as the main reason to have sex, and, like us, consider procreating as a byproduct of sex.

I'm all for accepting people as who they are, but I believe in causality, so for me asexuality is a dysfunction either psychological or physiological.

>>23595782
It varies based on the woman. For me personally, when not in a relationship I would typically masturbate at least once daily, sometimes more, but occasionally go through phases of disinterest if I'm busy or feeling especially depressed. Now that I'm in a relationship I masturbate only on days that I don't have sex, so maybe 3 times a week. I generally have at least 1 orgasm every day. However women can have varying sex drives, just like men. Also we don't have a refractory period like men do so one session can result in countless orgasms. My boyfriend generally climaxes very hard from sex, therefore his refractory period is longer, and he doesn't really masturbate at all anymore. For me, no matter how hard I climax, I find that I'm ready to go again in no time and would love to have sex daily if my bf were able. I much prefer sex to masturbation.

>>23593241
>Do you enjoy sex?
Yes, I enjoy sex, but exclusive to a committed relationship.

>How often would you like to have sex ideally?
Once a day. Maybe twice.

>Do you prefer masturbation or sex?
Depends on my mood and if I have batteries for my vibrator.

Full disclosure, I prefer to masturbate when frustrated with our dynamic, in particular. He tends to be at the more dominant end of the spectrum while I would prefer to swap roles at least a few times for curiosity's sake.


Question for OP: Are you on any hormonal birth control?

Also, addendum:

>>23594224
>You probably just haven't found the person who checks all of your boxes, so to speak

This was amusing to me and so I wanted to acknowledge it.

Also I want to be your friend now.

>>23595301
They way we "mate" now isn't the way humans have always done it. As wild animals you don't need a sex drive to mate. Any male that is strong enough to beat you in combat would take it

>>23593241
I thoroughly enjoy sex.
Ideally, At least 3-4 times a week depending on how long I've been with the other person. New person, I want it all the time until my vagina won't let me. After a few years, 3 times a week is good.
I'd rather have sex than masturbate.

I think there's a lot of elements that can make sex good or bad. I've been with people who I was physically attracted to and the sex was bad. Then, other times it feels pretty darn good the first time.

Communication is key, in my opinion, to have really fun and fulfilling sex. Which usually means you need to be comfortable around them and trust them. Also, knowing what you and your body like helps. Sexual chemistry goes a long way but talking to your partner can change everything in a great way.

Sex is literally the worst thing that could ever happen to a female. When a man tries to coerce me into having sex, I pretend to comply with his wishes and lead him back to my place, but then when he turns off the lights I chop his dick off and then lock him in the basement. I then freeze dry the dicks and inject silicone and formeldahyde into them to create preserved, real human dildos. Currently I have 38 and I'm considering starting up an Etsy shop so that other strong proud females can purchase them. :)